The Father Complex

How do Sagittarius females deal with daddy issues?

Whether it's the absence of the father or abuse from the father...

...If the sign plays a role in this at all.


Is it common to develop the Father Complex?

[Father complex in psychology is a complex — a group of unconscious associations, or a strong unconscious impulses — which specifically pertains to the image or archetype of the father. These impulses may be either positive (admiring and seeking out older father figures) or negative (distrusting or fearful).]

Posted by Dianasart
How do Sagittarius females deal with daddy issues?

Whether it's the absence of the father or abuse from the father...

...If the sign plays a role in this at all.


Is it common to develop the Father Complex?

[Father complex in psychology is a complex — a group of unconscious associations, or a strong unconscious impulses — which specifically pertains to the image or archetype of the father. These impulses may be either positive (admiring and seeking out older father figures) or negative (distrusting or fearful).]

Hm..interesting question. I'm dealing with mine with my Cap/Aqua. Coincidentally I'm also in my Saturn Return as well so it makes sense why he came into my life. Also...Caps in general have been helping me find my personal strength whether they know it or not. Must be that Saturn paternal influence.

The biggest issue I have with my father is why he does not come into my dreams. I dream a lot about my mother and my siblings.

He is a mix of Aries, Pisces and Virgo. Sun/Merc, Venus, Mars

Um, No 😄

No Father Complex here 😉

Guess that depends on your own Personality, which is influenced by your Upbringing.

Thank you for sharing. I've been realizing my own issues because of my fathers absence and was curious about how other women deal with this. I feel less alone, which is comforting.

RainDancer88 I especially found your story more relatable.

I guess my issues are a cause of multiple things, including and not including my father, but discovering this one piece of the puzzle really helped.


I had made the connection with my actions and my father a while back, which is what really helped me break a dangerous pattern! But the more I understand it, the more comfortable I find myself when it comes to dating, especially now that I'm building some sort of relationship with a guy who is YOUNGER than me (though only by a year). It's different, but a nice change. I feel more emotionally healthy.

As a result, sometimes I find myself still desiring a relationship with an older men. A NON-SEXUAL relationship.
For once I'd like to have a relationship with an older man that is NOT sexual.
Realizing these desires, catching myself having such fantasies about an older man I am acquainted with, is what lead me to understand and discover that I have the Father Complex.

Part of me wishes to rid of these desires. How do I tell a man that I want to adopt them as my "father figure?" Especially when he is a good friend of the guy I am trying to date?... It's so strange.

With all this, my mothers boyfriend is also really nice to me and though he has children of his own (unlike my desired father figure) and has, I guess, what might be fatherly qualities, I feel very uncomfortable when he is kind to me. I feel so WRONG when he does something for me.
My mother told me that he is planning a surprise for me for my birthday so that I can keep that date open. She wouldn't tell me where he is planning to take me but to dress up really nice.

You'd think such a thing would... make me HAPPY!
But instead, I spent most of the afternoon in bed after my mother left. I felt depressed.
I felt very depressed.

My Sag ex had issues with her father and unfortunately I think that it has had repercussions on me. Apparently he used to beat on her sometimes when she was growing up and was quite strict. Like for some reason she was not allowed to put posters etc. on her bedroom wall. Later on when he became successful he started fooling around with other women although his wife (my ex's mother) had helped him succeed in life. My ex's mother gave him a chance to stop fooling around but he did not so in the end they divorced. Because of this I think that my ex mistrusts men in general and my relationship with her has not been an easy one: she seldom goes out of her way to please me (though I do try to please her) and basically her attitude is "my way or the highway". I don't think she is really a woman who especially needs a man in her life except on her own terms but I keep in contact with her because of our son (who is also a Sag.) Even when our son was born this was something that I was forced into and had not been consulted about it. Perhaps she despises men in general and if she does this may be on account of her father. She has never been willing to make a proper committment and I suppose this may be that she thinks that all men are basically assholes like her Dad was.

virgodog58 when you described your ex I felt like you could have been writing about me!
My own ex has told me on many occasions that I come off as sexist and has pointed out many times that I have the attitude of "it's my way or the high way." He's also the first to ever point out that I have the Father Complex.
He's an Aries and he's super supportive even as a friend till this day. He's always told me things honestly.
Without him, I'd have never known I had these issues, let alone start working on them.

My brother used to beat me around while we were growing up too. Always trying to control me... I'm a bit of a control freak too now.

I have a stellium in Sag.
My relationship with my did is a rollercoaster...he works outside the country/ I kinda like that.
Distance keeps us calm. When were around each other, only so much time can pass before we find something to argue about.
I try to be calm but I talk back most of the time... then I feel bad about it and apologize and it's a never ending cycle

Posted by RainDancer88
... we will not get into a position with a man whom we don't feel 100% has our best interest at heart and makes us feel safe.

could be written with gold. I followed this rule all my life.

Posted by RainDancer88
I won't curse, drink, or do anything improper in front of my dad and male role models in my life. Not sure if it's related but I do it.

Me too. (not sure about cursing though. well, I don't do it generally. But never tell never.)