women who hate other women

so yesterday I stayed late at the office and was working with this other woman and we where having a seemingly nice conversation and before it was time to go she says we should hang out ...and I politely tell her she is not the type of person i would be friends with (which is still rude I know but it was the truth) and she says uuuggghh this is why I can't be friends with women...but yall there were a lot of red flags in our convo that made me reject her friendship application before it was ever officially offered to me

red flag #1

I don't trust other women

really? but Im a women, your a women ..you don't trust yourself? your mom is a women...you don't even trust your own mom? ...so you just don't trust half the population...mkay -_-

red flag #2

women are just too much drama

lean in close for this ...if every relationship you have with women is catty and strained...yo. you might be the problem ...so yea

red flag #3

women are always competing with me!

are they though? ..or are they just minding their damn business and your mad insecure so you think people are competing with you ..probably that second thing

red flag #4

men are way more chill

the statement in a stereotypical but is pretty accurate in my experience but I find that women that use this is an excuse not to have a decent relationship with other women really mean ...men are way more chill they never call me out on my manipulative and petty behavior

Posted by Cancan26
really? but Im a women, your a women ..you don't trust yourself? your mom is a women...

All red flags. And you gossip too. 😆

Posted by MiZLeo
Male friends will stop being friends with you simply because they are getting pussy from another woman.

Is that really a man problem? Or is there a competition problem (imagined or real) with the other woman.

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Posted by Cancan26
really? but Im a women, your a women ..you don't trust yourself? your mom is a women...

All red flags. And you gossip too. click to expand

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that would imply that I didn't tell her all this to her face ...soooooooooooooooooo

I did.

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Posted by Cancan26
really? but Im a women, your a women ..you don't trust yourself? your mom is a women...

All red flags. And you gossip too. click to expand

that would imply that I didn't tell her all this to her face ...soooooooooooooooooo

I did. click to expand

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Relax, 'twas just a joke. Your war on grammar is the more worrying aspect here. 😄

Posted by MiZLeo
These are not red flags, these are personal issues that you have and have nothing to do with the other woman.
What you said was, while honest, completly rude. I had someone say something similar to me once and it really just hurt my feelings. Because of her it really makes it difficult for me to approach work people about hanging out outside of work. But then I see all these other people with their work friends hanging out and i wonder what I'm missing cause they always look like they are having fun. I dont compete with other women so women friends to me are better than Male friends. Male friends will stop being friends with you simply because they are getting pussy from another woman.

😢 thats terrible ...my male friends ...don't stop being friend with me just cause they are in a relationship?

and I really don't care if it hurt her feelings ...its better to be honest than to pretend we are something that we aren't

I let her know my objects at the time of the convo

she knows where I stand

I won't be mean to her cause there is no reason too ...but I don't wish to get know any more about her for those reasons ..I posted above ...

Posted by Toti
I function better with men. Men don't tend to complicate things as much. I was never in competition with anyone and I don't really care if any woman ever saw me as competition. I have great female friends and I could never say I hated women only because I get along with men better.

THATS ALL IM SAYING you can have a preference! without being like I hate this gender or that gender ...thats lame af to me

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Posted by MiZLeo
Male friends will stop being friends with you simply because they are getting pussy from another woman.

Is that really a man problem? Or is there a competition problem (imagined or real) with the other woman. click to expand

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😆 staph lmao

Posted by tiziani
looks like you met Roman.

how can you have a whole convo and be like

yea I hate women ...wanna be my friend

wat! no! nah? you just said.....

Posted by sierra_
that was really rude though
i actually like women better than men in general
cancer women are so hard to be friends with
they seem sensitive yet so standoffish upon contact
they like to talk about their world of hurt
and pick on their old wounds for years and years
but they have no remorse nor hesitation in inflicting emotional damage to others
or is that just a general cancer trait? i don't know
virgo women are the opposite
we seem standoffish yet very friendly when approached

the thing is I prefer females to males as well ...this lady went on and on about all these problems that she have with other females ...and I just don't wanna be part of it...I don't want to get to know her any better than I already do ...I honestly feel like I know too much ...

