Gil
@Gil
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Me and my Cap woman
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
My attitude over the next few days was quite interesting. During the first couple of days after the break up, I felt a great remorse. Seeing her in that condition destroyed me. I have managed to hurt the very person I was in love with. I would??ve done anything at that point to fix it. My attitude began to change and my logic took over. That's when I began to research our Zodiacs. I discovered a lot about myself and her. I went though pages upon pages of Taurus/Capricorn interactions and behaviors. I now know getting a Capricorn to reveal their feelings before their ready is impossible and they don't like pressure or games. I know it's very hard for them to forgive once you break their trust. Over the past couple of days, my attitude shifted to anger. You see, in my logic, if a person asks you how you feel about them, and you avert the answer, isn't that also playing games? If you have feelings for them and attempt to deceive them by pretending that you don't, then that is also a game. It took all of my courage and humility to tell her that I have fallen in love with her. I laid everything on the table. Even when the opportunity to reciprocate presented itself, she just walked off. I know I played a childish game, but how would I know it would anger her so much. After all, she never said how she felt about me during our 8 month relationship. Maybe I'm the more sensitive of the two of us, but I think if someone tells you they are in love with you, not matter what the circumstances, you talk to them. You don't shut them out knowing that it probably took all the courage in their body and soul to tell you. I would put my anger aside to either confirm my feelings for her or at least tell her that I don't feel the same way, unless the break up was due to infidelity. I wouldn't tell her not to call or email, because my feelings were hurt. I would take some responsibility in that I should??ve said something at that time, at least say I was full of crap and I did feel something or maybe ask a few questions on how I came to this conclusion or maybe just simply say I like you, but I don't love you yet. Something, anything! I wouldn't have walked out after being accused of not having feelings for someone??_unless I didn't have feelings. With those thoughts going through my head, I am now angry at her. I am angry because at her selfishness and irresponsibility to someone's profession of love to her. I know the G
I know the Goat and Bull are both stubborn. We are probably just waiting to see who will move next or hold out the longest. I am obeying her wishes and not contacting her. It has been 6 days since we've spoken. Even though I am angry, I still want to be with her and willing to work it out. I know at some point, I will stop trying. Before then, do you think I should disregard her wishes and call? Should I wait another week, another month? Thank you all so much, this website has given the courage to move on if need be.
OMG!! Gil my new friend! I'm a Cappy lady and let me be the first to say how sorry I am to hear that you're going through such pain and disappointment. I am dating a Taurus guy so everything that you have said about yourself is why I am patiently dating my bull because what you've expressed is exactly the kind of man I have myself. I think the best thing for you (just my own opinion) would be is to give her some space to digest all that you have said to her. You know, just like you bulls need space sometimes to ponder things? Maybe it's fear of her own feelings and her needing time to come to terms with them because I can't imagine a woman accepting beautiful gifts and a trip to Vegas just for the sake of it; again that is my own thinking that I would not be able accept if I didn't feel the same. I'm old fashioned in that sense.
With everything you've said, it sounds like fear and she perhaps is scared of getting hurt or putting her feelings out there when it comes to love, not to say that she does not feel the same but us Cappies are very protective of our hearts. We have a huge wall that many men cannot breakdown except for the Taurus male. 🙂 We are awfully afraid of being hurt. Has she been hurt in the past? That may be an issue also. There are plenty of great Cappy ladies that I hope will respond to you like TrueCap. But hold on and don't give up. Maybe just give her time and space just like what you yourself require sometimes.
With everything you've said, it sounds like fear and she perhaps is scared of getting hurt or putting her feelings out there when it comes to love, not to say that she does not feel the same but us Cappies are very protective of our hearts. We have a huge wall that many men cannot breakdown except for the Taurus male. 🙂 We are awfully afraid of being hurt. Has she been hurt in the past? That may be an issue also. There are plenty of great Cappy ladies that I hope will respond to you like TrueCap. But hold on and don't give up. Maybe just give her time and space just like what you yourself require sometimes.
lamawinelover, thank you so much. I feel like I commited a crime. If my punishment is to give her space for however long, then I will do that. I wish I had came here first for advice 😢
Posted by Gil
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Iamawinelover hit it right on the nail. Giver her space.
The chemistry between earth signs is a dynamic combination, but more often than not, the similarities can be extremely powerful...
A mirror image of ourselves are not painted in the most flattering light.
Tauruses want to take things slow, and open up when they're ready...but want their partners to be patient and adapt to their pace and way of doing things.
Capricorns want to take things slow, and open up when they're ready...but want their partners to be patient and adapt to their pace and way of doing things.
I think when we date each other, we get a secret dose of our own medicine.
When other signs express their feelings prematurely, we put them on pause.
When our (Taurus) feelings are expressed prematurely, and it's not immediately reciprocated, the insecurities kick in, and then we react then think about it later....instead of our usual reaction, think....think...ponder...and then make a decision.
I don't think you were playing games. I think for the first time in your life, you made an emotional-based decision, came out of character, realized it, and regretted it later.
