Scorpio woman after first 'date'

So long story short I met a lovely Scorpio gal online and after almost a week we met in person. I am a Capricorn and I've always heard we make a great couple so I thought Fuck it, I got this aha. We pretty much just talked outside a Starbucks for like 2 hours but I didn't feel like we got anywhere. I know Scorpios are mysterious but it just didn't feel like I really got to know her at all!! Lol. So afterwards I suggested we walk around, I wanted to get a little closer with her physically rather than her being across a table. I did not do anything!! I can be smooth, usually first dates get physical with me because if I even consider going on a date with someone it's for a reason aha so I'm not like this raging slut fyi 😛 anyways I didn't even hold her hand because of the fact that I didn't feel like I really got to know anything about her on like a personal, deeper level, which is something I must feel for me to be able to get sexual or physical period. A few minutes later she said she had to go which was more than likley due to the fact that I didn't take it a step further. (At least I think). I walked her to her car and she gave me a very warm hug, a little longer than a normal one. I texted her after I got home and told her i enjoyed hanging out and she never replied.... Lol I'm confused cuz it seemed like it ended well, even though i.totally didn't tell her we should do it again or anything, just that it was nice to meet her. So Idk should I just not hit her up again cuz she might just not be into me or should I chase? She did leave quite an impression on me and I really want to get to know her more. There's something there that I've not experienced and I'd like to pursue it.

Posted by Koniuchaa
If you feel something, just ask her out again.

I'm very closed off in the beginning. It takes time for me to warm up to let my guard down. Kind of sucks for dating, but that's how it is.

This happened on Thursday night. Problem with me is that when I like someone, I tend to feel stooooopid insecure aha i second guess myself and over think everything because I don't want to mess things up. Kinda sucks, A LOT. But anyways, I don't know how.long I should wait? If I should send another flirty message or just a hey how are you?

It reads to me like you are moving too fast, and trying to get somewhere too quickly, which is probably throwing her off and making her uncomfortable. What's the rush?

I would do what you feel honestly. That's how I operate, crazy and all lol

Obviously if she isn't responding, I'd drop it



Dang aha i feel like what I feel isn't very reliable. But I guess I'll give out a go

Posted by lnana04
It reads to me like you are moving too fast, and trying to get somewhere too quickly, which is probably throwing her off and making her uncomfortable. What's the rush?

Never really thought of it like that... Idk I'm just impatient maybe? I'm gonna have to reevaluate my self ahaha

scorpio women are evil

Posted by Scrumptious
scorpio women are evil

No argument there Lol

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I would do what you feel honestly. That's how I operate, crazy and all lol

Obviously if she isn't responding, I'd drop it

Dang aha i feel like what I feel isn't very reliable. But I guess I'll give out a go

Ok, don't be crazy, but just say hi



Yea I'll probably end up doing that aha

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Posted by lnana04
It reads to me like you are moving too fast, and trying to get somewhere too quickly, which is probably throwing her off and making her uncomfortable. What's the rush?

Never really thought of it like that... Idk I'm just impatient maybe? I'm gonna have to reevaluate my self ahaha

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I think you should reevaluate first before you possibly end up wasting this woman's time. Your impatience suggests that maybe you are use to women being easy? I also assume that by how fast you are expecting her to open up and physical contact. What if she is looking for a relationship? Is that what you are looking for, or is it just a hook up thing?

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It reads to me like you are moving too fast, and trying to get somewhere too quickly, which is probably throwing her off and making her uncomfortable. What's the rush?

Never really thought of it like that... Idk I'm just impatient maybe? I'm gonna have to reevaluate my self ahaha

I think you should reevaluate first before you possibly end up wasting this woman's time. Your impatience suggests that maybe you are use to women being easy? I also assume that by how fast you are expecting her to open up and physical contact. What if she is looking for a relationship? Is that what you are looking for, or is it just a hook up thing?

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I am strange. I know everyone thinks they are by I'm pretty sure I'm one of the wierd ones aha. I went through my one night stand phase, the fwb phase and it isn't what I want at all... honestly if I did I'd be going after Capricorns and Aquas... (not saying they're only good for that, just that for me it's worked better with them, also I absolutely love aquas)... I do want a relationship, I crave intimacy beyond being physical, but that's where I'm a little off... I have a hard time taking things slow for some reason, it's almost like I'm bad at it— Every time I try to hold off being physical it never leads to anything? ?

