i told scorp my p was late and he said....... (Page 2)

wait....


you're an iBanker?

my friend's beau does that. he stacks major money.

"well everyone who has sex needs a std test done"

-Especially those who do it freely without protection, especially with casual partners who aren't even in a serious relationship with them.

amen to that, QS.

"close your mouth why is it wide open as if people dont have sex with no strings attached... people dont understand the concept. just because its no strings attached doesnt mean u dont know the person"

Oh trust that I of all people know about casual sex. a couple of summers ago I had a casual partner or two and grown folks can do as they please. I was just wise enough to protect myself and smart enough to be involved with guys who definitely protected themselves. We just stayed smart and safe. You have 3 kids, there are so many std's out there that are passed by people who don't even know they have them. Just be smart. You want to be well and around for a very long time, for your kids sake.

It is a dog eat dog world, indeed.

The hours for iBankers are insane. My old roommate is one too. They're NEVER home. But the money is worth it, I guess.

Arianlatay you been holding out! Glad you have resurfaced. I am getting used to you going into hiding, but you know what a mother hen I am. I worry about you! So stick your head out from time to time to let me know you are breathing. Even if you don't return my phone call or two 😉- Good luck, claim it and you will get the position.

oooo, don't let branh hear you say that.

he gets jealous of women in high-powered positions. lol you'll never hear the end of it.

to be honest my husband gave me an std while we were married.


I know a lot of people that has happened to.

Wow, what a topic. It was probably a good thing you came on here to air things out Miss Karma, concerning the situation.

I don't believe nothing is too personal, poeple have a right to post whatever they want -- even if people don't agree.

Some of the comments I agreed with and others I disagreed with but I will say that this is a very tough post to answer. I can't answer it from my point of view because we are totally different -- so with something this serious, I can't say "Well, if I were you, then I would have ..." that doesn't seem like the right way to go with.

lol, maybe its too early to get on my soapbox ... thats it, I'm too tired to get on my soapbox.

as i said b4 i appreciate the advice. I do realiz that I should have used a condom in the 1st place. thank God I am not pregnant. it was a scare.


I dont have random sex! He was the only person I was having sex with.

I understand that maybe he could have been having sex with sum1 else.


I am done think and say what u want I am going to keep doing what I do!

Thats good, that you realize that it was stupid not to use protection -- thats the only negative thing I have to say about your whole situation. We all have and live different lives -- no one is the same on this board.

You were brave to post personal infomation, so thats admirable *smiles* The opinions will be varied because everyone is different. Like I said, I'm not up to getting on my good old S.B. so I'm pretty neutral for the most part.

I didn't know you were a Virgo woman, thought you were a libra, oops

It has nothing to do with the randomness of the person, in which you are holding onto to defend .... as if this is people's point.

It's irrevelant if you've known him 5 minutes, or 5 years .. that wasn't the point ... though, you bleated on for 8 pages using this, so you could ignore a reality-check. Or, perhaps, you are just that dumb, who knows.

However, if you insist on using his friendship in this scenerio as a grounds for defense .... then still, you show a complete lack of integrity.


Friends protect each other ... so your "friends" theory as a basis doesn't fly either.


One of two things ...

1. You have no regard for yourself, him, and an unwanted child you would create

2. You knew you weren't pregnant at all .. and just fucking his feelings

And second, I find people who posted all these very pre judgemental comments about welfare and race should really stop. No matter your race or wealth this sort of stuff happens.

*high-five*

Even condoms/pills arent 100% . It reminds me of Palin's daughter... shes over here pounding no sex ed in schools and against contraception. Than here is her 17 year old pregnant. (btw im not for or against Palin, i was just making an observation w/ an issue most people are aware of) its so easy to point fingers, and have a holier than thou approach... until it hits home.

*super mega high-five*

Everyone woman whos had a sexual relationship has been scared of this im sure. The fear builds up, (which can prolong your cycle) and maybe this was something she didnt want to share with people in her immediate family/friends. Because you see the reaction she got on these forums, now incorperate that into your real life and it can be painful.

*super mega high-flying high-five*

Maybe this topic was something she felt more comfortable sharing w/ people who dont even know her and can make an unbiased comment about her situation.... well look how THAT went!

When you point a finger, 3 are pointing back at you. NO ONE is perfect by anymeans.