Don't punish yourself too much Bull 😉
Give her some space.
I'm sure you would want the same.
Posted by Gil
lamawinelover, thank you so much. I feel like I commited a crime. If my punishment is to give her space for however long, then I will do that. I wish I had came here first for advice 😢
No, don't take it as a punishment just take it as part of her personality and it's ok. Expressing your true feelings and love for someone is not a crime. You did nothing wrong.
Gil....
It sounds like she's worth the wait.
It sounds like she's worth the wait.
Posted by Gil
lamawinelover, thank you so much. I feel like I commited a crime. If my punishment is to give her space for however long, then I will do that. I wish I had came here first for advice 😢
I didn't mean to just post that but just like TB77 (who I am a huge fan of 😉) said that you seem to regret what you have said but you shouldn't. You were open and honest and to me there is nothing more than she can ask for. I'm sure she appreciates that. She will come around sooner than you think. Just stay busy and let her come back to you. She will appreciate you giving her time to think things through. I will suggest when she does come back, don't dominate your initial conversation with questions about "what happened, where have you been". Tell her how happy you are to hear from her and let her bring the topic up first if she wants to talk about it and go from there. We are just as sensitive as Taurus people are and yes, I totally agree again with TB77 that it's a powerful emotional connection when earth signs date. 😉 We have the same traits and deep down understand each other better than any other connection. Don't give up!! Be patient..I know that is not easy for Bulls either. Lol.
Posted by DamnataPosted by Gil
I am really excited that a place like this exists.
My dear man, you speak too soon.click to expand
Lol!! I have to laugh at that.
I have little information to give you on the cap woman, of course they can come off cold, which tends to have a lot to do with pragmatic control. But I find that the best thing astrology gives you is perspective outside of your own.
Most people agree that the best place to start is Linda Goodman, and for this her love sign book, Taurus Man Capricorn woman starts on page 261.
http://sbioak.org/HOROSCOPE2/Linda-Goodman-Love-Signs.pdf<BR>
But you can also use astro as a tool to understand yourself.
You have a Libra Moon and Mars, these planets speaks to your emotions and actions. So you can feel things and want things to be very fair balanced. It wants to get back what it puts in. This can also give you insecurities and needs from people. The need to be liked, seen a certain way or felt about the way you want. I personally find a person with Liberian energy, sometimes has a hard time seeing the forest through the trees. In that they get so focused on what they feel they should be getting that they don't see all the benefits of what they do have, and how that could bring the true balance that they are looking for.
You sound like you have a lot of expectations of her, what she should have done, what she should do. And you will never have control of that. So as a life lesson, I think it's better to let those things go. She's not you, she's not going to do thing like you, and what she does won't be for the same reasons you might to them.
I think you have a Cancer Venus, but I'm not sure. If you do there are great benefits to that placement, but check into it??_. because the flip side of it, is it's very easy to see things as hurtful, to be defensive, a desire to overreact and over protect yourself, this may be the source of your lashing out with the fine its over!
When you do talk to her, better to do it from a good place. I suggest you get yourself centered. With an air moon it should be easier to reflect on what you??re feeling and understand it.
Most people agree that the best place to start is Linda Goodman, and for this her love sign book, Taurus Man Capricorn woman starts on page 261.
http://sbioak.org/HOROSCOPE2/Linda-Goodman-Love-Signs.pdf<BR>
But you can also use astro as a tool to understand yourself.
You have a Libra Moon and Mars, these planets speaks to your emotions and actions. So you can feel things and want things to be very fair balanced. It wants to get back what it puts in. This can also give you insecurities and needs from people. The need to be liked, seen a certain way or felt about the way you want. I personally find a person with Liberian energy, sometimes has a hard time seeing the forest through the trees. In that they get so focused on what they feel they should be getting that they don't see all the benefits of what they do have, and how that could bring the true balance that they are looking for.
You sound like you have a lot of expectations of her, what she should have done, what she should do. And you will never have control of that. So as a life lesson, I think it's better to let those things go. She's not you, she's not going to do thing like you, and what she does won't be for the same reasons you might to them.
I think you have a Cancer Venus, but I'm not sure. If you do there are great benefits to that placement, but check into it??_. because the flip side of it, is it's very easy to see things as hurtful, to be defensive, a desire to overreact and over protect yourself, this may be the source of your lashing out with the fine its over!
When you do talk to her, better to do it from a good place. I suggest you get yourself centered. With an air moon it should be easier to reflect on what you??re feeling and understand it.
Posted by Gil
@Astrobyn,
I looked it up and I am Gemini Venus.
Well that's embarrassing, I was wrong! It should be easier to find ways to relate to her, but I can see how that's hard if she doesn't communicate. And that may make you feel like you need a stronger need for information.
It did makes sense you have an Aries mercury tho. Its simple its fast it wants to win. Go big or go home kind of communication.
I think my whole point it, its really easy to see the world as "how its happening to me" "how its affecting me". It puts us in a mind set of well... what are other people doing wrong, cus the point of view of "me" will likely always want to see it self as right or the standard. And as right as that feels, its also delusional.
