2 months, limited emotion

So in 2 months with the sag, still no sex. I got a peck on the lips bout a month ago and 2 cheek pecks.

ugh! What is this?

Is this normal?

Sounds like the best guy for you to get to know on a spirtual and intellectual level. You fuck to much as it is.

Posted by DMV
So in 2 months with the sag, still no sex. I got a peck on the lips bout a month ago and 2 cheek pecks.

ugh! What is this?

Is this normal?

You said you were trying to do something new. See where this goes...

Pecks on the cheek though. We're not talking butt cheeks right? At least that would be something 😛.

May I ask where his Mars is? I don't believe its in Scorp, but I've noticed the Sags with Mars in Scorp are a bit slower to move. I've found they're not trying to get down like that too soon before knowing their potential lover on a "spiritual" level. Especially with the one he sees a future with. The attention is there though. Full force. If it's the same with your Sag it may be about that as well.

Also, finding the time to sleep with you given his other commitments---sounds strange I know, but consider the man you've described this far. I don't know if he lives with his daughter, but given what you shared does he seem like a man that is going to spend the night if he has his daughter for the night? On the flip side, if he's a true gentleman he's not going to just have sex and bounce Because he has to get back to his little one. Perhaps he's waiting for a moment where he can spend the night and really connect with you, no interruptions or responsibilities that will take him away.

Just throwing some stuff out there since other things seem to be in place.

Won't lie, I'm stuck on the peck in the cheeks and lip though.

Is he religious ?

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
So in 2 months with the sag, still no sex. I got a peck on the lips bout a month ago and 2 cheek pecks.

ugh! What is this?

Is this normal?

You said you were trying to do something new. See where this goes...

Pecks on the cheek though. We're not talking butt cheeks right? At least that would be something 😛.

May I ask where his Mars is? I don't believe its in Scorp, but I've noticed the Sags with Mars in Scorp are a bit slower to move. I've found they're not trying to get down like that too soon before knowing their potential lover on a "spiritual" level. Especially with the one he sees a future with. The attention is there though. Full force. If it's the same with your Sag it may be about that as well.

Also, finding the time to sleep with you given his other commitments---sounds strange I know, but consider the man you've described this far. I don't know if he lives with his daughter, but given what you shared does he seem like a man that is going to spend the night if he has his daughter for the night? On the flip side, if he's a true gentleman he's not going to just have sex and bounce Because he has to get back to his little one. Perhaps he's waiting for a moment where he can spend the night and really connect with you, no interruptions or responsibilities that will take him away.

Just throwing some stuff out there since other things seem to be in place.

Won't lie, I'm stuck on the peck in the cheeks and lip though.

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mars in leo. Hmm these are interesting points. I think you could be onto something.

I like sex and I dont see the problem with having it. Theres no such thing as having too much sex.

Id like to see what sex is like with him. Its how I communicate how I feel, securely. Its how I get to know someone.

but taking out the sex, theres not much affection. Idk, I feel starved.

lol Phoenix, no butt cheeks.

This morning my neighbor actually asked me if he could sleep with me. I said no, but inside I felt sexy and desired. Strange, but I was relieved in a way that a guy found me sexy and expressed it.

The old sag had a mars in scorpio, boy do I miss that placement. Id give my left tit to be his blowup doll right now.

I just need some passion.

Posted by beggarsblanket
Is he religious ?

goes to church

Posted by DMV

Posted by beggarsblanket
Is he religious ?

goes to church

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Well....that may be something to explore. The answer may be there.

But he talks about sex and how freaky he is. I just would like to see more desire, more passion.

Im hungry.

Posted by DMV
But he talks about sex and how freaky he is. I just would like to see more desire, more passion.

Im hungry.

He-s taking YOU seriously, very seriously. And he's moving slow cause he's cautious - you know that 😄
I've noticed that Sags want to tear someone's clothes off if he or she is moving too slow 😄 It's like a game 😉

even I have that feeling 😄

Yah I hear you all. Just tough. Im horny all the damn time.

Post charts please.

He sounds like he needs mental stimulation you haven't given him yet.
OR he already has a sex partner and is just flirting.

Posted by LunarMaiden
Post charts please.

He sounds like he needs mental stimulation you haven't given him yet.
OR he already has a sex partner and is just flirting.

Thats what I think, the latter.

