What are your thoughts?

Posted by Moon_River

He’s EMoTiOnaLly UnAVaiLaBLe.

Don’t waste your time.

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Posted by MadTwins80

Well I'm not Sherlock Holmes but when he says he's feeling you and wants to spend more time with you but is busy trying to get his life in order I would deduce that to mean the following:

1) He's feeling you too

2) He wants to spend more time with you

3) He's busy right now trying to get his life in order

I hope that helps clarify the situation 🤔

but maybe we need to explore this further idk..

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Maybe I missed the ambiguity in his text? 🤔

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Background details: I’ve known this guy for 5 years. We’ve always had a unique friendship. We have deep conversations and bomb sex. Just recently I’ve started to crush on him. So I went for it and told him. He replied. Let me know what you think. Am I wrong to think he’s not into me that way?

Text thread reads as follows:

Me: Idk if you can tell but I’m feeling you & I wanted to be outright with that truth

Him: I’m feeling you too. I’m just busy rn tryna get my life in order but I definitely wanna spend more time with you. You know I’ve always cared about you

Posted by MadTwins80

Well I'm not Sherlock Holmes but when he says he's feeling you and wants to spend more time with you but is busy trying to get his life in order I would deduce that to mean the following:

1) He's feeling you too

2) He wants to spend more time with you

3) He's busy right now trying to get his life in order

I hope that helps clarify the situation 🤔

but maybe we need to explore this further idk..

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Posted by MadTwins80

Well I'm not Sherlock Holmes but when he says he's feeling you and wants to spend more time with you but is busy trying to get his life in order I would deduce that to mean the following:

1) He's feeling you too

2) He wants to spend more time with you

3) He's busy right now trying to get his life in order

I hope that helps clarify the situation 🤔

but maybe we need to explore this further idk..

But if you like someone won't you make time for them? Nothing wrong with the reply but like OP said this makes it seem like he is not too into her?

🤣 I actually can't tell if you're trolling me 🤣

Maybe he is feeling her and wants to spend more time with her but right now he's busy trying to get his life in order. That's my best guess 😕🤔

You want to date a teenager who drops everything in his life to spend every minute of the day with you or you want a man who takes care of himself and his life so he can be the best he can be and you can spend quality time together?

If he says he's busy trying to get his life in order, that's what he's doing , unless a) he's lying b) it's an excuse or c) he just says random words but my experience of this individual is limited to one sentence of text so I'm inclined to take him at face value 😂

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Posted by MadTwins80

Well I'm not Sherlock Holmes but when he says he's feeling you and wants to spend more time with you but is busy trying to get his life in order I would deduce that to mean the following:

1) He's feeling you too

2) He wants to spend more time with you

3) He's busy right now trying to get his life in order

I hope that helps clarify the situation 🤔

but maybe we need to explore this further idk..

But if you like someone won't you make time for them? Nothing wrong with the reply but like OP said this makes it seem like he is not too into her?

🤣 I actually can't tell if you're trolling me 🤣

Maybe he is feeling her and wants to spend more time with her but right now he's busy trying to get his life in order. That's my best guess 😕🤔

You want to date a teenager who drops everything in his life to spend every minute of the day with you or you want a man who takes care of himself and his life so he can be the best he can be and you can spend quality time together?

If he says he's busy trying to get his life in order, that's what he's doing , unless a) he's lying b) it's an excuse or c) he just says random words but my experience of this individual is limited to one sentence of text so I'm inclined to take him at face value 😂

haha not trolling. 🙂 His response may be genuine, but I think the point is from a girl's perspective he sounds not that into her. I may be wrong though. Yes, I would not want someone who drops everything and spends all his time with me, but someone who makes time for me because that is what he wants. He feels like he wants to spend time with me. You are right, I don't know this person either, but that is the vibe I got from those words. 🙂

lol that's funny 😄 as a guy when I see what he's written it sounds to me that he's really into her! "You know I've always cared about you" when he says that it means he's always had feelings for her but he's gone with the flow of it being a casual thing . He's saying he feels the same and he wants to be more with her , not just time but deeper connection but in order to do that he has to sort his life out a bit first . We can't give ourselves fully if we're not happy with our lives and where we are at

