Sagittarius won't let go

My Sagittarius gf and I were on the verge of breaking up after moving in together for 2 months now. It's like I didn't really know who I was dealing with. Now I'm at the point of unlearning her and relearning her. From what I see there's not much she can offer me but freedom and space. I demand that shit regardless. However I feel like her wanting to be with me is like surprising because I'm not pressed to force a connection and nor is she. However she won't let it go like I suggested friendship she wasn't trying to hear that. lol I'm like wtf? I'm a Gemini btw. What other Sagittarius women have a grip on someone they can't let go?

Gemini men are no good for a Sagittarius woman...They are too superficial, and lack the depth that she needs...We most certainly cannot tolerate wishy washy behavior...I am certain that in the beginning, you made it seem like you were all in, hence moving in together, and somewhere along the line, you lost interest, and she was getting deeper and deeper, and now you are stuck between a rock, and a hard place...Typical Gemini antics....If you truly want her to let go, continue to be wishy washy, and splash in some immaturity, with a side of lies, she would catch on in no time...

Posted by Easha23000us

Gemini men are no good for a Sagittarius woman...They are too superficial, and lack the depth that she needs...We most certainly cannot tolerate wishy washy behavior...I am certain that in the beginning, you made it seem like you were all in, hence moving in together, and somewhere along the line, you lost interest, and she was getting deeper and deeper, and now you are stuck between a rock, and a hard place...Typical Gemini antics....If you truly want her to let go, continue to be wishy washy, and splash in some immaturity, with a side of lies, she would catch on in no time...

Actually I was all in since we made it official. What people fail to realize is that Gemini are always with good intention when it comes to real love. I made a whole relationship that would be comfortable for the both of us. She has a natural way of connecting with people and a lot of people in her past would try to control her and not let her explore the connections. I personally don't believe in holding anyone back from what they really want to do. So we have an open relationship. I have gone over and beyond only to be hurt and disappointed from her lack of consideration. I have forgiven her and am moving forward with love however I am good with or without her. I made sure after my last long term relationship I wouldn't get lost and be manipulated by any other woman. I've only became unsure recently because of a chain of events. So now I told her that I can move forward after damn near 3 weeks of fucking misery. Us Gemini's aren't the type to be in one place very long physically and mentally so I did some healing on my own and I feel good now that the attached feelings has lifted. I'm still giving my efforts to the relationship just not as much as I did in the past. She was clear on not needing what I provided which was damn near any and everything she could ask for.

Posted by Easha23000us

Gemini men are no good for a Sagittarius woman...They are too superficial, and lack the depth that she needs...We most certainly cannot tolerate wishy washy behavior...I am certain that in the beginning, you made it seem like you were all in, hence moving in together, and somewhere along the line, you lost interest, and she was getting deeper and deeper, and now you are stuck between a rock, and a hard place...Typical Gemini antics....If you truly want her to let go, continue to be wishy washy, and splash in some immaturity, with a side of lies, she would catch on in no time...

I mean....she nailed it

Posted by Superman77

Welcome to the world of true feelings my friend.

My question to you is........

Why would you move in with her if you barely consider her a gf? It doesn’t sound like you have genuine feelings for this woman

I do have genuine feelings for her however she hurt them several times by lack of consideration. So i'm good either way like I said whether we are together or not. I know what I bring to the table and what I can do for myself. This ain't our first round either. we dated years ago and that was off and on but short lived. I didn't fall in love back then. This time I did and got hurt so I just can't be so attached to where everything effects me. Its too fucking much for me to feel deeply.

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Posted by Easha23000us

Gemini men are no good for a Sagittarius woman...They are too superficial, and lack the depth that she needs...We most certainly cannot tolerate wishy washy behavior...I am certain that in the beginning, you made it seem like you were all in, hence moving in together, and somewhere along the line, you lost interest, and she was getting deeper and deeper, and now you are stuck between a rock, and a hard place...Typical Gemini antics....If you truly want her to let go, continue to be wishy washy, and splash in some immaturity, with a side of lies, she would catch on in no time...

I mean....she nailed it

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I gave a brief synopsis, I gave this woman a life that she could never find with another. I understand her ways however when it comes to relationships I only get unsure when I feel like ive been doing so much for her and then I get treated as if i'm out here fucking around when i'm not. she has been inconsiderate and selfish yet expects me to let go of it because shes over it. So I just felt that if you're looking to be that selfish and inconsiderate just be single. I love the single life and not giving a fuck. its refreshing.

