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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
don't feel stupid. it can happen to the best of us. even those with a good upbringing. it can happen to ANYONE. nobody is immune.

abusers are very manipulating and play on emotions. they may not even know they are doing it. he has issues that you cannot fix.

this is not your fault. he's responsible for his actions....just as you are. staying in that situation is the only 'stupid' you should be concerned about.

trust me....ten years from now you'll wonder why you didn't leave sooner. you are wasting this precious time on this earth with someone who has no regard for life.






So true...the first time it happened I didn't even realize it was the beginning of abuse. We had an argument while driving in the car last Thanksgiving (I accused him of seeing another woman behind my back) and then all of a sudden he just back handed me in the mouth. All I felt was his knuckles hit against my teeth! Both lips were swollen..

I felt it was my fault and of course we slept together that night as I was bleeding from my mouth.. It's so sick when I think about it. You're so right...I should've left him then. smdh..
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Posted by Aquariusgold
I feel so stupid...I swear all this time and after reading so many threads and forums on the internet, I just thought it was a Scorpio's nature to have a really bad short temper. I almost felt like it was my duty to stick it out and be patient. I've never been in a relationship with a scorpio so I was searching for as much advice as possible. The Aquarius in me causes me to be persistent and obsessive (in a sense) in finding ways to cure the relationship I have left.


It's ok for you to be punched in the head because you just thought Scorpios had a really bad short temper? It's your 'duty' to stick it out and get punched in the head? Please call your friends for support and leave right now instead of reading advice on this forum. Please go to Women's shelter as quick as you can. Please talk to the trained professionals they will help hook you up with. Please do not tell this man your plan and just go...NOW. Please love yourself enough to do this and please don't make excuses for this man. GO.... NOW...
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And obviously his bad behavior didn't just start. If you're already 3 years in, he must have started showing his azz shortly after you started dating. Question...WHY DIDN'T YOU GET OUT SOONER.



The first year we dated he was kinda shy and quiet but VERY affectionate which I loved. He always looked like he had a lot on his mind...which made me concerned. I felt sorry for him kinda. He also made me feel protected and secure when I was around him. We lived in 2 different cities so he would come to visit me about once a week. But after awhile I noticed that he ONLY wanted to text, we rarely spoke on the phone but when we did it was for HOURS.

I finally went to visit him at his place and the house was in shambles! His yard was neglected, the dishes were piled up, clothes EVERYWHERE! At that moment I realized he was depressed...but that didn't run me away..I just wanted to help him and be there for him. Funny because he doesn't even remember these things :/
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Posted by Aquariusgold
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Wait, you stuck it out in a CLEARLY abusive relationship because somehow you thought astrology said that it's okay because he's a Scorpio?


...I can't.



Yeah I know...crazy huh?

Posted by Aquariusgold

Why does everyone say: "be patient with a scorpio...they are sooo sensitive... be gentle with him""
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They don't, if they're talking about adults.


I'm having a hard time buying this.



Hopefully, this thread will at least provide some counsel for women

who are in abusive relationships... if that's you, best of luck getting out.



For the record: Scorpio, generally speaking, engages in destruction for the

express purpose of rebuilding; that is, healing.



Any astro info that condones physical abuse as part of that is bullshit.






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Posted by TwirlingStrawberry
Posted by KVZZMIR11
Did you ever have an adult male figure in childhood—





I had a few great ones.

your point?
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Yeah, I have a friend in another state who had great parents who raised her. She had upstanding male figures in her life but ended up in an abusive marriage for years. She hid it for so long until she could no longer hide it. She had broken ribs, arm, and nose and a concussion. She was a teacher and she couldn't teach anymore after that.
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Posted by Aquariusgold
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Wait, you stuck it out in a CLEARLY abusive relationship because somehow you thought astrology said that it's okay because he's a Scorpio?


...I can't.



Yeah I know...crazy huh?

Posted by Aquariusgold

Why does everyone say: "be patient with a scorpio...they are sooo sensitive... be gentle with him""



They don't, if they're talking about adults.


I'm having a hard time buying this.



healing.



Buying what? Google Scorpio man and u will see what I'm talking about. I just learned about it myself because I couldn't understand him for quite sometime. There's plenty of threads online about it. Scorpios are said to be the most sensitive sign and easily hurt or angered and the people who choose to be with them must not ever cross or upset them or else you'll be sorry for the rest of your natural life.

The problem is u may not even know u hurt a scorpio until it's too late. This explains my situation to the tee. I try not to ever use the zodiac as a way to diagnose a problem but it was the only way for me to get a better understanding of his personality.






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Posted by Aquariusgold


And obviously his bad behavior didn't just start. If you're already 3 years in, he must have started showing his azz shortly after you started dating. Question...WHY DIDN'T YOU GET OUT SOONER.



