@malloryor
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How does it feel for Men to be fucked and "dumped"?
How Men Feel When Women Leave After Sex
Men's feelings vary; some may feel insecure or disappointed if a woman leaves without saying goodbye, while others may feel indifferent. Reactions depend on individual expectations and emotional needs. It is important to communicate openly to understand each other's boundaries and feelings after intimacy.
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It depends on the nature of your relationship.
Okay so if you all are in a relationship, I am going to go with the assumption that you would feel hurt or betrayed in some way. But this is about fwb, casual hookups and sex with women you are dating just not in love with yet.
Posted by malloryor
So I saw a post in the Taurus forum about the female getting up and leaving after sex (I assume, I only read the preview text) and that got me wondering how it feels to be fucked and then left afterwards, like left as in you wake up to find the female gone. No goodbyes, just gone.Do you get insecure and take it as a sign you were bad in bed? Do you not care because you had sex?
It was not about sex. Wrong presumption.
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Oh love who cares, it does not matter because it got me thinking about my own question.
Posted by malloryor
Okay so if you all are in a relationship, I am going to go with the assumption that you would feel hurt or betrayed in some way. But this is about fwb, casual hookups and sex with women you are dating just not in love with yet.
It rarely happens that a woman can sneak out of a man's bed without him noticing. Unless she's leaving at 4 a.m. in the morning I'd say there's no way she can just leave without saying a word.
Can't answer the question as it's never happened to me before. I don't fuck with those types of ladies.
I got chewed out by the ex ram once for leaving without saying anything. I had to go home and get ready for work. Next day he had me a toothbrush and stuff. So sweet. In the beginning. Ugh.
Posted by Finbuff
Maybe I misread the OP, but I'm assuming she means you have a date or two, bang each other, and then done. As far as having sex and then she immediately leaves, or leaves in middle of the night? Never happened.
No, I mean like the chick leaves in the middle of the night OR right after sex, no real explanation. Basically role reversal, what if the female does when men are more known for doing (not all).
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.
Posted by Finbuff
Maybe I misread the OP, but I'm assuming she means you have a date or two, bang each other, and then done. As far as having sex and then she immediately leaves, or leaves in middle of the night? Never happened.No, I mean like the chick leaves in the middle of the night OR right after sex, no real explanation. Basically role reversal, what if the female does when men are more known for doing (not all).
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I don't see many men leaving in similar scenarios, they may not care about you but they will likely want to have sex again in the morning when they wake up.
Posted by tiziani
It's only ever happened to me in long term relationships. It's great and spices things up. I couldn't answer all the other contexts because I've never been in that situation (that I can remember).
lol explain "it great and spices things up" ... I've left because I had to go to work or wanted to get up to make breakfast and have some alone time if I couldn't sleep - wth, life goes on in the morning after sex - but then my partner would have known I had to leave for work and no he didn't wake up and I don't wake him cause he needs his sleep too - we would just talk later ...
Posted by Finbuff
I worked with this woman once and she had a nice rack, and I knew she liked me. She was in IT. So I actually got her into the computer room, we locked the door and I had her show me her tits. LOL - no joke. Still can't believe I did that. Then she was like "what are you gonna show me"? I said - later.
Lol idiot.
Posted by Finbuff
Maybe I misread the OP, but I'm assuming she means you have a date or two, bang each other, and then done. As far as having sex and then she immediately leaves, or leaves in middle of the night? Never happened.No, I mean like the chick leaves in the middle of the night OR right after sex, no real explanation. Basically role reversal, what if the female does when men are more known for doing (not all).
I don't see many men leaving in similar scenarios, they may not care about you but they will likely want to have sex again in the morning when they wake up.
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Yeah, I may watch too many movies lmao
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
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Hey...your mom needed the money. I was being charitable.
Posted by tiziani
It's only ever happened to me in long term relationships. It's great and spices things up. I couldn't answer all the other contexts because I've never been in that situation (that I can remember).lol explain "it great and spices things up" ... I've left because I had to go to work or wanted to get up to make breakfast and have some alone time if I couldn't sleep - wth, life goes on in the morning after sex - but then my partner would have known I had to leave for work and no he didn't wake up and I don't wake him cause he needs his sleep too - we would just talk later ...
I'm just kidding 😛
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oh ok - lol
Posted by kissmygrits
I got chewed out by the ex ram once for leaving without saying anything. I had to go home and get ready for work. Next day he had me a toothbrush and stuff. So sweet. In the beginning. Ugh.
