dumped a taurus, been trying to get them back ever since

how long were you together?

First off you can read the newly Taurus maintenance guide for further tips and tricks.. joking.

I think it won't be the same again when you're together. Let alone being together again. Its hard, but not impossible.

I feel like no matter how it ended, just the act of breaking up with a Taurus really wounds them.

All you can do is let him be.

Let it be.

What is meant to be will be.

Sorry this Taurus wouldn't take you back, I doubt he is either - from what you describe he took it hard, look at that downward spiral trip he went on... nope if I got hurt that bad, which I have and my ex came begging back, which he did and even though i wanted that, I really did, I didn't do it. Because I cant ever open up and be trusting again, instead, I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop and thats no good for anyone. You have made changes for the better, move on, forgive yourself and never do it again.

Posted by TaurusinTexas

Sorry this Taurus wouldn't take you back, I doubt he is either - from what you describe he took it hard, look at that downward spiral trip he went on... nope if I got hurt that bad, which I have and my ex came begging back, which he did and even though i wanted that, I really did, I didn't do it. Because I cant ever open up and be trusting again, instead, I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop and thats no good for anyone. You have made changes for the better, move on, forgive yourself and never do it again.

all of your posts remind me of my bull's voice. you are him in female form. it's uncanny.

Posted by jeane

how long were you together?

around 5 months but we saw each other everyday and he was surprisingly super intense.

Posted by Majin

First off you can read the newly Taurus maintenance guide for further tips and tricks.. joking.

I think it won't be the same again when you're together. Let alone being together again. Its hard, but not impossible.

awh that's unfortunate

Posted by TaurusinTexas

Sorry this Taurus wouldn't take you back, I doubt he is either - from what you describe he took it hard, look at that downward spiral trip he went on... nope if I got hurt that bad, which I have and my ex came begging back, which he did and even though i wanted that, I really did, I didn't do it. Because I cant ever open up and be trusting again, instead, I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop and thats no good for anyone. You have made changes for the better, move on, forgive yourself and never do it again.

ah rip, that really sucks. thank you 🙂

Posted by Schawq

hes Processing everything. He knows he deserves better but he still likes you. It’s understandable he has mixed emotions.

If you want a serious chance with him you need to be devoted to him and consistent, and emotionally mature.

A Taurus appreciates emotional maturity. At least I do. They hate games. And you don’t want to get on a Tauran’s vengeance side.

One positive I will say is that you’re admitting your wrongs. It’s important that you keep that same energy while he heals. Let him feel how he feels and accept how he feels.

fair enough, I guess I'll be consistent. thank you!

Posted by jeane

how long were you together?

his conversations usually are us talking then if it gets too long, he gkes "your responses are actually on the verge of being boring and edgy at the same time."

I said "it's either edgy or boring."

he replied with "you're like the subreddit me_irl."

"oh so you're calling me me_irl."

"no I'm calling you 12."

"why aren't your responses edgy and boring then?"

"Jesus Christ, I need a smoke."

"wow what an edgy reply... HINT HINT"

"there's a difference between being edgy and stating facts."

then I replied and he left me on read rip

Posted by TaurusinTexas

Sorry this Taurus wouldn't take you back, I doubt he is either - from what you describe he took it hard, look at that downward spiral trip he went on... nope if I got hurt that bad, which I have and my ex came begging back, which he did and even though i wanted that, I really did, I didn't do it. Because I cant ever open up and be trusting again, instead, I would always be waiting for the other shoe to drop and thats no good for anyone. You have made changes for the better, move on, forgive yourself and never do it again.

As a scorpio moon I can relate to this.

The downward spiral and all.

Trying to dig yourself out of a hole.

Replaying things in your mind all the time

Maybe things can be the same again, maybe they wont.

You say you were emotionally unbalanced back then...

How long ago was back then?

Posted by gemNi

nah. Your just crazy and he's amused by it until one no longer is.

You keep saying "I kept fixing myself".. sweety you've fixed absolutely nothing! unless in your own mind you've re wired your wrongs to feel right.

"I'm bipolar and in a fit of undiagnosed mania" - that right there needs fixing first.

how do i fix bipolar though, that's a diagnosed condition that i cant really "fix"... also by fixing, i meant going to therapy and taking meds till it worked.

but thanks anyway, i'll keep the rest of it in my mind.

Posted by DMV

You say you were emotionally unbalanced back then...

How long ago was back then?

9-10 months ago.

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nah. Your just crazy and he's amused by it until one no longer is.

You keep saying "I kept fixing myself".. sweety you've fixed absolutely nothing! unless in your own mind you've re wired your wrongs to feel right.

"I'm bipolar and in a fit of undiagnosed mania" - that right there needs fixing first.

how do i fix bipolar though, that's a diagnosed condition that i cant really "fix"... also by fixing, i meant going to therapy and taking meds till it worked.

but thanks anyway, i'll keep the rest of it in my mind.

I took it as you self diagnosed yourself as BPD w/o any diagnosis by a real doctor/ pyschologist. Not to sound harsh but you come off far worse than BPD like a combination of BPD, SPD (split personality).. I mean when you mentioned in your post of getting revenge by sleeping with your bf ex girlfriend to hurt him and yourself and then back again to flipping a switch and wanting him back.