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Good to know being mysterious works!

Like a charm aha

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It reads to me like you are moving too fast, and trying to get somewhere too quickly, which is probably throwing her off and making her uncomfortable. What's the rush?

Never really thought of it like that... Idk I'm just impatient maybe? I'm gonna have to reevaluate my self ahaha

I think you should reevaluate first before you possibly end up wasting this woman's time. Your impatience suggests that maybe you are use to women being easy? I also assume that by how fast you are expecting her to open up and physical contact. What if she is looking for a relationship? Is that what you are looking for, or is it just a hook up thing?

I am strange. I know everyone thinks they are by I'm pretty sure I'm one of the wierd ones aha. I went through my one night stand phase, the fwb phase and it isn't what I want at all... honestly if I did I'd be going after Capricorns and Aquas... (not saying they're only good for that, just that for me it's worked better with them, also I absolutely love aquas)... I do want a relationship, I crave intimacy beyond being physical, but that's where I'm a little off... I have a hard time taking things slow for some reason, it's almost like I'm bad at it— Every time I try to hold off being physical it never leads to anything? ?

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It seems you've been with other Caps in fwb situations. Did you think they had this issue too? Craving intimacy but having a hard time being intimate other than physical?

I think I know what you mean.

How patient are you with yourself? How interested are you in yourself?

Probably weird questions but sometimes I wonder if things like that are a reflection or indicator of how a person handles themselves.

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It reads to me like you are moving too fast, and trying to get somewhere too quickly, which is probably throwing her off and making her uncomfortable. What's the rush?

Never really thought of it like that... Idk I'm just impatient maybe? I'm gonna have to reevaluate my self ahaha

I think you should reevaluate first before you possibly end up wasting this woman's time. Your impatience suggests that maybe you are use to women being easy? I also assume that by how fast you are expecting her to open up and physical contact. What if she is looking for a relationship? Is that what you are looking for, or is it just a hook up thing?

I am strange. I know everyone thinks they are by I'm pretty sure I'm one of the wierd ones aha. I went through my one night stand phase, the fwb phase and it isn't what I want at all... honestly if I did I'd be going after Capricorns and Aquas... (not saying they're only good for that, just that for me it's worked better with them, also I absolutely love aquas)... I do want a relationship, I crave intimacy beyond being physical, but that's where I'm a little off... I have a hard time taking things slow for some reason, it's almost like I'm bad at it— Every time I try to hold off being physical it never leads to anything? ?

It seems you've been with other Caps in fwb situations. Did you think they had this issue too? Craving intimacy but having a hard time being intimate other than physical?

I think I know what you mean.

How patient are you with yourself? How interested are you in yourself?

Probably weird questions but sometimes I wonder if things like that are a reflection or indicator of how a person handles themselves.

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With Capricorns I never tried to figure them out or spend any time thinking about what they desired so honestly I can't say. It's just very easy to pick up their vibes because they're just like me, which ironically is a huge turn off aha that's why I could never see myself being serious with one.

I don't think those are wierd at all honestly. I believe the way we see/treat ourselves is an indicator of how we treat others. I'm actually very impatient with myself, I'm pretty hard on myself too. Not sure what you mean by how interested I am in myself, but if this helps I do see much more room for improvement than not.

I don't have a hard time being intimate outside of being physical, it's just the phsyicall part always comes before i show deeper intimacy I guess.

Posted by Koniuchaa
If you feel something, just ask her out again.

I'm very closed off in the beginning. It takes time for me to warm up to let my guard down. Kind of sucks for dating, but that's how it is.

More like warming up your stinger to sting the Sh.t out of your victim lol

In all seriousness I think the op is moving too fast for the Scorp there is no grabbing for the a.. on the first date. A Scorp is like a cancer we need to get to know a person before we let them close to us. It sounds like you want to get in her pants she's not going to let you do that. If you want to see her again then arrange another get together and see where it goes from there. Talking to her for 2 hours straight sounds like she sees you as a friend.

Posted by Scrumptious
scorpio women are evil

Yes and no lol piss her off you will see the evil side in her

You said you were outside Starbucks talking for two hours but you felt like you didn't get anywhere.