The first year we dated he was kinda shy and quiet but VERY affectionate which I loved. He always looked like he had a lot on his mind...which made me concerned. I felt sorry for him kinda. He also made me feel protected and secure when I was around him. We lived in 2 different cities so he would come to visit me about once a week. But after awhile I noticed that he ONLY wanted to text, we rarely spoke on the phone but when we did it was for HOURS.

I finally went to visit him at his place and the house was in shambles! His yard was neglected, the dishes were piled up, clothes EVERYWHERE! At that moment I realized he was depressed...but that didn't run me away..I just wanted to help him and be there for him. Funny because he doesn't even remember these things :/



When you finally create distance from this situation and the healing for you starts....it might be helpful to look at your chart in detail.

I know that has helped me reconcile the situation I was in. Granted, it was 16+ years ago, but you have to look within and figure out why you allowed it to happen so the cycle doesn't repeat itself.

I have masochist written all over my chart. At the age of 17 (when it started), I didn't know anything about who I was, let alone an astrology chart. Seeing that has helped me understand that there are healthy outlets for that and blatant abuse by others is not normal or what I was really seeking.

It wouldn't hurt to explore that part of you so you can draw very clear boundaries on what is okay and what is clearly not. We don't do anything that is without explanation and those energies can manifest themselves in very unhealthy ways if we don't understand them.
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Wow..interesting. I am just beginning to learn about astrology, charts, suns, and moons etc....I would love to learn how to look at my chart in full detail. I need a better understanding of who I am --in that sense. Even though I'm Aquarius I know there are other houses and energies that factor into it.
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Posted by Aquariusgold
Posted by Montgomery
Posted by Aquariusgold

Why does everyone say: "be patient with a scorpio...they are sooo sensitive... be gentle with him""



They don't, if they're talking about adults.


I'm having a hard time buying this.



healing.



Buying what? Google Scorpio man and u will see what I'm talking about. I just learned about it myself because I couldn't understand him for quite sometime. There's plenty of threads online about it. Scorpios are said to be the most sensitive sign and easily hurt or angered and the people who choose to be with them must not ever cross or upset them or else you'll be sorry for the rest of your natural life.

The problem is u may not even know u hurt a scorpio until it's too late. This explains my situation to the tee. I try not to ever use the zodiac as a way to diagnose a problem but it was the only way for me to get a better understanding of his personality.

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I meant I'm not buying your original post.


You're welcome to link your info, though-- but I'm not going to google the whole of

the internets looking for it.


Also, you left this out:


Any astro info that condones physical abuse as part of that is bullshit.



You really shouldn't believe everything you read.
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Remember that abuse is cyclical. It's not a line. No matter how long you stay with him, he's only going to get worse - not better. His abuse is going to get more frequent. He has psychological issues and he needs to get professional help.
Abusive relationships tear you down and make you think you have no other options, that you can save the person, or that you're not good enough for others. Remember that none of these are true. Don't lose yourself to his twisted behavior and sick mind.

You still are mentioning him a lot in the thread after acknowledging the seriousness of the abuse. It's in your best interest to forget about him and get out of there ASAP. When you leave, bring friends or family over to help you. Leaving an abusive relationship is VERY dangerous and when most related homicides occur. You don't know what he's capable of and how far he will go.

Good luck.
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Posted by starlover
I received a reading from a woman a few months back. She picked up on my ex
and said *oh you should contact him, he needs you to cheer him up*. I wrote and
said to her that i had finished with him and moved on. She insisted i did and
then something clicked in me that she had been abused. I wrote to her and asked
her had she been in an abusive r.ship. She told me that her husband beat the crap
out of her, but when he was nice, he was very nice, and added that something good
had come from it because they had a daughter. I tried to get my head around this...




Damn. o.O


Soo good you picked up on that.

I would be leery of anyone who *insisted* that I do something

like that... esp under those circumstances.



Posted by starlover
... and then realized she was going on to advise women to stay in rships with abusive men 😱

It seems some abused women, like the OP have a warped view of men and will facilitate
their disgusting treatment of them....at any price. What i cannot accept is, they
allow their children to live in this environment

Wow
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There's an element of evil in that.

Idk what to say... smh 😢
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"Are Scorpio men usually abusive?"
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"to get a better understanding of his personality"

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"he doesn't even remember these things"
It does not matter at all what he thinks or has to say.

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"I felt it was my fault"
It was not your fault. He'd do the same to any woman who's weak enough to stay with him.
Get out of it and break the cycle of abuse. immediately.

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"I should've left him then"
Right. But you do it now.

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"I almost felt like it was my duty to stick it out and be patient."
Wrong. You have no duty in educating killers.

