I was the Scorpio Mans Other Woman... Why are they wired so different?

So here it is... I am (was) a Scorpio Man's Other Woman... In all fairness, I was the fool, and didn't know I was the mistress until 4 months after our rekindled friendship from college turned physical. (It must've slipped his mind he had a girlfriend of four years) At every turn he made the move to advance the relationship from friends to more than... (I am a Cappy woman, with Leo rising and venus in aqua squaring my Taurus moon... No way I am making the first move! I am more than a bit prideful and have learned to slow my roll when it comes to men)

Anyway, the moment I found out he had a girlfriend, I let him have it and I was out...
And not a month later, emails, texts, phone calls... Was he still with his girlfriend? Yes? But he seemed not to mind... I told him the trust was broken and we had nothing....
And three weeks later.... Rearing his lil head again...I iced him out until I ran into him at a gallery opening ... We are both were a bit intoxicated, we chat and laughed. But if I ever made a remark about what a screw up he had been, the conversation was shut down. His lady was obviously not to be mentioned! after a lot of attempts of scorpio see-threw manipulations...I said, 'Fine, You want me, take me...but u are making UR own bed and you will lie in it ....After a nice rendezvous, he suddenly freaks and says he has to leave.... I laugh, because after all that work... I said "Relax, it's just sex... Consider me ur fluffer for when u go home." (Crude, I know ... I was trying to make a point) And if looks could kill, I would not be able to relay this story... I have never seen such a cruel look....
I figured after all that plus his sudden rush of guilt, me being not so nice , it would finely be done. The blood would finally be back in his head up top and that would be that.... But just like clock work... 3 weeks later, guess who...It's almost a year later and we haven't been physical since, but it doesn't prevent him from calling or showing up,acting all coy for a week at a time or so and the back to his Never Neverland.
I'm over it, but how do I get him to see that? I have told him time and time again that we have no chance. Challenging him by asking why he wants me when he has someone at home? Why do Scorpio men keep coming back? I was the other woman, the fling...Ain't they supposed to be committed guys?
My girlfriend thinks he is in love with me (ha) and I have just iced him too hard and never gave him an opening to figure it out and tell me...
Any opinion on why these guys are wired so different? Should I hear him out, cause he might have an emotion or two and he needs some kind of closure ....Or keep icing him out because he has a girlfriend?
They definitely aren't supposed to fall for the 'other woman'. I know that!

Sorry so wordy .... merc in sag 🙂

His is;
Sun in Scorp
Sag rising, venus and moon.... Does all this Sag have something to do with it?

"I'm over it, but how do I get him to see that?"

- You stop talking to him...see it's not rocket science

But you are entertaining the attention you're getting from this cheating man by responding soooo...what does that say about you

Touché ... But I only deal with him when he shows up at my work.... I will admit, he gets me worked up when he does that so I'm probably just supplying him the reaction he wants... I just don't get why it is necessary?

Agree with the other person. Stop entertaining it. What are you waiting for? Him to leave his girlfriend? Would you want him? You did a good thing breaking up when you knew.

Unfortunately, analyzing is my nature, a strong still Ia sting stellium in Virgo :-)

What a d*chebag that guy is to actually has the audacity to flirt & get physical with another woman while in a committed relationship. Cut him off completely OP, he is not worth any of your time.

sag. not scorp

your comment to him was child's play. be cruel and tear him apart

Put your bitch face on and ice him completely. We're good at that.

Posted by Reincarnation
Close your legs.

I would like to thank most all of you for a warm welcome to dxpnet.com. It is good to know I have joined such a fair, nonjudgmental tolerant forum. I can only hope others afford you as much condiration and kindness as u have shown me,next time u make make a judgment error or let passion (be it positive or negative) swipe u away. I'm talking to all u sitting in ur pure white towers, behind UR computers... (Careful towers crumble especially when stones are being cast)
For those of u that did give me insight, I truly appreciate it. His behavior is very different form my own... I assumed if he cheated he must be heartless, but I do have great empathy for all kinds people and situations but I have never cheated myself so I can't wrap my mind around his mindset. I am all or nothing! I wanted to make sure I was understanding all angles and treating the situation correctly. Even though I am done, doesn't mean I didn't care at all and someplace still do...
So I guess maybe I will go try and repost this in the 'Scorpion' Thread, like I initially had intended. But Weird! Somehow it ended up in the in this ridiculous 'Judgmental, Critical, Intolerant Holy Than Thou' thead. Oops, my bad!

