Think, that he wants to rebuild??

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I'm a Pisces and I'm wondering what angle, my Taurus X is working, exactly.

We dated for 2 months, and in the 3 months following the split, he avoided me, then we had sex, then he avoided me, and then he met some girl, but it didn't last past 2 1/2 weeks. I gave him his space for 3 weeks, and THEN he reached back out to me, and, now, we're here... Some words were also exchanged, during the time period following our break-up; he may also view me as a little unstable, given that I currently live in a shelter (don't judge! lol) and give into my anger towards him, a bit easily, at times, which is fueled by his ever changing treatment, of me. I also said a few choice things, to his mother, who had a lot to do with our split, and told off one of his fb buddies...

My thing, is this, we're intimate on occasion, he calls/texts often (though sometimes he leaves me hanging, or doesn't text back) and, when we "hook up", we spend hours talking, beforehand; it's never just a quick toss, with an abrupt dismissal.

He won't let me meet his mother (I wasn't able to meet her while we were official, either) even though he says that she has forgiven/forgotten; He mentions that he's never sure of the kind of mood she will be in, and that she does not like to meet his partners.

I know, that Taurs have to be certain that you're "the one", before you will ever meet their family/friends (his best guy friend and I are acquainted, though) and that they're not easy to win back.

Could he be feeling me, out, and testing me, by sometimes not texting/replying to texts, keeping the physical contact, and spending time, with me? Or, is he just using me, when he's horny??

He exhibits a lot of the classic signs, that he's an interested Taur (maintaining an amount of physical contact while talking, rarely making eye contact, aside from occasional side-glances, laughing at my humor, and attempting to get a laugh, out of me, and sharing his deeper thoughts on goings on, around us, etc.) But, I don't want to get my hopes, up....He knows that I'm in love/holding out, for him, and, I feel, that that is a dangerous place, to be, as it leaves me, vulnerable...

Constructive criticisms/helpful comments and insights, only... anything else, will be blocked..thank, you🙂
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1. Do you have children?

2. When the both of you dated for two months....what was the initial reason for the 1st breakup?

3 You mentioned that his mother does not like to meet his partners (as in plural)...Was he referring to his 'girlfriend' or'side pieces?"

4. How long were you in the shelter?

5. What are the intimate discussions....in regards to the both of you and longevity?

6. Have the both of you been out on dates...outside of the bedroom?



As for what you mentioned being the typical classic taurus when he's enamored with a woman....varies...

He could be smitten, but it doesn't mean that he is in love.

I could be wrong.
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We don't have children.

He still hasn't told me why he left;

I get a different excuse everytime I ask.

All I know, is that he left, and the rest of the drama followed.

He says that his mother doesn't like to meet his girlfriends, and when I reiterated that I'm not his girlfriend (to see where I stand, with him, by his response) he said that it would be even worse if he tried to bring home "the girl he's banging"..that stung, a little..

I'm at the shelter, now; I've only been here a month and a half, and I'm looking for work, etc.

We don't talk, about "us", and I'm not sure how, or when a good time is to bring that up, without scaring him, off...but, we talk about extraterrestrial life, music, what's new with his family, what he wishes could be a reality in his own life, dreams, things that anger him, and the loss of his best friend, who passed away. He doesn't ask a whole lot, about me, mostly because I'm enamoured with him, and sit back and listen/respond to what he says...

We haven't been on a date, since we were an actual couple): those were so fun): everything we ever did was fun, and calm, yet exciting...

We've only started hooking up, a week ago, and only twice. He sneaks me into the basement of his mom's house.....classy, I know/: he says that he wants to get a hotel room, because he thinks I "deserve better"...

I just know, that I love him, and haven't touched anyone else, since we were together...I can't.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
1. Do you have children?

2. When the both of you dated for two months....what was the initial reason for the 1st breakup?

3 You mentioned that his mother does not like to meet his partners (as in plural)...Was he referring to his 'girlfriend' or'side pieces?"

4. How long were you in the shelter?

5. What are the intimate discussions....in regards to the both of you and longevity?

6. Have the both of you been out on dates...outside of the bedroom?



As for what you mentioned being the typical classic taurus when he's enamored with a woman....varies...

He could be smitten, but it doesn't mean that he is in love.

I could be wrong.
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Also, the last two days, we've talked about meeting up, and he ceases all contact afterwards, for the rest of the day...we were texting a lot,

and he was eager to call me, only two days, ago...I have no idea whether or not, to text first, or see if he reaches out, which I feel I will lose him, completely again, if I do...