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"Why did it say like a donkey- I said dumb-ass."
Don't pay attention to unimportant stuff. Your life is in danger.

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"Go to a women's shelter. Google it wherever you city is and women's shelter. Don't procrastinate or think it will get better."

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"everyone ALWAYS says that's a scorpio's nature."
Only as long as she says nothing about the fact that she was hit by him. We have no measurement device for mental abuse. But physical abuse is obvious.

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"I attempted to file a police report but I decided not to because the police said they would have contact him and possibly arrest him which would anger him beyond no return and I would definitely live outdoors!"
"...and I'm too embarrassed to tell friends."

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"I always search for a solution first."
That is what you do in normal cases. This is not a normal case. Your life is in danger.

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"I'm new to this city and I have no where else to go just yet. I have animals too and they would be on the street as well if I moved out. I'm in between jobs right now and I need him at the moment."
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starlover:
"I received a reading from a woman a few months back. She picked up on my ex
and said *oh you should contact him, he needs you to cheer him up*.
I ... said to her that i had finished with him and moved on.
... then realized she was going on to advise women to stay in rships with abusive men"


Thanks for sharing.

You see, this was on the sender side. This golden Aqua seems to sit on the receiver side.
(If she's not a troll) she may have realy read such golden (@_@) advice somewhere in an astrology forum.

I mean it is bad enough that Astrology has no proof.
And none of us has had a better life since we learned all the stuff about "charts, suns, and moons etc".
Now it should help people live miserable lives?
Noooooooooooo.
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So I guess you want to be annoying, then.

I want to make a statement and be annoying. And you want to mirror me.... mutable ...
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I'm not very mutable actually, but nice try.
I honestly don't know if you were trying to get a message across, but it didn't work. Even if you were trying to troll, spam is the least fun way you could do that.
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What are the effects of domestic violence on the woman?

—Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women in the United States??, wcadv.

Women have suffered the following permanent injuries:

a) Brain damage

b) Blindness

c) Deafness

d) Speech loss through damage to the larynx

e) Disfigurement

f) Mutilation

g) Sterilization

h) Paralysis

i) Damage or loss of internal organs

j) HIV and Sexually Transmitted Diseases

k) Suicide

l) Death — —Every day in 1998, five women died violently at the hands of men who claimed to love them.?? This is in the United States, taken from wcadv.org.

Less permanent injuries include the following:

a) Depression

b) Anxiety

c) General chronic pain

d) Headaches

e) Gastrointestinal disorders

f) Arthritis

g) Stomach ulcers

h) Miscarriages

i) Emotional Withdrawal

j) Impulsivity or aggressiveness

k) Apprehension or heightened fear response

l) Anger

m) Hyper vigilance

n) Anger

o) Disturbance of sleeping patterns

p) Disturbance of eating patterns

q) Helplessness

r) Substance abuse

s) Suicidal Ideation

t) Parenting challenges (some victims are emotionally or physically unavailable to their children due to injuries, emotional exhaustion, or depression.)

u) Trust issues

v) Lose more time from work

w) Low self-esteem

x) Self-critical

y) Higher risk of homelessness

z) Post-traumatic stress disorder
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So I guess you want to be annoying, then.

I want to make a statement and be annoying. And you want to mirror me.... mutable ...


I'm not very mutable actually, but nice try.
I honestly don't know if you were trying to get a message across, but it didn't work. Even if you were trying to troll, spam is the least fun way you could do that.




Christ really there were 6 pages on this thread already telling the woman to leave, sharing other similar stories and backing their reasoning alone as well as the blaring red flags posted on the OPs posts. And OP continuing to bring up astrology as a more important factor than the abuse mentioned. Who's spamming who? Excessive, yes, but annoying too is having 5,6,7 people offer the same solid solution and then continuing to whittle into tangent conversation. Or little arguments like so. 6 page OP has been focusing on the wrong thing, for whatever reason, real or not.

I got it; some people really need big bold letters and short words.
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I agree that OP is not getting the point, but I really don't see how that is more annoying than a page and a half of pure spam from one person. Especially since, even if it was repetitive, people were trying to be courteous and help. Spamming isn't either of those things. It's just plain unnecessary.
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Why doesn't she leave?