And that is Taurus energy, it because it needs to find a way to relate things to themselves to understand them.
TaurusLovesScorpio,
I don't have her birth time. She has Venus Aquarius, Mercury Capricorn, Moon Scorpio and Jupiter, Mars and Saturn all in Virgo. Taurus Ascendant.
I don't have her birth time. She has Venus Aquarius, Mercury Capricorn, Moon Scorpio and Jupiter, Mars and Saturn all in Virgo. Taurus Ascendant.
Posted by PVandJellay
Aqua Venus
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/astrology/venus-in-aquarius-4615322/
Though I'm gonna venture that it's Scorpio moon that's writing you off, not Aquarius Venus.
I would agree with that. I think she is not reacting to you announcing your love for her, but for shutting her down when she didn't respond how you expected, and saying it was over. You sort of pushed her emotionally, as well as caught her off guard.
I once, idiotically, thought that I wanted to be with the Scorpio FWB I was hooking up with for 2 years before I came to my senses. But he sort of dismissed that idea. And I reacted by dropping an Ace up my sleeve tidbit of information, and he proceeded to shut me out. He's also done this once before when I began a relationship in the midst of or FWB, and when he wanted to hook up I told him no because I was with someone. When that short lived romance fizzled out, I hit him up, and he promptly attempted to put me in my place. Of course, that backfired on him from there on out.
All this to say, I can definitely see her Scorpio emotions telling her to push you away right now... I'm pretty unfamiliar with Capricorn women, although I recently had a Cap boss, and she was a statue of emotion and ridiculously cool under pressure. But she and I did connect enough for me to share some of my own issues with her, and when she left our company, we got pretty emotional for 2 of the most stoic signs in the zodiac lol.
I just read about this Retrograde. I called it off on January 20th, so you think it may have affected my decision?
I think so. From what I hear all the earth signs had emotional problems during the retrograde. I was going crazy emotionally and I'm a Cap. I think you should contact her. Anytime my Taurus friends comes at me strong emotionally it scares me for some reason and I seriously care about her. I've never felt the way I feel about her ever and it just seems so unreal.
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
Did I mention this was a woman? So I'm not looking for a male's point of view, even if you're homosexual. Sorry.
Posted by Gil
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
I'm a Taurus Sun Cap Moon female - because she loved you and once a friend, always a friend - but I think you were too much at the time and she felt smothered - but whether it was you or her or the combo, learn from the past - it is all we have to gauge the progress in our emotional growth in life
Posted by Gil
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
Unfortunately, she may have no real reason, but trust me, you can always ask her in a casual way "hey, what made you find and contact me?" and she'll give you the answer. It's not something you have to guess or ask us about, Caps are pretty straight-forward and honest. Just ask and she'll let you know..
Also, why do you think the problem was with her?
A taurus did the disappearing act on me for two years and got in a new relationship, and when I asked him why he left like that he blamed me. Why do caps always get the blame smh?
Posted by Commodus
Why do taurus men always seek revenge? So much dramaz
I don't understand. What revenge on my part? She looked me up after 3 years.
Welcome back Gil,
I'm not a Cap. I'm not sure why she is getting back in contact with you. It could be anything from general and innocent curiosity to harbouring feelings for you. Take your pick of reasons here.
I think it's more important to focus how you feel about things currently. Are you over her, do you still like her, is there still any spark there, are you open to communicate with her, anything more, are you seeing anyone else, is she seeing anyone, is your life stable... These kind of things.
I'm not a Cap. I'm not sure why she is getting back in contact with you. It could be anything from general and innocent curiosity to harbouring feelings for you. Take your pick of reasons here.
I think it's more important to focus how you feel about things currently. Are you over her, do you still like her, is there still any spark there, are you open to communicate with her, anything more, are you seeing anyone else, is she seeing anyone, is your life stable... These kind of things.
Posted by lnana04Posted by Gil
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
Unfortunately, she may have no real reason, but trust me, you can always ask her in a casual way "hey, what made you find and contact me?" and she'll give you the answer. It's not something you have to guess or ask us about, Caps are pretty straight-forward and honest. Just ask and she'll let you know..
Also, why do you think the problem was with her?
A taurus did the disappearing act on me for two years and got in a new relationship, and when I asked him why he left like that he blamed me. Why do caps always get the blame smh?click to expand
Because I believe there is nothing wrong with telling someone how you feel about them, even if the other person isn't ready to hear it. That's why I said she had the problem, because love or otherwise wasn't in her plans. I guess I was a long term booty call.
I will take you up on asking her directly. Then again, she avoided the question 3 years ago too.
Posted by Superman77
Dude, Cap wemenz don’t forget OR forgive.
They also don’t like emotionally abusive men who use manipulation tactics just to satisfy their own insecurities.
Yeah, I thought I was forgiving but maybe not.
