How would you feel if you were stood up? (Page 2)

okay i HAVE to post for this one. A scorpio man will want to delve into your heart and your head (and other parts).. he wants passion *not pysicall right away at times*..he wants to know how much youreally care ..and if your willing to show him your true emotions, your true colours. if something is bothering you and you feel like crying and screaming it out..call him and do just that, he'll respect you more for that than just pretending that you don't care.. it's extreme emotions or nothing... Nothing is a half-way matter,, you either tell him how you feel or risk constant jumping to conclusions.. it's time for some serious decision making houston

i'm here....just re-reading our emails from today. sigh

the problem with me is i will have a good plan and response, but then i'll be so irked over his excuse that i'll be snippy.

but i also think he won't have the courtesy to email me tomorrow.

if he were any man that i would consider being with at the moment, he would pick up the phone and call me in the morning rather than hiding behind email.

leo scorp rising...if i react, it will be tomorrow. i'm not going to call him this late.

but you're right to a degree. i can't bend over and act like i'm ok with him not even f)(*&😉(*&ing calling me to say he can't make it tonight....how hard is it to say say "excuse me, mom ...i need to make a quick call"?

I still think he had a date...

thanks for everyone's advice....

nighty night

hope it goes well tomorrow...

yeah...i had a couple times when i would text messege him through the cell phone at 3 or 4 in the morning..yeah he was pissed off BUT HE NEVER FORGOT IT and he knows i could 'fudge' him over if i wanted to by pulling out my attention and pretend that he's a wall *snicker*

Good Morning HP 🙂

I hope all goes well with your fellow Scorpio today. He was wrong for not calling or texting you to say anything about not making it. I have been where you are at. And like Scorp5 I lost my cool! Too many times to count. Sometimes it is best to downplay a situation to see how the other person is gonna act.

Let us know what happened. Keep ya head up ma!

Hi HP,

I hate when people do what he did, it is just plain rude and disrespectful.

And why would you worry about upseting him if you fly of the handle with him? I mean, he didn't worry about upseting you, did he? Why do we women always worry so much about upseting poor little men, if they are not giving us the same respect?

What I am trying to say is, if you bl..dy feel like screaming at him, just do it, and if he doesn't like it, tough luck.

Or (better option), you can explain to him nicely that you didn't like that he didn't call you to say he couldn't make it, and if he is upset about it, well, maybe he is not the man for you. You must make ground rules at the beginning, otherwise, he will always behave like this. Whatever you do, just don't let him get away with it.
Once, I was dating a guy who was running late because there was an accident on his way to my home. He couldn't call me because it was the time when mobile phones did not exist (yes, long time ago), and my home phone was not connected yet.
He still persevered, and turned up at my home at 3 am, just so that I don't think that he was not going to come, instead of just turning back and going home, and letting me wonder what happenned.
You want guys like that, not someone who stands you up. In these days of easy and instant communications, there is just NO excuse.
So go on, tell him that you are not happy, and see how he is going to react (this is also a little test to see if he really cares about you). If he does, he will apologise profusely, and promise that it will never happen again. If he does not, well..... better to know now, than later.

Hi, guys. I got a text message this morning that says "Good morning. I am home sick today"....

I replied with "How was dinner with your mom? You still have my phone #, don't you?"

All I get is a good morning and I'm home sick today? No, "I'm sorry for not calling to tell you I'm not feeling well"—

Nah, I'm feeling it with this guy right now. It's totally disrespectful to not call 1-before the night is over so I'm not worrying or waiting and/or 2-not apologize after the fact.

*not feeling it

Awww Baby Girl 😢 You're making me sad...I don't like that he did that either. I don't know what else to say though. He shouldn't be selfish like that. But men only care about their damn feelings. They make me sick!

I just called him and played it down a bit. When he answered, I said "Hey are you really sick or is this a sick day so you can pack for your move?"

He said he was really sick and he actually sounded terrible.

Why are us women so forgiving and no matter what the man says to justify something, we feel sorry for them?

Grrr, I'm still upset though, just now I know he had a good reason for not calling.

