Wth is going on!!! Please advise

Please tell me at some point you stood up for yourself and didn't just try to convince him to work things out. Scorpios...men in particular need strong partners who they know can tell other people "No" or "get away" or "not today" when they are busy in their careers. If he doesn't see this strength in you before you get married, he might think that you're a people pleaser and will do whatever anyone asks while he's focusing on his career. I know that demonstrating that strength is probably not common in your culture, but a Scorpio man, no matter what the culture is going to be a strong personality no matter and needs a similar strength in his partner. He doesn't want you to be a doormat, but he does want you to do what he wants. I know...ironic. However, you can do what he wants...what pleases him without being a doormat.

You two are too young to be married.

Posted by Arielle83
You can't really do much if it's arranged

It's not an arranged marriage. I didn't mention that anywhere.
We met each other four years ago. We told our parents we want to get married

What is with his behaviour though. I don't get it. It's like he wants to be with me but he doesn't.

I don't mind if we don't get married just yet. Is he scared and just took it out on me or does he really mean he doesn't wana be with me?

His recent text sounds like he cares. It's all mixed messages.

He said some really harsh/mean things so that's why it's confusing.
I don't know if he means it or he's saying it out of anger and that he's scared.

I love him very much. I don't want to lose him. I haven't really forced him to do anything. His mum is the one who wants things to start progressing and moving forwards.
He said he's more interested in his career.

When we are together, he's really sweet and affectionate towards me. His actions are that he cares about me and I know he does.

This has hit me like a ton of bricks. I don't really know what to say or do.

Okay little lady, first off I want you to do your best and calm yourself. You are coming off very emotional and very dependent even if it’s not your intent. The others are right, there is no room for weakness or tender skin around this sign. You will get scratched up and tossed the side in a heart beat. You have to toughen up when he get’s like this. Soft and pretty words, will make him either toy with your emotions even more just for sport because you’re allowing it, OR he will use you as a personal emotional punching bag for things that have nothing to do with you, hence his nasty attitude and cruel words.

I’m going to tell you point blank, that this man is upset and frustrated about something and it seems he’s battling it internally. You trying to push it out of him is making it worse. I’ve noticed with this sign, and others that are reserved or distant when upset, busy, sad, or depressed that you do best falling back when they get like this. If I were you I would not utter the word marriage, commitment, or relationship it will make him feel like there is more pressure on him and he will continue to lash out. I’ve learned that when they are like this you MUST back off! Get some hobbies, hang with friends, but leave him alone. Boyfriend or not, he will not appreciate you nagging or constantly trying to talk about a relationship when he has other “things” to think and worry about. Not fair right? RIGHT! Which is why you have to leave him alone in the dust to wallow, and when he looks up and see’s that you were strong enough to walk away from someone (even HIM) for treating you poorly he will gain respect for you. If a man does not respect you, he cannot love you, and for damn sure won’t treat you the way you deserve because he does not respect you.

It all starts with respect. Even if he is dis-pleased with your attitude or behavior there is a way of going about it or saying it to you. Him being nasty and rude was probably not intentional at first, but when he saw that you were allowing it, it got worse because little by little he was losing respect. I don’t care how much you love this man, your words should have been “You seem upset, would you like to talk about it?” if he said “No.” I would’ve said “Okay hun. Well I’ll never force you to talk, but when you’re ready just know I’m all ears.” And drop it. Not another word after that. At that point he would’ve known you cared enough to notice he was upset, but you were respectful of his space enough to give him a choice on whether he wants to talk about it. I think people fail to realize when dating, the other person does NOT have to ALWAYS tell you what’s bothering them, unless it has something to do with you. With me if I ask a partner what’s going on, if they choose not to tell me, that’s fine but I wont tolerate neglect or emotional abuse while they go through their shit either. I’ll let them know ONE time, in ONE conversation how their actions are making me feel, if they keep it up I’ll exit without so much as a syllable. It does you no good to beat dead horse with words. It will NOT benefit you to try and get this man to see the bright future you see for the two of you, he has to see it on his own. You cannot force it. I know it’s hard because the two of you had a plan, but things change.

