negging

my scorpio co-worker tells me he uses this and is convinced it works

but srsly i think it just makes him punchable

i've noticed that this is actually something a scorpio sun and or scorpio moon does

has it worked on you?

i think it's so feminine

I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.

Posted by Ram416

I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.

so confusing coz why would i want approval after any slight to my ego or any perceived insult?

like if i wanted to be insulted, i'll just call a family member lol

Posted by SlipperySlope

Girls love being teased about shit but negging is one step away from begging.

except my dad never criticized me

though female members of my family have

so i think of it as 'feminine'

Posted by SlipperySlope

When he says "26 is old for a woman" to you, he's negging you. I'll bet you a million bucks he says the same shit to other girls and just changes up the age to match hers lol.

last time we got ice cream together but before that

i was so annoyed with his non-stop negging

almost did not go to lunch with him like he needs to shut up

it's so different with fire sun men (aries and my dad)

it felt so good when i started dating the aries

that did some damage to his negging theory

this why i have such profound disgust for scorpio energy

I think I have said things that could be called negging, but in reality it was just me being a little shit, when you're a Mercury/3th house dominant is difficult to shut up lmao

but it wouldn't work on me, I immediately come with a remark, and probably a "spicier" one at that 👹

Posted by Endless

I think I have said things that could be called negging, but in reality it was just me being a little shit, when you're a Mercury/3th house dominant is difficult to shut up lmao

but it wouldn't work on me, I immediately come with a remark, and probably a "spicier" one at that 👹

it's so unattractive but i guess women who didn't have that scornful energy growing up might crave it or whatever

yeah babe i want some of that caustic mommy remarks

pls tell me to have some fruit instead of a croissant for breakfast

accidentally exploiting the wrong childhood trauma

Posted by virgoOPPP

accidentally exploiting the wrong childhood trauma

can't say for sure if it related to a trauma, but I can see people pleasers falling for it, also those who's ego are dependant on external input.

both things are incompatible with a cap moon.

Posted by Anasui

Your superiors can't tell you to put your hair in a ponytail if you go bald

thanks i hate it

Posted by Endless

Posted by virgoOPPP

accidentally exploiting the wrong childhood trauma

can't say for sure if it related to a trauma, but I can see people pleasers falling for it, also those who's ego are dependant on external input.

both things are incompatible with a cap moon.

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this annoying scorpio is a cap moon

i don't fall for it coz i only like sweet talking con artists

Posted by Erin

I ask him if he is retarded.

oh no that would be translated as flirting

this technique sounds like it's jaded but it's really delusional

it's a reverse psych thing that too many feminine guys do

when they watch a lot of rom-coms

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Endless

Posted by virgoOPPP

accidentally exploiting the wrong childhood trauma

can't say for sure if it related to a trauma, but I can see people pleasers falling for it, also those who's ego are dependant on external input.

both things are incompatible with a cap moon.

this annoying scorpio is a cap moon

i don't fall for it coz i only like sweet talking con artists

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such a disgrace.

the black sheep of cap mooners

Posted by virgoOPPP

my scorpio co-worker tells me he uses this and is convinced it works

but srsly i think it just makes him punchable

i've noticed that this is actually something a scorpio sun and or scorpio moon does

has it worked on you?

i think it's so feminine

I don't do that. Air signs are all about it tho and leos and virgos. Mercurial people.

I see right through it and go the other way.

I went through years of emotional/verbal abuse with a leo sun, virgo venus that I've notated the early indicators of negging.

2 Virgo boss, libra boss, anyone with Gemini personal placement that I run quickly in the other direction.

As a scorpio moon I wish to bring out nothing but the best in ppl.

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Ram416

I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.

so confusing coz why would i want approval after any slight to my ego or any perceived insult?

like if i wanted to be insulted, i'll just call a family member lol

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The scam is in wanting to gain the approval of someone who disapproves. Particularly a love interest.

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by SlipperySlope

Girls love being teased about shit but negging is one step away from begging.

except my dad never criticized me

though female members of my family have

so i think of it as 'feminine'

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Very competitive people do it 2. Women are competitive when it comes to supply of Male attention.

It's all over social media. Memes about "real women rock this or that" cleverly disguised negging

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Ram416

I don't do it. I've had people use it on me though - most of them were air signs (libra and gemini). It was a very effective manipulation tactic on their part, because of my low self-esteem at the time, I was easy pickings.

