The art of the tease. Why do you women do it ?

According to Psychology Today ......



"Sexual teasing involves the possibility of sex, then withdrawal of the perceived invitation.

Teasing violates a standard piece of relationship advice, i.e., communicate clearly. But people often don't, especially in dating and the interpersonal dance that precedes sex. In those situations communication is often indirect and ambiguous, what we call it flirting or teasing.

But in flirting, implied interest in the other person is sincere and involves the real possibility of a sexual relationship. In teasing, the intent is insincere. The teaser uses personal charm (words, jokes, gestures, touch) to excite the other, exerting power over that person, but all the recipient gets is confusion, frustration, and possibly embarrassment."

So why women do you do it.....

Please share.

Do you do it to feel attractive and/or desirable?

To feel in control and or powerful?

Do you not want to seem too "easy" by having sex right away?

Or were you scared of being pressured into sex, so you did it to buy some time, to look for an out?

I'll go first I guess......

I've never really teased anyone intentionally..well except once or twice with my ex I think.

At the time I did it for revenge. We weren't official yet but I was ready to be sexually intimate.

I went out and bought lingerie and planned an evening in which we would watch a couple of sexual how-to instructional dvds ( I think one was on G spot stimulation and the other was just hand sex in general).

Anyway ...

She invited two friends over to watch DVDs with us.After the first DVD she told all of us including me how tired she was......Pretty much a cue for all of us to make our exit.

I was pissed.lol

So after making her walk me to my car. I told her how disappointed I was that 1) she invited friends over and 2) she wanted to call it an early night.

I then unbuttoned my blouse. To give her sneak peak of the lingerie I bought and then proceeded to tell her what my intentions were for the evening before she pretty much ruined it.

Then I excused myself and drove home.

It felt good.

I need to learn the art of the tease. smh

I'm not sure if I even know how to flirt.

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