Poppyseeds
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I don't understand, what's the big deal?
Posted by Arielle83Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
The sign doesn't matter.
You're analyzing too much.
Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...
Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
Posted by Arielle83I am indeed curious, I suppose I can send him something, see if he respond, if he doesn't means he is blowing me offPosted by PoppyseedsAren't you curious about the outcome?Posted by Arielle83Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
The sign doesn't matter.
You're analyzing too much.
Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...
Holding back seems boring.click to expand
Posted by notsosureWell he asked for third date 30 mins after second date ended, I suggested next week, (4 days after second date) he said that is too long. And he wants to see me over the weekend but I already have plans. he agree to the date.Posted by PoppyseedsThis is weird.Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
But anyways: what do you mean "not handle "no" well"?? Where is the drama? In your head. You are overanalyzing this extremely much. I don´t think you´re ready to date. He has not stopped talking to you. He just hasn´t contacted you in a little while. If he doesn´t contact you in a year, he has stopped talking to you. Calm down.
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Then he gave me one last minute friend meeting request. I said no in a nice way by thanking him for the invite and told me to let me know next time so I can join them. The next day he did it more subtle by suggesting he is free. I didn't play along and he stopped talking.
I;m not clingy and he always intitiate everything. For a person who non stop texting you to suddenly stop talking it suggests something...
Posted by Arielle83From super attentive and eager to no respond, I;m not sure what else to make out of it? Consistency is sexy, hot and cold is not so much...Posted by PoppyseedsNot everything is black and whitePosted by Arielle83I am indeed curious, I suppose I can send him something, see if he respond, if he doesn't means he is blowing me offPosted by PoppyseedsAren't you curious about the outcome?Posted by Arielle83Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
The sign doesn't matter.
You're analyzing too much.
Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...
Holding back seems boring.click to expand
Posted by IlluminatiI fully expect him to meet people as we only been on 2 dates, there is no committment, however it's still not ok to bail on someone.. Time will tell if he keep his words..Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytimeclick to expand
Posted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytimeclick to expand
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
Posted by Ixion120if he bails for third I can't say it LOLPosted by PoppyseedsThen say that at the next date and let it rock.Posted by IlluminatiI fully expect him to meet people as we only been on 2 dates, there is no committment, however it's still not ok to bail on someone.. Time will tell if he keep his words..Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytimeclick to expand
Posted by Arielle83I just sent him a text because I saw something that reminds me of him. No respond. He usually respond IMMEDIATELY. anyway I will give it until tomorrow, our agreed third date. If no respond it's time to lose his digitsPosted by PoppyseedsI'm sure you look inconsistent as well.Posted by Arielle83From super attentive and eager to no respond, I;m not sure what else to make out of it? Consistency is sexy, hot and cold is not so much...Posted by PoppyseedsNot everything is black and whitePosted by Arielle83I am indeed curious, I suppose I can send him something, see if he respond, if he doesn't means he is blowing me offPosted by PoppyseedsAren't you curious about the outcome?Posted by Arielle83Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
The sign doesn't matter.
You're analyzing too much.
Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...
Holding back seems boring.
Pulling back is the same.
Maybe he isn't doing it on purpose, but you're reacting cuz you think he is?
So you're not being real.
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Posted by Ixion120Everything will unfold in less than 24 hrs....Posted by PoppyseedsThen it wasn't meant to be or like you wasn't meant to be for that time. Either way if he bails and you take it as a snub then given everything you have been saying I guess it wasn't meant to be and it is a now a non issue. Fi true or nah?Posted by Ixion120if he bails for third I can't say it LOLPosted by PoppyseedsThen say that at the next date and let it rock.Posted by IlluminatiI fully expect him to meet people as we only been on 2 dates, there is no committment, however it's still not ok to bail on someone.. Time will tell if he keep his words..Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytimeclick to expand
Posted by Arielle83Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by Arielle83Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by Arielle83Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by Arielle83Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by Arielle83I'm not looking for certain behavior, I'm just looking for consistency, or is that something else we should watch out for?
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
You can't deal with someone not thinking or acting according to your expectations.
It's a bit much to axe someone over not meeting your texting time requirements.
Maybe you're needing too much from dating too soon.
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I suppose you can teach us a thing or 2 here since we all know you are married. Wouldn't you be wary of guys who go much colder in just 2 dates and after you said no twice in between?