I think if a person has enough self-confidence and self-awareness, negging probably wouldn't work.

so confusing coz why would i want approval after any slight to my ego or any perceived insult?

like if i wanted to be insulted, i'll just call a family member lol

The scam is in wanting to gain the approval of someone who disapproves. Particularly a love interest.

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reminds me of times when i've tried to gain approval from FEMALE family members

turned to resentment when i got older

still is

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Posted by virgoOPPP

my scorpio co-worker tells me he uses this and is convinced it works

but srsly i think it just makes him punchable

i've noticed that this is actually something a scorpio sun and or scorpio moon does

has it worked on you?

i think it's so feminine

I went through years of emotional/verbal abuse with a leo sun, virgo venus that I've notated the early indicators of negging.

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a virgo Venus?

no, no, we are talking about nEgging here

Virgo Venus are about nAgging.

is a bit different.

LMAO

Posted by SlipperySlope

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by SlipperySlope

When he says "26 is old for a woman" to you, he's negging you. I'll bet you a million bucks he says the same shit to other girls and just changes up the age to match hers lol.

last time we got ice cream together but before that

i was so annoyed with his non-stop negging

almost did not go to lunch with him like he needs to shut up

it's so different with fire sun men (aries and my dad)

Rude, I don't do that and I know an Aries who does that allot. Especially to his friends bo I cut him out of my life.

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Yup competitive people do it alot.

Posted by Endless

Posted by DMV

Posted by virgoOPPP

my scorpio co-worker tells me he uses this and is convinced it works

but srsly i think it just makes him punchable

i've noticed that this is actually something a scorpio sun and or scorpio moon does

has it worked on you?

i think it's so feminine

I went through years of emotional/verbal abuse with a leo sun, virgo venus that I've notated the early indicators of negging.

a virgo Venus?

no, no, we are talking about nEgging here

Virgo Venus are about nAgging.

is a bit different.

LMAO

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Both. 😉

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Nope that stuff would turn me off right away. If you are already criticising me in the dating days I'm sure you won't stick around later. Sounds like a player huge turn off. I like polite men not assholes.

I sent a picture to a Cap man who keeps pursuing me yet he gave no compliments didn't even say I looked pretty yet I know he thinks I am. I asked him don't you like it and he answered oh are you doubting yourself and laughed. Lol.

Well I sent it only because he asked I'm not even interested but I was like wow this is a confirmation that we have nothing to do together anyway. Men I like don't act like that.

maybe it's capricorn too

this man's a scorpio sun/capricorn moon

he's also extremely shallow like all he really thinks about is a girl's physical appearance

it's not like he's even fit but he thinks that he's got license to act this way simply coz he has money

Negging, ghosting and cat fishing

Modern day dating......so tempting 🌝

Lol

Posted by Arielle83

Before I dated my bf, he once came up to me at the coffee machine at work and said:

“Hey arielle, haven’t seen you around for a while.”

Me: “that’s because I’ve been avoiding you.”

He told me after I said that, he knew it was time to chase.

I really was avoiding him and a lot of the stirrers at work.

accidental negging

Hi

What is negging?

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by SlipperySlope

Posted by Mesquite

I have no need for tactics like that. You attract more flies with honey, not vinegar.

Bees*

Calling them flies is low-key negging lmao.

I've been using the quote for years. Everybody knows what I mean. 😊

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I think you meant to say, you catch more flies with shit haha

Posted by Phangus

Posted by MyStarsShine

Negging, ghosting and cat fishing

Modern day dating......so tempting 🌝

Lol

The name of the game is control not connection.

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all this guy ever taught me has to do with power. but unlike him, i'm not scared to jump into the possibility of a connection. i'm wayyyy optimistic. and it's easier for me to move on. trust me, i move very quickly.

i don't put up with his crap. like there are times he tells me we should stay in the lounge of the office for a while right after work. and i act all impatient and rush to the elevators and he'll panic. he's always about control and it's starting to really annoy me. scorpios do this all the time and i'm done with this feminine crap.

i'm still pro-ghosting by the way.

also people have to BE stupid not to videochat before meeting someone so if they get catfished, that's some special kind of stupidity.

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Nope that stuff would turn me off right away. If you are already criticising me in the dating days I'm sure you won't stick around later. Sounds like a player huge turn off. I like polite men not assholes.

