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Did you know there was such a thing called the Cinderella effect and children are 100x more at risk of child abuse and neglect living in a family with a step parent.
Did you know there was such a think called the Cinderella effect and children are 100x more at risk of child abuse and neglect living in a family with a step parent.
Oh I 100% believe that!
Posted by ImperfectStormAlso, what if you really grew to love the kids and she decided to break up. That would be pretty harsh I think
I agree with this which is why my son will never meet a man unless I’m considering marriage with the guy. I don’t want to bring temporary people around my son.(for multiple reasons)
Me too
It can cause so much conflict and damage, it’s not worth it...
lol I literally thought you were a woman this whole time
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
I’ve dated 2. Never met the kid/s. I would play it by ear but you seem to have a plan unlike me.
Eh, not so much that I have a plan, really just a thought exercise for a hypothetical situation. 3/4 the profiles I see are single mothers
To answer the questions:
I've very little experience of looking after kids. Guess what? I love it. Once you figure out their language it's great fun.
Imposter syndrome? Either you feel you are the best choice for a woman or not. Worry more if she is hung up on the father.
Discipline the kids? No I discipline the woman. 🙀
Financial? Yes if it is a serious committed relationship. Kids are perceptive and resilient. They usually don't get attached beyond mates.
You're problem,not hers. Depends how many kids she has if she has more than 3. No, unless she's some tribeswoman.
I mean the imposter syndrome could be way out of left field, I was more just considering that a step parent could possible feel like a familial third wheel
lol I literally thought you were a woman this whole time
I don't mind tbh. Women are cool in my book and my gender on this forum is largely irrelevant to my mind. I had a poster mis-gender me awhile back, one of those one and done posters, and I considered correcting her, but didn't because I didn't see a point
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
I don't see many profiles of single, childless women in their thirties, but I'm also new to these dating apps so what do I know
There’s so many childless women in their 30s, it’s kinda been edgy and trendy for like the last decade. I had no idea they were hiding 🤨
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
I don't see many profiles of single, childless women in their thirties, but I'm also new to these dating apps so what do I know
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I mean, it doesn’t mean that it’s doomed or not meant to be if she has a child. How do you personally feel about that?
It’s a deal breaker for me, but it doesn’t have to be for you. You can also hold out for a totally single woman. Like I said, we do exist!
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
A friend of mine has 9 kids.
Women get visibly turned on when they find out.
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I bet they wouldn’t get turned on looking after them 🥴
I cannot date a man with kids.
I won’t be the priority and I shouldn’t .
There’s so many childless women in their 30s, it’s kinda been edgy and trendy for like the last decade. I had no idea they were hiding 🤨
We out here!
Strangely enough, men wouldn’t look in my direction if I didn’t have a kid. I was at a disadvantage.
They made a lot of judgment calls.
If I did I’m the have kids, no one liked me enough to get me pregnant, I can’t cook, I don’t know how to treat a man in my home.
I was not a catch because I didn’t have kids.
Why don’t we all just become hermits and die alone? Lol. Everyone just out here living life single.
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People need community
People don’t need a partner
There’s so many childless women in their 30s, it’s kinda been edgy and trendy for like the last decade. I had no idea they were hiding 🤨
I believe you, I was commenting on what I see on dating profiles. I don't really run into too many women in my day-to-day life because of my occupation and the things I do for fun. I probably should fix that, but..seems fake or affected to adopt new hobbies just to meet someone. IDK.
Strangely enough, men wouldn’t look in my direction if I didn’t have a kid. I was at a disadvantage.
They made a lot of judgment calls.
If I did I’m the have kids, no one liked me enough to get me pregnant, I can’t cook, I don’t know how to treat a man in my home.
I was not a catch because I didn’t have kids.
Interesting perspective, thanks for sharing it
Why don’t we all just become hermits and die alone? Lol. Everyone just out here living life single.
🤪😇😊
People need community
People don’t need a partner
I’m all about communities and not partners.
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Me too 😃
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
I don't see many profiles of single, childless women in their thirties, but I'm also new to these dating apps so what do I know
I mean, it doesn’t mean that it’s doomed or not meant to be if she has a child. How do you personally feel about that?
It’s a deal breaker for me, but it doesn’t have to be for you. You can also hold out for a totally single woman. Like I said, we do exist!