Emotional manipulation is the worst. As we picture the future in our heads, thinking of someone that can pull the rug from underneath us at any time, or emotionally manipulate us to get what they want how they want it, or just applying pressure just makes us close up or stay guarded at all times. Like the potential is definitely there, but imo relationships should be easy, stress-free, and communication should always be open. If there's feelings of insecurity due to whatever reason just talk about it, and maybe you can get an understanding of why we are a bit hesitant, but don't take action or apply pressure when all is needed is a good talk.
Posted by GilPosted by lnana04Posted by Gil
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
Unfortunately, she may have no real reason, but trust me, you can always ask her in a casual way "hey, what made you find and contact me?" and she'll give you the answer. It's not something you have to guess or ask us about, Caps are pretty straight-forward and honest. Just ask and she'll let you know..
Also, why do you think the problem was with her?
A taurus did the disappearing act on me for two years and got in a new relationship, and when I asked him why he left like that he blamed me. Why do caps always get the blame smh?
Because I believe there is nothing wrong with telling someone how you feel about them, even if the other person isn't ready to hear it. That's why I said she had the problem, because love or otherwise wasn't in her plans. I guess I was a long term booty call.
I will take you up on asking her directly. Then again, she avoided the question 3 years ago too.click to expand
Well close the door until she can answer it.
I don't think there's anything wrong with telling someone how you feel, and you did that. Unfortunately you expected her to do the same at that moment, and she was not ready. I'm sure that you've been in a relationship or situation with someone where they wanted you to open up and you were not ready.
All you can do is say your part, to let her know where you are, and just letting her know how serious you were with no expectations would have put her in a position to keep moving forward, or press the brakes and step back if she was not on the same page. Expectations can kill us though, especially when we feel pressure. I've never spoken feelings before and not sure if I can, and I don't expect to really hear them. I think things are evident through actions personally. I know how that's not enough for everyone though.
I think you should probably consider what you want from her at this moment, and if she's not giving it then continue on as you were. Pop ups can be both good and horrible when it comes to feelings.
From what I know of dating Taurus suns and venus in Taurus, its a spiteful sign when hurt.
Maybe take this time to stop making plans and talk about what happened.
You havent brought it up either.
Cap lady wants to reconnect.
Answer yourself honestly. What are you motivations right now?
Taurus is a my way or the highway sign.
Which is why you dumped her trying to force her hand.
Be a lover, not a fighter
Maybe take this time to stop making plans and talk about what happened.
You havent brought it up either.
Cap lady wants to reconnect.
Answer yourself honestly. What are you motivations right now?
Taurus is a my way or the highway sign.
Which is why you dumped her trying to force her hand.
Be a lover, not a fighter
If she truly is a moon in scorpio, believe her.
The lady texts me 3-4 times a day, sends me 2-3 selfies a day and we have facetimed everyday for a week. Oh, she gets ticked off when she can't get ahold of me.
There is something there other than "just seeing how you are" And if she says that, she's probably lying. I get it. I forced her hand last time and it backfired. This is a totally different situation, because she looked me up.
I still care very deeply for her, but I have also learned to move on as evidenced by me not contacting her for 3 years. I can see myself falling for her again and like last time, I would want to express that eventually. If she wasn't ready to express herself, knowing that caused problems in the past, then she should've stayed away.
I intend to ask her why she looked me up after 3 years next time we facetime, because I want to see her expression
I'll let her answer decide what I do next
There is something there other than "just seeing how you are" And if she says that, she's probably lying. I get it. I forced her hand last time and it backfired. This is a totally different situation, because she looked me up.
I still care very deeply for her, but I have also learned to move on as evidenced by me not contacting her for 3 years. I can see myself falling for her again and like last time, I would want to express that eventually. If she wasn't ready to express herself, knowing that caused problems in the past, then she should've stayed away.
I intend to ask her why she looked me up after 3 years next time we facetime, because I want to see her expression
I'll let her answer decide what I do next
Posted by Gil
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
She probably wasn't ready.
Posted by Gil
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
Honestly though, I think when you broke up with her in that manner(wow), you seriously damaged her trust. If you reflexively break up with someone because they respond in a way you dislike, especially with a capricorn, how are they supposed to trust you?
Posted by Bk201Posted by Gil
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
Honestly though, I think when you broke up with her in that manner(wow), you seriously damaged her trust. If you reflexively break up with someone because they respond in a way you dislike, especially with a capricorn, how are they supposed to trust you?click to expand
Great answer, but doesn't answer the question why she looked me up? If she was so damaged, why she come back?
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by tctaaPosted by Gil
Wow. It's been a long time since I posted here. A little update: My Cap left Cali and we never spoke again. This was 3 years ago! I have moved on and in a really good place right now. I have since forgiven myself. I discovered that there was nothing wrong with me for telling my Cap how I felt, the problem was with the Cap. I refuse to change. If I ever fall in love again, I will express it when the time comes. If she's not ready for it, then so be it.
