checking issue....

DID YOU CHECK SOMETIME THE PERSONAL BELONGGING OF YOUR MATE? HOW ABOUT THE CELFONE THEY USED MOST OF THE TIME? anyway i used to check the celfone of my mate often, until i collect all the number and i kept it.. then one time we used to argue asking who are they? who she is? and most of the time i want to know all them but i never done it until now... last day while his taking a shower going to his work i check it again so i seen so many message in his inbox when i check in his dialled he call one of them.. i think he catch me when he went out from the bathroom coz the ligth from the celfone still on... but he never say anything why the phone is on? i dont want to make arguing to my mate regarding of this call or message but i feel so idiot if i will keep inside of me... scorpio's im scorpio too so i want to know what i must to do.....

why don't you just trust this guy your with? has he given you any reasons for you not to trust him....

if there is something bothering you, just sit him down and talk to him about it instead of snooping around...it just seems really immature and isn't going to get you anywhere, all you'll end up doing...is assuming things.

communication is key.

okey... i can ask direct it to him but im afraid,if he dont listed to me, im know its sound like immature but he done it again and again he always saying that her friend...im leaving to his pad and i have a lot of thing to show to any ladies that he has mate inside in his house... but why most of the time i saw ladies calling from his phone or celfone sending sweet messages... im tired to asking again and again then at the end im the one got mistakes if im gonna ask him regarding this message...what i will do?

well it does sound kind of wishy washy, i don't know, if it was me i would call one of these numbers and let the women know that i'm his girl and see what they say...
he could really be telling the truth. it could be that these women are just coming onto him, that doesn't necesarily mean he's responding though...


hope all works out...

its seem im want to ask him this call or sending message issue, sometime he gonna tell me, fine call them they know you.. that's why sometimes i kept in silence...

well if these girls know you then it should be easier to find out...

if i were you i'd just call and casually bring up these messages...

let them know that you saw some of the things they wrote and see what they say...

okey first im gonna ask this topic again to my mate when his arrived from the work... then if his gonna deny about such thing im gonna call this ladies okey... and im gonna tell what will happend next okey folk thank.......

im kidda to talk to him this afternoon but when he saw me he told me, his tired from his work and he dont want talking with me....

Sounds like you have a trust issue with this guy and you automatically went on the defensive with him. You have invaded his privacy to gain the upper edge in arguments and that's just wrong.

Calling the ladies in his cell phone will only make you look like an idiot. If you want a sure way for your boyfriend to break up with you, then by all means, go ahead and call them.

You are too scared to communicate with your boyfriend, so it's best the two of you go separate ways.

Your profile quote says "Love is the best thing you can give someone you love"....you're not doing that. You are making out your boyfriend to be guilty before proven innocent, you're invading his privacy, and you're looking for leverage for arguments. It makes me wonder that if you're willing to go this far to find something out about him, what are you hiding.

Don't check stuff like that!..you only torture yourself and it will show how insecure you are..trust issues etc...

Just chill out, if he's doing anything bad, it'll come out in the end

missmoral so i must to ignore whatever his playing some ladies out side, how about my pride if some friends knows us that he has another ladies treating him outside, im not such like an idiot facing his friends, when im with them? maybe their will laugh at my back.

missmoral so i must to ignore whatever his playing some ladies out side, how about my pride if some friends knows us that he has another ladies treating him outside, im not such like an idiot facing his friends, when im with them? maybe their will laugh at my back.

my friend but i love him so much, im just scared to loose him for how many year im been thru to him then in short time he know this lady then he gonna keep me aside....

Why would you want to hold onto someone like that..Why are you thinking these thoughts? has he done something to trigger it? or are you just feeling insecure...

missmoral maybe, i have some insecurities, i dont want to carry myself im not such a sexy type and pretty as well but if somebody saw me they said im pretty and sexy but for my mate his always saying that im ugly and petit... if his friend and the ladies of his friend hoping that their body would be same like me... so if the topic is being sexy and beautiful i'll keep my mouth shout feeling insecure for all ladies around me

"but for my mate his always saying that im ugly and petit"

And you want to be with this guy? Are you crazy!...Love yourself before you start loving others...this guy will run you into the ground..How dare you let someone make a statement of this kind!..

missmoral sometimes if we're in disscution about this or some times im state of emoting im sending imail or an message thru his celphone saying maybe you dont like me anymore because im not sexy or pretty.... his laughing at me and he gonna say that what you thinking to yourself? honey my god... that why? sometimes im asking myself if im pretty or not... but if im going outside their a lot of man want to meet me or want be my friend... but im always saying im not available....

so because of my insecurity sometimes i'll kept my pride behind my back so.... so im checking his celphone most of the time... then it will hurt me if i seen so many ladies number or message thru his celphone if im trying to talk to him he gonna answer me his only her friend want some help... then he gonna say your in my house just put in your mind for his explanation but in my mind im not convince,,, yah im his pad my thing everything his giving a lot of things and showing his love for me but my problem sometime his talking to his phone in my back... if im gonna say im know the number of the lady or else im gonna call he never scared he gonna smile at me and then go ahead call them or maybe im not type of girl talking figthing for the man...

IRAH: "im sending imail or an message thru his celphone saying maybe you dont like me anymore because im not sexy or pretty.... his laughing at me and he gonna say that what you thinking to yourself?"

You are making statements of this kind about yourself. Thats not healthy. Why are you comparing yourself to this perceived image of other women hey MAY have..We all talk to other men/women whilst in a relationship. I have hundreds of numbers in my phone of men I talk to and also email messages (if somebody else looked at them, they would think I was having an affair) Its just playful banter..theres no harm in it..I don't have feelings for any of them...the same thing could be said for your friend here..

He won't respect you if you think so low of yourself. Your giving him ammunition to treat you badly..

thank missmoral i made my mind... i hope it would be long lasting to keep it in my mind.. you really given more idea in my head.........

thank missmoral i made my mind... i hope it would be long lasting to keep it in my mind.. you really given more idea in my head.........

Your welcome