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Posted by Easha23000us

Gemini men are no good for a Sagittarius woman...They are too superficial, and lack the depth that she needs...We most certainly cannot tolerate wishy washy behavior...I am certain that in the beginning, you made it seem like you were all in, hence moving in together, and somewhere along the line, you lost interest, and she was getting deeper and deeper, and now you are stuck between a rock, and a hard place...Typical Gemini antics....If you truly want her to let go, continue to be wishy washy, and splash in some immaturity, with a side of lies, she would catch on in no time...

I mean....she nailed it

I gave a brief synopsis, I gave this woman a life that she could never find with another. I understand her ways however when it comes to relationships I only get unsure when I feel like ive been doing so much for her and then I get treated as if i'm out here fucking around when i'm not. she has been inconsiderate and selfish yet expects me to let go of it because shes over it. So I just felt that if you're looking to be that selfish and inconsiderate just be single. I love the single life and not giving a fuck. its refreshing.

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You have made your decision. It is time to move on from her. Once you feel as though the relationship is not worth fighting for, then it is a wrap. No relationship is going to be peaches and cream all of the time, but if you are always willing to call it quits, instead of holding on and weathering the storm, to nurture the hurts and pains that you BOTH are obviously going through.....For the right woman, you are going to hold on for dear life, despite what you are going through, because you won't be able to imagine your life happy without her..

Posted by Smidge

they can be suffocating af

Only if we are insecure, and head over heels in love😉

Posted by Easha23000us

Posted by ETH85

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Posted by Easha23000us

Gemini men are no good for a Sagittarius woman...They are too superficial, and lack the depth that she needs...We most certainly cannot tolerate wishy washy behavior...I am certain that in the beginning, you made it seem like you were all in, hence moving in together, and somewhere along the line, you lost interest, and she was getting deeper and deeper, and now you are stuck between a rock, and a hard place...Typical Gemini antics....If you truly want her to let go, continue to be wishy washy, and splash in some immaturity, with a side of lies, she would catch on in no time...

I mean....she nailed it

I gave a brief synopsis, I gave this woman a life that she could never find with another. I understand her ways however when it comes to relationships I only get unsure when I feel like ive been doing so much for her and then I get treated as if i'm out here fucking around when i'm not. she has been inconsiderate and selfish yet expects me to let go of it because shes over it. So I just felt that if you're looking to be that selfish and inconsiderate just be single. I love the single life and not giving a fuck. its refreshing.

You have made your decision. It is time to move on from her. Once you feel as though the relationship is not worth fighting for, then it is a wrap. No relationship is going to be peaches and cream all of the time, but if you are always willing to call it quits, instead of holding on and weathering the storm, to nurture the hurts and pains that you BOTH are obviously going through.....For the right woman, you are going to hold on for dear life, despite what you are going through, because you won't be able to imagine your life happy without her..

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I ain't a quitter by any means but if all my efforts are pretty much shitted on by some selfish ass actions and inconsiderate actions then how long should I take the shit? I don't waste time, and I refuse to waste it anymore on anyone.

Posted by Superman77

Posted by ETH85

Posted by Superman77

Welcome to the world of true feelings my friend.

My question to you is........

Why would you move in with her if you barely consider her a gf? It doesn’t sound like you have genuine feelings for this woman

I do have genuine feelings for her however she hurt them several times by lack of consideration. So i'm good either way like I said whether we are together or not. I know what I bring to the table and what I can do for myself. This ain't our first round either. we dated years ago and that was off and on but short lived. I didn't fall in love back then. This time I did and got hurt so I just can't be so attached to where everything effects me. Its too fucking much for me to feel deeply.

I don’t think you really had feelings for her on a deep level. She offers nothing but freedom? What a way to represent someone you really care for.

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Well my feelings are deep which why I got hurt by her actions. actions where my feelings aren't considered and she knowingly did them despite how I'll feel. I think of us she thinks of herself.