Seriously if you're questioning this text trying to see the hidden message behind his words then I don't know what to say ! 😃🤦‍♂️He means what he says . This is funny to me

"I love you"

"I love you too"

What the hell does that mean?!? "I love you too" ?!? wtf - dxp? PLEASE HELP omg , I'm so confused right now 😂🤣

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Posted by MadTwins80

Well I'm not Sherlock Holmes but when he says he's feeling you and wants to spend more time with you but is busy trying to get his life in order I would deduce that to mean the following:

1) He's feeling you too

2) He wants to spend more time with you

3) He's busy right now trying to get his life in order

I hope that helps clarify the situation 🤔

but maybe we need to explore this further idk..

But if you like someone won't you make time for them? Nothing wrong with the reply but like OP said this makes it seem like he is not too into her?

🤣 I actually can't tell if you're trolling me 🤣

Maybe he is feeling her and wants to spend more time with her but right now he's busy trying to get his life in order. That's my best guess 😕🤔

You want to date a teenager who drops everything in his life to spend every minute of the day with you or you want a man who takes care of himself and his life so he can be the best he can be and you can spend quality time together?

If he says he's busy trying to get his life in order, that's what he's doing , unless a) he's lying b) it's an excuse or c) he just says random words but my experience of this individual is limited to one sentence of text so I'm inclined to take him at face value 😂

haha not trolling. 🙂 His response may be genuine, but I think the point is from a girl's perspective he sounds not that into her. I may be wrong though. Yes, I would not want someone who drops everything and spends all his time with me, but someone who makes time for me because that is what he wants. He feels like he wants to spend time with me. You are right, I don't know this person either, but that is the vibe I got from those words. 🙂

lol that's funny 😄 as a guy when I see what he's written it sounds to me that he's really into her! "You know I've always cared about you" when he says that it means he's always had feelings for her but he's gone with the flow of it being a casual thing . He's saying he feels the same and he wants to be more with her , not just time but deeper connection but in order to do that he has to sort his life out a bit first . We can't give ourselves fully if we're not happy with our lives and where we are at

Seriously if you're questioning this text trying to see the hidden message behind his words then I don't know what to say ! 😃🤦‍♂️He means what he says . This is funny to me

"I love you"

"I love you too"

What the hell does that mean?!? "I love you too" ?!? wtf - dxp? PLEASE HELP omg , I'm so confused right now 😂🤣

lol I know it sounds funny talking about vibes from words, I guess now I am just talking about my experiences. I have to feel a guys words or rather his actions, he may say anything but it has to feel right. This guy may totally be sincere as you mentioned, but can we at least agree that he does not sound romantic? 😄 Actually, never mind, for me romance is also a vibe, he may do the most mundane thing and I may find that romantic than someone else who tries to say things that may be romantic but don't feel so. So going back to topic, I will say I don't really know what he means. Maybe he just means what he is saying like you said. Sometimes girls over complicate things 😄

"Idk if you can tell but I’m feeling you & I wanted to be outright with that truth"

Does that sound romantic? I think you girls expect too much of us sometimes. She said she's feeling him and it's like you expect him to get down on one knee and confess his undying love for her.. he said more than she did! I think you expect guys to take all the risk. We have feelings too , we don't want to look like fools when we say "yes! I've always known we were meant to be together for ever. I love you so much!" and she says "woah chill I was just playing , wtf is wrong with you?" 😃



In my eyes he gave back more than she gave him. He took her message , mirrored it back and added to it plus explained why he wasn't able to jump into a serious relationship that very second

I think it's just a girl enjoying the angst of is this love or not? when really there's no way to tell from his words like you and others said, the truth will come out in his actions. I'm not saying you couldn't read different meanings into his words but going on the extremely limited info we have on this guy I don't see any reason not to take his words at face value

Hopefully he'll be willing to come on here for an interview and then we can really work out what's going on 😂

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Posted by MadTwins80

Well I'm not Sherlock Holmes but when he says he's feeling you and wants to spend more time with you but is busy trying to get his life in order I would deduce that to mean the following:

1) He's feeling you too

2) He wants to spend more time with you

3) He's busy right now trying to get his life in order

I hope that helps clarify the situation 🤔

but maybe we need to explore this further idk..