And just because he doesn’t want to be with you, or marry you right now does not mean he does not care. Don’t confuse things or make them more complicated. He told you flat out he doesn’t think the two of you are a good fit, he doesn’t want to be married or in a relationship, he basically broke up with you if you want the truth. This is what I would’ve said “I think you are making a mistake, but if you don’t want to be with me I certainly will not force you because I know my worth and what I bring to the table. So if you want to be done, you are free to go dude. No need to check on me tomorrow. I’ll be fine. See you around and have blessed life.” And then be done, and cry your tears to us , and anybody else BUT his ass. He already thinks your clingy, soft, and dependent, do not prove him right. Not if you want him to see you as the strong, sexy, and confident woman you are trying to convince him that you a

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He already thinks your clingy, soft, and dependent, do not prove him right. Not if you want him to see you as the strong, sexy, and confident woman you are trying to convince him that you are.

Posted by Lyse
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He already thinks your clingy, soft, and dependent, do not prove him right. Not if you want him to see you as the strong, sexy, and confident woman you are trying to convince him that you are.

Thanks for your words. It's has helped me a lot. I'm not sure if he will contact me. I don't even know how to move on forwards now or what the next move should be. I'm feeling really overwhelmed.

Obviously I dont want him to leave me and I don't know if he said all that out of anger.

If he contacts me what am I meant to do or say. I feel so confused.

I feel like he cares about me otherwise he wouldn't of text me to see if I got home safely. It's all mixed messages

Posted by IrresistableScorp
He said he didn't want to talk and you went on for a couple hours trying to get him to talk about it. Have you ever thought that maybe he's right? You don't fit together. Asking if ou got home alright is not mixed signals. Its being kind to someone who is in your life.

He may be right but I think we are ok together. I don't have an issue. He bought this all up out of nowhere.

It's a bit random cos he sent that text at 3am. Perhaps he just is being kind but I think it's more than that.

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Posted by jellybaby
I think we are good together. It's him. He's the one who is saying all this.

I feel like he's scared about the future and marriage will tie him down. It won't though and I'm not trying to change him

But you are, by acting like you know his needs better than he does.

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That's not my intention though. I know his career means a lot to him and I'm not gonna stop him from chasing it even if we do have a future. I'm not gonna stop him from going out and see his friends. He has a life and so do I but there should be a balance.

Posted by IrresistableScorp
Look, I'm going to be real with you. If any man says I don't think we make a good fit, you need to listen to that. Do you know how hard it is to actually say those words? You are not taking what he is plainly saying seriously. that right there must frustrate him. He doesn't think the two of you are a good fit. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It just means there are things he needs that he doesn't see you being able to accommodate and vice versa.

Just saying. Take that statement seriously. Most men won't come out and say they. they just fade out thinking that. he was honest.

I understand what you're saying but it was just out of the blue him saying it. That's why I didn't take it seriously. Four years is a long time to be with someone. Face to face we are good. We have jokes and talk about things. He's always been so affectionate and loving but then he comes out with that?! It doesn't make sense to me. His words don't match his actions.

So am I supposed to just give up and move on. How am I meant to do that. It's easier said then done. I love him. I can't see my future with anyone else.

I'm sure he cares about you no doubt! But scorpios are very passionate creatures and trust me when we click with someone we will know it. But there is a huge difference between having chemistry and being in love with someone. I dated a Gemini man for four years and I'm a Scorpio we had amazing chemistry we could never really connect on a spiritual level and decided to part ways. sometimes it's for the best it doesn't mean you were rejected it simply means you weren't meant to be together. FOCUS on YOURSELF. That's the best thing for you, I promise if you just see things for what they are the sooner the better

You are letting your emotions confuse you. He has laid it out plain and simple. He cares, but he does not want to be with you right now. Wanting to be with someone and caring about them are two different things.