Thanks and have a very Merry Christman

tell him his gf has lovely hair and it smells really nice

he is likely to block you so you don't need to deal with him again lol

Wired so differently from... ?

Posted by iCloud9
tell him his gf has lovely hair and it smells really nice

he is likely to block you so you don't need to deal with him again lol

Yeah but that might actually work.

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Posted by GotMyMojo

Posted by Reincarnation
Close your legs.

I would like to thank most all of you for a warm welcome to dxpnet.com. It is good to know I have joined such a fair, nonjudgmental tolerant forum. I can only hope others afford you as much condiration and kindness as u have shown me,next time u make make a judgment error or let passion (be it positive or negative) swipe u away. I'm talking to all u sitting in ur pure white towers, behind UR computers... (Careful towers crumble especially when stones are being cast)
For those of u that did give me insight, I truly appreciate it. His behavior is very different form my own... I assumed if he cheated he must be heartless, but I do have great empathy for all kinds people and situations but I have never cheated myself so I can't wrap my mind around his mindset. I am all or nothing! I wanted to make sure I was understanding all angles and treating the situation correctly. Even though I am done, doesn't mean I didn't care at all and someplace still do...
So I guess maybe I will go try and repost this in the 'Scorpion' Thread, like I initially had intended. But Weird! Somehow it ended up in the in this ridiculous 'Judgmental, Critical, Intolerant Holy Than Thou' thead. Oops, my bad!

Thanks and have a very Merry Christman

I don't care.

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Omg...

😆

Posted by iCloud9
tell him his gf has lovely hair and it smells really nice

he is likely to block you so you don't need to deal with him again lol

Haha! That just might work! He would go into total panic. I totally will too.. If he comes into work again, first words out of my mouth!

Follow the No Contact Rule It is hard to follow when you are not truly done, but very effective.

http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-no-contact-rule-rose/

make sure you look deeply into his eyes with a sweetest smile and a most sincere voice. may as well tell him the love word, slowly. lol

Posted by Montgomery
Wired so differently from... ?

Anything I remotely understand! For me one signification other is more than enough, I won't stay in a relationship where I feel the need to cheat. I can't stand rejection ... Roles were reversed I might hide from him for life...and I only want to be in a relationship where I am wanted, I never do a ride by just to see if the car s there .... And most of all, the guilt would kill me ... He just seem so far in his own zone...

Posted by iCloud9
make sure you look deeply into his eyes with a sweetest smile and a most sincere voice. may as well tell him the love word, slowly. lol

Oh no! That's his thing (of coarse only when drunk) not mine!

Makes such a safe place to share thoughts and ideas..... But thanks fo kinda showing me the robes 🙂

"And yes, your OP does reek of "I still like him!", because you try to make excuses for his bad behaviour and somehow make it okay. "

Excuse my ignorance but wha is OP? :-/ ha!

And I woulnt ask the question if there wasn't something still in me....

But honestly, I don't want him back in my life at all! When I am done, I am done, never to return... True Cappy girl at heart and I will never forget (Taurus moon) he is a lie and a cheat .... That he A liar selfish and a cheat... I treat all my lovers like my bests friends and u would never lie cheat or be selfish to UR best friend... We have nothing

And yes, this has all been explained to him, but no go... So I thought I would try for some insight on him. As u can see, kinda blew up in my face.... Can't blame a girl for trying 🙂

OP means Original Post/Poster. It refers to the first topic which opens the thread or the first person who opened the topic/thread.

I think the no contact is a good idea. Someone else suggested that too. It helps me by cutting the person off and having breathing space. It might irritate him too to not have any response back from his daft attempts of contact but that's just a bonus and is not the main point.

Anybody who says "it's just sex" gets completely written off by me. What a turnoff.

@GotMyMojo he loves his girlfriend but he's using you for w.e reason , maybe he gets bored and needs a little break away from his reality.