I sent a picture to a Cap man who keeps pursuing me yet he gave no compliments didn't even say I looked pretty yet I know he thinks I am. I asked him don't you like it and he answered oh are you doubting yourself and laughed. Lol.

Well I sent it only because he asked I'm not even interested but I was like wow this is a confirmation that we have nothing to do together anyway. Men I like don't act like that.

Starve you for compliments.

I used to listen women pov YouTube and I started listening to Male POV YouTube and the difference is enlightening.

Most women are looking for respect love and some are bitter and disappointed.

Some Men state how they make women work for compliments. Starving them for attention. Compare me to my friends or their exes.

Posted by snowballer

I hate neggers. I thought it was a fire moon thing. It's annoying regardless.

whatever happened to sweet talking?

worst foot forward.

sheesh people don't even TRY anymore.

at this point, i'd be flattered if someone attempted to catfish me.

Posted by DMV

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Nope that stuff would turn me off right away. If you are already criticising me in the dating days I'm sure you won't stick around later. Sounds like a player huge turn off. I like polite men not assholes.

I sent a picture to a Cap man who keeps pursuing me yet he gave no compliments didn't even say I looked pretty yet I know he thinks I am. I asked him don't you like it and he answered oh are you doubting yourself and laughed. Lol.

Well I sent it only because he asked I'm not even interested but I was like wow this is a confirmation that we have nothing to do together anyway. Men I like don't act like that.

Starve you for compliments.

I used to listen women pov YouTube and I started listening to Male POV YouTube and the difference is enlightening.

Most women are looking for respect love and some are bitter and disappointed.

Some Men state how they make women work for compliments. Starving them for attention. Compare me to my friends or their exes.

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it's so funny too coz this guy's libra ex not only cheated on him but also gold digs on him.

took money from him which she used to book a flight to singapore and sleep with another man.

yeah boy that's REAL ALPHA and 'powerful.'

almost like you PAID her to cheat on you. a woman he acquired one drunk time. when i get tired of his negging, i remind him how that happens when a man doesn't choose and just lets things happen to him.

our friendship is half toxic like this is srsly real housewives level friendship and i'm having it with a MALE LMFAO.

Posted by snowballer

Posted by DMV

Posted by CancerAquaSagg

Nope that stuff would turn me off right away. If you are already criticising me in the dating days I'm sure you won't stick around later. Sounds like a player huge turn off. I like polite men not assholes.

I sent a picture to a Cap man who keeps pursuing me yet he gave no compliments didn't even say I looked pretty yet I know he thinks I am. I asked him don't you like it and he answered oh are you doubting yourself and laughed. Lol.

Well I sent it only because he asked I'm not even interested but I was like wow this is a confirmation that we have nothing to do together anyway. Men I like don't act like that.

Starve you for compliments.

I used to listen women pov YouTube and I started listening to Male POV YouTube and the difference is enlightening.

Most women are looking for respect love and some are bitter and disappointed.

Some Men state how they make women work for compliments. Starving them for attention. Compare me to my friends or their exes.

Then when they get left for someone else, they're like "I guess she never really loved me" they act so offended and dumbfounded

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BIG ALPHA ENERGY

same males who can't express desire for a woman COZ SHE GONNA GET THE POWER

this is why i keep ghosting

Posted by SlipperySlope

Posted by Mesquite

I have no need for tactics like that. You attract more flies with honey, not vinegar.

Bees*

Calling them flies is low-key negging lmao.

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I seriously just heard that phrase using flies like a second ago

That is sooo true. Some men withhold affection and compliments because they think it will shift the power away from them in a relationship.

Posted by snowballer

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by snowballer

I hate neggers. I thought it was a fire moon thing. It's annoying regardless.

whatever happened to sweet talking?

worst food forward.

sheesh people don't even TRY anymore.

at this point, i'd be flattered if someone attempted to catfish me.

I'm a sucker for sweet talkers. Water moon thing. I agree with you 100% on the worst foot forward thing. Men are so dumb these days. They don't think in terms of what can I do to make this a long lasting healthy relationship. They think in terms of if I treat her like shit, her self esteem will be so low she won't leave me. When emotional reasons is the number one reason why women cheat...

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parents criticize, teachers criticize, i'm a virgo so i criticize myself

why would i need a NEGGER?

