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I am glad no one in this thread have analysed the Stinger Gent's behaviour, so as to keep my infatuation at bay.

DXP community has matured it seems 😛

Oh no, I didn't mean for this to be a bash Goat Gent festival here.

He has his faults and I do mine but I still love him very much. So far, this was the first time I'm on the other side of the mistake bandwagon.

I had a momentarily moment of infatuation and weakness, if I had let that obsession grow and not written or spoken about it. I might have ended up in that downward spiral and cheated but all of you here, pulled me gradually out of it. I could slowly see why I didn't find the Stinger Gent attractive in the first place.

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Infatuation is fine. Its not as if your gonna act on it, right. Right.

I don’t think it is if you’re in a “happy” relationship?

Meh idk I go through crushes/infatuation almost on the daily. Your cute, he’s cute, that interior just stole my heart *swoon

Doesn’t mean I want a relationship or that I’m not happy in mine.

I agree, but not on a daily basis. For me, it rarely if ever happens.

Its true though, I doubt if I ever really think about it. I wouldn't want a relationship with this Stinger, we would be horrible together. It would make for a very volatile relationship and the opposite of what I want or need.

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I think your last comment here says some of what I was going to say so it seems a good point to start at. I don't know any of your history or much about your relationship with your Cap. It doesn't sound as if you have any major issues within that relationship so I'm not going to comment on that aspect.

I asked if you had a Scorpio Venus as when I read some of the thread you sounded very much like me who is why I asked. The situation you find yourself in has happened a few times to me so I could identify what I thought was happening at your end as it happened at my end too.

I think Scorpio Venus placements really do suffer from wearing rose tinted glasses, infatuation, obsession, extremes etc. The trouble is that it doesn't happen often so when it does happen we get a little caught out by it. I think someone else (not Scorpio) had already commented about having little crushes every week whereas for Scorpio we are lucky if someone piques our interest in that way once a year or even every few years. The point is that it isn't on a regular basis so when it does happen we pay attention to it and then we can start reading far more into than it actually warrents.

I would think from reading your posts that you are quite aware of yourself and are not delusional about this particular encounter. It sounds like you have have hit the nail on the head and realised this is a just a bit of a crush.

I think that when the male Scorpio pulled it out the bag and assisted you in the way that he did, he was only doing what you would do for another friend or loved one. I think this has already been pointed out so apologies for going over old ground but at least it is another vote in your corner. Scorps will move mountains for people or sometimes our actions or generosity can easily be misinterpreted. Where I currently work, one of the guys has moved upstairs and the crowd up there is a little boring so I dropped in some biscuits I know he liked as I was in the shop getting some bits anyway. He helped me and a colleague when we started the other month. I think he may have misinterpreted this act (he's aries) but to me it was just £1.40 on some biscuits and a kind gesture. To him, I may have been a saviour! Not the best example but a recent one nonetheless.

I think you have already made the difference between what you need and what you think you may desire. Scorp and certainly Scorp Venus desire that very high intensity, chemistry, connection, extreme hit. I think it makes us feel alive. Trouble is, that cannot be possible on a regular basis. When it is, it becomes a drama nightmare and ultimately there's zero compatibility between those two people. I 100% think we need the stability and grounding especially the kind that a Cap can provide. I'm with a Taurus. Most emotionally stable relationship I've ever had. Wouldn't change it for anything.

I think it is normal to have had the encounter you have had and I also think it is normal to feel the way you have. For those saying you have something missing in your current relationship, well, they may or may not be right but I do not see it that way. It's not normal to go through life and never experience a crush or infatuation over another person. What you're describing, writing and sharing are your own thoughts. People around the world think this stuff everyday in their head. Now you have put it on paper it makes it more real. Had you not shared this story then no one would know about it and no judgements would have been made.

Earlier this year I had a mini infatuation. It happened to be a Scorpio guy also with Libra Venus. I won't go into details but he's my barrister in a large legal case I'm bringing about. I put together my own case and had to send it over so he could provide and produce his advice document. 52 pages later (usually only max 20 pages and most of that is glossary) and he charged me the lower end of his fee bracket but I know he spent time on this! He had basically read the last decade of my life, warts and all! His advice and the way he handled it very much made me feel validated. Then to top it off he offered a zoom consultation (during lockdown) which he said would be no charge and 90 mins later I was literally thinking 'take me now!!'. What it boiled down to for me was the validation, the kindness, the time spent, the interest shown in my case, the generosity etc BUT... He was just doing his job... But for me it sparked major obsession for a while although I knew what it was. It wasn't real and actually, it has a fuelled a few interesting fantasies so far. Sometimes things are better left in your head because the reality of taking the plunge or crossing that line for perceived greener grass just doesn't match the fantasy in your head. Would I want to sleep with or be with this person? I shall point out that obviously any feelings or perception I had is purely one sided. The answer is no. When I walk through this scenario and add in reality, and let's say he was interested, the reality is that, well, just not anything that's worth it so I chalk it up to a nice fantasy and put it in its appropriate box. I did actually share this with my fella and we have used it to fuel some interesting evenings - that may not work for everyone, depends on your dynamic. I don't think anything major is missing in my own relationship just because I entertained a fantasy of someone else (who is real but not really as I don't know him) but I think it did make me channel more energy and thought into my relationship and appreciate that although we don't have fireworks on a constant basis, we do have something that is sustainable over the next 40 years.

Posted by Piscivore

Everyone has conveniently forgotten that this isn't the first time she's been infatuated with another man whilst in a steady relationship.

True, it happened once before many years ago and I would admit I was much worse at handling it at the time, due to the lack of experience. This time around, I have not acted on anything (not even flirted nor reciprocated), much less pursue it. Also the relationship that I have now with my Goat, was far better than the one I had with my ex. The communication and openness of it is much improved in comparison. This despite the ups and downs, my Goat and I have had.

I am only caught surprised this time as my love for the Goat superseded what I had felt for my ex. So with such a commitment, yet to have this infatuation occur made me feel guilty. Though truth be told, I learned a few things about the Stinger from fellow friends in the last few days that have really turned me off, gradually so.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by Piscivore

Everyone has conveniently forgotten that this isn't the first time she's been infatuated with another man whilst in a steady relationship.

True, it happened once before many years ago and I would admit I was much worse at handling it at the time, due to the lack of experience. This time around, I have not acted on anything (not even flirted nor reciprocated), much less pursue it. Also the relationship that I have now with my Goat, was far better than the one I had with my ex. The communication and openness of it is much improved in comparison. This despite the ups and downs, my Goat and I have had.

I am only caught surprised this time as my love for the Goat superseded what I had felt for my ex. So with such a commitment, yet to have this infatuation occur made me feel guilty. Though truth be told, I learned a few things about the Stinger from fellow friends in the last few days that have really turned me off, gradually so.

Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah...

It doesn't matter how you window dress it, you clearly have an issue with emotional fidelity. Also, this has probably happened more times than you're willing to disclose here.

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Sure if that's what you think. Although I doubt there is a need to lie in an online forum. It doesn't make much sense to. If I've cheated, I've cheated and I could say it here without consequences but I haven't, so that's that.

I don't know who you are to have to create an account just to say these things but ok. I suppose in some ways, DXP drama hasn't changed much either 😛