His
Sun Sagittarius 20.31
Moon Capricorn 17.46
Mercury Capricorn 7.25 R
Venus Sagittarius 10.47
Mars Leo 11.33 R
Jupiter Cancer 2.27 R
Saturn Virgo 0.33 R
Uranus Scorpio 14.23
Neptune Sagittarius 16.03
Pluto Libra 16.19
Lilith Gemini 26.01
Asc node Libra 12.34

Mine
Sun Sagittarius 3.18
Moon Scorpio 22.49
Mercury Scorpio 24.56
Venus Capricorn 19.30
Mars Virgo 19.51
Jupiter Libra 29.43
Saturn Libra 18.39
Uranus Sagittarius 0.34
Neptune Sagittarius 23.49
Pluto Libra 25.46
Lilith Sagittarius 6.53
Asc node Cancer 23.38

There's definitly been a change in his behavior. I brought up the perceived change and he says hes good. Rather he says hes good followed by a laundry list of excuses.

He, we talk about sex but thats about it. Not alot of affection on his part. I wouldnt be complaining if I was getting some good make out sessions, hand holding, something. But im not getting that.

ive even suggested, hinted at us getting some Netflix cuddle time in and silence.

If hes not into me, im cool with that.

Sounds like he's not. If he is, he's really bad at showing it.

Are you really cool with it though? I hate feeling rejected....the fucking worse. :\

Posted by DMV
Not alot of affection on his part. I wouldnt be complaining if I was getting some good make out sessions, hand holding, something. But im not getting that.

😢 i thought you at least made out 😢 no hand holding 😢

you deserve better. you're right, it's a waste of time......

Posted by brianafay
Sounds like he's not. If he is, he's really bad at showing it.

Are you really cool with it though? I hate feeling rejected....the fucking worse. :\

yeah im cool with it, but im not cool with him.

Posted by shysaggirl

Posted by DMV
Not alot of affection on his part. I wouldnt be complaining if I was getting some good make out sessions, hand holding, something. But im not getting that.

😢 i thought you at least made out 😢 no hand holding 😢

you deserve better. you're right, it's a waste of time......

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gurl, i got a quickest peck ever like over a month ago. i was disappointed with it at the time, but i said whateves, it will get better.

my gut is telling me something is way off.

i think he got turned off by the fact that i said id break up with him if he stopped wanting to have sex. that seemed to be the only thing that caught him off guard.

he always seemed excited when id talk about my new business endeavors/goals and even offered me startup money.

maybe he thinks im too busy for him or assumes that i need space. hes brought that up in the past and i did shut that crazy talk down. but i can feel he still feels like that.

Smart guy... I see what he's doing here

my gut is telling me something is way off.

Yes it's called your gaydar. 😱

Posted by DMV
His
Sun Sagittarius 20.31
Moon Capricorn 17.46
Mercury Capricorn 7.25 R
Venus Sagittarius 10.47
Mars Leo 11.33 R
Jupiter Cancer 2.27 R
Saturn Virgo 0.33 R
Uranus Scorpio 14.23
Neptune Sagittarius 16.03
Pluto Libra 16.19
Lilith Gemini 26.01
Asc node Libra 12.34

Mine
Sun Sagittarius 3.18
Moon Scorpio 22.49
Mercury Scorpio 24.56
Venus Capricorn 19.30
Mars Virgo 19.51
Jupiter Libra 29.43
Saturn Libra 18.39
Uranus Sagittarius 0.34
Neptune Sagittarius 23.49
Pluto Libra 25.46
Lilith Sagittarius 6.53
Asc node Cancer 23.38

He has some very interesting placements.
He's got that sexy Leo mars and flighty fickle Sag Venus.
So a fiery, playful, sexual love/sex nature.
But his emotions and communications are reserved and contemplative with the Capricorn Moon and Mercury.
These placements suggest to me there is a duality going on within him.
His moon is trine your mars. And his mars is trine your sun.
So there is ease and comfort between you two and you are drawn toward each other.

His emotions and communication are reserved and cool but underneath there is a sexual person.
You are going to need more than two months to crack his nut DMV?
That's if he's not gay.
In that case it will take even longer. 😆

OR
You told him too much about yourself and made yourself too available meaning he doesn't have to rush into anything.
He knows he can get you anytime. You are not a challenge, so he's stalling.