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About the same, it wouldn't be a disqualifier by any means, but it is a lot to consider. A pet is a big commitment, much less kids that depends on you. I really don't know, I'm not even wholly sold on the idea of dating really, much less all the other considerations that could come with it, like a partner having kids for example. It was more just that as I was looking at profiles, the majority were single mothers, which got me to thinking.
Strangely enough, men wouldn’t look in my direction if I didn’t have a kid. I was at a disadvantage.
They made a lot of judgment calls.
If I did I’m the have kids, no one liked me enough to get me pregnant, I can’t cook, I don’t know how to treat a man in my home.
I was not a catch because I didn’t have kids.
Wait, do you have kids? Or a kid?
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No kids
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
A friend of mine has 9 kids.
Women get visibly turned on when they find out.
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Not this woman. That would be an immediate disqualification, according to my standards.
I am not turned on by men with children. Quite the opposite.
If you’re dating a good woman, she’ll
put her children before any man .... if not she’s most likely not a good mother ...
If you’re dating a good woman, she’ll
put her children before any man .... if not she’s most likely not a good mother ...
My mom also advised me that any man would put his children before me (as he should!) and that children will end up hating me for stealing their dad, and will run and tell their mom everything and it will cause me so much drama. She said I’m too precious to deal with all that 🥰
I don’t know. Her words always stuck with me. She has life experience and lots of friends who have been there and done that. And so do I.
Look, it’s case by case basis. People have rights and choices. But I just can’t imagine it.
And I am so grateful that Leo, as gorgeous as he is, doesn’t have any children 🙏
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
A friend of mine has 9 kids.
Women get visibly turned on when they find out.
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Are you into women with children? I have a feeling you’d make a great step dad 🙃
Male or female, I don’t think it should be a deterrent if you genuinely like someone and see potential, but at the same token, those feelings shouldn’t delude you into thinking it will all be smooth sailing since it involves more than the two of you.
I’m not bothered by children, but if it involves ex baby mama drama, I’m out. ✌️
If you’re dating a good woman, she’ll
put her children before any man .... if not she’s most likely not a good mother ...
My mom also advised me that any man would put his children before me (as he should!) and that children will end up hating me for stealing their dad, and will run and tell their mom everything and it will cause me so much drama. She said I’m too precious to deal with all that 🥰
I don’t know. Her words always stuck with me. She has life experience and lots of friends who have been there and done that. And so do I.
Look, it’s case by case basis. People have rights and choices. But I just can’t imagine it.
And I am so grateful that Leo, as gorgeous as he is, doesn’t have any children 🙏
Where you're living now, are there a lot of single parents?
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Not many. There didn’t used to be any (because everyone is a religious Catholic) but it’s becoming more “modern”. So you see a little bit of everything.
Most people meet at the church and have 3-4-5 children. It’s odd to me personally, but whatever works for them. I have my own life.
What about where you are at? What’s the biggest turn off about raising someone else’s children?
I guess I am a bit selfish and egotistical for the job.
Never say never though. Life is strange like that. Maybe if I truly loved the guy, I would love his children too. I don’t know. Never been in that situation.
A coworker of mine was dating a guy but he was some sort of a freak. I don’t even want to tell the story, but it’s one of those Dateline special type of a story.
I know that’s a rare example, but I would be worried if I had a child. And it doesn’t matter. Women can be predators too.
At the same time, if I was a single mom, I probably wouldn’t want to stay single forever. Or maybe I would.
I have no idea what I would do. It sounds complicated…but it still works sometimes. I have friends who got adopted by stepdads and they raised them well and helped them financially. That’s the only dad they ever knew. Sometimes they didn’t know that’s not their dad until much later on.
The point is, it’s not for everyone but it can work.
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
I don't see many profiles of single, childless women in their thirties, but I'm also new to these dating apps so what do I know
I mean, it doesn’t mean that it’s doomed or not meant to be if she has a child. How do you personally feel about that?
It’s a deal breaker for me, but it doesn’t have to be for you. You can also hold out for a totally single woman. Like I said, we do exist!
About the same, it wouldn't be a disqualifier by any means, but it is a lot to consider. A pet is a big commitment, much less kids that depends on you. I really don't know, I'm not even wholly sold on the idea of dating really, much less all the other considerations that could come with it, like a partner having kids for example. It was more just that as I was looking at profiles, the majority were single mothers, which got me to thinking.