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

Posted by Phangus

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Phangus

Posted by MyStarsShine

Negging, ghosting and cat fishing

Modern day dating......so tempting 🌝

Lol

The name of the game is control not connection.

all this guy ever taught me has to do with power. but unlike him, i'm not scared to jump into the possibility of a connection. i'm wayyyy optimistic. and it's easier for me to move on. trust me, i move very quickly.

i don't put up with his crap. like there are times he tells me we should stay in the lounge of the office for a while right after work. and i act all impatient and rush to the elevators and he'll panic. he's always about control and it's starting to really annoy me. scorpios do this all the time and i'm done with this feminine crap.

i'm still pro-ghosting by the way.

also people have to BE stupid not to videochat before meeting someone so if they get catfished, that's some special kind of stupidity.

I could have been catfished up until fairly recently. Why? Because it never would have occurred to me that someone could be insane enough to start relationships they literally cannot see through. That's a special kind of fucked up that I didn't know existed.

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nobody even tries anymore

almost 2020 and not even one tryhard

Posted by DMV

That is sooo true. Some men withhold affection and compliments because they think it will shift the power away from them in a relationship.

then BOOM

woman gets one compliment from a dude and she's booking a flight to cheat in singapore

you pushed her to do it

and you paid for it too

Posted by hydorah

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

Would this be considered gaslighting?

Posted by MaddestofHatters

What's the purpose of this? For someone with low self-esteem to beat someone else down to equal or lower self-esteem? I just dont get the tactic. Would seem to me people who neg would be the codependent type looking for another codependent type. I mean, if you get your value from attempting to change someone else, as that someone else gets their value by being a 'good little girl or boy" in the eyes of the other. Maybe I'm off, but seems like a form of codependency.

i think he mentioned codependency at some point when i asked him to explain it to me

he's not like a 'hot' guy but he uses his money as a form of 'control' along with 'negging'

this guy is so punchable

Posted by hydorah

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

rose by any other

missing the point

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by hydorah

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

rose by any other

missing the point

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Ok, you're just putting out canned expressions.

Got it

Posted by hydorah

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by hydorah

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

rose by any other

missing the point

Ok, you're just putting out canned expressions.

Got it

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well i'm sorry i made it easier so you'd understand better

Posted by DMV

Posted by hydorah

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

Would this be considered gaslighting?

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I think there is a continuum in the strategic management of social relationships, so "negging", "gaslighting" are all just part of one big discipline and can probably blend into each other

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by hydorah

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by hydorah

Everybody uses all types of manipulation tactics every day, sometimes without even knowing.

Not everything needs to have a name and be considered a trend

rose by any other

missing the point

Ok, you're just putting out canned expressions.

Got it

well i'm sorry i made it easier so you'd understand better

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I have no idea what that "rose" shit means and I don't care

Ah the unsolicited male opinion. How would we women survive without it 😂😂😂

Posted by Phangus

Posted by MyStarsShine

Negging, ghosting and cat fishing

Modern day dating......so tempting 🌝

Lol

The name of the game is control not connection.

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Yes indeed ma'am

We have devolved somewhat.....i would also add trolling to that list

Low level cowardly behaviour 👎🏻

Posted by SlipperySlope

When he says "26 is old for a woman" to you, he's negging you. I'll bet you a million bucks he says the same shit to other girls and just changes up the age to match hers lol.

Or just taking the piss or bantering, where I'm from....depends on how it's said?

Posted by snowballer

Lol all the libra mars people in this thread detesting people who create negative conversational tension.

i know right.

if you gonna eventually gold dig, cheat and take advantage of me.

might as well get something out of it.

pisces sun/ibra moon did well at first until he started talking bank robberies and choking my dogs. heck i might even help with robbery coz it's not like i've got anything to do, not like i even do my job.

i didn't even think about him spending on drugs first but on other women.

some people are very simple-minded like this.

imagine you could literally abuse me over sweet talking.

Posted by snowballer

I hate neggers. I thought it was a fire moon thing. It's annoying regardless.

Nah not for me anyway. I’m more straight forward if I’ve decided I want to flirt. Negging is just annoying and I don’t even think I would deliver it correctly if I tried

Scorpio energy ? 🤢

AND a cap moon ? 🤢🤢

The cap moon may be where it comes from though. Some of the caps I know are all about degrading humor so this seems like something that would be right up there alley. Especially the men