Well, Well, Well. Three years go by and guess who sends me a friend request on Facebook? Yes, the Cap. I must admit seeing this bought up alot of painful memories and I waited a long time before accepting the request. Now 2 weeks later, we are talking almost everyday and planning to meet. We have not talked about what happened 3 years ago. It's indeed the elephant in the room. Knowing Cap women, they don't necessarily apologize for anything, they would rather move on and forget. Being a Taurus, I'm not having it. If you ran away 3 years ago, then looked me up, then you definitely have something to say. 20 years ago, I would've played along with her just to get her in the sack again, then dump her for payback. I have a Venus in Gemini and us Taurus can be pretty spiteful. This is not me now. At this point in my life, I am more interested in why things happen.
So I ask the Caps on the board: Why would a Cap women run away from a guy who professed his feelings, only to look him up 3 years later? Why would up dig up an old flame?
I'm a Taurus Sun Cap Moon female - because she loved you and once a friend, always a friend - but I think you were too much at the time and she felt smothered - but whether it was you or her or the combo, learn from the past - it is all we have to gauge the progress in our emotional growth in life
Smothered at 8 months?click to expand
lol it's happened to me, but that I contribute to my cap moon, we don't know what moon she has ...
Posted by GilPosted by Bk201Posted by Gil
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
Honestly though, I think when you broke up with her in that manner(wow), you seriously damaged her trust. If you reflexively break up with someone because they respond in a way you dislike, especially with a capricorn, how are they supposed to trust you?
Great answer, but doesn't answer the question why she looked me up? If she was so damaged, why she come back?click to expand
Hello Gil,
I am a Cap girl, Scorpio rising, Pisces moon and i understand why she acted that way in the past. We Caps have difficulty to believe when someone confesses his love to us. We want it to be real but until it's proven with actions in time, it's really really very hard for us to accept your confession as a fact. In your case, you told her that you love her, but at the same time, you told her that if she doesn't answer back you get pissed to the point that you break up with her. What it translates to a Cap woman is that you don't love her at all!!! Your love was conditioned....We Caps are so proud that even if we die for your love inside, it's so difficult for us to share it verbally with you...😢 i am sorry i wish it was a little easier...If you has expressed your feelings and then still stay calm and stay with her....give her time so that she can trust what you said..i am sure she would have the courage to tell you she loved you back...(to the moon and back)...
Although she was heartbroken, she never forgot you...She thought about you all the time and during this time without you, she may realised that your feelings were real...Now, this is why she is trying to get back in contact....
Stay strong, don't melt for her easily (ok inside but don't show her 🙂) We love strong men. That means strong enough to stay with us even if we are not sure what we feel for him right at that moment...Strong enough with his emotions so that he will give time to us to discover what we feel for him...Be a man you are supposed to be...You are a Taurus, the strongest...show this side of yours...she will love you more than you can imagine.....i wish you both the best...
Posted by CapionPosted by GilPosted by Bk201Posted by Gil
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
Honestly though, I think when you broke up with her in that manner(wow), you seriously damaged her trust. If you reflexively break up with someone because they respond in a way you dislike, especially with a capricorn, how are they supposed to trust you?
Great answer, but doesn't answer the question why she looked me up? If she was so damaged, why she come back?
Hello Gil,
I am a Cap girl, Scorpio rising, Pisces moon and i understand why she acted that way in the past. We Caps have difficulty to believe when someone confesses his love to us. We want it to be real but until it's proven with actions in time, it's really really very hard for us to accept your confession as a fact. In your case, you told her that you love her, but at the same time, you told her that if she doesn't answer back you get pissed to the point that you break up with her. What it translates to a Cap woman is that you don't love her at all!!! Your love was conditioned....We Caps are so proud that even if we die for your love inside, it's so difficult for us to share it verbally with you...😢 i am sorry i wish it was a little easier...If you has expressed your feelings and then still stay calm and stay with her....give her time so that she can trust what you said..i am sure she would have the courage to tell you she loved you back...(to the moon and back)...
Although she was heartbroken, she never forgot you...She thought about you all the time and during this time without you, she may realised that your feelings were real...Now, this is why she is trying to get back in contact....
Stay strong, don't melt for her easily (ok inside but don't show her 🙂) We love strong men. That means strong enough to stay with us even if we are not sure what we feel for him right at that moment...Strong enough with his emotions so that he will give time to us to discover what we feel for him...Be a man you are supposed to be...You are a Taurus, the strongest...show this side of yours...she will love you more than you can imagine.....i wish you both the best...
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This is so helpful. I wish I had your advice before I got it wrong in 2015.
Ladies and Gentlemen,
The saga continues...
After many selfies of her and her daughter and facetime, she invited me to drive 8 hours to see her. My heart dropped when she asked. I just knew there was going to be a connection no matter how much I tried to resist 😢 I am ex-Navy and know alot of guys in near her and my gym had a branch near her house, so I really could keep myself busy. She is in law enforcement (this is so hot!) and she just got promoted. This is recent, February 2019. When I visited, she had just started her second week in her new assignment and worked crazy hours. I arrived earlier than she did from work. I was a nervous wreck. I walked up and knocked on the door and her daughter answered. I introduced myself and told her it was nice to finally meet her in person. She is 16 and a Taurus 🙂 I sat on the couch in the living room and I can hear her voice walking up the driveway. In she walks...I'm fucked.