Him being sick is not a reason. That showed he only cared about himself. Let me stop. I'm happy that you spoke to him and that everything is okay.

oh i know...i'm still upset he hasn't apologized. you make plans with someone and you can't make them, a quick phone call is essential.

i'm glad he was OK too. I kept the phone call short and sweet. Told him that I hopes he feels better and that I'll talk to him later.

After I ended the call, I thought that maybe I should have asked if he needed anything...but then I came to my senses and realized that no, I shouldn't have. It's the taurus in me wanting to nurture...gotta hate it when that kicks in.

Pluto,
I went to astro.com and was surfing around found this compatability info between Taurus/Scorpio. Ironic, huh? Read below:

For the two of you, sex and money make the world go around, and both are likely to be important factors in your attraction to each other - although "important" doesn't always mean "easy". When it comes to a willingness to enjoy the moment and take pleasure in emotional intensity and the good things of this world, you are an unbeatable team.

But you can both be demanding, stubborn, and forgiving of your own faults. Therefore each of you may have to learn how to forgive the other's errors (like him not calling me and leaving me hanging) and not be so possessive or resistant to changing old habits.

You both understand the importance of loyalty, and relationship matters come first with both of you. Taurus' pragmatism and wish to keep things simple can sometimes irritate Scorpio's need to look at things in depth. And Scorpio's love of drama may sometimes threaten Taurus' calm, sensible approach.

Yet this volcanic combination of Taurean earth and Scorpionic water can generate enormous and enduring attraction. Try not to goad each other, since neither of you is mild in anger and both of you can say or do things the other won't forget. Loosen up a little, and get the best from the relationship by learning to laugh at yourselves.

"even im feeling a little weird with all this...he didnt call u...hmmm...im putting all my money on that moon HP...these ppl(even the scorps) who have heavy sag influence are the champions of memory lapse..."

Ooh, I can totally agree with that Sag moon!!! They can be mighty careless when it comes to stuff they have to remember.

Ok, I can accept that, but that mean that I have to worry about his job? He is pretty successful and stable...

It sounds to me that those who have Sag moon have selective memory.

Thanks, Pluto I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. He didn't have to text me this morning to say he called in sick. I could have sat here at work all day fuming that he's not responding to me and then that would have triggered all sorts of unnecessary hate for him.

I've cooled off, but I will gently bring it up to him tomorrow or whenever we talk again that when plans are made, it's important to stick to them or make an attempt to call so one isn't left waiting and worrying.

I seriously got to the point last night that I thought the only excuse I would allow was if he was in an accident...how bad is that?

hahha memories...lol

advice for hp...love just stand your ground. Keep your personality on top.

He knows your mad right now. trust me.

you think he knows i'm upset yet he can't call me?

is he chicken sh*t?

Yea he knowsyou are upset and he is trying to get is lie together for when he calls you or you break down and call him. He could also be waiting for you to cool down.

HP,
Pluto's Muse hit it right on the nose. With a Scorp/Sag combo, you need patience!!!! They need their space and they are generally slow to commit as well. They can be a bit disorganized and careless at times when it comes to simple stuff like calling someone when you have made plans.
As far as his not calling, this is typical but unacceptable! I would make it clear that you will not accept this; he will respect you for standing your ground and standing firm in what you believe in. If he truly cares for you, he will hear what you have to say and try not to be so careless the next time. If he is a mature, evolved individual he will acknowledge how his actions affected you and will accept responsibility the next time around.

Yes I do, pluto's muse! 🙂 I take it you have dealt personally with one of these Scorp/Sag creatures, lol! I, myself, am presently dealing with one. It's a good thing I can share some of his qualities; if not, I don't know if it would work. As far as the patience is concerned, I've learned a great deal of it dealing with him. It's helping me become a stronger and better person, though. In the beginning, I would suck up some of my resentments when he took the "careless route" like when he wouldn't call knowing damn well we had made plans. After he did it once, I let him know that I did not appreciate his lack of emotional responsibility and I would have appreciated a call letting me know our plans were changing. He apparently fell asleep from a long day's work, but I didn't find that to be a sufficient excuse and I told him so. Now, if he runs late or needs to change plans, he apologizes right away. So I don't think you need to be harsh with them, just upfront about what you like/don't like. I know he respects me so much more for not being a doormat!!

🙂

Should I call this Scorpio guy? Or do you think he'll avoid my call?