Thanks Lunar, i agree with everything youve said. Unfortunately, I dont have 2 more months and i dont feel like changing who i am just to get him to desire me again. He liked me, i liked him back. this should be all it takes right?

The eclipse really showed me what was going on and gave me the answers i was looking for.

This was on my mind yesterday and i ate some oreos and came to peace with things.

Im cool with the situation, but i aint cool with him.

Im sure he will see me in a itty bitty bikini and wish he had handled things a bit differently.

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Posted by AL4813
Smart guy... I see what he's doing here

It brings out the insecurities in even the most confident of females tho. And with her Scorp moon, it's gonna eventually make her not trust him.

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Bingo! He has the right girl to play a game with. I have the perfect one person game for his ass.

@Feby, I did call him out that he was creating distance and wanted to at least give him the opportunity to tell his side of things. That way, he cant ever ask if we can speak about things in the future when im treating him like a stranger. I gave him his chance to speak up. Now, there can be no more conversations.

When he was giving me his laundry list of why this and why that. I wasnt really buying it. It seemed rushed and not genuine. i was building a wall of bricks while he was explaining himself.

The trust is indeed broken. All I have is a thousand side eyes.

Posted by LunarMaiden

my gut is telling me something is way off.

Yes it's called your gaydar. 😱

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no BS. i thought that the moment i met him.

I love that you found peace eating oreos....you gotta try the Reeses peanut butter cup ones. HOLY SHIT

I don't think he is gay.

If he tried to turn you on by verbal hints, I'd say it's his religious character. He does not want to be a sinner for nothing and does not want to lose you.

I guess it will get better later. He has Eros in Aqua and Psyche in Scorpio.

My 2 Cents of speculation.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
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One of my guy friends has some kind of anxiety disorder that makes him cum super fast. Like, before any penetration has occurred. But, it only happens with girls he's not been with long term. Once he's been with them a while, it stops. *shrug*
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Interesting that you told this. I know a Cap man who told this about himself.

Posted by Twodrinkminimum
This is so strange and it would make me want to stick around to see what the deal is. I hate that about myself. I stay way too long because I need to find out people's hidden motives.

2 months and not even any kissing or making out is strange.

Maybe he has an incurable std DMV? or erectile dysnfunction.

One of my guy friends has some kind of anxiety disorder that makes him cum super fast. Like, before any penetration has occurred. But, it only happens with girls he's not been with long term. Once he's been with them a while, it stops. *shrug*

It could seriously be anything under the moon...and it makes me a curious cat. I hope you find out.

I also thought about the std thing. Ive thought about alot of things. Lol.

But I cant be bogged down by this, I have bigger fish to fry right now.

Its just so strange because I know hes attracted or used to be attracted to me. Plus I know im attractive.

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Posted by Twodrinkminimum
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One of my guy friends has some kind of anxiety disorder that makes him cum super fast. Like, before any penetration has occurred. But, it only happens with girls he's not been with long term. Once he's been with them a while, it stops. *shrug*
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Interesting that you told this. I know a Cap man who told this about himself.

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Another mistake I made last night. The Cap guy told me he would not come if the sex session happened too early. That he needed time. That way his body would function well.

Too much butter girl, go treetrunk you're neighbor and let the fire out!!!! 😉

Did yall see this?

Capricorn — Butterfly. You start off as a caterpillar, and then you need to go through some kind of transformation before you are the free-flying slut you were born to be.

From Sexy Beast Horoscopes

Yeah I stopped reading after I saw Sagi's animal was a pig.....

Posted by DwellingOnMove
Did yall see this?

Capricorn — Butterfly. You start off as a caterpillar, and then you need to go through some kind of transformation before you are the free-flying slut you were born to be.

From Sexy Beast Horoscopes

I believe that as a venus in cap. When im cautious I have to be warmed up alot. But the last sag was more aggressive in warming me up. Like with the aries, I was on fire from the getgo.

Posted by brianafay
Yeah I stopped reading after I saw Sagi's animal was a pig.....

yeah i didn't get that.

Posted by EmotionalAries
Too much butter girl, go treetrunk you're neighbor and let the fire out!!!! 😉

Its been 2 months since I've had sex. The next guy will surely be raped.

@Curiousram, Quite possible.

ive just become the nagging rooster and shyts bringing me down.

I know I must seem like a basketcase but I know what I need to feel secure. Even tho the old sag had a gf, I never felt distance, never longed, always felt desired. He was damn near perfect. My emotional rock for 5 years. Anticipated my moods and dealt with them swiftly.

