whatisthisallabout
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Would you date someone you just don't see yourself getting married to?
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I use to think it was okay until I got older, now I'm craving the respectability and stability and the title.. do you think it's weird say you're in your 50's or 60's dating and introducing the guy to your family/friends/outsider as your boyfriend? lolol 😄
Posted by narayanaThat's true...
I would. Marriage is not a big deal for me. Just another party followed by some extra problems with property n kids later
How if it's a person your family won't like or won't think he is good enough for you?
Would that make a difference?
Posted by Pisces1803I guess I have seen people in their 50's and older who just have bfs/gfs, but usually they have been married before (and usually have kids), and don't want to get married again.
I use to think it was okay until I got older, now I'm craving the respectability and stability and the title.. do you think it's weird say you're in your 50's or 60's dating and introducing the guy to your family/friends/outsider as your boyfriend? lolol 😄
But yea, it does seem a bit odd if the couple have been together since they were young and just keep introducing each other as bf and gf until they are old... :p
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...
Posted by HarukkaWhat's the reason behind? I am curious.
No
I think I also know some people they just want to have diverse dating experience so they'd date people they don't want to marry just for the experience (e.g. some people who want to marry within their own culture/race, but still they want to date other races/cultures for the experience).
Posted by AliensusedourbogrollHave you ever just dated for fun, or never?
If I was the type to date for fun, then yeah sure.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm not a serial dater, and actually fairly picky. I only date women I'd like to have in my life for a considerable amount of time. This has it's major upsides and downsides of course. The upside is a stronger connection (and no bad dates really). The downside is that it's a punch to the gut if things ended poorly with that person.Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...click to expand
Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
Posted by NevermoreVery interesting!
I would because I don't believe in marriage and having kids. It's never my choice to have them anyway.
I'd rather have a long term relationship than having marriage.
Do you have kids? It sounds like you don't want kids?
Posted by ChuckcemYour approach is very similar to my younger sister!Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm not a serial dater, and actually fairly picky. I only date women I'd like to have in my life for a considerable amount of time. This has it's major upsides and downsides of course. The upside is a stronger connection (and no bad dates really). The downside is that it's a punch to the gut if things ended poorly with that person.Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...click to expand
She is also a Leo and is extremely picky. She is happily married with 2 kids now 🙂
Posted by whatisthisallaboutHahah the funny thing is I don't really see it as being picky, just holding everyone to the standard I hold myself. I've been told I'm extremely stable and that's basically what I look for in another person.Posted by ChuckcemYour approach is very similar to my younger sister!Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm not a serial dater, and actually fairly picky. I only date women I'd like to have in my life for a considerable amount of time. This has it's major upsides and downsides of course. The upside is a stronger connection (and no bad dates really). The downside is that it's a punch to the gut if things ended poorly with that person.Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...
She is also a Leo and is extremely picky. She is happily married with 2 kids now 🙂click to expand
Posted by HarukkaInteresting! Do you think there's any astrological explanation for the stalkish behavior of these man (e.g. do you attract certain signs, or some synergy aspects, etc.)?Posted by whatisthisallaboutMmmm I don't date alot, I have a few friends.Posted by HarukkaWhat's the reason behind? I am curious.
No
I think I also know some people they just want to have diverse dating experience so they'd date people they don't want to marry just for the experience (e.g. some people who want to marry within their own culture/race, but still they want to date other races/cultures for the experience).
Men always stalk me after I date them, even when it just one date, they bother me I just end up with a strange situation so I don't want this to happen again cuz I'm busy with alot of things, I want to make it easy for myself, I don't even want to marry, but I don't want to date around also lol 🙂
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It is good that you don't date a lot. That's the place I want to be. I want to build some solid friendships but it is a little hard since I am in my 30s so most people my age just want to date and seem to be too busy to make platonic friends (e.g. if they make time for you they want something more so to speak)
Posted by ChuckcemI always think it is better to have high standards. It is even better that you hold yourself to the same standards. I think that makes it a fair relationship.Posted by whatisthisallaboutHahah the funny thing is I don't really see it as being picky, just holding everyone to the standard I hold myself. I've been told I'm extremely stable and that's basically what I look for in another person.Posted by ChuckcemYour approach is very similar to my younger sister!Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm not a serial dater, and actually fairly picky. I only date women I'd like to have in my life for a considerable amount of time. This has it's major upsides and downsides of course. The upside is a stronger connection (and no bad dates really). The downside is that it's a punch to the gut if things ended poorly with that person.Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...