So what did he say to you exactly? Did he feel hurt or just pissed because you werent there for his morning wood lol
Posted by kissmygrits
I got chewed out by the ex ram once for leaving without saying anything. I had to go home and get ready for work. Next day he had me a toothbrush and stuff. So sweet. In the beginning. Ugh.So what did he say to you exactly? Did he feel hurt or just pissed because you werent there for his morning wood lol
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It was all "why the eff did you leave— Oh it's like that huh?" With tons of cussing. I had to tell his rambling ass to shut up so I could explain.
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
Hey...your mom needed the money. I was being charitable.
Yeah right, she's too hot for you, trust me. Fuck off! TIA
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That didn't stop her from taking my 20 dollars.
Posted by Finbuff
Maybe I misread the OP, but I'm assuming she means you have a date or two, bang each other, and then done. As far as having sex and then she immediately leaves, or leaves in middle of the night? Never happened.No, I mean like the chick leaves in the middle of the night OR right after sex, no real explanation. Basically role reversal, what if the female does when men are more known for doing (not all).
I don't see many men leaving in similar scenarios, they may not care about you but they will likely want to have sex again in the morning when they wake up.
Yeah, I may watch too many movies lmao
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In Europe even strangers who just had a one-night stand will in 95% of the cases just stay in bed or at least say goodbye.
There really is no point in leaving in the middle of the night.
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.
Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
I don't believe one word Finbuff is saying.
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
Hey...your mom needed the money. I was being charitable.
Yeah right, she's too hot for you, trust me. Fuck off! TIA
That didn't stop her from taking my 20 dollars.
High school BS bravado - loser you are. Fuck off! Thx
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You should be a better son to her and help her out financially. She was so desperate for cash. It was sad really the things she was willing to do for such a paltry sum.
Posted by Palerio
I don't believe one word Finbuff is saying.Dude - none of what I said is made up - not ONE word. Trust me...there's many more. What point would there possibly be to make any of this up?
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To feel good about yourself.
Posted by Palerio
I don't believe one word Finbuff is saying.Dude - none of what I said is made up - not ONE word. Trust me...there's many more. What point would there possibly be to make any of this up?
For fun
That's what made me a millionare. And that's why it's good to be......me.
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LOL
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
Based on your actions, I say you would more than likely be called a whore.
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Wtf are you talking about you"re a loser, this has no relation to my personal life whatever. Get out of your feelings love.
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
It is called sense of humour
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Right lmaoo Idk how anyone took that seriously
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
If it was planned by the gal?
But why would anyone do that?
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Idk I am just asking questions, I hear of men doing it and so I wondered about role reversal. Just a question, that is all.
Posted by Palerio
I don't believe one word Finbuff is saying.Dude - none of what I said is made up - not ONE word. Trust me...there's many more. What point would there possibly be to make any of this up?
To feel good about yourself.
Well I don't need to make up stories to feel good about myself. And honestly it doesn't matter if you or anyone else believes me or not. The fact is, most of it is nothing to be terribly proud of, but it's all true. DJ said he had 300.....maybe exaggerated, maybe not. I'd guess I've had 150, maybe 100 or somewhere in between.
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People who've had 150 don't usually feel the need to brag "it's good to be me", let alone on DXPnet...
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
If it was planned by the gal?
But why would anyone do that?
Idk I am just asking questions, I hear of men doing it and so I wondered about role reversal. Just a question, that is all.
I never been in an fwb. Just with my ex. So my history won't count. I left because it was overwhelming but i did kiss him before i ran away. And he was great even after that.
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What do you mean overwhelming? Like rhe sex was aoo good you had to leave?? What lol
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
If it was planned by the gal?
But why would anyone do that?
Idk I am just asking questions, I hear of men doing it and so I wondered about role reversal. Just a question, that is all.
Well, the guys buddies would more than likely congratulate him, but he would still be considered low, and probably a man whore. Someone with no morals or sense. Not relationship material.
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If you know you are a lowlife why accept it? Tjat is fuckinf awful. Do better!
Finbuff has never paid for sex.
But he HAS paid for the candy he used to lure the 12 year olds into his van for sex.
Posted by Quantum
Finbuff has never paid for sex.
He usually gets paid because women can't resist him.
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
If it was planned by the gal?
But why would anyone do that?
Idk I am just asking questions, I hear of men doing it and so I wondered about role reversal. Just a question, that is all.
I never been in an fwb. Just with my ex. So my history won't count. I left because it was overwhelming but i did kiss him before i ran away. And he was great even after that.
