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I hate neggers. I thought it was a fire moon thing. It's annoying regardless.

Nah not for me anyway. I’m more straight forward if I’ve decided I want to flirt. Negging is just annoying and I don’t even think I would deliver it correctly if I tried

Maybe that's why I notice it more when fire moons try it because it just sounds like they want to fight me.
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Lmaooooo yeah it’s never smooth like our air moon brethren 😔
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What's the purpose of this? For someone with low self-esteem to beat someone else down to equal or lower self-esteem? I just dont get the tactic. Would seem to me people who neg would be the codependent type looking for another codependent type. I mean, if you get your value from attempting to change someone else, as that someone else gets their value by being a 'good little girl or boy" in the eyes of the other. Maybe I'm off, but seems like a form of codependency.

i think he mentioned codependency at some point when i asked him to explain it to me

he's not like a 'hot' guy but he uses his money as a form of 'control' along with 'negging'

this guy is so punchable

Does it work for him? Do he get all da ladiez?
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he only got his wife coz they both got drunk one time

admits that he can only really get girls with alcohol

whatever that means
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Posted by snowballer

Its bantering if its funny. It's just negging if it's not.

Bantering if its inside jokes and its light. Negging if they're like wow you're 26, I'm seeing wrinkles. You're getting old. No one likes you. lol.


tried to force this taurus girl at work on him

and he's like: "she's 26 and that's too old for a woman."

so he's got this theory that women are like cars so their value goes down after 25

i am serious he said this

oh well turns out she's got a sag bf so good for her

not gonna inflict this man on anyone
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Its bantering if its funny. It's just negging if it's not.

Bantering if its inside jokes and its light. Negging if they're like wow you're 26, I'm seeing wrinkles. You're getting old. No one likes you. lol.

tried to force this taurus girl at work on him

and he's like: "she's 26 and that's too old for a woman."

so he's got this theory that women are like cars so their value goes down after 25

i am serious he said this

oh well turns out she's got a sag bf so good for her

not gonna inflict this man on anyone

Women who hit 26 and have never been married I guess are called thornbacks. Urban dictionary let me know this around my 26th birthday. How old is he lol?
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almost 40

which i love to remind him btw
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What's the purpose of this? For someone with low self-esteem to beat someone else down to equal or lower self-esteem? I just dont get the tactic. Would seem to me people who neg would be the codependent type looking for another codependent type. I mean, if you get your value from attempting to change someone else, as that someone else gets their value by being a 'good little girl or boy" in the eyes of the other. Maybe I'm off, but seems like a form of codependency.

I think that's exactly the idea.

Poaching based on insecurities... doesnt sound like a headache at all..

Did you happen to read that crap I linked to? It appears to be non-handsome guys attempting to make beautiful women feel bad about themselves so they'll date men less attractive than them.

I didnt, but I've checked out the pickup artists crap when that started getting big.. mainly to learn what PUA stood for.

I mean, I think its pretty common knowledge that good looking people get told they're good looking all the time. So, obviously being original will yield a better result than the canned response that everyone else gets. But, the false confidence you have to have to neg someone would eventually become opaque over time, I would think..
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yet there's people who are literally intimidated by those they can consider 'out of their league' simply due to the assumption that people are lining up for that.

negging is a novelty that i hate so much that guys think is sooo cool.
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What's the purpose of this? For someone with low self-esteem to beat someone else down to equal or lower self-esteem? I just dont get the tactic. Would seem to me people who neg would be the codependent type looking for another codependent type. I mean, if you get your value from attempting to change someone else, as that someone else gets their value by being a 'good little girl or boy" in the eyes of the other. Maybe I'm off, but seems like a form of codependency.

I think that's exactly the idea.

Poaching based on insecurities... doesnt sound like a headache at all..

Did you happen to read that crap I linked to? It appears to be non-handsome guys attempting to make beautiful women feel bad about themselves so they'll date men less attractive than them.

I didnt, but I've checked out the pickup artists crap when that started getting big.. mainly to learn what PUA stood for.

I mean, I think its pretty common knowledge that good looking people get told they're good looking all the time. So, obviously being original will yield a better result than the canned response that everyone else gets. But, the false confidence you have to have to neg someone would eventually become opaque over time, I would think..