She is also a Leo and is extremely picky. She is happily married with 2 kids now 🙂click to expand
BTW, do you observe a person for a long time to make sure that she's gonna make a stable partner?
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
Posted by NevermoreI see. I don't think I will have my own kids either, unless I met someone I was so so so crazy about that I just needed to have his babies... Thank God, it has not yet happened though 😆Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm child free and I'll stay like that for the rest of my life.Posted by NevermoreVery interesting!
I would because I don't believe in marriage and having kids. It's never my choice to have them anyway.
I'd rather have a long term relationship than having marriage.
Do you have kids? It sounds like you don't want kids?click to expand
Posted by TeenaSmart girl!
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
I guess the only downside is that if this person is your one and only for everything, it'd be very very very hard to get over it if one day the person was gone (e.g. breakup/divorce or death due to terminal disease, accident, advanced age, etc.).
Posted by whatisthisallaboutYeah I tend to take my time, which can be confusing to the other person. I generally do this to weed out women who may have low self esteem or are emotionally hampered in some way. I'm not cold though and am generally charming/flirtatious. I never chase, but I'll always initiate contact to set up more dates.Posted by ChuckcemI always think it is better to have high standards. It is even better that you hold yourself to the same standards. I think that makes it a fair relationship.Posted by whatisthisallaboutHahah the funny thing is I don't really see it as being picky, just holding everyone to the standard I hold myself. I've been told I'm extremely stable and that's basically what I look for in another person.Posted by ChuckcemYour approach is very similar to my younger sister!Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm not a serial dater, and actually fairly picky. I only date women I'd like to have in my life for a considerable amount of time. This has it's major upsides and downsides of course. The upside is a stronger connection (and no bad dates really). The downside is that it's a punch to the gut if things ended poorly with that person.Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...
She is also a Leo and is extremely picky. She is happily married with 2 kids now 🙂
BTW, do you observe a person for a long time to make sure that she's gonna make a stable partner?click to expand
It's a weird mix of Leo and Virgo energy with a Capricorn Mars thrown in the mix. The Leo side is sunny and charming while the Virgo side is quiet and calculating. Once I'm interested I take bigger and bigger risks with my heart. My nature is always calm/collected and it takes a lot to ruffle my feathers. So I a very patient person and have no problem observing.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by TeenaSmart girl!
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
I guess the only downside is that if this person is your one and only for everything, it'd be very very very hard to get over it if one day the person was gone (e.g. breakup/divorce or death due to terminal disease, accident, advanced age, etc.).click to expand
Yeah. That's right.I get that.Maybe I'll be devastated. But again I also understand no one is here to stay. When n if I lose the person(god forbid), I'd be sad coz I lost him.I wouldn't mull over not having dated other men.. it wouldn't even be the last thing I'd think about honestly. I don't know the consequences of my choices.. But I'm completely aware I'm making them. I kinda plan on doing certain things if at all that happens...and it sure doesn't involve seeing other men lol. I'll survive 🙂
Posted by ChuckcemDo you often end up dating Taurus girls? I think they have a lot of patience. My sister is married to a Taurus 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutYeah I tend to take my time, which can be confusing to the other person. I generally do this to weed out women who may have low self esteem or are emotionally hampered in some way. I'm not cold though and am generally charming/flirtatious. I never chase, but I'll always initiate contact to set up more dates.Posted by ChuckcemI always think it is better to have high standards. It is even better that you hold yourself to the same standards. I think that makes it a fair relationship.Posted by whatisthisallaboutHahah the funny thing is I don't really see it as being picky, just holding everyone to the standard I hold myself. I've been told I'm extremely stable and that's basically what I look for in another person.Posted by ChuckcemYour approach is very similar to my younger sister!Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'm not a serial dater, and actually fairly picky. I only date women I'd like to have in my life for a considerable amount of time. This has it's major upsides and downsides of course. The upside is a stronger connection (and no bad dates really). The downside is that it's a punch to the gut if things ended poorly with that person.Posted by ChuckcemHave you fallen for girls you don't want to marry?