If he contacts you don’t play games with him, he’ll see right through you and beat you at your own game anyway because he knows your feelings are running deeper than his right now. With me it would depend on whether or not I can handle seeing his name come across my screen with a bunch of mixed emotions on why we are not together running though my head. If I’m not strong enough he may not get a response it would depend on how strong I am that day. If you can’t see yourself keeping it short, and sweet with no emotional attachment when speaking to him then I would suggest you not speak to him at all.
I just don’t want you to continue telling him how you feel or what you want because I feel like you’ve said enough. If he tries to get you tell him how you feel, reverse it and get him talking first. Get in a habit of getting him to lay out his cards first if this is going go forward since you know you are not ready to be done. No declarations of love unless it’s on his end and you are reciprocating.

If he says things like “Good morning” or “Good night” ask how you’re doing, hows work or anything casual like that it’s because he doesn’t want to feel like the bad guy that left you hanging. He wants to clear his conscience and once his conscience is clear and he’s sure your fine he might stop altogether, and YOU need to be prepared for that. So that’s why I want you to get out of the habit of reading into the simple things that a person could do for a cousin or stranger. If he were looking at you like his woman, or one day wife you would hear from him a lot more, and you darn sure wouldn’t be on the internet trying to read between the lines. A scorpio is much too blunt for that. I could see if he was telling you he wanted to be with you but acting distant, then I’d say back off, live life and give him space to figure out what he wants. But since he told you flat out he doesn’t want to be with you, I think it’s important you remember those words came out of his mouth so you don’t let what you want get in the way of what he has told you. Deal with the FACTS, try to ignore the fantasy you’ve made up in your head about him. This is reality. I know Aquas and yes Libra both has a tendency to take a trip to our little dream land when in love. It’s time to come back down to earth. The Scorpio is forcing you to return to earth.

you're to in love with the idea of you and him. Let it go and go to a chip n dales that'll lift your spirit a little lol there's wayyy more fish in the see including ( bigger ones ) if yaddidameannn hahaha

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Posted by IrresistableScorp
Look, I'm going to be real with you. If any man says I don't think we make a good fit, you need to listen to that. Do you know how hard it is to actually say those words? You are not taking what he is plainly saying seriously. that right there must frustrate him. He doesn't think the two of you are a good fit. That doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you. It just means there are things he needs that he doesn't see you being able to accommodate and vice versa.

Just saying. Take that statement seriously. Most men won't come out and say they. they just fade out thinking that. he was honest.

I understand what you're saying but it was just out of the blue him saying it. That's why I didn't take it seriously. Four years is a long time to be with someone. Face to face we are good. We have jokes and talk about things. He's always been so affectionate and loving but then he comes out with that?! It doesn't make sense to me. His words don't match his actions.

So am I supposed to just give up and move on. How am I meant to do that. It's easier said then done. I love him. I can't see my future with anyone else.

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ha! Girl let me tell you with this one you should never assume what you are going to get.lol

I had dated one other Scorpio before the one I’m dating now, and one minute he was sweet affectionate and having a blast. The next he was quiet, reserved and barely touched me. I get along with all types of people. My personality is naturally bubbly like that. So when he’s quiet I turn on my charm and silly attitude to get him to burst out laughing no matter how strong his thoughts were he couldn’t resist my sense of humor. One time he was looking so serious I turned on the radio and started twerk dancing in my seat while sitting down, bobbing my head to the beat like I was gangsta (I’m a super girly girl) so you can imagine how silly I looked, he couldn’t hold it in, he burst out laughing. And just like that the mood lightened, and then there were other times he would be serious and I turned on my compassionate side, let him know I’m not just dating him to be his girl, I’m dating him because im also interested in being a loyal friend and confidant that he can talk to. I’d tell him he doesn’t have to open up but I cant wait for the day when we does so I can open up to him too. Sometimes I even had to tell him something deep in my life, then he’d return the gesture.