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Why are you not sold on dating right now? Taking a break?
I personally think it’s sad how many single parents are out there. It’s probably just as many men as women. I think having a child is a serious business and life-time commitment. I don’t get divorces for minor issues. It’s probably best for children too, to grow up in their biological unit.
Also, you should consider your own desires and plans about having your own children. I mean take that into consideration and how would it play with a single mom. If she would want more children and so on, etc.
And I think most people assume you’re a girl because you have a rose on your profile 😆
If you’re dating a good woman, she’ll
put her children before any man .... if not she’s most likely not a good mother ...
My mom also advised me that any man would put his children before me (as he should!) and that children will end up hating me for stealing their dad, and will run and tell their mom everything and it will cause me so much drama. She said I’m too precious to deal with all that 🥰
I don’t know. Her words always stuck with me. She has life experience and lots of friends who have been there and done that. And so do I.
Look, it’s case by case basis. People have rights and choices. But I just can’t imagine it.
And I am so grateful that Leo, as gorgeous as he is, doesn’t have any children 🙏
Where you're living now, are there a lot of single parents?
Not many. There didn’t used to be any (because everyone is a religious Catholic) but it’s becoming more “modern”. So you see a little bit of everything.
Most people meet at the church and have 3-4-5 children. It’s odd to me personally, but whatever works for them. I have my own life.
What about where you are at? What’s the biggest turn off about raising someone else’s children?
I guess I am a bit selfish and egotistical for the job.
Never say never though. Life is strange like that. Maybe if I truly loved the guy, I would love his children too. I don’t know. Never been in that situation.
Got that CatholicMingle thing going for them, huh? That sounds charming, really. I'm in the US, Midwest, its bananas here. To be fair I have a son, so I may sound like a huge hypocrite, but for me personally I pivot too much in life to be anchored down with responsibilities i dont get to make immediate decisions for. My son, has less redtape to deal with, and even if his mother doesn't approve, that has no bearing on the relationship between he and i. I get bored in restless a lot, and will make huge changes in whim. That's not something a rent-a-family would be able to deal with easily.
So yeah, in a nutshell, I too am selfish and egotistical. But at least I'm free to make moves without asking permission from anyone's baby-daddy.
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My only bad “luck” is moving away from Mormon heavy population to Catholic heavy population. They have so much in common, actually 😬
But like I said, it doesn’t concern me and I have 0 desire to be a part of their life style or religion.
You sound like me. Bored and restless and doing things on a whim. Some day, you and I both will probably settle down somewhere.
I think it’s easier if your son lives with his mom. Might be easier for him too, and definitely easier on you. But I am huge proponent of both parents households. That’s the ideal. However, in this day and age, children are well-adjusted and thriving in lots of different environments and households.
I am a free spirit. You know what they say - it takes a village to raise a child.
I just gave my Scorpio landlords daughter some souvenirs, pens and some jewelry and she was blushing , she thanked me 3 times. Her dad told me she is having puberty problems and rough time. I am glad I could make her happy, even for a moment.
And her dad talks to me about his marriage problems, but I only listen halfway. Sorry bud, there is no escape for you!
Find a single woman with no children. They (we) still exist.
I would never date a guy with children. Immediate turn-off. I have my cats and that’s enough foster parenting for me.
A friend of mine has 9 kids.
Women get visibly turned on when they find out.
Are you into women with children? I have a feeling you’d make a great step dad 🙃
Lol maybe I already have children.
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Uh-oh. Awkwardddd 😬 😏
Lol. I gotta ask you though? Are you the “friend” with 9 baby mamas?
I wouldn't date a guy with kids because I want someone to build my world with. A man like that would already have that. Also, maybe I am spoiled, but I want to be the center of a man's heart. And I don't like children most of the time. I can't go through the whole getting to know them process.
lol I literally thought you were a woman this whole time
I don't mind tbh. Women are cool in my book and my gender on this forum is largely irrelevant to my mind. I had a poster mis-gender me awhile back, one of those one and done posters, and I considered correcting her, but didn't because I didn't see a point
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I think it’s because of the rose profile pic plus I read your handle and think of @sealion
Best thing you can do is take people on a person by person basis. Thinking ALL single moms are gonna be a certain way is just as silly as thinking ALL insert sun sign is gonna be a certain way. And if you are in your 30s+ as well the only reason you don’t have kids is because of contraceptives/abortion. So you could very easily be on the other side wondering if childless women would date you.