Our last text convo, was me saying to text me around 5ish, this evening, if he wanted to include me in his plans....then he said, "I will hun", and then I told him to have a great day,

and enjoy his tour of the new music store, in town, because I know that he's been wanting to go there, and he said, "aw ur so sweet.. ty bunches"...I said "yw bunches!!!",

And left it, at that... That was at 10 a.m this morning, and nothing.... it's 10:30 p.m....
Posted by TaurusBull1977
1. Do you have children?

2. When the both of you dated for two months....what was the initial reason for the 1st breakup?

3 You mentioned that his mother does not like to meet his partners (as in plural)...Was he referring to his 'girlfriend' or'side pieces?"

4. How long were you in the shelter?

5. What are the intimate discussions....in regards to the both of you and longevity?

6. Have the both of you been out on dates...outside of the bedroom?



As for what you mentioned being the typical classic taurus when he's enamored with a woman....varies...

He could be smitten, but it doesn't mean that he is in love.

I could be wrong.
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I asked if you had any children...not if the both of you had any children?

I have a few more questions....

1. Aside from the shelter, do you have any family members or friends that you can stay with? Were you evicted from your apartment? You mentioned that you were in a shelter for a month and a half, so this happened after the both of you broke up, is this correct?

2. Does he live at home with his mom? Or does he just take you there for 'occasional' hookups? If he felt that you deserved more than that, then he would not be hooking up with you without the committment.

3. What does he do for a living, career-wise?

4. When the the both of you were an official couple, was he asking questions about you, getting to know you?

5. Who suggested being 'official' and 'exclusive' when the both of you were dating initially? How did that conversation come about?

I don't mean to be invasive with all the questions, I'm just trying to get to the heart of the matter.

Answering these questions is very important because chances are, you may not get a direct line of communication from him.

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This story sounds familiar...

Are you that girl that had him live with you for a month, but then knew you were gonna be evicted. You gave him money for a bus ticket back and he ghosted you, but then his mom was telling you he does this thing where he finda girls to use. You used his name and posted his facebook messenger text mesage as the picture?

Also you were saying you had some attachment disorder—
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No. That's not me but that being said

if this chick is out there somewhere I need to find her. Lol!

Posted by nikkistar
This story sounds familiar...

Are you that girl that had him live with you for a month, but then knew you were gonna be evicted. You gave him money for a bus ticket back and he ghosted you, but then his mom was telling you he does this thing where he finda girls to use. You used his name and posted his facebook messenger text mesage as the picture?

Also you were saying you had some attachment disorder—
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I have children but they live with their father a little ways away.

I'm sorry I was half asleep when I read and replied to you comment.

I was about to be evicted because I was working for my adoptive dad's company and we had a falling out and we ended our work related relationship and i was unable to pay my rent.

I ended up at the shelter after the breakup.

I'm not entirely sure where he lives..I thought that he was living with the other chick but he also is staying with friends quite often he may live with his mom or he just visits or sleeps over at her house..

He doesn't currently work or have an income but he was talking about starting a job with his stepdad (who happens to be his good friend who is in his 20's..his mom married him..she's in her 40's and she threatens divorce and they fight all week until he gets his weekly paycheck..then things are once again amicable..as told by taurus)

Taurus did ask about me a bit while we were an item. We met on match.com and after talking for a couple of months and feeling a really strong connection upon meeting we decided to move in together.

We spent every waking minute together (swimming, playing card games, cooking together, watching shows and movies, going for latenight walks to parks just to swing, etc..) it was intoxicating.

As for deciding to make our relationship official he was the pursuant...when talking online before meeting..he said that he was focused on me and only me and said that he didn't want to meet anyone else...I told him that I wanted to date openly a bit more as I didn't want to settle on just one person only to have it blow up in my face..he wasn't accepting of that and eventually after a few weeks of him being so intent on making me his I caved. He expressed that he wanted me all to himself.

I don't mind the intense questioning at all I greatly appreciate your interest in the whole story.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I asked if you had any children...not if the both of you had any children?

I have a few more questions....

1. Aside from the shelter, do you have any family members or friends that you can stay with? Were you evicted from your apartment? You mentioned that you were in a shelter for a month and a half, so this happened after the both of you broke up, is this correct?

2. Does he live at home with his mom? Or does he just take you there for 'occasional' hookups? If he felt that you deserved more than that, then he would not be hooking up with you without the committment.