What do you mean overwhelming? Like rhe sex was aoo good you had to leave?? What lol
Yes! It was 😢
Intense, passionate and very loving too.
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Well I do not mean to judge but that sounds rather dramatic for something that was a good thing. Idk.
Posted by Palerio
I don't believe one word Finbuff is saying.Dude - none of what I said is made up - not ONE word. Trust me...there's many more. What point would there possibly be to make any of this up?
To feel good about yourself.
Well I don't need to make up stories to feel good about myself. And honestly it doesn't matter if you or anyone else believes me or not. The fact is, most of it is nothing to be terribly proud of, but it's all true. DJ said he had 300.....maybe exaggerated, maybe not. I'd guess I've had 150, maybe 100 or somewhere in between.
People who've had 150 don't usually feel the need to brag "it's good to be me", let alone on DXPnet...
It's not bragging
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Of course not, my darling.
Posted by Finbuff
Maybe I misread the OP, but I'm assuming she means you have a date or two, bang each other, and then done. As far as having sex and then she immediately leaves, or leaves in middle of the night? Never happened.No, I mean like the chick leaves in the middle of the night OR right after sex, no real explanation. Basically role reversal, what if the female does when men are more known for doing (not all).
I don't see many men leaving in similar scenarios, they may not care about you but they will likely want to have sex again in the morning when they wake up.
Yeah, I may watch too many movies lmao
In Europe even strangers who just had a one-night stand will in 95% of the cases just stay in bed or at least say goodbye.
There really is no point in leaving in the middle of the night.
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stay and do the walk of shame in the morning....
😛
Posted by Quantum
Finbuff has never paid for sex.But he HAS paid for the candy he used to lure the 12 year olds into his van for sex.
You're worse than me!!
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His mother was very upset about it. Everyone in the family knows about his predilection for young children but are too ashamed to say anything.
She was so upset she was crying. At first I thought she was in tears because I went too deep into her butt. In reality her ballooon knot was so stretched out and bombed out from all the sex for money that it was pretty easy for her at that point.
Posted by Quantum
Finbuff has never paid for sex.He usually gets paid because women can't resist him.
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My bad..I forgot for a moment we were in the company of Gigolo Royalty.
Posted by Finbuff
Maybe I misread the OP, but I'm assuming she means you have a date or two, bang each other, and then done. As far as having sex and then she immediately leaves, or leaves in middle of the night? Never happened.No, I mean like the chick leaves in the middle of the night OR right after sex, no real explanation. Basically role reversal, what if the female does when men are more known for doing (not all).
I don't see many men leaving in similar scenarios, they may not care about you but they will likely want to have sex again in the morning when they wake up.
Yeah, I may watch too many movies lmao
In Europe even strangers who just had a one-night stand will in 95% of the cases just stay in bed or at least say goodbye.
There really is no point in leaving in the middle of the night.
stay and do the walk of shame in the morning....
😛
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That's why you should never leave before lunch! Make sure everyone is gone and the corridors are empty.
Posted by Quantum
Finbuff has never paid for sex.He usually gets paid because women can't resist him.
My bad..I forgot for a moment we were in the company of Gigolo Royalty.
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I was shocked when Richard Gere robbed him.
Posted by tiziani
We can all be paisanos together too, though.
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Here he is bragging about being attracted to very young girls. Yea right no sex. Condo pool is where he gave out his Hubba bubba gum
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Posted by Finbuff
21 Years difference......How did that happen. What were the ages?
52 & 31. The other one was 33 & 16 - and no, I did not have sex with her.
As an adult, I don't see the appeal of dating a teenager. I do t get it. I could see why with the 52 to 31.
I was between jobs, it was the summer, and I hung out at the condo pool all day. It just happened - no adults hanging around the pool during the day. I was in a phase where I was really into younger girls. She came on to me as much as I did her, so it was a mutual thing, trust me. Little effort involved.
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lmao @ little effort involved.
Posted by tiziani
I think it's really just more the Gemini side of me that's attracted to living the peasant life @HappyCapper
Sure it is. Sure it is. Peasants ftw.😄
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Posted by Finbuff
21 Years difference......How did that happen. What were the ages?
52 & 31. The other one was 33 & 16 - and no, I did not have sex with her.
As an adult, I don't see the appeal of dating a teenager. I do t get it. I could see why with the 52 to 31.
I was between jobs, it was the summer, and I hung out at the condo pool all day. It just happened - no adults hanging around the pool during the day. I was in a phase where I was really into younger girls. She came on to me as much as I did her, so it was a mutual thing, trust me. Little effort involved.