I’m rambling. But essentially trying to say to keep an open mind and qualify people for more than just surface level. Otherwise your gonna miss out on a fire connection.
There’s so many childless women in their 30s, it’s kinda been edgy and trendy for like the last decade. I had no idea they were hiding 🤨
I believe you, I was commenting on what I see on dating profiles. I don't really run into too many women in my day-to-day life because of my occupation and the things I do for fun. I probably should fix that, but..seems fake or affected to adopt new hobbies just to meet someone. IDK.
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Yeah the idea of getting into hobbies to meet people with similar or cool interests and whatnot always sounded exhausting and kinda fake. I also seriously expected some quality people to fall into my life from thin air with low effort. It’s kind of possible but you do have to make *some* effort. So this hipster city a few hours away I was at the other day has an insane amount of single women and men out alone exercising around town with a pet EVERYWHERE. I’m so convinced they all had pets mainly as conversation starters to easily pick up dates.
Would you date one? Why or why not?
I downloaded a dating app and naturally most women in my age group have kid(s). I don't make any kind of value judgement about that, but it did make me consider the hypothetical situation of dating a woman with kids and whether I would be ready for something like that as someone with no kids and no experience with kids. The idea is daunting and it seems like a man in that situation would struggle with imposter syndrome.
Do you discipline the kids?
Are you financially responsible for the kids Also?
What if they get attached quicker than you're ready?
Also, what if you really grew to love the kids and she decided to break up. That would be pretty harsh I think.
Would it be fair to expect her to have more?
Guys, what are your thoughts?
Yes and I have dated woman with kids.
I do not discipline the kids. I remind and reinforce her discipline. If I have input or something to say we discuss it..like adults
No PDA!
Financial entanglement is serious territory. Even as friend helping each other out is fine but not dependent
Unless it's a serious relationship or has a solid future.
A child is a child. Doesn't matter who's it is. I don't get attached to things and people easily but it's perfectly normal. I have no trouble showing affection attention and I love teaching. I like little humans. Yes it is hard for both the child and adults when the break up happens. People are not disposable. Don't get involved with the children unless you are serious romantically. Feel free as a friend. it's good for everyone especially the kids.
If you get someone with children don't EXPECT to have one more. Thats actually a conversation in the early dating phase when saying a parent.
You are not her priority. Nor should you be. Even if you where married and they where your kids you still wouldn't get full attention. Time with the kids separately, couple's time, and time together with the kids. If you can not do all 3 types dating a parent may not be for you.
Imposter syndrome? The rule of thumb for parents is date the kind of person you would be ok with your child growing up to date. Date someone who is or has the potential to be, a good parent and partner to you in the first place. The kind of relationship you have they will be looking for unconsciously when they grow up.
I don't think I ever been involve with a woman who has kids. At least not to my knowledge. I don't think I want to date a woman who has kids now at my age. My tolerance for kids has sadly gotten low now. At this stage I'm looking for peace and tranquility.
There’s so many childless women in their 30s, it’s kinda been edgy and trendy for like the last decade. I had no idea they were hiding 🤨
I believe you, I was commenting on what I see on dating profiles. I don't really run into too many women in my day-to-day life because of my occupation and the things I do for fun. I probably should fix that, but..seems fake or affected to adopt new hobbies just to meet someone. IDK.
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You only need to meet 1 new person, a Gemini moon. Then sit back and let them introduce you to everyone and their mom lol. You'll meet more people through a gem moon friend then you would speed dating.
Im just waiting for an older man with grown kids. Zero kids
I’d feel like I’d be his maid to take care of his kid
To the op, it's def not for everyone. And that's ok. Scorpio wasn't getting my situation at all. He would constantly asking me to travel with him, and i was like i'm not leaving the country without my daughter. He was like leave her with your parents. Fuck no, if something god forbid happens i want to be there. He took it as a disinterest from my side which he told me somewhere near the end.
He sounds like a prick
How old is your daughter?
To the op, it's def not for everyone. And that's ok. Scorpio wasn't getting my situation at all. He would constantly asking me to travel with him, and i was like i'm not leaving the country without my daughter. He was like leave her with your parents. Fuck no, if something god forbid happens i want to be there. He took it as a disinterest from my side which he told me somewhere near the end.