Posted by Black-Mamba

What kind of selfish actions?

great question. So basically she would just do things without considering my feelings of knowing what she was doing. when I questioned her about those things that she did she didn't wanna have the conversation at that moment. Me i'm someone who would give my undivided attention to the person I am with and live with to make sure they're good. She felt that it wasn't a time to do it. Mind you these people she were with didn't know her like that. And she basically was gone the whole day. Now if she could've gave me the heads up prior I wouldn't be so bothered by her actions. however in that moment I felt undervalued, like my feelings didn't matter After that day of all day hanging with some people it turned into 3 more days that week. It was supposed to be a work relationship that turned more personal. I was warned anyone I hang with outside our relationship was strictly fun. Hers turned professional into personal real quick. Then after talking it out with those 2 things, she then is invited to this other event and I asked if she minds if I went with her and her "friend". And she was not comfortable with that. The night she goes to event shes out all night until the damn sun comes up. We had set a time of no later than 430 am. Its just these things to me that might seem small to other people, mean a lot to me because its nothing more than being thoughtful. Being selfish in doing what you want without caring about how I feel yeah that'll push me to believe u really don't give a fuck about me. All in all I've came to a place of accepting if its meant to be it will be and I ain't stressing myself anymore.

From what it sounds like she probably never gave a shit about you and you were just a body ( don't take it personal if she has issues )

Now she's upset your leaving cause that's one less source for her



If you think she's not a good person leave her in the dust and don't worry about it. I read your other post on this before

Posted by ETH85

Posted by Black-Mamba

What kind of selfish actions?

great question. So basically she would just do things without considering my feelings of knowing what she was doing. when I questioned her about those things that she did she didn't wanna have the conversation at that moment. Me i'm someone who would give my undivided attention to the person I am with and live with to make sure they're good. She felt that it wasn't a time to do it. Mind you these people she were with didn't know her like that. And she basically was gone the whole day. Now if she could've gave me the heads up prior I wouldn't be so bothered by her actions. however in that moment I felt undervalued, like my feelings didn't matter After that day of all day hanging with some people it turned into 3 more days that week. It was supposed to be a work relationship that turned more personal. I was warned anyone I hang with outside our relationship was strictly fun. Hers turned professional into personal real quick. Then after talking it out with those 2 things, she then is invited to this other event and I asked if she minds if I went with her and her "friend". And she was not comfortable with that. The night she goes to event shes out all night until the damn sun comes up. We had set a time of no later than 430 am. Its just these things to me that might seem small to other people, mean a lot to me because its nothing more than being thoughtful. Being selfish in doing what you want without caring about how I feel yeah that'll push me to believe u really don't give a fuck about me. All in all I've came to a place of accepting if its meant to be it will be and I ain't stressing myself anymore.

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You're still being super vague it's hard to understand the context here. So she's being what you would say is selfish by not considering your feelings? Specifically cause she hung out with friends longer than you guys agree to? Does she know this is legitimately hurting you?

It sounds to me like there's genuine care on both sides but neither of you are communicating well at all. It might just be you're not compatible despite attraction. But if you want this relationship to get better you have to talk to her be straightforward, honest and clear.

I get it.

You feel left out and you got jealous. Especially because you wanted to tag along but she knew better and said no. I have often felt that geminis get really bitter when they feel left out.

Shes getting invites and you chose to stay home when you coulda gone out and did something.

Do you give all your girlfriends curfews?

Lol. We agreed no later than 430am 😂

Shes not your daughter. Shes your grown ass girlfriend.

Stop acting out and tell her that you feel left out from all the fun. You wanna play 2.

You really dig this girl, be vulnearable.

Posted by DMV

I get it.

You feel left out and you got jealous. Especially because you wanted to tag along but she knew better and said no. I have often felt that geminis get really bitter when they feel left out.

Shes getting invites and you chose to stay home when you coulda gone out and did something.

Do you give all your girlfriends curfews?

Lol. We agreed no later than 430am 😂

Shes not your daughter. Shes your grown ass girlfriend.

Stop acting out and tell her that you feel left out from all the fun. You wanna play 2.

You really dig this girl, be vulnearable.

Actually I did tell her I was feeling forgotten because she has met someone new. We are in an open relationship and we have set rules so that we both feel secure about what we do and how long we are out. So her admitting the night she went out was a bad idea yet she did it anyway makes it more than a jealous thing. I just have issue with people who wanna do what they want but call themselves being in a relationship and wanting a relationship

Open relationships are tough.

It's hard to have boundaries in a relationship built on no boundaries.