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Im pretty friendly in real life and online which is why she felt comfortable telling me all this messed up stuff

But did you preface it with “no offense, but..,” ??

Cause if you didn’t you didn’t reject her right 😂

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really? but Im a women, your a women ..you don't trust yourself? your mom is a women...

All red flags. And you gossip too. click to expand

that would imply that I didn't tell her all this to her face ...soooooooooooooooooo

I did. click to expand

Relax, 'twas just a joke. Your war on grammar is the more worrying aspect here. click to expand

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lmao ...I figured your 2nd comment that you were joking 😆 don't mind me

Posted by brianafay
But did you preface it with “no offense, but..,” ??
Cause if you didn’t you didn’t reject her right 😂

I did ...lmao

which a huge step up for me I usually just be like sssssuuuurrrrreee and then ghost lmao

I also used to say shit like that until I actually had girlfriends.

Then I realized there are plenty of girls like me who are real and down to earth and not about the bullshit. It’s not fair to say all women are catty, dramatic and competitive, etc when you don’t even consider yourself that way. It’s irrational

in theory I agree with OP.

in real life: depending on the scene everybody can ask for a chance with me. it they'd like of course. that doesn't mean they can count on my support round the clock.only with affordable help and being impartial AMAP.

Posted by brianafay
I also used to say shit like that until I actually had girlfriends.

Then I realized there are plenty of girls like me who are real and down to earth and not about the bullshit. It’s not fair to say all women are catty, dramatic and competitive, etc when you don’t even consider yourself that way. It’s irrational

thats all im saying ... like there has to be some woman any woman that has had your back over the course of your life ...just like no one should be able to say they hate all men ...all of it!?!?!? you cant hate all of them ..you aint got no brothers, no guys friends, nobody ...you just out here hating have the population lmao

Posted by ScorpioTruth
She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

its like someone saying I usually don't trust blacks ...wanna be my one black friend

pass.

-_-

Posted by ufo
lol @ "men are more chill" if you were raised with men you'd know they have no chill whatsoever it goes from chilling to a deathmatch and some men are so dramatic for example my dad and 4/5 brothers

but tbh if she has had negative experiences with women i can see where she is coming from but lets be honest women can be petty af so can men, women compete with women and men compete with men, and in general we're all dramatic there's no way we all have chill unless we zen and spiritual

thing with men is they won't necessarily put a woman in her place to avoid her assumed reaction but sometimes if they have nothing else going on they'll gladly do it

well she wasn't a younger lady...so she had plenty of time to get some experiences under her belt ... but based on the convo I don't believe I want to see anymore

Posted by ScorpioTruth
As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ...

Posted by ScorpioTruth
She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

some people hurt you at some time of your life. male or female.

also I think no new person in my life is allowed to condition me to always be a good person to prove their conditioned feeling wrong.

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She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

its like someone saying I usually don't trust blacks ...wanna be my one black friend
pass.
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What would be so wrong about wanting to prove someone wrong instead of proving them right? Maybe it’s my cancer moon or the fact that I’m a nurse.. but if someone is vulnerable enough to share their trust issues with me, I will not take it personally and would rather do what I can to show them that they can trust me, if no one else.