One time we went on a date, and he was cool at first. Then out of nowhere a switch went off and he turned cold and silent. He started giving me the cold shoulder. Me being the air sign, I decided I would enjoy my night and let him be negative by himself because I didn’t do shit to him. Swear I didn’t. So by the end of the night he was pissed that I wasn’t making a fuss over his attitude, next thing I knew he was hugging me like it would be our last hug. Then the next morning he cursed me out while telling me what was bothering him. I told him he was nuts, and what was bothering him had nothing to do with me and to call me when he learns how to speak to me correctly (he was jealous of a cousin that he felt had interest in me. His cousin was dating my sister at the time. Crazy right! I know) I barely spoke to his cousin. I’m not even physically attracted to his cousin, but he thinks because his cousin likes me that his cousin could’ve taken me away from him. He instantly apologized and told me it doesn’t even feel right being mad at me. Told me he cant stay mad at me even if he tried that’s why he hugged me the night before. He was a tad unstable in my opinion. This sign is very interesting when they are upset or having insider troubles.

Posted by Lyse
If he says things like “Good morning” or “Good night” ask how you’re doing, hows work or anything casual like that it’s because he doesn’t want to feel like the bad guy that left you hanging. He wants to clear his conscience and once his conscience is clear and he’s sure your fine he might stop altogether, and YOU need to be prepared for that. So that’s why I want you to get out of the habit of reading into the simple things that a person could do for a cousin or stranger. If he were looking at you like his woman, or one day wife you would hear from him a lot more, and you darn sure wouldn’t be on the internet trying to read between the lines. A scorpio is much too blunt for that. I could see if he was telling you he wanted to be with you but acting distant, then I’d say back off, live life and give him space to figure out what he wants. But since he told you flat out he doesn’t want to be with you, I think it’s important you remember those words came out of his mouth so you don’t let what you want get in the way of what he has told you. Deal with the FACTS, try to ignore the fantasy you’ve made up in your head about him. This is reality. I know Aquas and yes Libra both has a tendency to take a trip to our little dream land when in love. It’s time to come back down to earth. The Scorpio is forcing you to return to earth.

I guess I need to prepare myself then for the worst. It just feels weird. I don't like how things have ended.

I'm sure it is, trust me i've been there. But, remember at this point it is no longer about you and him. You have to do whats best for you, and protect yourself from any further emotional abuse. Like i said originally, just because he doesn't want to be with you does not give him the right to talk to you crazy.

Just because you love him doesn't mean snap his neck and check him if he gets out of line. A soft woman will not due. A sweet woman yes, they adore those i believe because she lets him take that lead roll, but he loves for her to turn hard and go off if he steps out of bounds. A sort of no nonsense type of woman.

Or you could be like me, speak your peace and leave his ass alone if he doesn't shape up. Trust me i know what it feels like to be completly in love with a man that most likely doesn't deserve your love anymore, and the bottom line is you gotta get with your girls go through the emotions, cry some tears, sip some wine and keep it moving. In my experience when i walk away i have never not had an ex try to get me back. Once you make up your mind that you gave it your very best shot and was a good woman to him, you can walk away with your broken heart that will heal over time, with your head held high.

you are very thick and show no dignity

i'm sorry to sound mean but i don't think anything can get through you. do you know how irritating it is when someone you are trying to reject refuse to hear you and can only see her/his own perspective and repeat x100 "but we are good together"?? the point he was trying to make is HE does not think you are good together. what you think re your relationship with him is irrelevant because HE IS NOT HAPPY. it is one-sided.

how more clear and rude do you need him to be for you to accept that he wants a break up? he does not want you. he does not want to marry you. he does not want a future with you. his heart and loyalty is no longer with you. in fact, judging by how thick you are, his heart may have never been with you. who knows, it's not unlikely that he may already meet someone else his heart desires.

and all those mixed signals he sent? just like another poster said, they were/are not mixed signals. they are basic kindness and courtesy to someone who you have dated for 4 years and care about. i remember my ex asked me why i still cared about him and cried when i broke up with him, did it mean that i still love him and want to work on the relationship? NO. i didn't want to break his heart but i had to and i felt his pain so i cried. he didn't have my heart so i had to leave.

you can not make someone love you. what you can do is to respect their wish and let them go. they will respect you for that instead of resent you.