Posted by Sagicorn

How exactly does annopen relationship work when 2 people move in together? Isn't it no boundries rule in it that you bith basically can do whatever the hell you want and don't need to explain yourself for anything? Tbh I'd feel suffocated if someone wouls set rules of open relationship for me. Like any rules at all. It's open=you're free ro do whatever you want. If you're not allowed to so that it's not open. So to me open relationship and rules dob't go in the same sentence. On another side, from actual relationship point viewed she has no respect for you. But let's not forget itvisn't a real relationship and her behavior isn't anything special in such "relationship". I don't get it why would she have to take you with her new "friend"? You're pretty much nobody to each other so she has every right to jot introduce you to other men just as much as you have right not to introduce her to other women. But the problem appeared because she started using "benefits" of open "relationship" and you didn't. So your feelings got hurt. Why she won't let go is probably a good sex, considering the terms you were together. If you want to be with a Sag don't play games. And you played one that turned against you.

I'm not defending her in case someone comes to think of that lol behavior is awful BUT only if two of you were together for real...having the fwb thing and that behavior pretty much go hand in hand perfectly so...shrug...

Yeah I don't get it either, but I don't really get polyamory or open relationships which to me is different than fwb too.

I give up on this, is a headache. Either get attached or don't and if you're not happy leave.

Posted by ETH85

Posted by DMV

I get it.

You feel left out and you got jealous. Especially because you wanted to tag along but she knew better and said no. I have often felt that geminis get really bitter when they feel left out.

Shes getting invites and you chose to stay home when you coulda gone out and did something.

Do you give all your girlfriends curfews?

Lol. We agreed no later than 430am 😂

Shes not your daughter. Shes your grown ass girlfriend.

Stop acting out and tell her that you feel left out from all the fun. You wanna play 2.

You really dig this girl, be vulnearable.

Actually I did tell her I was feeling forgotten because she has met someone new. We are in an open relationship and we have set rules so that we both feel secure about what we do and how long we are out. So her admitting the night she went out was a bad idea yet she did it anyway makes it more than a jealous thing. I just have issue with people who wanna do what they want but call themselves being in a relationship and wanting a relationship

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So....what exactly do you think "open relationship" is? You agreed to be in one, right?

Why are you then suggesting to go with them? Was having threesomes part of the deal? And why were you trying to spoil their night by demanding she leaves by 4.30 am? They were probably spooning in their sleep about that time!

You are your own problem. You don't know what you want and how much you can take. You are resentful of your own agreements! Do yourself (and your female victims) a favour and stay single till you figure out what you want!

Posted by Sagicorn

How exactly does annopen relationship work when 2 people move in together? Isn't it no boundries rule in it that you bith basically can do whatever the hell you want and don't need to explain yourself for anything? Tbh I'd feel suffocated if someone wouls set rules of open relationship for me. Like any rules at all. It's open=you're free ro do whatever you want. If you're not allowed to so that it's not open. So to me open relationship and rules dob't go in the same sentence. On another side, from actual relationship point viewed she has no respect for you. But let's not forget itvisn't a real relationship and her behavior isn't anything special in such "relationship". I don't get it why would she have to take you with her new "friend"? You're pretty much nobody to each other so she has every right to jot introduce you to other men just as much as you have right not to introduce her to other women. But the problem appeared because she started using "benefits" of open "relationship" and you didn't. So your feelings got hurt. Why she won't let go is probably a good sex, considering the terms you were together. If you want to be with a Sag don't play games. And you played one that turned against you.

I'm not defending her in case someone comes to think of that lol behavior is awful BUT only if two of you were together for real...having the fwb thing and that behavior pretty much go hand in hand perfectly so...shrug...

The thing is having rules doesn't restrict anything it sets boundaries. Just because we have an open relationship doesn't mean it's a freak fest. We have a relationship. Whether open or not. If we did whatever we want we just are single. There's commitment. Bottom line i felt not thought of when I always thought of us period!

You're fooling yourself.

You are single roommates who sleep together every once and awhile.

Posted by DMV

You're fooling yourself.

You are single roommates who sleep together every once and awhile.

I'm not at all mistaken of shit thanks. Y'all have horrible perspectives. U can research what an open relationship is. I talk to a friend whose In a poly relationship and I ask for advice and she's clear on our relationship being still a relationship regardless of it being open.