*round-of-applauds*

Friends protect each other ... so your "friends" theory as a basis doesn't fly either.

Wait ... did I miss something in the orginal post? I thought it was Miss Karma's boyfriend? Oh dear, I was so gone this morning ...

Alright, some stuff makes sense now ... how did I miss that?

Okay, now I understand some of the comments ...

But still, everyone lives different lives but I will say, now I get some of the comments better.

Where was my head? Probably up my butt lol

Cappysweetie .. the thing is .. this was just a fuck-buddy friend. A person to whom there is no serious relationship, nor any kind of commitment .. just a screw to get a nut.

In this scenerio, for a woman to not be responsible with the potential of creating a child .. is horrendous.

Unwanted child vs. abortion = no difference really. She would bleat on about how abortion was his first thought .. yet, she would be so irresponsible that she would allow a conception, by means of ignorance.

"It's irrevelant if you've known him 5 minutes, or 5 years .. that wasn't the point ... though, you bleated on for 8 pages using this, so you could ignore a reality-check. Or, perhaps, you are just that dumb, who knows".


first of all I dont need a reality check from anyone. Nobody can check until they check their own problems.. until you are perfect then dont try and check me on anything are u smart enough to understand that?

People on this board where talking as though i was just with some random guy. or like it was just some 1 nite stand. i was simply stating that was not the case.


I am me. I have made and still continue to make bad choices. I am still learning. I dont need a hug from u or anybody else on this board.

as long as I correct the bad choices I make then fine. Judge me all day long. but remeber your skeletons in your closet. I am just a real upfront person about my mistakes. Dont be made because half of you have to hide behind fake pictures and make several dxp accounts to hide some of the stupid decisions you have made,

I live I learn. If H.I.V is something I get then I will just have to deal with it. as far as me being 25 with 3 kids. i can have 5 kids as long as I take care of my own 5 kids.


Only childish people who have screwed up lives of thier owns pass judgement on others. because it makes their mistakes look way "less". or so they think.



hug your ownself. thats why most of your comments are so negative. because u dont have any happiness in your life.


smooches!!!!

Miss Karma,

This guy yours -- you and him were friends, right.

Is that why you felt comfortable with him -- I mean enough to do it naturally.

I'm only asking because my last boyfriend (the I broke up with on New Years Day), didn't like condoms, I didn't find that out until later. Did he not want to use condoms?

Some men don't like them, so thats why I'm asking. Some women don't like them either.

P_angel based on your response thats prolly why ur husband doesnt love you.. to quick to judge!!


he knows if he does make a mistake u will surely tell him about it. no encouragement whatso ever,,

but hey if thats how u do things in you house then so be it.

dont wonder why ur virgo husband does not act the same way at home as in does outside of home. most likely he doesnt want to be there with someone who doesnt undertand that people arent perfect.

I live I learn. If H.I.V is something I get then I will just have to deal with it. as far as me being 25 with 3 kids. i can have 5 kids as long as I take care of my own 5 kids.

Now Miss Karma, calm yourself -- you don't really mean that. You are just upset at a few posts, I don't you are that accepting just to say, "oh well, that's life."

No, you are just upset, I don't believe it 🙂

This guy yours -- you and him were friends, right.

Is that why you felt comfortable with him -- I mean enough to do it naturally.

yes hun we were friends. we promised each other if either on of us were to have sex with any1 else we would inform the other. we had nothing to hide. yeah call it dumb maybe it was. but we talked about everything. we both understood that it was the whole "fwb" so I trusted he would tell me and He trusted I would inform him.

he knows if he does make a mistake u will surely tell him about it.

Well ... generally, you are suppose to tell people when they are wrong. Actually, the ones who aren't perfect should be the ones, some who is perfect by conventional standards wouldn't really know what to say.

I say that you probably wanted the honestly but you didn't like the way it was presented, right?

I am not saying I am Okay with H.I.V. I am saying if thru this bad choice I made if I got it then I would have to deal with it.

ok elena90 ,, smooches!!!

this whole post was taken out of content. i understood the risk. I was just shocked by his his first response.


I like honesty. I hate fakeness. but but honesty and being judgemental is a different ball game.

yes hun we were friends. we promised each other if either on of us were to have sex with any1 else we would inform the other. we had nothing to hide. yeah call it dumb maybe it was. but we talked about everything. we both understood that it was the whole "fwb" so I trusted he would tell me and He trusted I would inform him.