Your actions seem a little disingenuous. The reason I say this is because you're reading so much into what he's doing and that's more of a reflection on your own intentions than on his. If you were genuinely just busy, then you wouldn't fail to extend him the same courtesy and think that perhaps he is busy as well. In my opinion, if you suspect him of playing games it's because you yourself are playing games.
Posted by notsosureHis flirty ways scares me a little. I'm not wanting "real move" as in physical as I don't do hookups.Posted by PoppyseedsPosted by notsosureWell he asked for third date 30 mins after second date ended, I suggested next week, (4 days after second date) he said that is too long. And he wants to see me over the weekend but I already have plans. he agree to the date.Posted by PoppyseedsThis is weird.Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
But anyways: what do you mean "not handle "no" well"?? Where is the drama? In your head. You are overanalyzing this extremely much. I don´t think you´re ready to date. He has not stopped talking to you. He just hasn´t contacted you in a little while. If he doesn´t contact you in a year, he has stopped talking to you. Calm down.
Then he gave me one last minute friend meeting request. I said no in a nice way by thanking him for the invite and told me to let me know next time so I can join them. The next day he did it more subtle by suggesting he is free. I didn't play along and he stopped talking.
I;m not clingy and he always intitiate everything. For a person who non stop texting you to suddenly stop talking it suggests something...
You didn´t "play along"—?? You´re way too paranoid. Not ready to date. Especially a chill man.
You were the one with the topic about him not making moves for real but being flirty over text only right? In that topic you also say how he makes all the moves and you don´t react. Maybe try to do that and show a little human interest. In your topics you come of as way paranoid, insecure and like you are more interested in getting his attention than actually just getting to know him for who he is.
If you think something is up ask! Say hi and if he answers problem solved. For now. But really sounds like you are not ready to date anyone.
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Posted by LillyPetalI suspect he is playing games because he is VERY FLIRTY over text but claims he is shy in person. That makes me find it hard to figure out what he really is
Your actions seem a little disingenuous. The reason I say this is because you're reading so much into what he's doing and that's more of a reflection on your own intentions than on his. If you were genuinely just busy, then you wouldn't fail to extend him the same courtesy and think that perhaps he is busy as well. In my opinion, if you suspect him of playing games it's because you yourself are playing games.
Posted by notsosureI sent him a text 30 mins ago.. a photo of his favorite snack I saw today while I was hanging out with my friend...
You even write this yourself: that you have said no two times in a row, but you still expect him to keep asking and contact you all the time?
Why can´t you ask him?
If you´re this paranoid now, you shouldn´t even date him. It´s only ever a bad idea to keep dating someone if you don´t trust them.
Posted by PoppyseedsIs he shy in person? It is not uncommon for someone to appear more bold online or via text then in real life. Just like it's not uncommon that people may be better writers than they are speakers.Posted by LillyPetalI suspect he is playing games because he is VERY FLIRTY over text but claims he is shy in person. That makes me find it hard to figure out what he really is
Your actions seem a little disingenuous. The reason I say this is because you're reading so much into what he's doing and that's more of a reflection on your own intentions than on his. If you were genuinely just busy, then you wouldn't fail to extend him the same courtesy and think that perhaps he is busy as well. In my opinion, if you suspect him of playing games it's because you yourself are playing games.click to expand
Since you have so many doubts about him why not just let it go? Honestly, you'd be doing him a favor as well as yourself. How can any good possibly come from a relationship filled with so many suspicions and doubts?
Posted by LillyPetalWell he said he is shy.. he gives me compliments in person but not as flirty... mmm i suppose you have a good point about being a good writer doens't mean you are a good speaker. I can do both so I never thought of it that way..Posted by PoppyseedsIs he shy in person? It is not uncommon for someone to appear more bold online or via text then in real life. Just like it's not uncommon that people may be better writers than they are speakers.Posted by LillyPetalI suspect he is playing games because he is VERY FLIRTY over text but claims he is shy in person. That makes me find it hard to figure out what he really is
Your actions seem a little disingenuous. The reason I say this is because you're reading so much into what he's doing and that's more of a reflection on your own intentions than on his. If you were genuinely just busy, then you wouldn't fail to extend him the same courtesy and think that perhaps he is busy as well. In my opinion, if you suspect him of playing games it's because you yourself are playing games.