3. What does he do for a living, career-wise?

4. When the the both of you were an official couple, was he asking questions about you, getting to know you?

5. Who suggested being 'official' and 'exclusive' when the both of you were dating initially? How did that conversation come about?

I don't mean to be invasive with all the questions, I'm just trying to get to the heart of the matter.

Answering these questions is very important because chances are, you may not get a direct line of communication from him.


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mention that I have no other place to live at the moment but am seeking a job and a room mate type situation...
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I have children but they live with their father a little ways away.

I'm sorry I was half asleep when I read and replied to your comment.

I was about to be evicted because I was working for my adoptive dad's company and we had a falling out and we ended our work related relationship and i was unable to pay my rent.

I ended up at the shelter after the breakup.

I'm not entirely sure where he lives..I thought that he was living with the other chick but he also is staying with friends quite often he may live with his mom or he just visits or sleeps over at her house..

He doesn't currently work or have an income but he was talking about starting a job with his stepdad (who happens to be his good friend who is in his 20's..his mom married him..she's in her 40's and she threatens divorce and they fight all week until he gets his weekly paycheck..then things are once again amicable..as told by taurus)

Taurus did ask about me a bit while we were an item. We met on match.com and after talking for a couple of months and feeling a really strong connection upon meeting we decided to move in together.

We spent every waking minute together (swimming, playing card games, cooking together, watching shows and movies, going for latenight walks to parks just to swing, etc..) it was intoxicating.

As for deciding to make our relationship official he was the pursuant...when talking online before meeting..he said that he was focused on me and only me and said that he didn't want to meet anyone else...I told him that I wanted to date openly a bit more as I didn't want to settle on just one person only to have it blow up in my face..he wasn't accepting of that and eventually after a few weeks of him being so intent on making me his I caved. He expressed that he wanted me all to himself.

I don't mind the intense questioning at all I greatly appreciate your interest in the whole story.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I asked if you had any children...not if the both of you had any children?

I have a few more questions....

1. Aside from the shelter, do you have any family members or friends that you can stay with? Were you evicted from your apartment? You mentioned that you were in a shelter for a month and a half, so this happened after the both of you broke up, is this correct?

2. Does he live at home with his mom? Or does he just take you there for 'occasional' hookups? If he felt that you deserved more than that, then he would not be hooking up with you without the committment.

3. What does he do for a living, career-wise?

4. When the the both of you were an official couple, was he asking questions about you, getting to know you?

5. Who suggested being 'official' and 'exclusive' when the both of you were dating initially? How did that conversation come about?

I don't mean to be invasive with all the questions, I'm just trying to get to the heart of the matter.

Answering these questions is very important because chances are, you may not get a direct line of communication from him.


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ld be more drawn to me if I at least had a real home and an income that was steady....stable....I just hope that I don't lose him in the meantime....):

He finally texted me this morning out of the blue but only to ask if he could have his speaker back that he gave me because his is broken....I kept my reply shirt sweet and told him that I wished I could help but that it's in storage as well as it's mine now....i don't appreciate him only hitting me up for that....he said "well thank you"

and I haven't heard back from him all day...
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I forgot to mention that I have no other place to live at the moment but am seeking a job and a room mate type situation...
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I have children but they live with their father a little ways away.

I'm sorry I was half asleep when I read and replied to your comment.

I was about to be evicted because I was working for my adoptive dad's company and we had a falling out and we ended our work related relationship and i was unable to pay my rent.

I ended up at the shelter after the breakup.

I'm not entirely sure where he lives..I thought that he was living with the other chick but he also is staying with friends quite often he may live with his mom or he just visits or sleeps over at her house..

He doesn't currently work or have an income but he was talking about starting a job with his stepdad (who happens to be his good friend who is in his 20's..his mom married him..she's in her 40's and she threatens divorce and they fight all week until he gets his weekly paycheck..then things are once again amicable..as told by taurus)

Taurus did ask about me a bit while we were an item. We met on match.com and after talking for a couple of months and feeling a really strong connection upon meeting we decided to move in together.

We spent every waking minute together (swimming, playing card games, cooking together, watching shows and movies, going for latenight walks to parks just to swing, etc..) it was intoxicating.

As for deciding to make our relationship official he was the pursuant...when talking online before meeting..he said that he was focused on me and only me and said that he didn't want to meet anyone else...I told him that I wanted to date openly a bit more as I didn't want to settle on just one person only to have it blow up in my face..he wasn't accepting of that and eventually after a few weeks of him being so intent on making me his I caved. He expressed that he wanted me all to himself.