Not really, wouldn't be fair to the other person if I never planned to get serious with them. It would only work if both people were fine with keeping things casual.
Or do you only give your heart to those that you can see a lifelong potential with? 😕
I feel it is so tricky because sometimes we may be attracted to people who are so different from ourselves and we know our personalities clash, but the attraction is still there...
She is also a Leo and is extremely picky. She is happily married with 2 kids now 🙂
BTW, do you observe a person for a long time to make sure that she's gonna make a stable partner?
It's a weird mix of Leo and Virgo energy with a Capricorn Mars thrown in the mix. The Leo side is sunny and charming while the Virgo side is quiet and calculating. Once I'm interested I take bigger and bigger risks with my heart. My nature is always calm/collected and it takes a lot to ruffle my feathers. So I a very patient person and have no problem observing.click to expand
When I was single and going on dates, if I didn't feel like we were compatible or just so different that it would never work. I told them so and stopped dating them after a couple of dates...nothing more. I didn't want to waste their time or lead them on.
I got super picky after my marriage ended years ago... I didn't want something long term unless it meant something. Besides marriage is a scary thing after you divorce once... it was going to take something special or meaningful to get me to think about it again.
I got super picky after my marriage ended years ago... I didn't want something long term unless it meant something. Besides marriage is a scary thing after you divorce once... it was going to take something special or meaningful to get me to think about it again.
Posted by HarukkaGood for you! Glad to hear that you are very happy right now 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutI don't really know.Posted by HarukkaInteresting! Do you think there's any astrological explanation for the stalkish behavior of these man (e.g. do you attract certain signs, or some synergy aspects, etc.)?Posted by whatisthisallaboutMmmm I don't date alot, I have a few friends.Posted by HarukkaWhat's the reason behind? I am curious.
No
I think I also know some people they just want to have diverse dating experience so they'd date people they don't want to marry just for the experience (e.g. some people who want to marry within their own culture/race, but still they want to date other races/cultures for the experience).
Men always stalk me after I date them, even when it just one date, they bother me I just end up with a strange situation so I don't want this to happen again cuz I'm busy with alot of things, I want to make it easy for myself, I don't even want to marry, but I don't want to date around also lol 🙂
It is good that you don't date a lot. That's the place I want to be. I want to build some solid friendships but it is a little hard since I am in my 30s so most people my age just want to date and seem to be too busy to make platonic friends (e.g. if they make time for you they want something more so to speak)
I attract libra the most, then Aries.also aqua and cancer , and sag.
I'm very friendly so myabe it's my aqua rising.
Whatever I hate drama so I feel so happy right now ??
And u know what the are saying? it's never too late to have a new friend.
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I have dated a couple of libras but I feel I don't really know them. I can see Aries and Aquas being stalkers for sure lol
I think I am happy and self-content when I don't have anyone I am interested in.
Whenever I develope a crush, that's when the suffering begins lol
Posted by narayanaI see. It seems to me that your family are very supportive. You are very fortunate.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI'd listen, because I've always had good relations with them. They've never tried to control or push their opinions on me.Posted by narayanaThat's true...
I would. Marriage is not a big deal for me. Just another party followed by some extra problems with property n kids later
How if it's a person your family won't like or won't think he is good enough for you?
Would that make a difference?
But the final choice would still be my own obv.click to expand
My sister has been married for 10 years but my mom still doesn't like her husband and always tries to break them up.... It is hard to watch...
Posted by TeenaGood for you 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by TeenaSmart girl!
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
I guess the only downside is that if this person is your one and only for everything, it'd be very very very hard to get over it if one day the person was gone (e.g. breakup/divorce or death due to terminal disease, accident, advanced age, etc.).
Yeah. That's right.I get that.Maybe I'll be devastated. But again I also understand no one is here to stay. When n if I lose the person(god forbid), I'd be sad coz I lost him.I wouldn't mull over not having dated other men.. it wouldn't even be the last thing I'd think about honestly. I don't know the consequences of my choices.. But I'm completely aware I'm making them. I kinda plan on doing certain things if at all that happens...and it sure doesn't involve seeing other men lol. I'll survive 🙂
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I hope you will post your stories on dxp when you meet that lucky fella.