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I just feel that dating should be fun and if it isn't then what's the damn point, you know? Then again, I am the last person to really know anything about dating, I wouldn't blame you for ignoring everything I'm telling you.
Posted by notsosureI'ts becuase Im truing to give it a chance for us to get to know each other.. I'm trying NOT to jump to conclusin
Don´t date him then!!!!! Why do you keep dating him when you already don´t trust him— It makes zero sense, can you not see that?
Posted by Poppyseeds??Posted by LillyPetalWell he said he is shy.. he gives me compliments in person but not as flirty... mmm i suppose you have a good point about being a good writer doens't mean you are a good speaker. I can do both so I never thought of it that way..Posted by PoppyseedsIs he shy in person? It is not uncommon for someone to appear more bold online or via text then in real life. Just like it's not uncommon that people may be better writers than they are speakers.Posted by LillyPetalI suspect he is playing games because he is VERY FLIRTY over text but claims he is shy in person. That makes me find it hard to figure out what he really is
Your actions seem a little disingenuous. The reason I say this is because you're reading so much into what he's doing and that's more of a reflection on your own intentions than on his. If you were genuinely just busy, then you wouldn't fail to extend him the same courtesy and think that perhaps he is busy as well. In my opinion, if you suspect him of playing games it's because you yourself are playing games.
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Posted by LillyPetalI'm not ignoring you or things you said. Just saying I like to keep my eyes opened in early days I have fun when i see him in person
I just feel that dating should be fun and if it isn't then what's the damn point, you know? Then again, I am the last person to really know anything about dating, I wouldn't blame you for ignoring everything I'm telling you.
Posted by newloveIf he gives up because she is busy he is a child. A very self centered child who believes the world evolves around himPosted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casuallyclick to expand
Posted by notsosurePosted by newloveI actually think this "chase" thing is BS if you really want and like someone. Then everybody is just a human being and want to hear from the person they care about and are interested in. No chaser, noone being chased.Posted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
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Exactly!
All these "chase" things are mind games!
Posted by IlluminatiWe don't even know if he's given upPosted by newloveIf he gives up because she is busy he is a child. A very self centered child who believes the world evolves around himPosted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
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OP is talking about friday, weekends...Weekend is still on! We don't know how many he's been avoiding her!
Maybe he's busy right now...after all we can't really expect him to revolve his life around OP after two dates!
Posted by newloveI might have misinterpret the post. I think this guy went from clingy to ice cold. Something tells me it's not right.Posted by IlluminatiWe don't even know if he's given upPosted by newloveIf he gives up because she is busy he is a child. A very self centered child who believes the world evolves around himPosted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
OP is talking about friday, weekends...Weekend is still on! We don't know how many he's been avoiding her!
Maybe he's busy right now...after all we can't really expect him to revolve his life around OP after two dates!
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Posted by notsosureIt's not about who has a bigger wallet. Men takes pride on making a woman happy. If he can't feel like he can make you happy he will seek someone elsePosted by newloveIt´s just an outdated view on what dating is and how we should all act. A way of controlling us. Men used to have the money and all that, but now we are so lucky that we too have money and can take a guy out, and socially/culturally we don´t have to sit around and wait for a man to get in touch with us and chase us. We can act! Some still follow these old ways because they relate it to being a real man and a real woman. People are very controlled by their environment and culture. Even sexual preferences sometimes. It´s unbelievable and interesting 🙂Posted by notsosurePosted by newloveI actually think this "chase" thing is BS if you really want and like someone. Then everybody is just a human being and want to hear from the person they care about and are interested in. No chaser, noone being chased.Posted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
Exactly!
All these "chase" things are mind games!
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Posted by Redoctober2000Sag guys are kings of booty call then?Posted by PoppyseedsU will find that if you date a sag they are not people who "plan" they are the "lastminute.com" people of the zodiac.. So unless you are will to "run" with this horse at the drop of a hat, you two are not going to meet up or "date" because you are going to keep "missing" each other ie you have schedules the sag goes with the flow.Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
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Posted by Redoctober2000So they expect everyone to drop everything just to meet their "spontaneity?Posted by PoppyseedsU will find that if you date a sag they are not people who "plan" they are the "lastminute.com" people of the zodiac.. So unless you are will to "run" with this horse at the drop of a hat, you two are not going to meet up or "date" because you are going to keep "missing" each other ie you have schedules the sag goes with the flow.Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
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No they find who follows the same philosophy. You are not expected to change.