I read the book the game Neil Strauss wrote. It was a must read book and best-seller. I saw the TV series with Mystery, I think it was called the Pick-Up Artist. It was very interesting, never really interested me in terms of using that stuff. What I always wondered if what happens when the mask slips off and the PUA reveals himself and they could be great guys, but if the girl expects a rock star and they get say someone who lives in their parent's basement - can you expect her to stay?
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this scorpio lives in his parents' basement
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I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.


What ta fuck is negging (and I’ve googled it) and why and what for?

So he said you are an amazing just because he is an asshole? I don’t get the point...
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I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.

What ta fuck is negging (and I’ve googled it) and why and what for?

So he said you are an amazing just because he is an asshole? I don’t get the point...

Where I'm from we called them "back-handed" or "back-assed" compliments.
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One more time...please explain.

You are a pretty woman. He is an ass face.

He gives you a compliment on your appearance hoping that you will fall for this shit?

Or he is putting you down so you think he is a suitable suitor?
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I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.

What ta fuck is negging (and I’ve googled it) and why and what for?

So he said you are an amazing just because he is an asshole? I don’t get the point...

Where I'm from we called them "back-handed" or "back-assed" compliments.
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One more time...please explain.

You are a pretty woman. He is an ass face.

He gives you a compliment on your appearance hoping that you will fall for this shit?

Or he is putting you down so you think he is a suitable suitor?
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.
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It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)
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No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.
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Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Oh no, I agree with you.

Just know I was screwing with you, lol! ❤️

But yeah, too many people are worried about the most dumbest things when they should be focusing on more important stuff.

To summarize this whole thread in one sentence: if someone treats you like shit, return the favor or leave.

It really isn't that hard unless you like the abuse. 🤷🏻‍♂️🤣
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Sorry...I know that came off like I was attacking you...I wasn't. I was just saying in general.
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.
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it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him
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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him
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That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him

That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?
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i don't know

he told me that's what it's called

i've never heard of it before to be honest
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Posted by Mesquite
Posted by LostinmyMind11

Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him

That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?

Because if a guy chokes your dog out, he's an asshole but not necessarily a negger. It's for deduction purposes.
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No...if a guy chokes my dog out...he's mentally disturb and psychotic far beyond just a typical asshole. Please choose better examples.
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What's the purpose of this? For someone with low self-esteem to beat someone else down to equal or lower self-esteem? I just dont get the tactic. Would seem to me people who neg would be the codependent type looking for another codependent type. I mean, if you get your value from attempting to change someone else, as that someone else gets their value by being a 'good little girl or boy" in the eyes of the other. Maybe I'm off, but seems like a form of codependency.

I think that's exactly the idea.

Poaching based on insecurities... doesnt sound like a headache at all..

Did you happen to read that crap I linked to? It appears to be non-handsome guys attempting to make beautiful women feel bad about themselves so they'll date men less attractive than them.

I didnt, but I've checked out the pickup artists crap when that started getting big.. mainly to learn what PUA stood for.

I mean, I think its pretty common knowledge that good looking people get told they're good looking all the time. So, obviously being original will yield a better result than the canned response that everyone else gets. But, the false confidence you have to have to neg someone would eventually become opaque over time, I would think..

I read the book the game Neil Strauss wrote. It was a must read book and best-seller. I saw the TV series with Mystery, I think it was called the Pick-Up Artist. It was very interesting, never really interested me in terms of using that stuff. What I always wondered if what happens when the mask slips off and the PUA reveals himself and they could be great guys, but if the girl expects a rock star and they get say someone who lives in their parent's basement - can you expect her to stay?

this scorpio lives in his parents' basement

Now you're just trolling.
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his parents' wealthy

his room is taken up by his kid

so he tells me he's made a place down in the basement

(he's asian so not like we really care about moving out or not)
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my scorpio co-worker tells me he uses this and is convinced it works

but srsly i think it just makes him punchable

i've noticed that this is actually something a scorpio sun and or scorpio moon does

has it worked on you?

i think it's so feminine

LOL I think it's masculine.

It's literally the same thing mean girls do to each other.

"Nice dress. Most people with your body type wouldn't try that."

"You are so pretty for your age."

"I love your hair. My mom had that style in her high school pictures."

I think it's very girly.
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😂😂
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him

That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?

We didn't.

https://www.rebornmasculinity.com/negging-women-complete-guide/

The PUA assholes did.

But it really cracks me up that people get mad when being an asshole is named being an asshole. lol

I want the freedom to say mean shit and not get called out for it!
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Is majority of that not just teasing someone unless you legit have ulterior motives? I mean shit...growing up...I've had guys (kids) say that kinda stuff....so at what point do we drawn the line?