He sounds like a prick
How old is your daughter?
He is a prick. 9 in a week.
He started calling me again, but i ignore him. Asking me for how long i'll be mad? 😂
Not mad dude, i just don't like you.
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Good for you and for being a good mum 👍
what if you were a sidechick and also a single mom? that sounds like something Thai dramas are made of
@Krabss you have a Leo daughter?
🦁☀️😃
Strangely enough, I’m seeing a lot of men in their 30s never married, with no kids in my area since I moved to “Facebook dating”. Now what I am seeing is that these seem to be transient types, working fast food, retail, moving around a lot, living out of a van, etc. it’s no wonder they don’t have families, they can’t afford them.
The single dads on online dating - I have noticed that it’s always some bitchy intro like “My 3, 5, and 7 year old kids are a package deal, don’t like it? Swipe left”. 🤣🤣🤣 Gross? Who is that appealing to? Nothing redeemable or intriguing or enticing about the profile whatsoever. Just sticky little snot nosed humans with dirty faces on the photos 😷 Vagina closes up like a steel trap.
Yea… I totally want to get off a long day of work to go home to whiny, annoying kids and look forward to serving them Chef Boyardee and listen to loud obnoxious cartoons til we fight over their bedtime at 8pm. Said no woman ever.
When I was on dating apps, I had this on my bio : "I'm a career-driven single mom to a high schooler. I'm not after your money. I'm not here to find a father for my son, he already has one. I'm not gonna send you money, Amazon gift cards nor paying off your student loan debt either. I'm here to meet new people and see where things go. Unless you're a hawt LOTR nerd in w/c case, marry me?"
For me it wasn't meant to be bitchy or anything. I'm 36 and I don't wanna waste my time telling each and every man I match with that he doesn't need to worry about me pressuring him to be responsible for my kid if things get serious.
Most often than not, men find my bio pretty funny. The Amazon gift cards and nerd marry me thing catches their eye apparently.
That’s a good one. Honest, straight to the point, intentions clear, making it known that you’re independent. I can only speak for what I see on men’s profile, but I’m not seeing any remotely like what you’ve written here. Many of them are super bitter and it’s obvious on their profile, so you can get a taste of the baggage these dudes come with. Like Alex said, some are even going so far as to mention exes, being cheated on, losing everything, etc 😵💫😵💫😵💫
It’s so messy and if you look beyond the words, it’s hurt and pain. These are single dads in extremely tough situations, looking for love again. The delivery is so wrong though, I don’t know how they can’t see that and understand how it’s coming off to an observer.
Fortunately I haven't come across a profile of a bitter single dad on those things. Ironically, it was a single and childless 30-something Scorpio man who had the most depressing and bitter bio I came across:
"If you match with me first, you initiate the chat. I'm not here to beg for any woman's attention" and something about being lied to and betrayed way too many times. Lmao.
Oh god, I see those emo cry baby ones too. We have all been hurt, no need to announce it to the world. One time I got an intro from a scorpio man too no less, that started off a compliment and then he goes “so all that must mean you’re a gold digger like most women are.” Like bro?? Guaranteed I make 2-3x his salary. It’s wild. Men sabotaging themselves before you even get to exchange a single message back and forth LOL. Regardless if he sent that or not, I would have sniffed out that weak shit within a couple message exchanges. A very lonely life ahead for these angry incels if that’s their idea of how to approach women 💀💀💀
Jezus. I feel like some men on those apps create a profile just so they can unleash their misogyny anonymously.
One guy even messaged me saying "how much for a night?" I responded with "You should at least be an 8/10 to say things like that to a woman. The audacity."
I guess he didn't expect me to respond and said "I'm sorry ma'am! I was just trying to catch your attention. Now that you're here, would you like to get some coffee?"
Dafuq. So glad I deactivated my profiles.
Classy Filipino men.
The dating pool here is so bad even my single, childless girlfriends lost all hope in meeting a good, loyal and reliable man.
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There’s always firebunny, I don’t see why your friends have lost hope.
Strangely enough, I’m seeing a lot of men in their 30s never married, with no kids in my area since I moved to “Facebook dating”. Now what I am seeing is that these seem to be transient types, working fast food, retail, moving around a lot, living out of a van, etc. it’s no wonder they don’t have families, they can’t afford them.