Just as you should not expect them to change
Just as you should not expect them to change
Posted by notsosurePosted by newloveIt´s just an outdated view on what dating is and how we should all act. A way of controlling us. Men used to have the money and all that, but now we are so lucky that we too have money and can take a guy out, and socially/culturally we don´t have to sit around and wait for a man to get in touch with us and chase us. We can act! Some still follow these old ways because they relate it to being a real man and a real woman. People are very controlled by their environment and culture. Even sexual preferences sometimes. It´s unbelievable and interesting 🙂Posted by notsosurePosted by newloveI actually think this "chase" thing is BS if you really want and like someone. Then everybody is just a human being and want to hear from the person they care about and are interested in. No chaser, noone being chased.Posted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
Exactly!
All these "chase" things are mind games!
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You type anything related to dating on google and you will find -
Rules of dating, x no. of days no contact, like him? let him chase, 7day rule!
People are so much used to this conventional idea of dating! They don't really wanna take the risk of chasing the guy or anything! What if he loses interest, what If i make him run away...
It will be going on and on for more coming years...
Posted by IlluminatiPosted by newloveI might have misinterpret the post. I think this guy went from clingy to ice cold. Something tells me it's not right.Posted by IlluminatiWe don't even know if he's given upPosted by newloveIf he gives up because she is busy he is a child. A very self centered child who believes the world evolves around himPosted by IlluminatiMaybe they like the chase!Posted by newloveSag likes the chase, best let them initiate. Men are very simple. If they are into you they will non stop asking you out / texting you. If he stops means he find someone else that interests him more. Could be a lingering ex or a side hoe. Or you could be the side hoe in this case if you only met him last week.
When's the third date?
You were busy or tired, so you couldn't meet...it's not a big deal at all!
If he has not texted you, you can text him asking how is he doing or anything! It's not compulsory that he'll have to initiate everytime
But this guy went on two dates within a week, set a third date, tried to meet her again along with his friends, she couldn't for any reason, again hinted at meeting her, again she couldn't, texts without reason
I don't think there's any problem in OP contacting him once casually
OP is talking about friday, weekends...Weekend is still on! We don't know how many he's been avoiding her!
Maybe he's busy right now...after all we can't really expect him to revolve his life around OP after two dates!
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Thats okay!
Intuition eh?
Posted by Redoctober2000Posted by PoppyseedsI get that what you are saying, the friends thing he already knew he was going, wasn't like they just decided to get together. He already told me he is having a boy's night on our second date. Why didn't he invite me there?Posted by Redoctober2000I am not sure of your sign but he is a fire sign which are Impulsive signs. I have Married and dated aqua, Gemini. Libra, sag and now my boyfriend is a Taurus with a sag moon and two other placements in sag and Jupiter in aries. I learnt" spontaneity " at an early age through these signs. I am Taurus.Posted by PoppyseedsSo they expect everyone to drop everything just to meet their "spontaneity?Posted by notsosureU will find that if you date a sag they are not people who "plan" they are the "lastminute.com" people of the zodiac.. So unless you are will to "run" with this horse at the drop of a hat, you two are not going to meet up or "date" because you are going to keep "missing" each other ie you have schedules the sag goes with the flow.
Fire and air are Spontaneous. If you can't keep up or adapt you will be left behind. Fire is also supposed to be masculine so therefore he leads. One of you has to be adaptable in order to make it work. And maybe the sag is testing you on your adaptability and so far you have turned him down TWICE. Question: if you are truly into a person you would want to adapt to their if yoi are the more flexible one in the pairing. You turned him down TWICE knowing he is Spontaneous and does not keep a schedule. This "friendship" without compromise and adaptability or spontaneity will not work in the long run.
He is probably weighing it up now and beginning to think long term you are not Spontaneous enough... Just putting it out there.. Get outside of your box.click to expand
I suspect he was trying to push boundaries rather than being spontaneous? as I already told him last week that I already have plans for weekend but I'm happy to see you early in the week. He pushed and said ok but i still like to see you on weekend even if it's just for a small window.