What happened next messed me up for the entire week I spend with her, we hugged. I wasn't a friend hug or even a family hug. It was long and purposeful...it was an embrace. I tried to let go, but she wouldn't let me. I swear we exchanged energy. It felt warm and very familiar. We knew each other's bodies already and where everything fit. We would hug 3 times total and each was more embracing.
I slept in the guest room. She gave me her key and showed me how everything worked. The 3 of us went out to eat. It felt good, but awkward. More on awkward later. She paid for almost every meal we ate out. On Sunday, we did a double date with her daughter and boyfriend. She paid for my movie ticket. Everytime I opened the car door for her, she would reach across and try to open a heavy ass Mercedes driver door and she did. She worked a lot and one night didn't come home. She told me about it, but the fact she trusted me with her daughter is telling.
Awkwardness: [ˈôkwərdnəs], noun, the quality of being awkward...
The visit was rife with it. From the moment the embrace ended, she went very rigid...exaggerating even. She went up to bed after the first embrace and that's the last I saw of her that night. I'm not sure what was on her mind or even if there was anything going on in there, but my twins were showing their asses. I have a Venus in Gemini. I can be naturally flirty and hard to nail down. Normally, the twins are in agreement, but not this time. There were alot of quiet moments and unsynchronized gazes, but when our eyes did meet, it felt like she was looking into my soul. I've been told I have a disarming gaze. Hers is unequivocally impressive. I'm also ascendant in Virgo, so I tried to analyze her rigidity and body language. I am a gentleman and she knows this. I will never try to steal a kiss or anything of that nature unless given permission, implicitly or otherwise. No opportunity arose where I would have felt comfortable trying to make a move. This woman takes me out of my comfort zone and I act like a 16 year old around her. The energy she gives off cuts right through my Taurus bravado. When this happens, I put up a wall and I too become rigid. Then there was Taurus resentment and grudge. I'm a double Venusian, Taurus sun and Libra Moon, so when I fall, I fall hard. I had to hate this woman to get over her and now I'm looking at her. One twin had questions: Why would she look me up after 3 years just to invite me down just to put me in a friend zone? We can be friends from 500 miles away. Why is she so rigid and quiet and just weird? Why am I here? I began to think there were nefarious activities afoot and I was merely a pawn. Caps can be playgirls. I was getting serious cold shoulder. My trip ended after the last embrace and left early in the morning to avoid any more awkwardness. The drive home was filled with emotion and inner turmoil.
The next two weeks were bad. This lady sent me 60 selfies in 6 months. Her new job pretty much consumed all her time. We shared some selfies, but most of my texts went unanswered and my motto is why call when you can't answer a text. She is in law enforcement afterall. Her job is 12 hours and then she drive an hour home. The flame was dying. That twin had his way. I began to write her off and decided to cut my losses before I get hurt again. I began to make up very vivid and detailed excuses why I need to cut her off, but in the end, it was because I was afraid. Days would go by before we would communicate. 😢 Maybe she has someone else. There is no way that a woman this beautiful doesn't have the interest of at least several men.
I care too much for her to just let go, so before I ghosted her, I decided to send her this message..."your vibe has changed".
A text came back within seconds..."NO!" It was followed by a phone call, then a facetime request. She literally begged me to understand that her job takes up her time and that she "adores" me and thinks I'm "wonderful". Really? She said to just call if she doesn't respond. She said I did nothing wrong. This was yesterday.
The other twin is more reasonable. That's who has the questions.
Could I be totally wrong about this woman and all she is and ever was, was a single mom of two trying to put them first and have a career? Her drive is an aphrodisiac to me, because there is nothing more focused than a Taurus doing something we "want" to do. Was her rigidness false? Was she protecting herself? Could she be having the same thoughts as I? None of this makes sense if its a game. Is she deliberately going slow this time? We moved really fast last time. She is so driven that she knows she'll be an empty-nester in 2-3 years. Her son just joined the service. She knows she'll be alone. Why me, though? Did she feel what I felt in 2014 when I first laid eyes on her, but she is much more proficient at hiding it? Is her ambition and drive so high that she sacrifice relationships? Can she really dive into her career so hard that she goes without relationships for years, even if she is that beautiful?
Fate again would intervene, which make this sooo much more freaky. Last week, an incident occurred at her job that resulted in her going back to her old job. Her old job allowed us enough time to send selfies and facetime, etc. She is pissed and resigning all together at the end of the month. She is a cardinal sign and doesn't play games with their intentions. She wants to go back to school and her job as a fitness instructor. Yes, this woman is beautiful, wears a gun and is in great shape. This is new territory for both of us. I'm financially secure and retired military. All I have to do really is wake up every morning. With her being 8 hours away, this would be so easy.