Oh okay, I'm just asking because I know of a few situations like that -- granted (and I have to be honest) none of them turned out good in the end but they did happen.

Now that you read that, it makes more since. A guy friend wanted something like that with me, I don't know his sign or anything (not that it matters) but that was just something I'm not into and people are different. Yeah, I wanted sex -- really bad at that time actually lol -- but not enough to do that.

I think, if the guy wants one part of me, he has to have all the other parts too. Same with the guy, if I were going to have one part of him, then I needed to know the other parts too -- like beyond a friendship level, does that make sense?

I don't always make sense so thats why I'm checking 😛

they have turned this n2 a STD issue. and welfare .. come on

I didnt want a relationship with the guy. I am to busy to deal with relationships, He didnt want one either he is really heavy n2 his job. I work and go to school and yes have 3 kids. so a relationship was no option for me. I had not had sex in a lOOOng time. I figured ill see how this works out with the whole "fwb" ...

I am not saying I am Okay with H.I.V. I am saying if thru this bad choice I made if I got it then I would have to deal with it.

Okay, thats good to hear.

this whole post was taken out of content. i understood the risk. I was just shocked by his his first response.

Well, its cleared up now. So theres no question with that. Why were you shocked by the Scorpios response? I take that things were probably nice during the fwb, but after he thought you were preggy, his whole attitude changed and you saw him in a different light, right?

we were cool. His response thru me off. no I didnt expect him to be excited. but for his 1st thought to be abortion was crazy to me. I was excited I was scared but I didnt just think of abortion of back. I just wanted to know if I was preg or not.

I didnt want a relationship with the guy. I am to busy to deal with relationships, He didnt want one either he is really heavy n2 his job. I work and go to school and yes have 3 kids. so a relationship was no option for me. I had not had sex in a lOOOng time. I figured ill see how this works out with the whole "fwb" ...

Yep, don't worry, you are not alone. There are plenty of dxpers who have done the same for like reasons. The same opinions you are getting, they got them too. Its just what happens when you make a thread -- you have the good, the bad, and the down right ugly lol.

he had already started tripping b4 the whole miss period came up. because I told him fall semester was starting back up and I needed to make some changes. and I didnt want to see him like that anymore.

"I like honesty. I hate fakeness. but but honesty and being judgemental is a different ball game."

Implying abortion is murder(unless he was talking about drowning the kid in the tub?), and then complaining about people being judgmental is a bit...odd, I think.

Hi Yum 😄

Who ever said abortion was murder Yum —— *looks at Yum with big eyes*

Hi.

"well gosh b4 u start planning ways to kill it can we at least see if I am pregnant 1st! and yes u are being a big ass"

"he was already thinkingof murder b4 we even knew if I was or was not."

Again, I guess he could have been talking about killig it after it was born, but I find that doubtful.

hmmm ...

Some people are against abortion Yummy, I guess that provoked the reaction she had.

Which is why she chose to use protection cappy

hehehehehehe ELENA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When did you get here —

thats still not the issue.

You lurker you 😛

Well!

For crying-out-sideways, I'm late to everything on this thread so I should just stop because I read some comments but then i skips some comments ... then read others UGH!

I'm done, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know.

get off of it. I DIDNT USE PROTECTION. WHY KEEP DWELLING ON IT?

I was just shocked by his his first response.

I like honesty. I hate fakeness

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And yet, this reaction IS his honesty as to how he felt. It's just not what you anticipated you would hear when you told him this because you were expecting him to have a different reaction, which would = fake, according to his feelings, but, real according to yours because this is what you expected of him.

The picture becomes clear to me .. at first, I couldn't figure out how a woman as beautiful as you are on the outside couldn't find a decent and respectable man, karma.

HE IMPLIED HE WANTED TO GET RID OF ANY POSSIBILITY OF ME BEING PREG. DOES MATTER IF U THINK ITS MURDER OR NOT.. U GUYS DONT STAY WITH THE REAL ISSUE ...

I DONT REALLY CARE WHAT U THINK p_ANGL. SO BECAUSE i HAD UNPROTECTED SEX THATS WHY i CANT FIND A DECENT MAN?

Is the real issue that you were scared Karma?

HIS FEELING ARE WHAT THEY ARE. AND THATS FINE. IT JUST SHOCKED ME.