But if you like someone won't you make time for them? Nothing wrong with the reply but like OP said this makes it seem like he is not too into her?

🤣 I actually can't tell if you're trolling me 🤣

Maybe he is feeling her and wants to spend more time with her but right now he's busy trying to get his life in order. That's my best guess 😕🤔

You want to date a teenager who drops everything in his life to spend every minute of the day with you or you want a man who takes care of himself and his life so he can be the best he can be and you can spend quality time together?

If he says he's busy trying to get his life in order, that's what he's doing , unless a) he's lying b) it's an excuse or c) he just says random words but my experience of this individual is limited to one sentence of text so I'm inclined to take him at face value 😂

haha not trolling. 🙂 His response may be genuine, but I think the point is from a girl's perspective he sounds not that into her. I may be wrong though. Yes, I would not want someone who drops everything and spends all his time with me, but someone who makes time for me because that is what he wants. He feels like he wants to spend time with me. You are right, I don't know this person either, but that is the vibe I got from those words. 🙂

lol that's funny 😄 as a guy when I see what he's written it sounds to me that he's really into her! "You know I've always cared about you" when he says that it means he's always had feelings for her but he's gone with the flow of it being a casual thing . He's saying he feels the same and he wants to be more with her , not just time but deeper connection but in order to do that he has to sort his life out a bit first . We can't give ourselves fully if we're not happy with our lives and where we are at

Seriously if you're questioning this text trying to see the hidden message behind his words then I don't know what to say ! 😃🤦‍♂️He means what he says . This is funny to me

"I love you"

"I love you too"

What the hell does that mean?!? "I love you too" ?!? wtf - dxp? PLEASE HELP omg , I'm so confused right now 😂🤣

lol I know it sounds funny talking about vibes from words, I guess now I am just talking about my experiences. I have to feel a guys words or rather his actions, he may say anything but it has to feel right. This guy may totally be sincere as you mentioned, but can we at least agree that he does not sound romantic? 😄 Actually, never mind, for me romance is also a vibe, he may do the most mundane thing and I may find that romantic than someone else who tries to say things that may be romantic but don't feel so. So going back to topic, I will say I don't really know what he means. Maybe he just means what he is saying like you said. Sometimes girls over complicate things 😄

"Idk if you can tell but I’m feeling you & I wanted to be outright with that truth"

Does that sound romantic? I think you girls expect too much of us sometimes. She said she's feeling him and it's like you expect him to get down on one knee and confess his undying love for her.. he said more than she did! I think you expect guys to take all the risk. We have feelings too , we don't want to look like fools when we say "yes! I've always known we were meant to be together for ever. I love you so much!" and she says "woah chill I was just playing , wtf is wrong with you?" 😃



In my eyes he gave back more than she gave him. He took her message , mirrored it back and added to it plus explained why he wasn't able to jump into a serious relationship that very second

I think it's just a girl enjoying the angst of is this love or not? when really there's no way to tell from his words like you and others said, the truth will come out in his actions. I'm not saying you couldn't read different meanings into his words but going on the extremely limited info we have on this guy I don't see any reason not to take his words at face value

Hopefully he'll be willing to come on here for an interview and then we can really work out what's going on 😂

ok ok 😄 I agree better to take his words at face value in this situation, while waiting for the interview 😄 I hope things move in a positive direction for them. It was interesting to see your perspective here. Seeing it from the other side.

Yes , it is interesting because this was cut and dry to me and I'm surprised anyone thinks otherwise. This is the kind of exchange where the guy thinks everything is cool and then is shocked when his woman is mad at him 😂 and he has no clue why..

Can I ask you a question? What would you have loved his response to have been if it was you? Like, can you give me the exact text you would have liked to receive back

(for research purposes 😋)

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