I've been told different examples...which is it? Teasing or being an asshole and down right insulting someone.

How about we all just stop talking to each other all together....everyone just become a mute. Then we'll start labeling body language hardcore and it'll never end.

If someone is being a jerk...ignore them and move one. If they are teasing you, tease them back...idk why this is so difficult for?!
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him

That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?

We didn't.

https://www.rebornmasculinity.com/negging-women-complete-guide/

The PUA assholes did.

But it really cracks me up that people get mad when being an asshole is named being an asshole. lol

I want the freedom to say mean shit and not get called out for it!

Is majority of that not just teasing someone unless you legit have ulterior motives? I mean shit...growing up...I've had guys (kids) say that kinda stuff....so at what point do we drawn the line?

I've been told different examples...which is it? Teasing or being an asshole and down right insulting someone.

How about we all just stop talking to each other all together....everyone just become a mute. Then we'll start labeling body language hardcore and it'll never end.

If someone is being a jerk...ignore them and move one. If they are teasing you, tease them back...idk why this is so difficult for?!

If there are unscrupulous men out there teaching each other techniques to trick women, women need to know about it.
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I'm not saying that we shouldn't...but let's distinguish what's what before we run around accusing people of doing stuff they aren't really doing...i.e. calling everyone a narcissist.

Men and women manipulate each other everyday...whether their intentions are good or bad. That ain't gonna change.
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I would say negging is just a natural courtship strategy. Many can fall for it it just takes the right remark.

i agree

but some people take it too far

or maybe i'm just oversensitive idk

Yeah to me its dumb cause id rather be direct and not get tangled in passive aggressive/strategic bullshit

"Passive aggressive"

Yes, it is. And that's probably why I find it so appalling. Or, as The Breeders say, "strategy's for punks."

Its feminine as virgoop pointed out. Its indirect like a spider weaving its web to trap its victims instead if like a lion biting that gazelle
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nagging and throwing tantrums though childish seem more masculine to me

coz these are direct and forceful methods

i want what i want and i keep telling you what it is

these are things that i do lol

#firsthouser
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imagine a man who wants you but can't even say it above a whisper in fear of you gEtTing tHe pOWerR

this why some women just want a BASIC MAN

women gathering around talking about how they want love and affection

then men talking about how they're going to control or withhold said love and affection

LMFAO

I don't consider men who are confident enough to speak straight "basic." I consider them men.
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yeah but some people say it insultingly

you ever see kittens calling aries women basic?
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imagine a man who wants you but can't even say it above a whisper in fear of you gEtTing tHe pOWerR

this why some women just want a BASIC MAN

women gathering around talking about how they want love and affection

then men talking about how they're going to control or withhold said love and affection

LMFAO

I don't consider men who are confident enough to speak straight "basic." I consider them men.

yeah but some people say it insultingly

you ever see kittens calling aries women basic?

lol "Kittens"

He didn't have any opinions I agreed with.
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maybe basic-ness isn't so bad
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Posted by Phangus
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Posted by Phangus
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imagine a man who wants you but can't even say it above a whisper in fear of you gEtTing tHe pOWerR

this why some women just want a BASIC MAN

women gathering around talking about how they want love and affection

then men talking about how they're going to control or withhold said love and affection

LMFAO

I don't consider men who are confident enough to speak straight "basic." I consider them men.

yeah but some people say it insultingly

you ever see kittens calling aries women basic?

lol "Kittens"

He didn't have any opinions I agreed with.

maybe basic-ness isn't so bad

I disagree that it's "basic". Being confident and having the nerve to speak about one's feelings is a rarity these days. It's anything but basic.
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truth

it's weird that i consider myself a very insular person but i'm actually really blunt when i want something

my libra mars is in the 1st house
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Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him

That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?

We didn't.

https://www.rebornmasculinity.com/negging-women-complete-guide/

The PUA assholes did.

But it really cracks me up that people get mad when being an asshole is named being an asshole. lol

I want the freedom to say mean shit and not get called out for it!

Is majority of that not just teasing someone unless you legit have ulterior motives? I mean shit...growing up...I've had guys (kids) say that kinda stuff....so at what point do we drawn the line?

I've been told different examples...which is it? Teasing or being an asshole and down right insulting someone.

How about we all just stop talking to each other all together....everyone just become a mute. Then we'll start labeling body language hardcore and it'll never end.