Then here comes those last minute thing..
He has lots of earth in his palcement though, would it make any difference? Sag sun, gem moon, scorp mercury,. cap venus and virgo mars
I'm not saying don't ever pay for dates. Just let him do most of it especially during the beginning. Once you are more sure of where this is going you can do more of a "chasing"
Posted by notsosureAre you a sag? seems like you are really offended by my opionion about last minute request? Sounds like you are te one who needs peace withinPosted by PoppyseedsYou speak very negative about these very typicle sag traits. Just like you wrote "I didn´t play along" when he asked you out spontaneously. Like he is doing something bad just because he is not planning ahead. So many red lights about you here in this situation. Maybe find some peace in yourself before going into dating.Posted by Redoctober2000So they expect everyone to drop everything just to meet their "spontaneity?Posted by PoppyseedsU will find that if you date a sag they are not people who "plan" they are the "lastminute.com" people of the zodiac.. So unless you are will to "run" with this horse at the drop of a hat, you two are not going to meet up or "date" because you are going to keep "missing" each other ie you have schedules the sag goes with the flow.Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
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Posted by notsosurePosted by PoppyseedsFair enough, as messages here can get lost in tones.
I´m just trying to show you the light - with all your negative thought on him, it sounds like it´s bound to go nowhere, and I got presumptious and believe that you´re gonna come back here with many topics about him painting him to be the bad guy. I feel for the guy.
Saw him for third date, he ended up taking me to his place and we played video games and he kissed me.
He talked about wanting to go somewhere with me for a weekend. We will see what happens, as talk is cheap.
He started holding hands with me when we left his house.
@cheekyfaerie no wasn't intentionally penalizing him, just being cautious
Posted by PoppyseedsFire signs are spontaneous by nature. He's not going to plan things in advance.Posted by Arielle83Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
The sign doesn't matter.
You're analyzing too much.
Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...click to expand
It is neither disrespectful or pushy of him to think of you and invite you somewhere. You don't want to go? Grow a backbone and tell him that. Climb off your pedestal already.
Posted by Redoctober2000Virgo
What sun sign are you OP?
You just don't sound compatible for this sag?
Posted by PoppyseedsSo you just expect him to drop everything to text you back?Posted by Redoctober2000So they expect everyone to drop everything just to meet their "spontaneity?Posted by PoppyseedsU will find that if you date a sag they are not people who "plan" they are the "lastminute.com" people of the zodiac.. So unless you are will to "run" with this horse at the drop of a hat, you two are not going to meet up or "date" because you are going to keep "missing" each other ie you have schedules the sag goes with the flow.Posted by notsosure@LillyPetal I didn't ended up meeting them as I was busy. just saying why bother inviting me to meet them if you are not gonna handle "no" well... he tried to invite me the next date with another last minute request but I'm busy as well... then he stopped talking to me
Overanalyzing.
You put so much into meeting his friends and will make it into this big deal and fall for him way too quickly, and then IF it doesn´t work out, you will be equally hurt. It´s not that big of a deal.
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Posted by notsosureI believe she genuinely likes him.
This topic has me confused.
The title says it´s about meeting his friends.
The content is about him not making plans in ahead.
And the sum of it all: topic creator has a lot of negative to say about this guy, already, but yet continues on with him.
Why doesn´t she go after someone she likes? Why are women like this?
However she is guilty of the Virgo 'overthink', and imagines every action and non action from the men she dates as a slight to herself. Instead of just going with the flow...as we all have encouraged her to do a multitude of times.
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"He has lots of earth in his palcement though, would it make any difference? Sag sun, gem moon, scorp mercury,. cap venus and virgo mars
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Cap Venus and Virgo mars does NOT equate to "hr has lots of earth in his placement.. ", OP! He is still a sag OP. The sun rules the ego so his sag nature will still be strong.
What is your sun sign? You just don't seem flexible enough OP!
We have different definition of "flexible" I already had plans, I'm not going to drop everything just to be flexible to see him. However when we agree to a date, Im flexible to ideas he suggest and we figure it out.
@cheekyfaerie he is very successful and we have simlar view when it comes to finance, so the Earth placement are strong there, he also love routune. On third date he was talking to me about why he wants children and how he wants to raise them. I guess other Earth sign thing? Not that I have met any men who talks about kids on third date.