I am sure it is going to be a very inspiring love story 🙂
Posted by ScorpGThat's true. I always think that if there's no future, then I should end things or not start anything at all.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf there is not a purpose why date?Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
Plus, how will you express feelings for a person you see no future with and why not have future with a person you feel about?click to expand
However, sometimes in reality it is hard because there are many times in my life, I find myself strangely attracted to people I just know I won't get along with or they won't be able to make me happy in the long run. It just takes a lot of self control to not act on it when the attraction is strong...
Posted by whatisthisallaboutTrust me... I'm looking forward to that too. I wanna write my story here as well..and later probably disappear ❤️?Posted by TeenaGood for you 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by TeenaSmart girl!
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
I guess the only downside is that if this person is your one and only for everything, it'd be very very very hard to get over it if one day the person was gone (e.g. breakup/divorce or death due to terminal disease, accident, advanced age, etc.).
Yeah. That's right.I get that.Maybe I'll be devastated. But again I also understand no one is here to stay. When n if I lose the person(god forbid), I'd be sad coz I lost him.I wouldn't mull over not having dated other men.. it wouldn't even be the last thing I'd think about honestly. I don't know the consequences of my choices.. But I'm completely aware I'm making them. I kinda plan on doing certain things if at all that happens...and it sure doesn't involve seeing other men lol. I'll survive 🙂
I hope you will post your stories on dxp when you meet that lucky fella.
I am sure it is going to be a very inspiring love story 🙂click to expand
Posted by jane84I like that. I like people who are up front and don't waste each other's time.
When I was single and going on dates, if I didn't feel like we were compatible or just so different that it would never work. I told them so and stopped dating them after a couple of dates...nothing more. I didn't want to waste their time or lead them on.
I got super picky after my marriage ended years ago... I didn't want something long term unless it meant something. Besides marriage is a scary thing after you divorce once... it was going to take something special or meaningful to get me to think about it again.
It's never fun when you are the one being led on. I wonder how it'd feel like if I dated a guy for a long time but only to find out that he never saw a future with me... Also, sometimes I wonder what's the real difference between people being picky and people never wanting to get married. I feel if people are just being picky, they are able to commit if they meet the right one, but people never wanting to get married probably will always chooes to be single when the other person wants to get married... not sure if I get it right though.
A friend of mine dated a guy who never wants to get married for 3 years. I could see that they were super in love but in the end, when she pressed for marriage (she was 32 at the time), he chose to end it and moved out of her place... it was very very sad to watch....
Posted by imbatgirl14So...do you see anyone at all or you just focus on yourself?
I don't have time for dating.
I have friends who don't have time to date but they do have fwb on the side that they see once in a while...
Posted by imbatgirl14I can see that. I can see that boys who are married to good girls may find some badass women at work inresistable if they have never experienced this kind of women. Actually, that's my sister's ultimate fear. My sister has had a few bfs but she has only been intimate with one man, that is her husband. She's always worried that her husband might get bored one day and fall in love with someone who's her complete opposite. I mean, she is confident that he wouldn't leave her for another girl like her, but she's worried when there's someone just so different who just shows up in his life and relights his fire that sort of things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI heard a man once say, you need to get it out of your system before you marry, so you won't end up doing it while you're married.Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by narayanaThat's true...
I would. Marriage is not a big deal for me. Just another party followed by some extra problems with property n kids later
How if it's a person your family won't like or won't think he is good enough for you?
Would that make a difference?click to expand
Lol. Really... so you are a grown woman and you can't make your own choices. It is not like you have to keep seeing someone if it does not go well. If you are interested see how it goes with out getting to serious. It is that simple... that way if it does not work out you made a new friend. If they can't just be friends after or more of a friend at the start that is just a bad sign and they are just looking to get some...
Piscesmoon
Posted by breterpanDo you always think this way?
yup. don't ever really want to get married
I feel for me it goes back and forth. There were certain periods of time I felt I wanted to get married one day, but other times, I felt I was not cut out for marriage and I probably should just have some longterm relationships.