Where exactly did you want to get to with her?

As a Scorpio female, allow me to break it down:

You spent TWO hours with her. That's 120 minutes. That's not that long to actually get to know somebody but it is enough to test the water in person to see if there's enough established to continue building on and adding to the initial two hours by asking her out on a second date... Which you never bothered to do within 24 hours after the first date.

The cancer dude above, Stihl, is correct with his observation. His job is observing Scorpios —

You're probably trying too hard or trying to 'get' somewhere rather than just letting it flow and actually getting to know her and seeing if you're a match. What's the rush?

Two hours... Scorp was probably sat there thinking 'I've got a right one here' while rolling her eyes!

If you're clear about what you're looking for, which seems to be a relationship, and if you feel you'd like to spend another two to four hours in the Scorps company then ask her out again. Be direct and have a plan. No wishy washy shit. Don't try it on. Bother yourself to get to know her instead of thinking with your dick. Do the hard work first of investing time, if Scorp thinks you're worth it then she'll open her legs.

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Posted by Koniuchaa
If you feel something, just ask her out again.

I'm very closed off in the beginning. It takes time for me to warm up to let my guard down. Kind of sucks for dating, but that's how it is.

More like warming up your stinger to sting the Sh.t out of your victim lol

In your dreams, buddy

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We know how evil you Scorpio women are lol

Lol Jesus y'all swear like sex is a terrible thing. No shit I'd like to have sex, it's natural for crying out loud lol is that all I want from her? You can bet your ass it's not. If all I wanted was sex from her I would've tried to get it... I didn't, only thing I wanted was to show her that Im interested in something more than just friendship by holding her hand or giving her a light kiss and leaving it at that. I didn't because for some reason it didn't feel like the right time. What I mean by that is that I wasn't at a place where I felt comfortable enough to do that, even though I wanted to because I didn't feel like I got to know her enough. Yes, one date, two hours is not enough to get to know someone at all, however there is a part of me that can sense when someone opens up to me a little more than to just any other person and it doesn't have to be a whole lot just a trace. I'm not too sure if that makes sense. Probably not cuz most of you are hellbent on me just trying to get in her pants lol

Posted by AgentP911
You said you were outside Starbucks talking for two hours but you felt like you didn't get anywhere.

Where exactly did you want to get to with her?

As a Scorpio female, allow me to break it down:

You spent TWO hours with her. That's 120 minutes. That's not that long to actually get to know somebody but it is enough to test the water in person to see if there's enough established to continue building on and adding to the initial two hours by asking her out on a second date... Which you never bothered to do within 24 hours after the first date.

The cancer dude above, Stihl, is correct with his observation. His job is observing Scorpios —

You're probably trying too hard or trying to 'get' somewhere rather than just letting it flow and actually getting to know her and seeing if you're a match. What's the rush?

Two hours... Scorp was probably sat there thinking 'I've got a right one here' while rolling her eyes!

If you're clear about what you're looking for, which seems to be a relationship, and if you feel you'd like to spend another two to four hours in the Scorps company then ask her out again. Be direct and have a plan. No wishy washy shit. Don't try it on. Bother yourself to get to know her instead of thinking with your dick. Do the hard work first of investing time, if Scorp thinks you're worth it then she'll open her legs.

I'm not thinking with my dick... I'm saying I'm interested in getting to know her better, I'd like to see where this goes and no I don't mean just sex. She's different, I can see it but she isn't showing it and for me that's weird cuz most women I've dated are eager to show me why they're different so it's new to me and I'm not sure how to handle this. I don't know to invest the time without seeming needy or scaring her off because I can tell its easy to do so. I realize yes, I was in a rush and yea it's not the best way to get to know someone but I'm just not used to taking things slow cuz when I do I feel clueless. You can misinterpret that if you'd like but I'm just asking for anyone's advice on how I can show my intentions without scaring her off. I did ask if she enjoyed being single and she said yes because she's a busy person and I understand, that's why I'm trying to proceed with caution ya know?

I know what you're saying in your last two posts BUT...

You're still putting pressure on with things like you wanted to hold her hand or give her a light kiss to show you want more than friendship but it didn't feel right. Exactly. You wanted to become more physical after just two hours. What impression do you think that gives to her? She could probably tell. If some bloke I'd known for five minutes wanted to invade my space by pawing at me I'd not feel enthusiastic about it. It's far too much far too soon. She hasn't established enough connection with you for her to want you to touch her.