Posted by iCloud9
you are very thick and show no dignity

i'm sorry to sound mean but i don't think anything can get through you. do you know how irritating it is when someone you are trying to reject refuse to hear you and can only see her/his own perspective and repeat x100 "but we are good together"?? the point he was trying to make is HE does not think you are good together. what you think re your relationship with him is irrelevant because HE IS NOT HAPPY. it is one-sided.

how more clear and rude do you need him to be for you to accept that he wants a break up? he does not want you. he does not want to marry you. he does not want a future with you. his heart and loyalty is no longer with you. in fact, judging by how thick you are, his heart may have never been with you. who knows, it's not unlikely that he may already meet someone else his heart desires.

and all those mixed signals he sent? just like another poster said, they were/are not mixed signals. they are basic kindness and courtesy to someone who you have dated for 4 years and care about. i remember my ex asked me why i still cared about him and cried when i broke up with him, did it mean that i still love him and want to work on the relationship? NO. i didn't want to break his heart but i had to and i felt his pain so i cried. he didn't have my heart so i had to leave.

you can not make someone love you. what you can do is to respect their wish and let them go. they will respect you for that instead of resent you.

Ok fair enough but if I'm so thick why would he spend time with me when he could just go and do his own thing. Why not end things earlier on. If I'm so thick, why does he let me speak to his mum regularly and see her often to catch up. Why would he invite me to his space. Why meet up with me and buy me things and pay for dinners etc. All these things are personal to him.
It's not like things were bad. They were great. To me, I just feel like he's scared of commitment and the future and he doesn't know how to deal with it.

Posted by femmefatale
Jellybaby, I think your fiancé was really exhausted and stressed that day. You were so concerned about the attention he didn't pay you earlier in the week, that you failed to notice the effort he made to spend time with you then. I really think you both owe each other an apology... you for being inconsiderate and him for saying such hurtful remarks.

Four years is a long time to just throw away, and you don't sound like you're ready to throw in the towel just yet so why not keep working at it?

Exactly, that's how I feel!!

Posted by Lyse
I'm sure it is, trust me i've been there. But, remember at this point it is no longer about you and him. You have to do whats best for you, and protect yourself from any further emotional abuse. Like i said originally, just because he doesn't want to be with you does not give him the right to talk to you crazy.

Just because you love him doesn't mean snap his neck and check him if he gets out of line. A soft woman will not due. A sweet woman yes, they adore those i believe because she lets him take that lead roll, but he loves for her to turn hard and go off if he steps out of bounds. A sort of no nonsense type of woman.

I'll bear that in mind. I'm gonna leave him to it.

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Posted by iCloud9
you are very thick and show no dignity

i'm sorry to sound mean but i don't think anything can get through you. do you know how irritating it is when someone you are trying to reject refuse to hear you and can only see her/his own perspective and repeat x100 "but we are good together"?? the point he was trying to make is HE does not think you are good together. what you think re your relationship with him is irrelevant because HE IS NOT HAPPY. it is one-sided.

how more clear and rude do you need him to be for you to accept that he wants a break up? he does not want you. he does not want to marry you. he does not want a future with you. his heart and loyalty is no longer with you. in fact, judging by how thick you are, his heart may have never been with you. who knows, it's not unlikely that he may already meet someone else his heart desires.

and all those mixed signals he sent? just like another poster said, they were/are not mixed signals. they are basic kindness and courtesy to someone who you have dated for 4 years and care about. i remember my ex asked me why i still cared about him and cried when i broke up with him, did it mean that i still love him and want to work on the relationship? NO. i didn't want to break his heart but i had to and i felt his pain so i cried. he didn't have my heart so i had to leave.

you can not make someone love you. what you can do is to respect their wish and let them go. they will respect you for that instead of resent you.