Posted by Teenayou mean no news is good news 😄Posted by whatisthisallaboutTrust me... I'm looking forward to that too. I wanna write my story here as well..and later probably disappear ❤️?Posted by TeenaGood for you 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by TeenaSmart girl!
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
I guess the only downside is that if this person is your one and only for everything, it'd be very very very hard to get over it if one day the person was gone (e.g. breakup/divorce or death due to terminal disease, accident, advanced age, etc.).
Yeah. That's right.I get that.Maybe I'll be devastated. But again I also understand no one is here to stay. When n if I lose the person(god forbid), I'd be sad coz I lost him.I wouldn't mull over not having dated other men.. it wouldn't even be the last thing I'd think about honestly. I don't know the consequences of my choices.. But I'm completely aware I'm making them. I kinda plan on doing certain things if at all that happens...and it sure doesn't involve seeing other men lol. I'll survive 🙂
I hope you will post your stories on dxp when you meet that lucky fella.
I am sure it is going to be a very inspiring love story 🙂click to expand
probably you are just gonna be so in love that you spend all your time together and don't have time to go on dxp anymore lol
Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by imbatgirl14I can see that. I can see that boys who are married to good girls may find some badass women at work inresistable if they have never experienced this kind of women. Actually, that's my sister's ultimate fear. My sister has had a few bfs but she has only been intimate with one man, that is her husband. She's always worried that her husband might get bored one day and fall in love with someone who's her complete opposite. I mean, she is confident that he wouldn't leave her for another girl like her, but she's worried when there's someone just so different who just shows up in his life and relights his fire that sort of things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI heard a man once say, you need to get it out of your system before you marry, so you won't end up doing it while you're married.Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
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It depends on the quality of guy... if it is it love then many men cheat or leave a woman as they start to get older. However many woman just want a safe guy to pay for the expenses of raising kids or when they are younger a sugar daddy.
So these days men don't feel that special as woman just often looking for the guy to pay there bills ounces they had the fun with impractical bad boys or guys that spend all there time focusing on the gym or social networking rather then saving money or building a career.
Piscesmoon
Posted by Pisces1803No! Love beats age! Enjoy!
I use to think it was okay until I got older, now I'm craving the respectability and stability and the title.. do you think it's weird say you're in your 50's or 60's dating and introducing the guy to your family/friends/outsider as your boyfriend? lolol 😄
Even if it's a short time...
Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell I wanted to have kids...but I didn't NEED to have kids. I wanted someone who I could be with for the rest of my life, but I didn't NEED it. So I was picky, because I wasn't willing to waste serious time with someone who I never saw a future with. However, I did at one point still want this stuff... so I wouldn't want to be with someone who never wanted it.Posted by jane84I like that. I like people who are up front and don't waste each other's time.
When I was single and going on dates, if I didn't feel like we were compatible or just so different that it would never work. I told them so and stopped dating them after a couple of dates...nothing more. I didn't want to waste their time or lead them on.
I got super picky after my marriage ended years ago... I didn't want something long term unless it meant something. Besides marriage is a scary thing after you divorce once... it was going to take something special or meaningful to get me to think about it again.
It's never fun when you are the one being led on. I wonder how it'd feel like if I dated a guy for a long time but only to find out that he never saw a future with me... Also, sometimes I wonder what's the real difference between people being picky and people never wanting to get married. I feel if people are just being picky, they are able to commit if they meet the right one, but people never wanting to get married probably will always chooes to be single when the other person wants to get married... not sure if I get it right though.
A friend of mine dated a guy who never wants to get married for 3 years. I could see that they were super in love but in the end, when she pressed for marriage (she was 32 at the time), he chose to end it and moved out of her place... it was very very sad to watch....click to expand
Sad for your friend. If only they could have communicated more to see where the other person was. Maybe he was honest and she didn't want to accept it or maybe she didn't want to push it sooner to seem desperate or whatever. Sometimes even when things look good, they aren't because there are some really BIG differences between the two partners that will eventually break them up. Whether you want to get married or not is one of those things. Communication is so important.