This is happening right now as I write. I called like I promised and got her voice mail. I left a voicemail saying I was thinking about her. She called back and we spoke. I told her I enjoyed seeing her face last night during facetime. She says she will facetime me tonight before bed. All of the sudden the fear and insecurity are gone. I'm opening up to her. As long as I'm not too possessive, selfish, insecure or clingy, I might have a shot this time 😄 I have learned not to ask her how she feels about me. I don't even tell her how I feel about her. Instead, I tell her how she makes me feel. There is a difference.
I am scared to death. I'm afraid to ask to visit again, because I know I will fall for her.
You guys could be seeing something beautiful happen before your eyes or the greatest tragedy on DXPNET
The saga continues...
After many selfies of her and her daughter and facetime, she invited me to drive 8 hours to see her. My heart dropped when she asked. I just knew there was going to be a connection no matter how much I tried to resist 😢 I am ex-Navy and know alot of guys in near her and my gym had a branch near her house, so I really could keep myself busy. She is in law enforcement (this is so hot!) and she just got promoted. This is recent, February 2019. When I visited, she had just started her second week in her new assignment and worked crazy hours. I arrived earlier than she did from work. I was a nervous wreck. I walked up and knocked on the door and her daughter answered. I introduced myself and told her it was nice to finally meet her in person. She is 16 and a Taurus 🙂 I sat on the couch in the living room and I can hear her voice walking up the driveway. In she walks...I'm fucked.
What happened next messed me up for the entire week I spend with her, we hugged. I wasn't a friend hug or even a family hug. It was long and purposeful...it was an embrace. I tried to let go, but she wouldn't let me. I swear we exchanged energy. It felt warm and very familiar. We knew each other's bodies already and where everything fit. We would hug 3 times total and each was more embracing.
I slept in the guest room. She gave me her key and showed me how everything worked. The 3 of us went out to eat. It felt good, but awkward. More on awkward later. She paid for almost every meal we ate out. On Sunday, we did a double date with her daughter and boyfriend. She paid for my movie ticket. Everytime I opened the car door for her, she would reach across and try to open a heavy ass Mercedes driver door and she did. She worked a lot and one night didn't come home. She told me about it, but the fact she trusted me with her daughter is telling.
Awkwardness: [ˈôkwərdnəs], noun, the quality of being awkward...
The visit was rife with it. From the moment the embrace ended, she went very rigid...exaggerating even. She went up to bed after the first embrace and that's the last I saw of her that night. I'm not sure what was on her mind or even if there was anything going on in there, but my twins were showing their asses. I have a Venus in Gemini. I can be naturally flirty and hard to nail down. Normally, the twins are in agreement, but not this time. There were alot of quiet moments and unsynchronized gazes, but when our eyes did meet, it felt like she was looking into my soul. I've been told I have a disarming gaze. Hers is unequivocally impressive. I'm also ascendant in Virgo, so I tried to analyze her rigidity and body language. I am a gentleman and she knows this. I will never try to steal a kiss or anything of that nature unless given permission, implicitly or otherwise. No opportunity arose where I would have felt comfortable trying to make a move. This woman takes me out of my comfort zone and I act like a 16 year old around her. The energy she gives off cuts right through my Taurus bravado. When this happens, I put up a wall and I too become rigid. Then there was Taurus resentment and grudge. I'm a double Venusian, Taurus sun and Libra Moon, so when I fall, I fall hard. I had to hate this woman to get over her and now I'm looking at her. One twin had questions: Why would she look me up after 3 years just to invite me down just to put me in a friend zone? We can be friends from 500 miles away. Why is she so rigid and quiet and just weird? Why am I here? I began to think there were nefarious activities afoot and I was merely a pawn. Caps can be playgirls. I was getting serious cold shoulder. My trip ended after the last embrace and left early in the morning to avoid any more awkwardness. The drive home was filled with emotion and inner turmoil.
The next two weeks were bad. This lady sent me 60 selfies in 6 months. Her new job pretty much consumed all her time. We shared some selfies, but most of my texts went unanswered and my motto is why call when you can't answer a text. She is in law enforcement afterall. Her job is 12 hours and then she drive an hour home. The flame was dying. That twin had his way. I began to write her off and decided to cut my losses before I get hurt again. I began to make up very vivid and detailed excuses why I need to cut her off, but in the end, it was because I was afraid. Days would go by before we would communicate. 😢 Maybe she has someone else. There is no way that a woman this beautiful doesn't have the interest of at least several men.
I care too much for her to just let go, so before I ghosted her, I decided to send her this message..."your vibe has changed".
A text came back within seconds..."NO!" It was followed by a phone call, then a facetime request. She literally begged me to understand that her job takes up her time and that she "adores" me and thinks I'm "wonderful". Really? She said to just call if she doesn't respond. She said I did nothing wrong. This was yesterday.
The other twin is more reasonable. That's who has the questions.