I know it sounds crazy but it doesn't matter if it happens over a few years, he wants an outsider to talk to and also the feeling of control that he can come and go as he pleases,... he still loves his gf.


Trust me I know this shit.

Posted by Tinxy
@GotMyMojo he loves his girlfriend but he's using you for w.e reason , maybe he gets bored and needs a little break away from his reality.

I know it sounds crazy but it doesn't matter if it happens over a few years, he wants an outsider to talk to and also the feeling of control that he can come and go as he pleases,... he still loves his gf.


Trust me I know this shit.

Thank you! I just needed a peek into the psyche!

Even though I've been hit over the head with scrutiny in this post, part of the reason I posted it.... Thought maybe I'd start a conversation on how our dear Scorpios art so faithful after all....

Then why is it written all over astrological Scorpio info about how faithful these men and women are and whenever contested there is always a Scorp or a Scorp lover ready to jump to the defensive?

Wow! That's creepy! I am so very sorry!

I do get an impression of a bit of delusion... But hopefully he knows I am not someone to mess with.. But honestly, I get a bit freaked of some kind of intense backlash from him.... It is like towing a narrow line...

But I truly am sorry to hear of UR experience!

Posted by starwars
y'all need geeezuz

Ya need a new message board

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Posted by Reincarnation
Close your legs.

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And once again, careful casting stones from behind that ivory tower that u are so cozily perched..., for karma is the biggest bitch around

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Posted by Reincarnation
Close your legs.

this

She's already done that. Now she just needs to close her mouth.

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I believe I started this message board ...., u all are kindly welcome to leave whenever

Like I must now...to go to work.,. Not all of us can sit here all day and bully people from behind our computers.

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Posted by elllesque

Posted by Reincarnation
Close your legs.

this

She's already done that. Now she just needs to close her mouth.

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I believe I started this message board ...., u all are kindly welcome to leave whenever

Like I must now...to go to work.,. Not all of us can sit here all day and bully people from behind our computers.

Wow! I am now a slut with STDs and a child! Not that it's anyone's business but you all seem to think it is , I have never had children, even been pregnant or do I have an STD currently or otherwise. My biggest mistake was about being honest about sleeping with a man at a weak and ugly moment, for who which I had begun a relationship and to have feelings. We all seem to have forgotten that he's the one that lied to me for four months about having a girlfriend. No one seems to have a problem with Mr. Scorpio's mistakes. yes I said something incredibly ugly to him, and it was to hurt him. I wanted to hurt him because I was hurt and because I wanted it to end. Was it wrong? Very! But I knew we had no future and I would never trust him. The road in love is never black-and-white, it is always gray and never smooth. Those of you that can say that you've never made a mistake or have done something ugly because you were in a situation that hurts are liars.
I reached out here to gain some perspective and see what I can do to get rid of the situation. And that was my second mistake. The best perspective I gained is I will never do this again.
For those of you that have given me honest feedback I appreciate it and I'm in gratitude.
For everyone else please get back to your lives and for those of you that don't live, please find one and stop bullying and judging people from behind your computers. I am very strong and can handle it , but there are many people who can't.
And as my part, I may not be proud of all my actions but at least I have the courage to step outside, be honest and real and actually live my life.
Obviously I'm so much more over this situation than most of you.... Now there are real world things to be done...

DISCUSSION OVER!!!

L. O. L

You silly twat. You're just as guilty as he is. You should have walked off and stayed that way. But you let him woo you into hopping on to his dick again and have been a repeat customer ever since. You are now equally as guilty of being some tramp sleeping with another woman's man.

He's a dick.

You're a selfish twat.

He conned you into banging him again because he knew he could. Something about you and your behavior told him he could do this again and it worked. THAT'S why he came back around again. Dudes like this are like little boys who manipulate mommy. They know if they hassle and manipulate enough, they'll get their way. This is what he did to you and you're just a dumb bitch for falling for it. You'd have more empathy if you hadn't continued to let this happen after he admitted he had a girlfriend,.

You want to be all about HIS "psyche" but I think you need to reconsider yours and what happened to your morals that you're pathetic enough to be the other vagina he cheats with.

You're a gross human being.

Also, learn to fucking spell. No wonder you can't connect the dots in this scenario. You're as dumb as a bag of hammers.