Why is this scorpio so afraid of love?

I met my scorpio bf over a year ago, we had this AMAZING connection, like twin flames. He told me about his insecurities and how people had severly hurt him in the past, that It's hard for him to trust anyone. Knowing this up front and because I myself on
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  • Iridessaries
    female
    I met my scorpio bf over a year ago, we had this AMAZING connection, like twin flames. He told me about his insecurities and how people had severly hurt him in the past, that It's hard for him to trust anyone. Knowing this up front and because I myself only get involved with someone for the long haul and bc I really felt he was the one, I would sure make him feel secure.
    I would always tell him where I was, what I was doing etc... He had access to my fb and Phone whenever he had questions, I had nothing to hide. Everyday I told and showed him I love him. We spent most of our days and nights together. But the minute I was on my own he would question things. Not only question, he was convinced of his own mind and wouldn't waver. Followed by disappearing for one or 2 days, only to come back apologizing. I would tell he can't treat people like that, that I understood his fears but reassured him I was devoted to him and that I wouldn't lie or hurt him. And I never did, I didnt even tell a white lie bc I knew how important honesty was to him.

    As time went by he became more and more paranoid. He ignored me for 2 days bc I went to the store while he thought I was home. I went to the store...smdh. that's just one exempel, I could give 50. No matter his insecurities I never changed and kept doing what I do. Telling him I loved him, being there and supporting him in what he did, hobbies. I spent every free moment I had with him and his kids. But the questionning remained. The ignoring and disappearing acts went from one day up to a week. As an Aries I would panic the first day, but after that first day I'd just leave him be. He knew How I felt but always said I was the love of his life and that he wouldn't leave me ever.

    Although we talked about his fears and falsely accusing, he said he believed me and trusted me, but I feel like he never really did. I do believe he wanted to, but he was always looking for that sign that said: you'll hurt me too. Exhausting to say the least. But I really love him to the core so I never gave up and kept showing him he was everything to me.

    A month ago we were having a fun day, just the two of us, dancing and drinking at his house. I received a message from a Friend asking me if I still went on my daily nature walks and if he could come with sometime. Before answering I told my bf I got this message and boom, he freaked out. We were drunk yes but nothing mean was said. I tried talking, he wanted to be alone. Which would have been fine, but I was drunk and couldnt just leave and drive home. So I just stayed quiet on the couch playing with his dog and trying not to trigger him more.
    He would be calm and then again said I needed to leave. I told him I would but I couldnt for now. He got mad and said he'd call the police if I didnt leave that seconde... wtf! So yeah, this Aries didnt take that threat lightly. I didnt throw a tantrum, just got my stuff and called a taxi. It cost me 80 $ to get home too.

    Two days later he texted me to come over and talk. Every single thing he ever questionned came back and he still believed them to be true, I had no idea!! Then he said I always started drama and that he needed time. The Aries in me wanted to object but it would have backfired, so once again I told him I loved him and that I wasnt who he made me in his head.
    We spoke on the phone almost daily and were supposed to meet this Sunday. On Friday we had a talk, a nice talk too, at one point I did mention that when he ignored me I asked myself who or what I was to him. He hung up and didnt show up Sunday. Just a text saying he wouldn't come and then he blocked me.
    I lost my cool for 4 minutes I must admit. I left a voicemail saying he was a coward. That must of hurt, but c'mon.

    So now, I'm just wondering where to go from here. Our connection is still so strong, I feel his presence almost throughout the entire say. He never shy'd away his love for me, but he kept pushing and pulling now blaming me for starting drama. Honest, I never did. IF I had something on my mind I would bring it up carefully, but it was maybe 4 times in a year. I just don't understand what is happening. How much more can you do for a scorpio before they believe you love them?

    Confused and hurt
  • Hmm .. just leave them ? Why should you bother convincing someone you love them . You love them , if they accept and believe it fine . If they don't , just let it go . I still believe that if you are "supposed" to be with someone you should constantly chased after them or convince them .

    I mean your "scorpio" seems to be on his period or something to act up like this . Just stop talking to him for a while ..
    I know it's easier said than done , but I believe that if you are really done with these actions you should tell him and just go . Life's short keep going
  • Aliensusedourbogroll
    No silicon heaven? Preposterous! Where would all the calculators go?
    Nothing you will do or say will be good enough to make him feel secure.
  • 13th
    scorp sun-bull moon-virgo asc
    Who wouldnt be afraid of love....Who in their right mind would want to be dependent on another human being? If I fall in love it'll be by mistake lol Oh, sorry OP, I dont have an answer for you
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    He sounds exhausting. Why do you love him again? Like what are his good traits, what's he bringing to the table...?
  • Iridessaries
    female
    Well, he chose love before but he got burned real bad. So I get it. But I am not these people. I have done everything a persoon van do. Oh just hurts me for him.
    He can be happy if he wants to, he just can't see it. That hurts him, but it hurts me as well. I feel like my words and actions mean nothing to him, as if they don't register
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    Your censoring your words and reactions around him, walking on eggshells. If you can't speak your mind then how can he claim to love you. He doesn't even know you...
  • pinkbird03
    Cancer 💕
    I sort of understand his jealousy and fear. It can be hard to trust someone especially after you've been hurt. Ive been there before and the only way I got better was being single for years and working on myself.

    From your standpoint, you sound like a mother taking care of a child. You're overly cautious and always putting his needs above yours. Eventually you will turn bitter and begin to hate him.
  • Aliensusedourbogroll
    No silicon heaven? Preposterous! Where would all the calculators go?
    He's not afraid of love. He's afraid of not being in control.
  • Iridessaries
    female
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    He sounds exhausting. Why do you love him again? Like what are his good traits, what's he bringing to the table...?


    I love him doe his soul for starters. But also bc he pushes me to limits in a good way. I do stuff I was always afraid of doing. He makes me feel safe. And bc with him I have a feeling of what love really should feel like
  • Aliensusedourbogroll
    No silicon heaven? Preposterous! Where would all the calculators go?
    Has he hit you yet? Or been physically intimidating?
  • Iridessaries
    female
    Posted by LadyNeptune
    Your censoring your words and reactions around him, walking on eggshells. If you can't speak your mind then how can he claim to love you. He doesn't even know you...


    I think this hits home really close as I had that same thought a week ago. I got a chance to know him, but not the other way around.
  • 13th
    scorp sun-bull moon-virgo asc
    Posted by PootyButt
    Posted by 13th
    Who wouldnt be afraid of love....Who in their right mind would want to be dependent on another human being? If I fall in love it'll be by mistake lol Oh, sorry OP, I dont have an answer for you


    It's interesting that you associate love with dependency. Do you mean that you become dependent on that person as in they can leave and break your heart?
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    Yes.

  • Iridessaries
    female
    Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
    Has he hit you yet? Or been physically intimidating?


    Why would you ask that? ?

    He can be moody when things don't go as planned yes. But don't we all?
  • 13th
    scorp sun-bull moon-virgo asc
    PootyButt whats your placements (sun-asc-moon)?..You part of the fraternity or youre just visiting? Just curious
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