Getting through to the Taurus Man....Slow and steady wins the race...But how?

I am a cancer female dating a taurus male. we've known of each other for almost a decade, were interested in each other back in the day, but never dated, due to both of us being in relationships. recently we have back come in contact and realized we still
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  • I am a cancer female dating a taurus male. we've known of each other for almost a decade, were interested in each other back in the day, but never dated, due to both of us being in relationships. recently we have back come in contact and realized we still liked each other. He has told me that he can see himself being with me, but when I asked if there was anyone else in the picture, he told me that he was considering someone else as well. He downplayed her and said they were not having sex, and made it seem like nothing was really there, just a casual re-connection, but he also is not the best with communicating with me. I sometimes feel as though i have to reach out to him in order to hear from him. If I go a while w/o talking to him, he will reach out but sometimes it takes a day or so to notice that im gone....when we are around each other, he is always touching me, trying to tickle me, and i caught a couple of gazes from him...but then he will leave, text me a few hours later, and then i won't hear anything from him the next day, unless i reach out...i know he wants to take it slow, and i have no issues being patient, knowing i have a reason to...how can i communicate that i am interested in him, and ask how he feels without adding too much pressure?

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  • DMV
    anybody else wanna be a hero? Sag Sun Scorpio Moon Scorpio Merc
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  • And how would you figure this
  • so far no one has a genuine answer for me lol
  • Posted by countrygirl88
    I am a cancer female dating a taurus male. we've known of each other for almost a decade, were interested in each other back in the day, but never dated, due to both of us being in relationships. recently we have back come in contact and realized we still liked each other. He has told me that he can see himself being with me, but when I asked if there was anyone else in the picture, he told me that he was considering someone else as well. He downplayed her and said they were not having sex, and made it seem like nothing was really there, just a casual re-connection, but he also is not the best with communicating with me. I sometimes feel as though i have to reach out to him in order to hear from him. If I go a while w/o talking to him, he will reach out but sometimes it takes a day or so to notice that im gone....when we are around each other, he is always touching me, trying to tickle me, and i caught a couple of gazes from him...but then he will leave, text me a few hours later, and then i won't hear anything from him the next day, unless i reach out...i know he wants to take it slow, and i have no issues being patient, knowing i have a reason to...how can i communicate that i am interested in him, and ask how he feels without adding too much pressure?

    More details to follow, pending response....


    Are you sleeping together?
  • earlorg16
    Taurus - Sun / Capricorn - Moon / Leo - Ascendant
    Posted by jeane
    Posted by countrygirl88
    I am a cancer female dating a taurus male. we've known of each other for almost a decade, were interested in each other back in the day, but never dated, due to both of us being in relationships. recently we have back come in contact and realized we still liked each other. He has told me that he can see himself being with me, but when I asked if there was anyone else in the picture, he told me that he was considering someone else as well. He downplayed her and said they were not having sex, and made it seem like nothing was really there, just a casual re-connection, but he also is not the best with communicating with me. I sometimes feel as though i have to reach out to him in order to hear from him. If I go a while w/o talking to him, he will reach out but sometimes it takes a day or so to notice that im gone....when we are around each other, he is always touching me, trying to tickle me, and i caught a couple of gazes from him...but then he will leave, text me a few hours later, and then i won't hear anything from him the next day, unless i reach out...i know he wants to take it slow, and i have no issues being patient, knowing i have a reason to...how can i communicate that i am interested in him, and ask how he feels without adding too much pressure?

    More details to follow, pending response....


    Are you sleeping together?
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    A very valid question.
  • No, not yet
  • Don't get me wrong, I'm not wanting or expecting an instant relationship....I am enjoying our flirting and getting to know each other...when I do hear from him, its like we never missed a beat...but i don't have time for games, and I am not about to waste my time...i want someone who is ready to settle down with the right person, not persons...
  • Bricks195
    Sun in Bull, Moon in Fish, etc. ENTJ
    male from USA
    OP, I think his flirting and handsy-ness is a good sign that he is attracted to you, but I'd be concerned about this other girl. If he thought he had to bring her up, then he probably feels something for her and didn't think he could or should hide it.

    He's trying to decide between the two of you. Not sure if you should go out of your way to win him over. That's something lower lifeforms do. Be who you are and let the chips fall where they may.

    Or just walk away if you don't like the idea of having to compete for someone's love. Perfectly valid.
  • Posted by countrygirl88
    No, not yet


    He is not leaving more than a few days before contacting you. Often he responds fairly quickly or within a few hours. How often would you like him to contact you?

  • Very valid point...he brought her up bc i asked if there was any other person in the picture....he responded yes, and did say that he once thought he could see himself with her, but that doesn't mean that they are going to be together....he then said that they aren't having sex, "or anything", like there was nothing really going on with her....i didn't pry bc i honestly don't care in the sense of being insecure, but the reason why it crossed my mind is bc i don't compete with females for male attention...just not that desperate....but i do like him and don't wanna throw things away based upon an assumption....

    Hi Jean, im more of a talk everyday type...when i am interested in someone i don't like days to go by without hearing from that person...im not saying that i need to be on the phone 24/7...just a call here, a text there...bc you make time for what you want, imo
  • Posted by countrygirl88
    Very valid point...he brought her up bc i asked if there was any other person in the picture....he responded yes, and did say that he once thought he could see himself with her, but that doesn't mean that they are going to be together....he then said that they aren't having sex, "or anything", like there was nothing really going on with her....i didn't pry bc i honestly don't care in the sense of being insecure, but the reason why it crossed my mind is bc i don't compete with females for male attention...just not that desperate....but i do like him and don't wanna throw things away based upon an assumption....

    Hi Jean, im more of a talk everyday type...when i am interested in someone i don't like days to go by without hearing from that person...im not saying that i need to be on the phone 24/7...just a call here, a text there...bc you make time for what you want, imo


    A typical Taurus may not be for you then. They will become occupied with other things. They are fairly independent and I think from my experience, they expect you to be the same.

    I speak to my partner fairly regularly but not everyday. There will be the odd days where he will get on with whatever he needs to deal with. Sometimes I will text and he might not respond for a few hours if he is busy. Its not personal. He's just busy.

    Especially while you are only dating and not in a exclusive relationship you might need to change your expectations.
  • I was thinking of letting him know that i am interested over dinner....I read that the taurus is slow to move and i may have to make the first move...through cooking dinner and inviting him over....im thinking of trying this move and letting him know that i am interested in him, and that i don't want to rush this or add undue pressure to him or myself, but i thought it fair that he knows so that he can tell me if the feeling will be reciprocated or not....thoughts???
  • Thank you Jean, that is actually what I was hoping you would say...i work full time and and in school full time, along with family obligations and friends...I wouldn't say i am too busy to date, but i will say that my own independance can sometimes allow for me to be used, or can easily send a message that i am not interested to those i date...im a military vet, so i am not used to dating civilians, but was told that if you don't hear something daily from the person you like, it means he is not interested...

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