I don't mind the intense questioning at all I greatly appreciate your interest in the whole story.

Posted by TaurusBull1977
I asked if you had any children...not if the both of you had any children?

I have a few more questions....

1. Aside from the shelter, do you have any family members or friends that you can stay with? Were you evicted from your apartment? You mentioned that you were in a shelter for a month and a half, so this happened after the both of you broke up, is this correct?

2. Does he live at home with his mom? Or does he just take you there for 'occasional' hookups? If he felt that you deserved more than that, then he would not be hooking up with you without the committment.

3. What does he do for a living, career-wise?

4. When the the both of you were an official couple, was he asking questions about you, getting to know you?

5. Who suggested being 'official' and 'exclusive' when the both of you were dating initially? How did that conversation come about?

I don't mean to be invasive with all the questions, I'm just trying to get to the heart of the matter.

Answering these questions is very important because chances are, you may not get a direct line of communication from him.



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marter than I am!! Why

can't I just walk away!! He's all I want right now!!

Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by WaterWorks
She acted all sweet to me and then went behind my back trying to coerce taurus out of the relationship and helped him cover up the fact that he was done with me...so I called her out on it when she posted some blatant disses at me online.

Posted by Koniuchaa
What has his mom forgiven/forgotten?

Hmm. Sounds like she should be apologizing.

Anyways, this situation sounds like way too much of a headache. I'd do a hard pass here
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@Waterworks,

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but this Taurus man is a seasoned opportunist.

When you referenced that he indicated that "you deserved better than this."....I knew it was total hogwash.

With most Bulls (not all, not to make a hasty generalization), the people we love and admire, their opinions and how we're seen in their eyes mean everything to us (fuck everyone else who is not part of that integral circle).

He would have never pursued you so vigorously if he didn't have his financial situation together.

We don't do that.

Absent money.

Absent Taurus.


Maybe a Bull will have an occasional fling here and there, but nonetheless, avoid a demanding relationship altogether.

Match.com is a paid dating site.

A broke taurus on a paid dating site looking for love?

Nah.

He moved in with you within months.

This was part of his game plan.

The apple doesn't fall too far from the tree.

Apparently his mother has the same agenda with the jailbait she's married to.

Clearly they're not good people.

Open your eyes.

As for the way he interacted with you, Bulls are Venusian by nature, that charm can be deceptive sometimes. Because we're natural introverts, the charm can easily be mistaken for perceived 'smitten or subtle adulation...or possibly shyness."

I can see how you could be confused by this.

However, it's still deceptive.

The 'shelter' has nothing to do with anything.

He's not stable himself.

He has no intentions of getting you out the shelter, but accepting sex freebies in his mother's basement.

You're not getting a direct answer from him because he has an agenda.

The agenda?

To lead on a 'fan' and dispose her when it's convenient.

Don't waste your time.

I don't think you're in love with him, persay, but the intoxicated feeling you had when the both of you were spending a great deal of time together is what's holding you to him.

You're haunted by the memory of what it once was.

But it was all a game.
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Thank you! I have a second interview soon.

Hoping that I get it...so you're saying that he doesn't love me and never will?? And I shouldn't want him to...but it's all I can do to not burst into tears and text him the millions of emotions threatening to swallow me!! But no I can't do that I'm never gonna be enough or what he even wants!

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I wish you luck on your quest for obtaining a job.


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ull just told me that he will never love me): guess it doesn't matter!!):
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I think he's just using you for attention when he wants it. It has nothing to do with you.
I think so too. Your being added to his harem and into his rotation.

If you really want to get somewhere tell him sex is off the table for you until commitment is made. You need to mean it tho.
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k you.

Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by WaterWorks
You're way smarter than I am!! Why

can't I just walk away!! He's all I want right now!!

Posted by Koniuchaa
Posted by WaterWorks
She acted all sweet to me and then went behind my back trying to coerce taurus out of the relationship and helped him cover up the fact that he was done with me...so I called her out on it when she posted some blatant disses at me online.

Posted by Koniuchaa
What has his mom forgiven/forgotten?

Hmm. Sounds like she should be apologizing.

Anyways, this situation sounds like way too much of a headache. I'd do a hard pass here

I wouldn't say that. You have to look out for yourself. Especially with his mom attacking you, that is a toxic situation
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