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me and my scorpio moon says no ...

its not my obligation to offer her my friendship ...especially if her views aren't aligning with mine and thats a deal breaker for me red flags 1,2,3,4

its a two way street and at this point ...imma have to pass.

but I appreciate that your compassionate enough to try ...as for me can't do it

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Posted by ScorpioTruth
She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

I think OP was saying that people who cannot see beyond their own previous experiences are childish. and OP has no time for childish attitude.

some people hurt you at some time of your life. male or female.

also I think no new person in my life is allowed to condition me to always be a good person to prove their conditioned feeling wrong. click to expand

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thank you so much for articulating this for me

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Posted by sierra_
that was really rude though
i actually like women better than men in general
cancer women are so hard to be friends with
they seem sensitive yet so standoffish upon contact
they like to talk about their world of hurt
and pick on their old wounds for years and years
but they have no remorse nor hesitation in inflicting emotional damage to others
or is that just a general cancer trait? i don't know
virgo women are the opposite
we seem standoffish yet very friendly when approached

the thing is I prefer females to males as well ...this lady went on and on about all these problems that she have with other females ...and I just don't wanna be part of it...I don't want to get to know her any better than I already do ...I honestly feel like I know too much ...
-_-
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you probably made her even more paranoid now
and her distrust for other women probably doubled
personally, i'd apologize but you don't seem to regret it...
it took something out of that paranoid woman to put herself out there
and try to reach out to another female
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I could have. but I didn't want to. and its not my obligation to be friends with her ... so i didn't and I listed the reason why I did't ...and hopefully she will either find someone these things aren't red flags for OR she will realized that not everyone is like that either or ...is fine with me ..cause you know ..I told her I didn't wanna be friend (this coming out waaaay more harsh that it should)

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Posted by MiZLeo
Male friends will stop being friends with you simply because they are getting pussy from another woman.

Is that really a man problem? Or is there a competition problem (imagined or real) with the other woman. click to expand

Nah what it means is that she's using sex as leverage to keep a male friend. or hes using the friendship as leverage to try and get sex. click to expand

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Too many plot twists in that theory for me. Let's keep it simple and and say the pussy has a mind of it's own and that mind demands fidelity even if it comes over dead bodies (dead friendships).

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As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ... click to expand

Her mistrust for other women is really not that much different from your intolerance of women like her. click to expand

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intolerance cause I don't want to be her friend? you sound awfully judgy ...you go be friends with her. cause imma have to pass.sorrynotsorry

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lol @ "men are more chill" if you were raised with men you'd know they have no chill whatsoever it goes from chilling to a deathmatch and some men are so dramatic for example my dad and 4/5 brothers

but tbh if she has had negative experiences with women i can see where she is coming from but lets be honest women can be petty af so can men, women compete with women and men compete with men, and in general we're all dramatic there's no way we all have chill unless we zen and spiritual

thing with men is they won't necessarily put a woman in her place to avoid her assumed reaction but sometimes if they have nothing else going on they'll gladly do it

well she wasn't a younger lady...so she had plenty of time to get some experiences under her belt ... but based on the convo I don't believe I want to see anymore click to expand

idgi you judge her on these preconceived notions based on what she said and that's it? sounds to me like you may as well have issue with befriending women tbh click to expand

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yea thats how you get to know people ...you listen to their views and ideas and if you don't like you don't have to continue..sooooo yea ... imma have to pass.

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As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ... click to expand

Her mistrust for other women is really not that much different from your intolerance of women like her. click to expand

intolerance cause I don't want to be her friend? you sound awfully judgy ...you go be friends with her. cause imma have to pass.sorrynotsorry click to expand

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unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.
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people are racist

people are sexist

people are assholes

there are plenty of views ...that I don't accept

imma have to pass.

sorrynotsorry

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lol @ "men are more chill" if you were raised with men you'd know they have no chill whatsoever it goes from chilling to a deathmatch and some men are so dramatic for example my dad and 4/5 brothers

but tbh if she has had negative experiences with women i can see where she is coming from but lets be honest women can be petty af so can men, women compete with women and men compete with men, and in general we're all dramatic there's no way we all have chill unless we zen and spiritual

thing with men is they won't necessarily put a woman in her place to avoid her assumed reaction but sometimes if they have nothing else going on they'll gladly do it

well she wasn't a younger lady...so she had plenty of time to get some experiences under her belt ... but based on the convo I don't believe I want to see anymore click to expand