The single dads on online dating - I have noticed that it’s always some bitchy intro like “My 3, 5, and 7 year old kids are a package deal, don’t like it? Swipe left”. 🤣🤣🤣 Gross? Who is that appealing to? Nothing redeemable or intriguing or enticing about the profile whatsoever. Just sticky little snot nosed humans with dirty faces on the photos 😷 Vagina closes up like a steel trap.
Yea… I totally want to get off a long day of work to go home to whiny, annoying kids and look forward to serving them Chef Boyardee and listen to loud obnoxious cartoons til we fight over their bedtime at 8pm. Said no woman ever.
When I was on dating apps, I had this on my bio : "I'm a career-driven single mom to a high schooler. I'm not after your money. I'm not here to find a father for my son, he already has one. I'm not gonna send you money, Amazon gift cards nor paying off your student loan debt either. I'm here to meet new people and see where things go. Unless you're a hawt LOTR nerd in w/c case, marry me?"
For me it wasn't meant to be bitchy or anything. I'm 36 and I don't wanna waste my time telling each and every man I match with that he doesn't need to worry about me pressuring him to be responsible for my kid if things get serious.
Most often than not, men find my bio pretty funny. The Amazon gift cards and nerd marry me thing catches their eye apparently.
That’s a good one. Honest, straight to the point, intentions clear, making it known that you’re independent. I can only speak for what I see on men’s profile, but I’m not seeing any remotely like what you’ve written here. Many of them are super bitter and it’s obvious on their profile, so you can get a taste of the baggage these dudes come with. Like Alex said, some are even going so far as to mention exes, being cheated on, losing everything, etc 😵💫😵💫😵💫
It’s so messy and if you look beyond the words, it’s hurt and pain. These are single dads in extremely tough situations, looking for love again. The delivery is so wrong though, I don’t know how they can’t see that and understand how it’s coming off to an observer.
Fortunately I haven't come across a profile of a bitter single dad on those things. Ironically, it was a single and childless 30-something Scorpio man who had the most depressing and bitter bio I came across:
"If you match with me first, you initiate the chat. I'm not here to beg for any woman's attention" and something about being lied to and betrayed way too many times. Lmao.
Oh god, I see those emo cry baby ones too. We have all been hurt, no need to announce it to the world. One time I got an intro from a scorpio man too no less, that started off a compliment and then he goes “so all that must mean you’re a gold digger like most women are.” Like bro?? Guaranteed I make 2-3x his salary. It’s wild. Men sabotaging themselves before you even get to exchange a single message back and forth LOL. Regardless if he sent that or not, I would have sniffed out that weak shit within a couple message exchanges. A very lonely life ahead for these angry incels if that’s their idea of how to approach women 💀💀💀
Jezus. I feel like some men on those apps create a profile just so they can unleash their misogyny anonymously.
One guy even messaged me saying "how much for a night?" I responded with "You should at least be an 8/10 to say things like that to a woman. The audacity."
I guess he didn't expect me to respond and said "I'm sorry ma'am! I was just trying to catch your attention. Now that you're here, would you like to get some coffee?"
Dafuq. So glad I deactivated my profiles.
Classy Filipino men.
The dating pool here is so bad even my single, childless girlfriends lost all hope in meeting a good, loyal and reliable man.
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That’s sad 😞
Eww wth a cartoon
I only swiped right by mistake
what her description
I unmatched something like swipe right to know more
man this IS TOO much work, your leo Ex where did u meet here ? on a app ? fuck apps
Yep the same app
Before that I met girls in my building lobby 😅
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What you broken up!!!!don’t worry you have a few more Clooney years
Strangely enough, I’m seeing a lot of men in their 30s never married, with no kids in my area since I moved to “Facebook dating”. Now what I am seeing is that these seem to be transient types, working fast food, retail, moving around a lot, living out of a van, etc. it’s no wonder they don’t have families, they can’t afford them.
The single dads on online dating - I have noticed that it’s always some bitchy intro like “My 3, 5, and 7 year old kids are a package deal, don’t like it? Swipe left”. 🤣🤣🤣 Gross? Who is that appealing to? Nothing redeemable or intriguing or enticing about the profile whatsoever. Just sticky little snot nosed humans with dirty faces on the photos 😷 Vagina closes up like a steel trap.