Again, you say she's not showing you how she's different and you're used to other girls falling over themselves to scream at you about how different they are. Which means they're probably not very different at all. That's a lot of pressure and expectations she has to fulfil for you within 120 minutes.

Frankly, I think you're overanalysing this whole thing. Which in a way is sweet as clearly you like her —

So, have you asked her out again yet?

How old are you both and where are you from?

Posted by AgentP911
How old are you both and where are you from?

I'm 22 she's 20... I decided Fuck it and texted her and she didn't reply so that's that Lol

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How old are you both and where are you from?

I'm 22 she's 20... I decided Fuck it and texted her and she didn't reply so that's that Lol

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What did you text her?

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How old are you both and where are you from?

I'm 22 she's 20... I decided Fuck it and texted her and she didn't reply so that's that Lol

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Random texts never work well for us Caps lol.

Yea I just read your post and a couple updates after that.

From my recent dating experience, I'd say she didn't like you enough to go on a 2nd date. I kind of laughed to myself about the long hug. She most likely did it bc she did think you were a nice guy and just maybe it was her way of showing you but also it being a goodbye.

I'm complicated in dates. Usually I can tell right away if the guy likes me and based on how I feel I will proceed. Like if I like him back I will flirt or be more open. If she didn't do tha, it may be why.

Don't beat yourself up about not making any moves, if anything she appreciated it. I don't like when guys get to touchy too quick especially if there was no *spark* to signal.

Find yourself another date on the site 🙂

^^^ agree.

Plenty more fish. If it ain't a match then it ain't a match.

Practice dating. Get more experience. Don't over think it. Nobody wakes up knowing exactly how to date. You're 22 so you have loads of time to practice dating and see who is out there.

I think you did well on the date overall so don't be put off by one girl. Keep having the balls to ask girls out and ask for a second date. What's the worst that could happen? They say no. So what!

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^^^ agree.

Plenty more fish. If it ain't a match then it ain't a match.

Practice dating. Get more experience. Don't over think it. Nobody wakes up knowing exactly how to date. You're 22 so you have loads of time to practice dating and see who is out there.

I think you did well on the date overall so don't be put off by one girl. Keep having the balls to ask girls out and ask for a second date. What's the worst that could happen? They say no. So what!

I honestly hate dating. It's just a game...

Posted by brandyp
Scorp women are always hard to get w cap men bc we know we can have them!!

Well not anyone can have me aha

Posted by titaniumode
So long story short...I texted her after I got home and told her i enjoyed hanging out and she never replied.... Lol I'm confused cuz it seemed like it ended well, even though i.totally didn't tell her we should do it again or anything, just that it was nice to meet her. So Idk should I just not hit her up again cuz she might just not be into me or should I chase? She did leave quite an impression on me and I really want to get to know her more. There's something there that I've not experienced and I'd like to pursue it.

You've basically asked an answer. Meaning you've identified what went wrong. Why would anyone respond to "I was nice to meet you"?

If you want to pursue more, make it know be you want to pursue more. As long as you're not a creep and it has t been made clear we're not interested (hint: a long warm hug isn't an indication of that) then generally Scorps like people that are assertive and go after what they want.

Also, I'm not sure how making your interest known equates to "chasing".

Posted by titaniumode
...Problem with me is that when I like someone, I tend to feel stooooopid insecure aha i second guess myself and over think everything because I don't want to mess things up. ...should send another flirty message or just a hey how are you?

Ah. The OP makes more sense now.

Just ask her out again. Depending on the Scorp, a lot of "filler" text will become boring in time. I know you would lose my interest if that's all you're offering. I prefer face to face time or at the very least I want to hear your voice.

Do something casual, fun, not too intimate until she warms up a bit more.

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...Problem with me is that when I like someone, I tend to feel stooooopid insecure aha i second guess myself and over think everything because I don't want to mess things up. ...should send another flirty message or just a hey how are you?

Ah. The OP makes more sense now.

Just ask her out again. Depending on the Scorp, a lot of "filler" text will become boring in time. I know you would lose my interest if that's all you're offering. I prefer face to face time or at the very least I want to hear your voice.