Posted by piscesmoon2My sister has pices moon too and she married a man that my mom didn't/doesn't approve. I envy how courageous she is when it comes to love.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by narayanaThat's true...
I would. Marriage is not a big deal for me. Just another party followed by some extra problems with property n kids later
How if it's a person your family won't like or won't think he is good enough for you?
Would that make a difference?
Lol. Really... so you are a grown woman and you can't make your own choices. It is not like you have to keep seeing someone if it does not go well. If you are interested see how it goes with out getting to serious. It is that simple... that way if it does not work out you made a new friend. If they can't just be friends after or more of a friend at the start that is just a bad sign and they are just looking to get some...
Piscesmoon
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It is still difficult till this date. My mom always tries to break them up. Her husband once said that if he ever divorced my sister, its not because of my sister, its because of my mom. My mom is evil. She is really really making it difficult for them and humuliates my sister's husband in public a lot...
I just am struggling with the same thing. Knowing how my mom is, it is just very hard for me to see a future with any guy that my mom wouldn't approve. I guess I am more cowardly than my sister. But on the other hand, the struggle is real. After 10 years of hard work from my sister and her husband to change my mom's mind, it still doesn't happen. Every family gathering is hell to them.. it is just hard.
Posted by LadyPootsAlotWhat is your sign?
No.
I would see that as a monumental waste of everyone's time.
I noticed that my Cap friend is very good at calling it quits when she sees no future...
Posted by whatisthisallaboutHaha. That is true yeah..also Dxp is not a safe place to share happy stories. I know I'll be better off without it 😄Posted by Teenayou mean no news is good news 😄Posted by whatisthisallaboutTrust me... I'm looking forward to that too. I wanna write my story here as well..and later probably disappear ❤️?Posted by TeenaGood for you 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by TeenaSmart girl!
No... Wouldn't! I think that's the reason I never dated
I guess the only downside is that if this person is your one and only for everything, it'd be very very very hard to get over it if one day the person was gone (e.g. breakup/divorce or death due to terminal disease, accident, advanced age, etc.).
Yeah. That's right.I get that.Maybe I'll be devastated. But again I also understand no one is here to stay. When n if I lose the person(god forbid), I'd be sad coz I lost him.I wouldn't mull over not having dated other men.. it wouldn't even be the last thing I'd think about honestly. I don't know the consequences of my choices.. But I'm completely aware I'm making them. I kinda plan on doing certain things if at all that happens...and it sure doesn't involve seeing other men lol. I'll survive 🙂
I hope you will post your stories on dxp when you meet that lucky fella.
I am sure it is going to be a very inspiring love story 🙂
probably you are just gonna be so in love that you spend all your time together and don't have time to go on dxp anymore lolclick to expand
Normally mothers want or think there daughters are entitled to better. It is not about better but what is good for you. A guy can have everything and not be a good man... or treat his woman like crap. Yet woman want him because he has money or some type of thing they value. Your mom need to grow up. She sounds very immature trying to micro manage your life.
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Posted by ScorpGYes, the secret hope is always there lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutI agree with that, but isn't there always a secret hope that there will be future?Posted by ScorpGThat's true. I always think that if there's no future, then I should end things or not start anything at all.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf there is not a purpose why date?Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
Plus, how will you express feelings for a person you see no future with and why not have future with a person you feel about?
However, sometimes in reality it is hard because there are many times in my life, I find myself strangely attracted to people I just know I won't get along with or they won't be able to make me happy in the long run. It just takes a lot of self control to not act on it when the attraction is strong...click to expand
But I realized that people don't change and won't change... I am the kind of person who wants my other half to be my best friend and main emotional support, but it is hard because most guys I have met just do not or cannot fulfill that role. They told me it's hard to just listen to my problems and allow me to resolve them my way.... I can see that they are better off with girls who turn to their friends for emotional support.