Some of the reasons that a woman chooses to stay are as follows:

a) Fear of the unknown — better to keep the enemy close

b) Shame

c) Poverty

d) Guilt — feels she is causing her children to lose their father

e) Exhaustion

f) Isolated — no one to help her move out

g) Nowhere to go — fear of homelessness

h) Hope — may love him and believes she can change him

i) Secrecy and fear of losing credibility if she has minimized or denied the abuse

j) He may have threatened to kill her, their child(ren), or their pet(s)

k) Religious beliefs that he is the head of the household and her role is to support him

l) He has threatened suicide if she leaves

m) Fear of deportation

n) Fear of rejection from family and friends

o) She believes his apologies and promises to change

p) He has made her believe that the abuse is her fault. If she could only learn to change the behaviour that causes it, the abuse would stop.

q) He has made her believe that she could not survive on her own.

r) He may have taken her identification away (passports, driver??s licence, etc.)

s) Societal expectations (he becomes an eligible bachelor while she becomes a divorcee or spinster or other negative stereotype)

t) Lack of skills (who will fix the washing machine?)

u) Travel becomes impaired (higher price for single person on vacations)

v) May lose his health benefits (sick children in need of medications)

w) May lose his pension and/or retirement savings

x) Social status — if he is well-liked in the community, people may blame her for the abuse or doubt that it ever occurred

y) Failure — Some women believe that the end of the relationship is a failure

z) Societal Denial and Blame— Abusers often have a public face that is charismatic and we continue to blame women for bad men, whether it is his mother or his partner.
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How can I know if I'm in immediate danger?

If you think you are, you probably are. Call immediately to 1-800-465-3348 and a risk assessment can be completed anonymously over the crisis line to assist you with this question. If it is determined you are in immediate danger, transportation can be arranged for your escape right away, and if you feel safe for now, transportation can be arranged at a time convenient for you. Either way, a safety plan must be put into place right away. There are some signs that the situation has escalated and you are in greater danger if the following is present in your situation:

a) Stalking behaviour

b) Threats of homicide

c) Threats of suicide

d) Possession or access to weapons

e) Extreme jealousy or obsession with the victim

f) Kidnapping or hostage taking

g) Sexual assault or rape

h) Prior abusive incidents that resulted in a serious injury

i) History of violence with previous partners and/or children

j) Psychopathology or substance abuse

k) Previous choking attempts
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Tbh, we all could have done without that spam.

yes, but I am the one who cared to do the spam. So...

I have my Neptune in 12th house. I know what others think. Public subconscious. ... hell ...


So I guess you want to be annoying, then.



OMG she is soooo fucking annoying...and always right according to herself
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She must frequent boards I don't keep tabs on because I haven't seen her post much.
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Just One Thing
Developing a Buddha Brain
One Simple Practice at a Time

Chapter one: "Be for Yourself"

To take any steps toward your own well ... you have got to be on your own side. Not against others, but for yourself.

... Maybe you were raised to think you didn't count as much as other people. Maybe when you??ve tried to stick up for yourself, you??ve been blocked or knocked down. Maybe deep down you feel you don't deserve to be happy.

Think about what it's like to be a good friend to someone. Then ask: Am I that kind of friend to myself?

If not, you could be too hard on yourself, too quick to feel you??re falling short, too dismissive of what you get done each day. Or too half-hearted about protecting yourself from mistreatment or telling others what you really need. Or too resigned to you own pain, or too slow about doing those things—both inside your head and outside it, in the wider world—to make your life better.
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I said like 3 things on the topic of spam. I think we're already at rest. Half of that other wall was 'talking to talk' since the thread already went downhill on the previous page.

I do think we gave OP all the necessary info to find her way out of this mess. You sometimes hear people say that their abuser is the person they've loved the most. It seems they have a way to enrapture you. Maybe by crushing your self down and making them the only person in your world. It's hard to leave abusers but hopefully OP can gain the willpower to do so. It sounds like she can, if she takes the issue seriously.
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Chapter 3: Have Compassion for Yourself

Life ... has its hard parts as well, such as physical and mental discomfort, ranging from subtle to agonizing.

... You can also have compassion for yourself—which is not self-pity. You??re simply recognizing that —this is tough, this hurts,?? and bringing the same warmhearted wish for suffering to lessen or end that you would bring to any dear friend grappling with the same pain, upset, or challenge as

... self-compassion has many benefits (Leary et al. 2007), including:
L Reducing self-criticism
L Lowering stress hormones like cortisol
L Increasing self-soothing, self-encouragement, and other aspects of resilience
L Helping to heal any shortages of caring from others in your childhood
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Please Sign The Petition

Thank You.


Without scorpio men, dxp would be dead. We couldn't live without all that drama. It would switch over to another board. Then what would happen? Petitions to eliminate all cancer men? Maybe libra? Would the world's problems finally be solved when all men are eliminated? We just don't know. I don't want to be apart of something so uncertain.
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Posted by oyes0435

Christ really there were 6 pages on this thread already telling the woman to leave, sharing other similar stories and backing their reasoning alone as well as the blaring red flags posted on the OPs posts. And OP continuing to bring up astrology as a more important factor than the abuse mentioned.... OP has been focusing on the wrong thing, for whatever reason, real or not.

I got it; some people really need big bold letters and short words.

Good observer.