Ok fair enough but if I'm so thick why would he spend time with me when he could just go and do his own thing. Why not end things earlier on. If I'm so thick, why does he let me speak to his mum regularly and see her often to catch up. Why would he invite me to his space. Why meet up with me and buy me things and pay for dinners etc. All these things are personal to him.
It's not like things were bad. They were great. To me, I just feel like he's scared of commitment and the future and he doesn't know how to deal with it.

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again, you are projecting your wishful thinking by saying he is scared of commitment and doesn't know how to deal with it. it does not matter why he wants a break up.

ppl grow and learn about themselves in their 20s. it is wise to get married later. i changed my heart more times than i cared to admit when ex thought it was smooth and good for marriage. again, your perspective are yours alone. please, hear what he is telling you and respect his wish.

Of course it matters but it's hard to accept. Being with someone for four years and then letting go out of the blue is hard.

As mentioned before, there was no clue to this and that's why I find it so random. His actions have always been very loving and sweet. Perhaps that's why I'm saying he's scared of commitment. Throughout the day I never once mentioned anything about marriage. Only during that argument he said it. That's why I keep going back to the commitment stuff and saying he's worried and he's venting.

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you are very thick and show no dignity

i'm sorry to sound mean but i don't think anything can get through you. do you know how irritating it is when someone you are trying to reject refuse to hear you and can only see her/his own perspective and repeat x100 "but we are good together"?? the point he was trying to make is HE does not think you are good together. what you think re your relationship with him is irrelevant because HE IS NOT HAPPY. it is one-sided.

how more clear and rude do you need him to be for you to accept that he wants a break up? he does not want you. he does not want to marry you. he does not want a future with you. his heart and loyalty is no longer with you. in fact, judging by how thick you are, his heart may have never been with you. who knows, it's not unlikely that he may already meet someone else his heart desires.

and all those mixed signals he sent? just like another poster said, they were/are not mixed signals. they are basic kindness and courtesy to someone who you have dated for 4 years and care about. i remember my ex asked me why i still cared about him and cried when i broke up with him, did it mean that i still love him and want to work on the relationship? NO. i didn't want to break his heart but i had to and i felt his pain so i cried. he didn't have my heart so i had to leave.

you can not make someone love you. what you can do is to respect their wish and let them go. they will respect you for that instead of resent you.

Ok fair enough but if I'm so thick why would he spend time with me when he could just go and do his own thing. Why not end things earlier on. If I'm so thick, why does he let me speak to his mum regularly and see her often to catch up. Why would he invite me to his space. Why meet up with me and buy me things and pay for dinners etc. All these things are personal to him.
It's not like things were bad. They were great. To me, I just feel like he's scared of commitment and the future and he doesn't know how to deal with it.

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let it go. It's very very shameful to go chasing a man who don't want you. Have some pride and confidence in yourself. love yourself. he don't love you. so why are you wil

Posted by iCloud9
ppl grow and learn about themselves in their 20s. it is wise to get married later. i changed my heart more times than i cared to admit when ex thought it was smooth and good for marriage. again, your perspective are yours alone. please, hear what he is telling you and respect his wish.

I will do

*why are you willing to downgrade yourself?? it's very unrequited.

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*why are you willing to downgrade yourself?? it's very unrequited.

It's true what you say

Posted by femmefatale
Did you even talk to him about what happened the other day?

I haven't heard from him. I only received that text message he sent at 3am saying he just woke up & if I got home safely.
I replied back today and haven't heard anything further.

JellyBaby,
Please take some time for yourself so that you can gain some clarity about your relationship.
If you haven't already discussed the issues that you are having with your mate with his Mother; refrain from doing so. If you must vent go to your own family/close friends. Also, give him space and treat yourself with kindness in the meantime.
Good luck.

Posted by intheair
JellyBaby,
Please take some time for yourself so that you can gain some clarity about your relationship.
If you haven't already discussed the issues that you are having with your mate with his Mother; refrain from doing so. If you must vent go to your own family/close friends. Also, give him space and treat yourself with kindness in the meantime.
Good luck.