Not getting affection for this long messes with my psyche. Makes me feel insecure.

I need someone to be nice to me, buy me shit, and sex me up. Its simple.

my eros is in taurus.

Posted by DMV
@Curiousram, Quite possible.

ive just become the nagging rooster and shyts bringing me down.

I definitely wasnt getting that "hunter" mars in leo. I am more aggressive of the 2. The scorp I cant seem to get off my ass is a mars in leo. Its very obvious in him.

my mars in virgo cannot run the show. Its operates much better as the helpful number 2 in relationships. I need the man to be the man.

Posted by exoskeleton
hmmm.

do you feel he is worth the wait?

tough to answer that.

My Mars is in Leo but I also have a Scorpio Venus so maybe in in between the both of you. I need to feel in love before having sex. I don't care if the guy is sexy as hell. I know how good my sex is and even though I know the sex is gonna be good, I still need to get to know the person and trust the person first. I can do all kinds of foreplay and still say no and wait it out. I actually like wanting the person and then when the sex does come all hell breaks loose and I can have it anywhere and anytime and I'm up for almost anything. I don't know if it's the Mars pr Venus Placement cause I'm bad at figuring out astrology 😢

Sorry for all the typos. I'm at work and typing on this small ass iPhone screen

I felt alot of distance from him. After speaking to him about it, i still felt distance and not reassurance. Plus he stopped calling/texting for almost 2 weeks. which drove me insane and why i felt distance. he used to show more passion, attentiveness, just a desire to get to know me. but i wasnt getting that anymore. it was noticeable. So then after talking to him about said distance, another weekend and a few days go by and i dont hear anything from him. that just pissed me off and i felt like i wasnt being heard/taken serious.


Then, when i finally did get a text. I didnt respond. He texted again that afternoon. I didnt respond. Then he called. that actually pissed me off even more because when i wanted to talk to you and get more communication out of him, it seemed like he couldnt be bothered. Its only when i became less available, he actually puts some effort into things.

So i texted him that i wasnt looking for a relationship at this time. He replied back like he wasnt even phased. He said he was actually just calling to check on my clothing line. So i felt kinda dumb.

So i feel like ive been reading him wrong for the last two months. He wasnt looking for a relationship from me.

Posted by exoskeleton
but really, i don't get it.

why would he show interest, take you out, kiss you, etc and then not progress from that?

do you know if he's seeing other women?

he could be. I think i was being vetted against someone else. which is fine, thats what dating is about.

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Posted by DMV
I felt alot of distance from him. After speaking to him about it, i still felt distance and not reassurance. Plus he stopped calling/texting for almost 2 weeks. which drove me insane and why i felt distance. he used to show more passion, attentiveness, just a desire to get to know me. but i wasnt getting that anymore. it was noticeable. So then after talking to him about said distance, another weekend and a few days go by and i dont hear anything from him. that just pissed me off and i felt like i wasnt being heard/taken serious.


Then, when i finally did get a text. I didnt respond. He texted again that afternoon. I didnt respond. Then he called. that actually pissed me off even more because when i wanted to talk to you and get more communication out of him, it seemed like he couldnt be bothered. Its only when i became less available, he actually puts some effort into things.

So i texted him that i wasnt looking for a relationship at this time. He replied back like he wasnt even phased. He said he was actually just calling to check on my clothing line. So i felt kinda dumb.

So i feel like ive been reading him wrong for the last two months. He wasnt looking for a relationship from me.

Well you??re a sag yourself ey?! You know how sags can easily hang out with someone and be very open and talk about stuff, without it meaning anything. Sometimes maybe hang out for a little while to get a feel for the other person and then decide to go forward or not. Probably what happened.

... But your reply was a little weird though - why would you tell him, you??re not interested in a relationship right now, when in fact you are? That's why you dated him no? Don't play it like that, just be truthful. And you could shake this off and text him back and say "damn, I totally misread you and thought we were dating!", have a laugh about it. Unless you were genuinly interested in him and feel hurt now. In that case I'm sorry. But hey, at least you didn't get to connect with him sexually.

He probably sensed, that you were interested and that's why he went distant to begin with. To not hurt feelings. He's probably a good enough guy, you just misunderstood each other.

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yes, this is what i think happened. I dont think hes a bad