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Panty sniffing, perverted muppet. You're all like, "I was really into younger girls" like you're describing girls who just got their period or something.
Posted by LeDominoes
You got to be pretty messed up if you stooped that low.Hell yeah but it still begs the question, how do men handle it, I personally think they would not care as much as a woman would.
If it was planned by the gal?
But why would anyone do that?
Idk I am just asking questions, I hear of men doing it and so I wondered about role reversal. Just a question, that is all.
I never been in an fwb. Just with my ex. So my history won't count. I left because it was overwhelming but i did kiss him before i ran away. And he was great even after that.
What do you mean overwhelming? Like rhe sex was aoo good you had to leave?? What lol
Yes! It was 😢
Intense, passionate and very loving too.
Well I do not mean to judge but that sounds rather dramatic for something that was a good thing. Idk.
Luckily he didn't think that way. That's what counts. So np
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No, you are right, I am happy he did not get put off...I mean why would he, you told him the sex was just really good and overwhelming lol who could be mad? I guess maybe it was a defense mechanism to keep yourself from falling hard?
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
Hey...your mom needed the money. I was being charitable.
Yeah right, she's too hot for you, trust me. Fuck off! TIA
That didn't stop her from taking my 20 dollars.
High school BS bravado - loser you are. Fuck off! Thx
You should be a better son to her and help her out financially. She was so desperate for cash. It was sad really the things she was willing to do for such a paltry sum.
You are a low-life loser, and congrats, you just became number 16 on the block list! Sleep well. LOL
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That has to be a new record. Blocked after like 5 exchanges. I tip my hat to you rabbit
Posted by malloryor
So I saw a post in the Taurus forum about the female getting up and leaving after sex (I assume, I only read the preview text) and that got me wondering how it feels to be fucked and then left afterwards, like left as in you wake up to find the female gone. No goodbyes, just gone.Do you get insecure and take it as a sign you were bad in bed? Do you not care because you had sex?
I asked mah Scorp, he said "weirded out" but couldn't break down the components that make up said "weirdness".
But he's also a rare guy who gets offended if there isn't post-coital cuddle-time. I usually want a nap or food.
Posted by Finbuff
Whatever @Palerio - I thought we were paisano's, me being Sicilian & u Italian, and you were kewl. Perhaps I was mistaken. I'm not imaginitive enough to make things up to write books or short stories. 'Oil-well'. Have a great day!Pretty sure you mean paesano unless you really are calling you both a couple of peasants.
LOL! He's such a social failure on here, I'd hate to know what he's like in real life.
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Here's his FB profile pic...
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
Hey...your mom needed the money. I was being charitable.
Yeah right, she's too hot for you, trust me. Fuck off! TIA
That didn't stop her from taking my 20 dollars.
High school BS bravado - loser you are. Fuck off! Thx
You should be a better son to her and help her out financially. She was so desperate for cash. It was sad really the things she was willing to do for such a paltry sum.
You are a low-life loser, and congrats, you just became number 16 on the block list! Sleep well. LOL
That has to be a new record. Blocked after like 5 exchanges. I tip my hat to you rabbit
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I'd say it was my Scorpio Moon that allowed me to really get under his skin but let's face it you can make Finbuff cry quite easily.
Posted by Quantum
I fully expect her to leave if I've paid her.LOL - you paid for sex? I wouldn't know - never have. Why exactly would you admit to that?
Hey...your mom needed the money. I was being charitable.
Yeah right, she's too hot for you, trust me. Fuck off! TIA
That didn't stop her from taking my 20 dollars.
High school BS bravado - loser you are. Fuck off! Thx
You should be a better son to her and help her out financially. She was so desperate for cash. It was sad really the things she was willing to do for such a paltry sum.
You said "paltry"!!!
Cheerio.
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I've paid more for a single bourbon on the rocks than I paid his mom.
Posted by Ryoko
Wow this thread became a derailed trainwreck lol@op you're not even getting good feedback to answer your question.
Guys hide their feelings anyways so I guess we'll never know
I did for the first few pages. Too many egos to admit it has happened but then again, maybe it hasnt.
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So I saw a post in the Taurus forum about the female getting up and leaving after sex (I assume, I only read the preview text) and that got me wondering how it feels to be fucked and then left afterwards, like left as in you wake up to find the female gone. No goodbyes, just gone.
Do you get insecure and take it as a sign you were bad in bed? Do you not care because you had sex?