Thanks for your input.

I wouldn't speak to his mother about this. I know she and him are very close.

He may tell her I don't know. But if he did, I know she would call me to discuss.
In the meantime, I am giving him space and talking to friends - just living my life tbh.

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Did you even talk to him about what happened the other day?

I haven't heard from him. I only received that text message he sent at 3am saying he just woke up & if I got home safely.
I replied back today and haven't heard anything further.

I believe relationships aren't meant to be easy and what's killing you guys is lack of communication, for sure. Even now, you're here talking to everyone else when his reasoning/explanation is the only one that really matters. Maybe get off dxp and go call your man...lol

I just wanted to encourage you. Best wishes.

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Thank you!

I thought it was best to give him some space. Of course I want to pick up the phone and speak to him, I don't know if doing that today is a good idea

Out of curiosity, are you a scorpio as well femme fatale ?

No, it's ok.

I doubt he would want to hear from me if we had quite a bad argument just yesterday. I thought it would just annoy him more? I just guess he needs space. What do you think?

He did say to me he would contact me. Have know idea when that will be. If I don't hear from him, I will phone him. I just don't want him to think I'm being clingy or needy.

Posted by Lyse
I'm sure it is, trust me i've been there. But, remember at this point it is no longer about you and him. You have to do whats best for you, and protect yourself from any further emotional abuse. Like i said originally, just because he doesn't want to be with you does not give him the right to talk to you crazy.

Just because you love him doesn't mean snap his neck and check him if he gets out of line. A soft woman will not due. A sweet woman yes, they adore those i believe because she lets him take that lead roll, but he loves for her to turn hard and go off if he steps out of bounds. A sort of no nonsense type of woman.

This...on everything I love...YES!!!!

Posted by Lyse
Or you could be like me, speak your peace and leave his ass alone if he doesn't shape up. Trust me i know what it feels like to be completly in love with a man that most likely doesn't deserve your love anymore, and the bottom line is you gotta get with your girls go through the emotions, cry some tears, sip some wine and keep it moving. In my experience when i walk away i have never not had an ex try to get me back. Once you make up your mind that you gave it your very best shot and was a good woman to him, you can walk away with your broken heart that will heal over time, with your head held high.

And THAT!!! But I'll add that if you're not this type of woman and you are extremely soft, either get ready to be in an unbalanced unsatisfactory relationship with ANY man or get some toughness in you or take what he's dishing without complaining. It's just like that. Being a woman in a relationship with a man is never going to be a gender friendly picnic. It's a Venus and Mars thing...some men are better than others in that department and well...most men are just mean at times. I mean, men are GREAT...love them. However, you have to view things realistically. He's never going to relate to you like your parents or a sibling or a female friend that you've grown close to throughout the years. He's always going to be him and a man at that. Now...a Scorp man...Jesus...even more so bonkers and you have to give yourself a break or you WILL BREAK.

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Posted by jellybaby
No, it's ok.

I doubt he would want to hear from me if we had quite a bad argument just yesterday. I thought it would just annoy him more? I just guess he needs space. What do you think?

He did say to me he would contact me. Have know idea when that will be. If I don't hear from him, I will phone him. I just don't want him to think I'm being clingy or needy.

Well some space sounds like a plan, just make sure you guys talk eventually boo.

And sorry for the late responses :]

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Thank you, I'm sure we will do!

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Posted by Lyse
Or you could be like me, speak your peace and leave his ass alone if he doesn't shape up. Trust me i know what it feels like to be completly in love with a man that most likely doesn't deserve your love anymore, and the bottom line is you gotta get with your girls go through the emotions, cry some tears, sip some wine and keep it moving. In my experience when i walk away i have never not had an ex try to get me back. Once you make up your mind that you gave it your very best shot and was a good woman to him, you can walk away with your broken heart that will heal over time, with your head held high.