You're right, pluto! I can deal with the carelessness every once in a while because they are all-around wonderful people with good hearts!! I can definitely say the good outweighs the bad! They will bend over backwards for their loved ones; that's the kind of loyalty I admire!!

HP, if you call him he may think his carelessness was justified, and you want him to know it's not. This'll hopefully save you from future headaches, at least in this matter. LOL

I called him and left him a voice message that said "Hope you're feeling well. Call back later if you want".

I sounded chipper, which I am...but still left a message.

🙂

I understand what you're saying. I'm still going to bring it up to him about him not calling. I plan on doing it in a constructive/joking way like "Hey what's up with you not calling me to let me know your dinner ran late?" kinda thing...I'm not the confrontational type, but I also want him to know that I picked up on the fact he didn't call. Today I'm not doing that because he's supposedly at home sick.

ok ok, i'll be serious....

i just don't want to be appear to be a bitch about it.

you don't have to be a bitch about it at all....just DIRECT and FIRM! There's a difference...there's no reason to get nasty with him, just tell him firmly and like a woman in control that you did not appreciate his lack of responsibility.
I still would have waited for him to call, though...that's JMO.

the ball's in his court. I've made plans for tonight and tomorrow night with someone else. i'm afraid to tell him that because of what i've read about their jealousy

HP, Is this the first Scorp you've dealt with?

yes LOL...how did you guess? 😢

my ex called me and i figured what the heck, i'm going to go see a movie with him tonight...not a date, but still not going to tell this Scorp about it...won't that make him mad?

no, my ex Taurus...this ex is one I dated for over a year and we broke up in January.

You can sort of tell, lol. But, there's always a first! As far as having plans goes, you should continue your normal routine, going out with friends, have your own hobbies, basically having a life outside of him becuase you're going to need it! They don't like clinginess, if you don't already know. I'm sure a few of us have mentioned it already on here, but they need their space at times as well. If you can't deal with this, then I suggest not dealing with a Scorp. You read about it all the time..but it is so true, it takes a strong woman to be with a Scorp! And I'm not just saying that, I really mean it. They take you through alot of loops and turns, someone who is not firm in their beliefs or not sure of who they are as a person can easily crumble! They can drive you insane. Again, PATIENCE is key!!!

They can be alot to deal with; but once they "conquer" you(yes, that's right)the reward is soooo sweet!!!

I would be careful with ex's. There have been a few DXP'ers that have told their stories when ex's and a new Scorp has been in the picture. Tread carefully! They are very jealous...but some won't admit to it. Mine still doesn't admit to it; but I know better! 🙂

"hehehe shorty i dont even need to type now...ur typing my thoughts...lol"

LOL!!!! What sign are you, pluto?

I'm not going to mention it to him....for all I know, this Scorp has decided to never call or talk to me again. I don't think that's the case, but I have to keep on with my life.

My ex and I got along great for the most part. He has a girlfriend, he just will be in my part of town tonight and I told him to meet me at the theater.

"two bulls were together....hmmm...."

Yeah, I'm curious how that worked out?! I can only imagine the arguments!!! Ouch!!

yeah i mentioned a little of what i'm going thru with this guy to my taurus ex said that this scorp guy isn't being there for me like he was for me...blah blah blah...i think my taurus ex is just trying to get on my good side to get laid...i told him he wasn't coming ot my house and we were meeting at a theater...lol

Earth signs!

what is scorpio? are they earth?

Scorpio is water...
HP, I see we have alot of learning to do on Scorps, lol! Ask away...

Here's my ex Tauruses reply, tell me this doesn't sound like he's sucking up:

"I am not sure what to say about Chris. Seems like he would acknowlege being a no call no show. I may not have always called but I did apologized later. so, you know me. I would be over everyday. Just to support you. But that is me. I just don't understand. 8 times. that is messed up. Sorry, you are still alone. At least by my standard. I have aquantanances that talk to me more."

hey shorty..yes, i'm new to the whole astrology arena and scorpios other than what i've read and Pluto has shared with me.

Why is your ex comparing himself to the Scorp...when there should be no comparison because he is out of your life as a romantic partner. He's almost giving himself a big pat on the back because of the much better way he supposedly treated you. Sort of narcisstic in my book.