Could I be totally wrong about this woman and all she is and ever was, was a single mom of two trying to put them first and have a career? Her drive is an aphrodisiac to me, because there is nothing more focused than a Taurus doing something we "want" to do. Was her rigidness false? Was she protecting herself? Could she be having the same thoughts as I? None of this makes sense if its a game. Is she deliberately going slow this time? We moved really fast last time. She is so driven that she knows she'll be an empty-nester in 2-3 years. Her son just joined the service. She knows she'll be alone. Why me, though? Did she feel what I felt in 2014 when I first laid eyes on her, but she is much more proficient at hiding it? Is her ambition and drive so high that she sacrifice relationships? Can she really dive into her career so hard that she goes without relationships for years, even if she is that beautiful?
Fate again would intervene, which make this sooo much more freaky. Last week, an incident occurred at her job that resulted in her going back to her old job. Her old job allowed us enough time to send selfies and facetime, etc. She is pissed and resigning all together at the end of the month. She is a cardinal sign and doesn't play games with their intentions. She wants to go back to school and her job as a fitness instructor. Yes, this woman is beautiful, wears a gun and is in great shape. This is new territory for both of us. I'm financially secure and retired military. All I have to do really is wake up every morning. With her being 8 hours away, this would be so easy.
This is happening right now as I write. I called like I promised and got her voice mail. I left a voicemail saying I was thinking about her. She called back and we spoke. I told her I enjoyed seeing her face last night during facetime. She says she will facetime me tonight before bed. All of the sudden the fear and insecurity are gone. I'm opening up to her. As long as I'm not too possessive, selfish, insecure or clingy, I might have a shot this time 😄 I have learned not to ask her how she feels about me. I don't even tell her how I feel about her. Instead, I tell her how she makes me feel. There is a difference.
I am scared to death. I'm afraid to ask to visit again, because I know I will fall for her.
You guys could be seeing something beautiful happen before your eyes or the greatest tragedy on DXPNET
For the first time I just compared our charts:
Me
Sun Taurus
Moon Libra
Venus Gemini
Asc: Virgo
Mercury Aries
Mars Libra
Her
Sun Cap
Moon Scorpio
Venus Aqua
Asc: Taurus
Mercury Cap
Mars Virgo
Me
Sun Taurus
Moon Libra
Venus Gemini
Asc: Virgo
Mercury Aries
Mars Libra
Her
Sun Cap
Moon Scorpio
Venus Aqua
Asc: Taurus
Mercury Cap
Mars Virgo
Posted by GilPosted by CapionPosted by GilPosted by Bk201Posted by Gil
When I could not take it anymore, I asked her to come see me for a talk. I told her how I felt, that I was head over heels in love with her. I have no doubt she believed every word I said. I asked her how she felt and really got a luke warm responses. I explained that not knowing how she felt is killing me and all I needed was a little assurance. I didn't expect to tell me she loved me. Tell me anything, just make from the heart. When my frustration got the best of me, I called it off, citing I can't be with someone who didn't care for me. I really didn't want to call it off, I thought by doing something this desperate would open up a line of communication that would allow us both to talk about our feelings. She didn't reply, just got up and walked away. I know she was guarded, but wow. I know this was a childish game and I regret it so badly.
Over the next couple of days I contacted her and she was pissed! I told her about my true intentions; how I really didn't mean to call everything off. She accused me of playing games. I concurred, but assured her that I loved her badly and was desperate and hurting. I saw her once in public and that's when it really hit me. The glow she normally had on her face was gone. Maybe she did feel something. I just needed some acknowledgement of me having a small piece of her heart. A few more days went by and I called her again to apologize, it was then she told me not to call her or email.
Honestly though, I think when you broke up with her in that manner(wow), you seriously damaged her trust. If you reflexively break up with someone because they respond in a way you dislike, especially with a capricorn, how are they supposed to trust you?
Great answer, but doesn't answer the question why she looked me up? If she was so damaged, why she come back?
Hello Gil,
I am a Cap girl, Scorpio rising, Pisces moon and i understand why she acted that way in the past. We Caps have difficulty to believe when someone confesses his love to us. We want it to be real but until it's proven with actions in time, it's really really very hard for us to accept your confession as a fact. In your case, you told her that you love her, but at the same time, you told her that if she doesn't answer back you get pissed to the point that you break up with her. What it translates to a Cap woman is that you don't love her at all!!! Your love was conditioned....We Caps are so proud that even if we die for your love inside, it's so difficult for us to share it verbally with you...😢 i am sorry i wish it was a little easier...If you has expressed your feelings and then still stay calm and stay with her....give her time so that she can trust what you said..i am sure she would have the courage to tell you she loved you back...(to the moon and back)...
Although she was heartbroken, she never forgot you...She thought about you all the time and during this time without you, she may realised that your feelings were real...Now, this is why she is trying to get back in contact....
Stay strong, don't melt for her easily (ok inside but don't show her 🙂) We love strong men. That means strong enough to stay with us even if we are not sure what we feel for him right at that moment...Strong enough with his emotions so that he will give time to us to discover what we feel for him...Be a man you are supposed to be...You are a Taurus, the strongest...show this side of yours...she will love you more than you can imagine.....i wish you both the best...
This is so helpful. I wish I had your advice before I got it wrong in 2015.click to expand
I hope it will still give you an understanding...hoping all the best for you two!
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