And THAT!!! But I'll add that if you're not this type of woman and you are extremely soft, either get ready to be in an unbalanced unsatisfactory relationship with ANY man or get some toughness in you or take what he's dishing without complaining. It's just like that. Being a woman in a relationship with a man is never going to be a gender friendly picnic. It's a Venus and Mars thing...some men are better than others in that department and well...most men are just mean at times. I mean, men are GREAT...love them. However, you have to view things realistically. He's never going to relate to you like your parents or a sibling or a female friend that you've grown close to throughout the years. He's always going to be him and a man at that. Now...a Scorp man...Jesus...even more so bonkers and you have to give yourself a break or you WILL BREAK.

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I think I need to hear from him first and see what's going on. From there I can make my next move. He has a really bad temper. I'm giving him some space for now.

So it's been a couple of days now. I text him a couple of hours ago asking to call me & we need to talk.

I haven't heard anything yet. Will he even call me? How long will it take?

Honey I was with a man for four years I KNOW its not easy but you need to make sure you think about yourself and what makes you happy. focus on your life and try not to let this healing process get to you. My main advice if you happen to part ways is shop A LOT with friends if you can, eat good food and go out more. Enjoy life and if he happens to call you AFTER you give him his space then take it from there... just consider his feelings and don't be in denial about it. Trusr me it'll only hurt you worse

I'd text him and just be honest say you're confused and tell him how you feel. Be honest that's key even if you don't want to open up to him Aquarius tend to be unemotional and that can def bother a scorpio

Posted by bettyfordssecondcousinidk
Honey I was with a man for four years I KNOW its not easy but you need to make sure you think about yourself and what makes you happy. focus on your life and try not to let this healing process get to you. My main advice if you happen to part ways is shop A LOT with friends if you can, eat good food and go out more. Enjoy life and if he happens to call you AFTER you give him his space then take it from there... just consider his feelings and don't be in denial about it. Trusr me it'll only hurt you worse

Thanks for your kind words.

In my eyes, I just feel like it's not officially over yet or maybe I'm just being stupid.

I have to respect what he wants to. For now I will continue living life, I don't want to get my hopes up. It's just all out of the blue.

Posted by bettyfordssecondcousinidk
I'd text him and just be honest say you're confused and tell him how you feel. Be honest that's key even if you don't want to open up to him Aquarius tend to be unemotional and that can def bother a scorpio

If I keep messaging him I feel like it's going to drive him further away. I want to contact him but I don't know what the right thing is to do.
That day when he said all that, I opened my heart to him. He knows I want a future with him. I'm not sure what else I can do.

You are right it’s not over. With a Scorpio in my opinion unless you royally piss him off, cross him, or hurt him, it’s never really over with them. Once theirs, ALWAYS theirs. Cancers are the same way, hell all the damn water signs think like that. I have a Pisces male I dated when I was 13, STILL thinking he has a shot, and a Cancer from 5 years ago popping up no matter how many times I tell his ass to have a nice life. So don’t worry about that. Right now, your issue is how this man is treating you.

Not another word in my opinion.
At this point I think you’ve said enough. He knows what you want, and how you feel. I mean idk if you speak 3 different languages maybe you could try saying it in those other languages so you won’t sound like your repeating yourself.
I wouldn’t say not one more word. If we talk about the relationship it would be because HE brought it up. I would leave it alone. You definitely need some YOU time, so you don’t lose yourself in this Scorpio web because it’s very easy to do so once you’ve fallen for any man. A woman can lose herself in her emotions. If this sounds like what you are going through I swear, a trip with the girls, wine, and a fresh new batch of clothes and shoes always does the trick. I’ve even switched my hairstyle, and even my car. The new me! Lol. The moment he becomes the least of your worries is when he will resurface, but so long as he feels you are off waiting for him somewhere, he will take longer. If you are following one another on social media I would upload myself having a damn good time with my girls looking great(nothing slutty or trashy, but definitely looking good). It will throw him completely off.