Posted by LadyNeptuneAre you trying to make me look bad or make yourself look bad? This is not the first time that you come in and attack me before reading everything. I have already told him I have plans and not going, I don't need you to tell me to grow a backbone to tell him no. I have already done that. If you are looking for drama you can go else wherePosted by PoppyseedsFire signs are spontaneous by nature. He's not going to plan things in advance.Posted by Arielle83Hey Arielle, I never had this happened to me. I guess just assume third date is off? I did nothing wrong, and I'm flattered he wants to introduce me to his friends, But i find his frequent last minute requests a bit pushy and disrespectful of my time. Also last minutes doesn't always work with me. I have friends, hobbies and duties that I have to take care of...
Omg you did all this with the cancer.
The sign doesn't matter.
You're analyzing too much.
Also from my experience, I've learnt that actions speaks louder... I'm not sure if I should tke it as he changed his mind or just wait it out until the agreed date for third date...
It is neither disrespectful or pushy of him to think of you and invite you somewhere. You don't want to go? Grow a backbone and tell him that. Climb off your pedestal already.
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Posted by LonerLoopHe will just have to learn 🙂 I can't drop everything becuase of his big boy ego. I have made a point to him that give me some notice and we can see if we are both free.
I don't see any difficulities in answering your questions, OP.
My ex Sag has his venus in Cap and mars in Virgo. It doesn't make any difference. A Sag will always be a Sag.
Never, ever reject a Sag when he ask you out. You have already bruised his ego and the best part, you did that twice. They hate rejection the most so yeah, the game is over.
That is all. 😉
Now he is talking about a small trip together, he asked me to know which weekend am I free. He is planning 🙂
Posted by notsosureAre you mad cos their date went well? Or you are one of those doormat who believes that a woman should be available whenever her man wants her to be?Posted by Poppyseeds!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! "his big boy ego". You are not a nice person. Who talks about someone they want to date like this—?? You are supposed to like him. You just like him for the attention he gives you, and even that is not good enough.Posted by LonerLoopHe will just have to learn 🙂 I can't drop everything becuase of his big boy ego. I have made a point to him that give me some notice and we can see if we are both free.
I don't see any difficulities in answering your questions, OP.
My ex Sag has his venus in Cap and mars in Virgo. It doesn't make any difference. A Sag will always be a Sag.
Never, ever reject a Sag when he ask you out. You have already bruised his ego and the best part, you did that twice. They hate rejection the most so yeah, the game is over.
That is all. 😉
Now he is talking about a small trip together, he asked me to know which weekend am I free. He is planning 🙂
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Posted by notsosureYeah.. I'd recommend going back and reading over the OP's posting history before offering anymore advice. It'll paint a clearer picture of what you're dealing with.Posted by LadyNeptuneMaybe she does. I don´t really see it frankly, but who am I to judge 🙂Posted by notsosureI believe she genuinely likes him.
This topic has me confused.
The title says it´s about meeting his friends.
The content is about him not making plans in ahead.
And the sum of it all: topic creator has a lot of negative to say about this guy, already, but yet continues on with him.
Why doesn´t she go after someone she likes? Why are women like this?
However she is guilty of the Virgo 'overthink', and imagines every action and non action from the men she dates as a slight to herself. Instead of just going with the flow...as we all have encouraged her to do a multitude of times.
Sags are go with the flow-ers, but it´s like she gets insulted by that. By his mere personality. I don´t get it.
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Posted by PoppyseedsI guess you haven't slept with him yet? He sounds like he is in serious hunting mode. Guys can promise you the moon but might not deliver anything later on. Just don't add any values to his words at this stage.Posted by LonerLoopHe will just have to learn 🙂 I can't drop everything becuase of his big boy ego. I have made a point to him that give me some notice and we can see if we are both free.
I don't see any difficulities in answering your questions, OP.
My ex Sag has his venus in Cap and mars in Virgo. It doesn't make any difference. A Sag will always be a Sag.
Never, ever reject a Sag when he ask you out. You have already bruised his ego and the best part, you did that twice. They hate rejection the most so yeah, the game is over.
That is all. 😉
Now he is talking about a small trip together, he asked me to know which weekend am I free. He is planning 🙂click to expand
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