Posted by piscesmoon2I think my sister's husband is the kind of guy who is very ambitous and goal-directed and believes that if he ever builds a kingdom in his career, he deserves to have the most beautiful women by his side... I think he does love my sister just as much as she loves him, but he has this kind of mentality of having more than one woman to match up his financial success... you know back in the days, rich men always have multiple women. I think that's what he sees himself.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by imbatgirl14I can see that. I can see that boys who are married to good girls may find some badass women at work inresistable if they have never experienced this kind of women. Actually, that's my sister's ultimate fear. My sister has had a few bfs but she has only been intimate with one man, that is her husband. She's always worried that her husband might get bored one day and fall in love with someone who's her complete opposite. I mean, she is confident that he wouldn't leave her for another girl like her, but she's worried when there's someone just so different who just shows up in his life and relights his fire that sort of things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI heard a man once say, you need to get it out of your system before you marry, so you won't end up doing it while you're married.Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
It depends on the quality of guy... if it is it love then many men cheat or leave a woman as they start to get older. However many woman just want a safe guy to pay for the expenses of raising kids or when they are younger a sugar daddy.
So these days men don't feel that special as woman just often looking for the guy to pay there bills ounces they had the fun with impractical bad boys or guys that spend all there time focusing on the gym or social networking rather then saving money or building a career.
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Posted by Capri-sunNot surprising coming from a Cap!
No
I lived with a Cap lady for 3 years and she's super picky.
I was amazed at how easy it was for her to let someone go whenever she decided she didn't see a potential. I think she'd make a good Bachelorette for the show 😉
Posted by breterpanPosted by whatisthisallaboutyeah, alwaysPosted by breterpanDo you always think this way?
yup. don't ever really want to get married
I feel for me it goes back and forth. There were certain periods of time I felt I wanted to get married one day, but other times, I felt I was not cut out for marriage and I probably should just have some longterm relationships.
I used to think I didn't want kids either but now I know I totally do. marriage just seems unnecessary to meclick to expand
Yea who need a family unity right. Lol please you are looking at this in a self serving way. Part
Of the reason people choose to make a commitment such as marriage is to raise kids together because it is it easy.
Virgo often want control... and Aries makes you idealistic. Woman these days just don't seem to get it. They think hey find a man with enough and I can divorce him... instead of looking for a guy to actually make it work not just about money or status. Even then woman don't realize girls throw themselves at thought guys and they have no reason to settle down as they can often tell that is what woman want. If women want it to work they need a guy who values there emotions and also does not promise the world and is a dead beat. See some many woman getting with guys and being sugar mama's. We are for the first time in history seeing what will happen when a generation of woman that has largely depended on there looks to manipulate men... that never marry grow old. The next 5 to 8 years a lot will change... woman are being told they are not equal often when they want the benefits of being a woman but don't want to put the effort that many men do to be successful. It is a doggy dog world... in everything but love... as men will of course be extremely nice if they are trying to get in your pants. Once they got it they change and it is obvious that is all they wanted... also because woman expect so much and are far to difficult.
Once a woman commits to a man they loose there power to manipulate as effextivly with there sex appeal.
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by piscesmoon2I think my sister's husband is the kind of guy who is very ambitous and goal-directed and believes that if he ever builds a kingdom in his career, he deserves to have the most beautiful women by his side... I think he does love my sister just as much as she loves him, but he has this kind of mentality of having more than one woman to match up his financial success... you know back in the days, rich men always have multiple women. I think that's what he sees himself.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by imbatgirl14I can see that. I can see that boys who are married to good girls may find some badass women at work inresistable if they have never experienced this kind of women. Actually, that's my sister's ultimate fear. My sister has had a few bfs but she has only been intimate with one man, that is her husband. She's always worried that her husband might get bored one day and fall in love with someone who's her complete opposite. I mean, she is confident that he wouldn't leave her for another girl like her, but she's worried when there's someone just so different who just shows up in his life and relights his fire that sort of things.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI heard a man once say, you need to get it out of your system before you marry, so you won't end up doing it while you're married.Posted by ScorpGDo you have a particular reason other than not wanting to waste time?
Very nice threat! I wouldn't...
I think some of my guy friends they want to date a "red rose" (someone wild and crazy) but marry a "white rose" (someone who's gonna be a good mom for their children).
It depends on the quality of guy... if it is it love then many men cheat or leave a woman as they start to get older. However many woman just want a safe guy to pay for the expenses of raising kids or when they are younger a sugar daddy.