I wouldn't know what to believe coming from you or how your encountered roles between your ex and his ex gf that you were sleeping with really plays out. Its the flipping switches that should alarm you.

I really do believe a lot of bi sexuals are on the SPD spectrum, too.

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no lmao I'm actually diagnosed. 🙂 and I didn't sleep with the ex, just went on mayne one date before she immediately wanted me to commit.

it's cool that you believe these things but not really sure they're right and besides that, I get why you think people self diagnose because a lot do but I haven't and it's kinda wrong of you to tell me I have borderline personality disorder sincd you aren't a psychiatrist. unless you meant to call bipolar BPD then uh i do have bipolar.

as for why I behave in such extreme ways, perhaps if you do a little bit more than look at the symptoms and actually read through on mental illnesses you'll figure out.

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Posted by gemNi

nah. Your just crazy and he's amused by it until one no longer is.

You keep saying "I kept fixing myself".. sweety you've fixed absolutely nothing! unless in your own mind you've re wired your wrongs to feel right.

"I'm bipolar and in a fit of undiagnosed mania" - that right there needs fixing first.

how do i fix bipolar though, that's a diagnosed condition that i cant really "fix"... also by fixing, i meant going to therapy and taking meds till it worked.

but thanks anyway, i'll keep the rest of it in my mind.

Easy, get an actual professional help.

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therapy + meds is professional enough but you can't cure bipolar.

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nah. Your just crazy and he's amused by it until one no longer is.

You keep saying "I kept fixing myself".. sweety you've fixed absolutely nothing! unless in your own mind you've re wired your wrongs to feel right.

"I'm bipolar and in a fit of undiagnosed mania" - that right there needs fixing first.

how do i fix bipolar though, that's a diagnosed condition that i cant really "fix"... also by fixing, i meant going to therapy and taking meds till it worked.

but thanks anyway, i'll keep the rest of it in my mind.

I took it as you self diagnosed yourself as BPD w/o any diagnosis by a real doctor/ pyschologist. Not to sound harsh but you come off far worse than BPD like a combination of BPD, SPD (split personality).. I mean when you mentioned in your post of getting revenge by sleeping with your bf ex girlfriend to hurt him and yourself and then back again to flipping a switch and wanting him back.

I wouldn't know what to believe coming from you or how your encountered roles between your ex and his ex gf that you were sleeping with really plays out. Its the flipping switches that should alarm you.

I really do believe a lot of bi sexuals are on the SPD spectrum, too.

no lmao I'm actually diagnosed. 🙂 and I didn't sleep with the ex, just went on mayne one date before she immediately wanted me to commit.

it's cool that you believe these things but not really sure they're right and besides that, I get why you think people self diagnose because a lot do but I haven't and it's kinda wrong of you to tell me I have borderline personality disorder sincd you aren't a psychiatrist. unless you meant to call bipolar BPD then uh i do have bipolar.

as for why I behave in such extreme ways, perhaps if you do a little bit more than look at the symptoms and actually read through on mental illnesses you'll figure out.

I said it and meant it, there's no way your just bipolar from your orignal post now hidden leading up to what your telling random people on here which is, too, far fetched for even a real professional to believe in, not even..

"I didn't sleep with the ex, just went on mayne one date before she immediately wanted me to commit."

Aside from your severe lack of empathy for anyone need I say revenge is intent let alone scoping out his ex gf in revenge is another level I wont lay on you of #% /*!

They can't help you if they dont know the full extent of your concerns, your concerns shared here needs to be disscussed with them in all honesty because Im not buying that they understand your social history in full scope.

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that's fine, it's not even your concern. you don't need to believe it but you have no right in telling me what I am or not.

I'm diagnosed.

end of story.

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Posted by gemNi

nah. Your just crazy and he's amused by it until one no longer is.

You keep saying "I kept fixing myself".. sweety you've fixed absolutely nothing! unless in your own mind you've re wired your wrongs to feel right.

"I'm bipolar and in a fit of undiagnosed mania" - that right there needs fixing first.

how do i fix bipolar though, that's a diagnosed condition that i cant really "fix"... also by fixing, i meant going to therapy and taking meds till it worked.

but thanks anyway, i'll keep the rest of it in my mind.

Easy, get an actual professional help.

therapy + meds is professional enough but you can't cure bipolar.

You can't cure it but it will help you how to embrace it and tempered it down. While diagnosing yourself won't do anything, just an excuse.

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I'm not. I'm actually diagnosed.bwhere are you getting the idea I'm not

Posted by mudra

At that year mark since you broke up... and it is still messy af like it is now...

Let it go. Really... for yourself but him too. In, out, back and forth. Hot and cold. Draining.

People come in and out of our lives. They teach us lessons. And it seems this lesson is self respect for him and for you to take space and reflect before you go balls out rage dumping anyone. Clearly some people don't put up with that crap. I've been here. Begging for someone back when it was just done.

Make room for people and events that don't drain you and make you worry.

I guess you're right. thank you. I'll do this.