Yea… I totally want to get off a long day of work to go home to whiny, annoying kids and look forward to serving them Chef Boyardee and listen to loud obnoxious cartoons til we fight over their bedtime at 8pm. Said no woman ever.
When I was on dating apps, I had this on my bio : "I'm a career-driven single mom to a high schooler. I'm not after your money. I'm not here to find a father for my son, he already has one. I'm not gonna send you money, Amazon gift cards nor paying off your student loan debt either. I'm here to meet new people and see where things go. Unless you're a hawt LOTR nerd in w/c case, marry me?"
For me it wasn't meant to be bitchy or anything. I'm 36 and I don't wanna waste my time telling each and every man I match with that he doesn't need to worry about me pressuring him to be responsible for my kid if things get serious.
Most often than not, men find my bio pretty funny. The Amazon gift cards and nerd marry me thing catches their eye apparently.
That’s a good one. Honest, straight to the point, intentions clear, making it known that you’re independent. I can only speak for what I see on men’s profile, but I’m not seeing any remotely like what you’ve written here. Many of them are super bitter and it’s obvious on their profile, so you can get a taste of the baggage these dudes come with. Like Alex said, some are even going so far as to mention exes, being cheated on, losing everything, etc 😵💫😵💫😵💫
It’s so messy and if you look beyond the words, it’s hurt and pain. These are single dads in extremely tough situations, looking for love again. The delivery is so wrong though, I don’t know how they can’t see that and understand how it’s coming off to an observer.
Fortunately I haven't come across a profile of a bitter single dad on those things. Ironically, it was a single and childless 30-something Scorpio man who had the most depressing and bitter bio I came across:
"If you match with me first, you initiate the chat. I'm not here to beg for any woman's attention" and something about being lied to and betrayed way too many times. Lmao.
Oh god, I see those emo cry baby ones too. We have all been hurt, no need to announce it to the world. One time I got an intro from a scorpio man too no less, that started off a compliment and then he goes “so all that must mean you’re a gold digger like most women are.” Like bro?? Guaranteed I make 2-3x his salary. It’s wild. Men sabotaging themselves before you even get to exchange a single message back and forth LOL. Regardless if he sent that or not, I would have sniffed out that weak shit within a couple message exchanges. A very lonely life ahead for these angry incels if that’s their idea of how to approach women 💀💀💀
Jezus. I feel like some men on those apps create a profile just so they can unleash their misogyny anonymously.
One guy even messaged me saying "how much for a night?" I responded with "You should at least be an 8/10 to say things like that to a woman. The audacity."
I guess he didn't expect me to respond and said "I'm sorry ma'am! I was just trying to catch your attention. Now that you're here, would you like to get some coffee?"
Dafuq. So glad I deactivated my profiles.
Classy Filipino men.
The dating pool here is so bad even my single, childless girlfriends lost all hope in meeting a good, loyal and reliable man.
That’s sad 😞
Very. My Sag bff was smart. She branched out and ended up marrying an Aqua from Hungary. They're in the UK now and she's the happiest I've seen her.
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That’s great your friend is happy 😊. It gives hope to others!
It ain’t over till it’s over
I see love being found in convalescent homes lol
Thanks for your input, all. Someday I'll find my little nerd hippie woman, but no rush for me. Life is good.
Did you know there was such a thing called the Cinderella effect and children are 100x more at risk of child abuse and neglect living in a family with a step parent.
This is one of the major vulnerabilities I see in single moms. I mean there are 2nd chances but there's usually an underlying problem which caused the first relationship to fail. That never gets looked at and the kids always get the worst of it cause the mom wants to have her man
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I think that's more complicated. in our society, its been that a single woman with children has little value without a man. She has to put time and effort into her children, vs effort she could put into herself or earning potential. yeah there are some women who overlook this, but often its a choice between two bad options.
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Would you date one? Why or why not?
I downloaded a dating app and naturally most women in my age group have kid(s). I don't make any kind of value judgement about that, but it did make me consider the hypothetical situation of dating a woman with kids and whether I would be ready for something like that as someone with no kids and no experience with kids. The idea is daunting and it seems like a man in that situation would struggle with imposter syndrome.
Do you discipline the kids?
Are you financially responsible for the kids Also?
What if they get attached quicker than you're ready?
Also, what if you really grew to love the kids and she decided to break up. That would be pretty harsh I think.
Would it be fair to expect her to have more?
Guys, what are your thoughts?