Do something casual, fun, not too intimate until she warms up a bit more.

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I told him to be direct and ask her out again, have a plan of action etc but he was waffling about sending her some sort of flirty text or how are you text, neither of which are actually asking her out again and both of which are pointless. He said he text her but got no response but he never answered my question of what did he text her...

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...Problem with me is that when I like someone, I tend to feel stooooopid insecure aha i second guess myself and over think everything because I don't want to mess things up. ...should send another flirty message or just a hey how are you?

Ah. The OP makes more sense now.

Just ask her out again. Depending on the Scorp, a lot of "filler" text will become boring in time. I know you would lose my interest if that's all you're offering. I prefer face to face time or at the very least I want to hear your voice.

Do something casual, fun, not too intimate until she warms up a bit more.

I told him to be direct and ask her out again, have a plan of action etc but he was waffling about sending her some sort of flirty text or how are you text, neither of which are actually asking her out again and both of which are pointless. He said he text her but got no response but he never answered my question of what did he text her...

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More than likely because it was exactly that, a pointless text. Meh, I find when Cap males ask for advice on Scorp women on this board it's the exact same thing every time. A lot of Scorps trying to convince him to just be direct and allowing things to flow naturally and the OP knowing better, so everyone is pretty much talking to themselves. Too much ego and concern about how they come across to truly engage a Scorp.

I'll exit here....

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...Problem with me is that when I like someone, I tend to feel stooooopid insecure aha i second guess myself and over think everything because I don't want to mess things up. ...should send another flirty message or just a hey how are you?

Ah. The OP makes more sense now.

Just ask her out again. Depending on the Scorp, a lot of "filler" text will become boring in time. I know you would lose my interest if that's all you're offering. I prefer face to face time or at the very least I want to hear your voice.

Do something casual, fun, not too intimate until she warms up a bit more.

I told him to be direct and ask her out again, have a plan of action etc but he was waffling about sending her some sort of flirty text or how are you text, neither of which are actually asking her out again and both of which are pointless. He said he text her but got no response but he never answered my question of what did he text her...

More than likely because it was exactly that, a pointless text. Meh, I find when Cap males ask for advice on Scorp women on this board it's the exact same thing every time. A lot of Scorps trying to convince him to just be direct and allowing things to flow naturally and the OP knowing better, so everyone is pretty much talking to themselves. Too much ego and concern about how they come across to truly engage a Scorp.

I'll exit here....

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I love how your assumptions are the exact opposite aha

Now who's playing a game?

The assumptions arise because there is little information provided by you. When you're asked a direct question you don't answer it. You bypass it. Therefore, we use your behaviour on here along with other Cap/Scorp scenarios to try to offer assistance/feedback. Your ego is displayed in your latest post.

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Now who's playing a game?

The assumptions arise because there is little information provided by you. When you're asked a direct question you don't answer it. You bypass it. Therefore, we use your behaviour on here along with other Cap/Scorp scenarios to try to offer assistance/feedback. Your ego is displayed in your latest post.

Lol i just think it's funny how people try to act like they know what's going on with the "little information" they have... anyways it's not like it matters, but thanks for the advice.

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Now who's playing a game?

The assumptions arise because there is little information provided by you. When you're asked a direct question you don't answer it. You bypass it. Therefore, we use your behaviour on here along with other Cap/Scorp scenarios to try to offer assistance/feedback. Your ego is displayed in your latest post.

Lol i just think it's funny how people try to act like they know what's going on with the "little information" they have... anyways it's not like it matters, but thanks for the advice.

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So she didn't reply back to you?

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Now who's playing a game?

The assumptions arise because there is little information provided by you. When you're asked a direct question you don't answer it. You bypass it. Therefore, we use your behaviour on here along with other Cap/Scorp scenarios to try to offer assistance/feedback. Your ego is displayed in your latest post.

Lol i just think it's funny how people try to act like they know what's going on with the "little information" they have... anyways it's not like it matters, but thanks for the advice.

So she didn't reply back to you?

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She didn't... I'm a Capricorn, I like a challange.. I like to go for what I want and work for it... her though, after texting her and telling her I'd like to go out again some time with no reply, not even to blow me off? Lol that seems pretty clear to me.