If someone is being a jerk...ignore them and move one. If they are teasing you, tease them back...idk why this is so difficult for?!

If there are unscrupulous men out there teaching each other techniques to trick women, women need to know about it.

I'm not saying that we shouldn't...but let's distinguish what's what before we run around accusing people of doing stuff they aren't really doing...i.e. calling everyone a narcissist.

Men and women manipulate each other everyday...whether their intentions are good or bad. That ain't gonna change.

I really don't understand what you're upset about.
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Why do you assume I'm upset for? I thought we were having a discussion...are we not?
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Posted by Phangus
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imagine a man who wants you but can't even say it above a whisper in fear of you gEtTing tHe pOWerR

this why some women just want a BASIC MAN

women gathering around talking about how they want love and affection

then men talking about how they're going to control or withhold said love and affection

LMFAO

I don't consider men who are confident enough to speak straight "basic." I consider them men.

yeah but some people say it insultingly

you ever see kittens calling aries women basic?

lol "Kittens"

He didn't have any opinions I agreed with.

maybe basic-ness isn't so bad

I disagree that it's "basic". Being confident and having the nerve to speak about one's feelings is a rarity these days. It's anything but basic.

truth

it's weird that i consider myself a very insular person but i'm actually really blunt when i want something

my libra mars is in the 1st house

I can empathize with people who are afraid. But if those fearful person use their fear as an excuse to be underhanded with me, the empathy quickly evaporates.
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i don't really empathize with people who are afraid to try

in fact, i look down on it

once had this job where an aries girl looked down on me coz i don't even TRY at work

this is something i don't care to apply professionally but relationship-wise, i'm very brave
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Posted by LostinmyMind11

Wtf is negging?

I give people shit all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This shit is outta hand...I quit!

Quitter.

It's ridiculous....you can't do shit without someone putting a label on it and then condemning you. Yeah, if you're being a complete asshole... different story and you can see those types a mile away...one would hope...but I joke a lot, I banter, I say off the wall things...I mean no harm in it. It's like when people throw around narcissist for everything. It's a tad over the top.

For a society right now that's soooo against labels.. y'all sure do use them a lot.

Negging is like when cc bluntly and randomly commented that you're a stupid ugly bitch (her words not mine)

No that's her just being an asshole. There's no back handed compliment there....

Look, and I'm coming from a good place, maybe you neg too. Most of the neggers I know are leo moons and sag moons.

Or maybe you cant distinguish the difference between bantering and being an asshole...which clearly shows in your example you gave.

it's not really bantering

but negging is when someone keeps insulting you to crush your self-esteem

so that you'd long/thirst for the approval of that person

scorpio told me he does this so the girl would think she can't do any better than him

That's being an asshole...why label it anything other than that?

We didn't.

https://www.rebornmasculinity.com/negging-women-complete-guide/

The PUA assholes did.

But it really cracks me up that people get mad when being an asshole is named being an asshole. lol

I want the freedom to say mean shit and not get called out for it!

Is majority of that not just teasing someone unless you legit have ulterior motives? I mean shit...growing up...I've had guys (kids) say that kinda stuff....so at what point do we drawn the line?

I've been told different examples...which is it? Teasing or being an asshole and down right insulting someone.

How about we all just stop talking to each other all together....everyone just become a mute. Then we'll start labeling body language hardcore and it'll never end.

If someone is being a jerk...ignore them and move one. If they are teasing you, tease them back...idk why this is so difficult for?!

If there are unscrupulous men out there teaching each other techniques to trick women, women need to know about it.

I'm not saying that we shouldn't...but let's distinguish what's what before we run around accusing people of doing stuff they aren't really doing...i.e. calling everyone a narcissist.

Men and women manipulate each other everyday...whether their intentions are good or bad. That ain't gonna change.

I really don't understand what you're upset about.

Why do you assume I'm upset for? I thought we were having a discussion...are we not?

This struck me as pissed off that we're discussing it....



"Wtf is negging?

I give people butter all the time....so now I'm gonna be accused of negging? 🙄

This butter is outta hand...I quit!"
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Hardly pissed off but thanks for assuming so. I legit asked a question and giving the responses which no one is actually on the same page about what it means...I made a statement.

Excuse the fuck outta me. I'll see myself out and y'all can go back to not knowing wtf it is you're trying to condemn people for this time.

Besides the op saying this is what the Scorpio told her he's doing...everyone else is assuming that others are doing the same because it made you feel a type of way.