Love or Career

I'm torn between love and my career right now.... I love my guy even though things have been a bit rocky this last month things are getting back on track.

But I've also just been given a huge career opportunity but in taking it I'd have to move... far away. I've never been good with long distance relationships so I just can't really see it working out.

I know in the end I need to do whats best for me... just seems heartbreaking.

Anyone else ever had this conflict before?

Your career won't wake up one day and tell you it doesn't love you anymore.

What's a good career if you don't have noone to share it's fruits with.

Career is all good, but tru luv is the real deal, a doorway to fulfilling happiness that career just can't do.(i'm not saying to be hungry tho) 😆

Example: cancer, diagnosis is bleak.....who/why do you fight for? To fill out some excel sheets or to spend as much as possible of the time you have left with your loved one.

You also don't fight to survive it so that you can go sit back at the office from 7-3, 8-4, 9-5 but you fight for your loved one, for time with her/him/it.

Career, personal fulfilment comes first.

If you are not happy or satisfied with oneself. You cannot possibly give in a relationship, much less love another.

I can't believe I am going to say this, but.....

CAREER

*reformed love junkie*

🙂

Posted by Mr_Pinchy
What's a good career if you don't have noone to share it's fruits with.

Career is all good, but tru luv is the real deal, a doorway to fulfilling happiness that career just can't do.(i'm not saying to be hungry tho) 😆

Example: cancer, diagnosis is bleak.....who/why do you fight for? To fill out some excel sheets or to spend as much as possible of the time you have left with your loved one.

You also don't fight to survive it so that you can go sit back at the office from 7-3, 8-4, 9-5 but you fight for your loved one, for time with her/him/it.

Yes

Self

Love

Once you learn that you will never feel unloved

Love is great, but staring starry eyed at each other will get old eventually.

You both need to be striving for something, or at least achieving something other than what is there between the two of you in order to fuel the relationship. Otherwise, the relationship will implode and collapse on its own. Constant reinforcement from outside life experiences, that each of you bring back into the relationship, to share, and discuss whilst challenging each other to grow. That is what keeps the interest burning, because you are in a state of constant growth, learning from one another. To fall in love with each other over and over again, with each new stage in your own personal journey.

Stagnancy, and a lack of change, will kill / stifle the love that was there. Love is not a permanent state of affairs. It is fluid and constantly changes.

Don't play yourself. Choose your career.

I’d say it depends on your age and the relationship itself. If you are older and want to start a family, and he is willing and able to give you that...then stay.

But if your young and more focused on building your career then follow the money. Plenty of dicks in the sea.

I think you should really talk about this with him. Just having that conversation will help you see things a bit more clearly.

See what you think when you see all the cards on the table

Career.

If things are a bit rocky anyway, then I would pick career. You can look at it as a way to start fresh in a new town, with an awesome career and a new man. 😉

Posted by scorpio1108
I'm torn between love and my career right now.... I love my guy even though things have been a bit rocky this last month things are getting back on track.

But I've also just been given a huge career opportunity but in taking it I'd have to move... far away. I've never been good with long distance relationships so I just can't really see it working out.

I know in the end I need to do whats best for me... just seems heartbreaking.

Anyone else ever had this conflict before?

why do you think you have to decide? do you think you will not get another huge career opportunity again? if you are good at your work, you can get offers any time, if you will pursue it...

if you love your man, stay and start to look for career opportunities locally

OR both move together to the new location



but, I have a strange feeling, that its about that you dont feel loved enough, and not really about the career....

Posted by scorpio1108
I'm torn between love and my career right now.... I love my guy even though things have been a bit rocky this last month things are getting back on track.

But I've also just been given a huge career opportunity but in taking it I'd have to move... far away. I've never been good with long distance relationships so I just can't really see it working out.

I know in the end I need to do whats best for me... just seems heartbreaking.

Anyone else ever had this conflict before?

Nope, never but if u dont take that career opportunity over your lil boyfriend Virgo Rising is going hunt u down and k#ll you lol

Take that job honey!

Get the job, go over there without breaking up. Do long distance until you see if you like the new job and want to stay or leave. If you want to stay and you aren't liking long distance, then break up w him. If you hate the job, you can always run home to papi.

Thanks for all the insight. The long distance wouldn't really work as he's already gone so much for his job and I'd be gone permanently.

Hence our rocky patch loli wasn't used to him being gone so much and with him only getting a couple days off every month I wanted all his time. (I'll blame that on my double scorp lol).

We've finally found a good rhythm in things and he's really an amazing man with so much patience. I talked to him about everything last night and he told me as a friend not a boyfriend to do whatever I wanted to do and ultimately makes me happy.

Aa for the career it's very promising but the housing market sucks. At least here I could buy another home (as I'm selling the one I live in now) and the pay raise wouldn't support a mortgage there... there's a lot of good and bad, and I'm definitely an analyzer. Ill have the weekend to think things through though at least.

Until a man put a ring on your finger..CAREER first because it means you put yourself first! Trust if he wants to make it work he will!!!

If you turn down the job it has to not associate with him at all not even in your subconscious decisions!!!