So these days men don't feel that special as woman just often looking for the guy to pay there bills ounces they had the fun with impractical bad boys or guys that spend all there time focusing on the gym or social networking rather then saving money or building a career.
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Sounds like a dirt bag to me... it is not that we are not all made special but when we think we are to special for everyone else. So he is building his career to make money for him more the provide for a family. Again men these days say why settle down woman just want to be taken care off...
For me personally I have a hard time now these days as I could date or do things but everyone seems so fake. Always motivated by anything but love.
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Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxXThen you will grow old alone... it is not a bad thing. Also raising kids... I personally would not want to have kids with a woman that does not want to get married. They just are like well I wanted some of your pay check.
Yes because I don't plan on getting married regardless of how great he is.
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutThe show that is all about competition and relationships that never work out. LolPosted by Capri-sunNot surprising coming from a Cap!
No
I lived with a Cap lady for 3 years and she's super picky.
I was amazed at how easy it was for her to let someone go whenever she decided she didn't see a potential. I think she'd make a good Bachelorette for the show 😉click to expand
We wonder why people have relationship issues so much theses days.
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Posted by jane84I actually also still want that someone I could be with for the rest of my life. I thought I met that person but it didn't work out. I am still recovering from that and now I am confused. I begin to question whether I should want someone like that or I should just focus on the moment and be happy with whatever comes my way. My Gem friend told me he doesn't think much about future when he dates, he just wants to enjoy all the feelings and emotions that come with dating each girl he met. He's been seeing one girl who is super diffiult due to her diagnosed bipolar for a whole year now. He told me it's tough and he's not sure if they'd end up together but he loves her so he just wants to enjoy every moment with her fully even though it's a lot of painPosted by whatisthisallaboutWell I wanted to have kids...but I didn't NEED to have kids. I wanted someone who I could be with for the rest of my life, but I didn't NEED it. So I was picky, because I wasn't willing to waste serious time with someone who I never saw a future with. However, I did at one point still want this stuff... so I wouldn't want to be with someone who never wanted it.Posted by jane84I like that. I like people who are up front and don't waste each other's time.
When I was single and going on dates, if I didn't feel like we were compatible or just so different that it would never work. I told them so and stopped dating them after a couple of dates...nothing more. I didn't want to waste their time or lead them on.
I got super picky after my marriage ended years ago... I didn't want something long term unless it meant something. Besides marriage is a scary thing after you divorce once... it was going to take something special or meaningful to get me to think about it again.
It's never fun when you are the one being led on. I wonder how it'd feel like if I dated a guy for a long time but only to find out that he never saw a future with me... Also, sometimes I wonder what's the real difference between people being picky and people never wanting to get married. I feel if people are just being picky, they are able to commit if they meet the right one, but people never wanting to get married probably will always chooes to be single when the other person wants to get married... not sure if I get it right though.
A friend of mine dated a guy who never wants to get married for 3 years. I could see that they were super in love but in the end, when she pressed for marriage (she was 32 at the time), he chose to end it and moved out of her place... it was very very sad to watch....
Sad for your friend. If only they could have communicated more to see where the other person was. Maybe he was honest and she didn't want to accept it or maybe she didn't want to push it sooner to seem desperate or whatever. Sometimes even when things look good, they aren't because there are some really BIG differences between the two partners that will eventually break them up. Whether you want to get married or not is one of those things. Communication is so important.click to expand
You are spot on regarding my friend's situation. She is a very attractive and confident sag woman. She has high education, makes good money, very athletic, fun and sexy, etc. I think she was too confident that once he's dated her for long enough he'd change. She did try to make him change by first asking him to move in, then adopting a dog together, etc. to help him "get used to" a semi married life... but too bad it just didn't work out.
Posted by LadyPootsAlotOh hahaha. surprise! actually my gem ex told me it was hard for him to break up with a girl as well. I was his 2nd gf and he told me it took him 2 years to break up with his first :pPosted by whatisthisallaboutI am horrible at calling it quits until I have no choice. That is one reason I don't fuck around with casual bullshit. I'm a Gemini.Posted by LadyPootsAlotWhat is your sign?
No.
I would see that as a monumental waste of everyone's time.
I noticed that my Cap friend is very good at calling it quits when she sees no future...click to expand
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