idgi you judge her on these preconceived notions based on what she said and that's it? sounds to me like you may as well have issue with befriending women tbh click to expand

yea thats how you get to know people ...you listen to their views and ideas and if you don't like you don't have to continue..sooooo yea ... imma have to pass. click to expand

you get to know ppl by going out of the workplace and getting to know them 1 on 1 then i think you're safe to act like you know her but right now it's purely assumption and it doesn't feel good to be at that end believe me if you ever found yourself on the other end of a first bad impression or being misunderstood/misinterpret by what you said to the one whose putting you aside for it you wouldn't be so quick to decline a possible friendship

all i'm saying is observe her or try to get to know her from afar and see if you were right before deciding you are click to expand

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right but for me to decided if i would like to hang out with you outside the work place I would take to you, get to know you at work and decided if I want to know you past that ...and in this case I don't .. imma have to pass.

and yes I have been on the end of being misunderstood that is horrible feeling ....this is not that ...I have also had people that have not been my friend based on my moral views or politicals views and thats ok ...cause NO ONE OWES ME THEIR FRIENDSHIP.. imma have to pass. 😆

well, I agree with the effort some people in this thread make. but only the first part.

Cancer Sun gives protecting vibes. Thus people wish they could keep it in their pocket

But a Cancer Sun is a natural person too. They have their own problems too. So it is self-protecting to block guilt trips. Whether from the girl at work or from texters in this thread.

At the end of the day something between the protecting Cancer Sun and life-is-not-fair Scorpio Moon will act when the times come to act. I guess.

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Posted by brianafay
I also used to say shit like that until I actually had girlfriends.

Then I realized there are plenty of girls like me who are real and down to earth and not about the bullshit. It’s not fair to say all women are catty, dramatic and competitive, etc when you don’t even consider yourself that way. It’s irrational

thats all im saying ... like there has to be some woman any woman that has had your back over the course of your life ...just like no one should be able to say they hate all men ...all of it!?!?!? you cant hate all of them ..you aint got no brothers, no guys friends, nobody ...you just out here hating have the population lmao
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It’s a good thing you ducked her honestly

Though you probably only fueled her delusions because you know, she’s not the problem, it’s other women. No skin off your back though 💁🏼‍♀️

If you really cared enough you could explain further to her so she understands, but why? Lol

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As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ... click to expand

Her mistrust for other women is really not that much different from your intolerance of women like her. click to expand

intolerance cause I don't want to be her friend? you sound awfully judgy ...you go be friends with her. cause imma have to pass.sorrynotsorry click to expand

in·tol·er·ance
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noun
unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.
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people are racist
people are sexist
people are assholes
there are plenty of views ...that I don't accept
imma have to pass.
sorrynotsorry
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where do you fall in these boxes you put others in? click to expand

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you think no one has ever not wanted to be my friend cause of the way I think or the way I believe ...cause they have ...and its fine ...Im an adult ...and even if I was child its still fine NO ONE OWES ANYONE ANYTHING ...soooo imma have pass lmao 😆

this happens also among the first generation immigrants. despite all the help they get from their friends of the same etnhicity, one day you hear them saying nobody from my home country helped me. this is just we moan. #HumanBeingAlwaysUnsatisfiedWithSomething

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As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ... click to expand

Her mistrust for other women is really not that much different from your intolerance of women like her. click to expand

intolerance cause I don't want to be her friend? you sound awfully judgy ...you go be friends with her. cause imma have to pass.sorrynotsorry click to expand

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unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.
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people are racist
people are sexist
people are assholes
there are plenty of views ...that I don't accept
imma have to pass.
sorrynotsorry
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where do you fall in these boxes you put others in? click to expand

you think no one has ever not wanted to be my friend cause of the way I think or the way I believe ...cause they have ...and its fine ...Im an adult ...and even if I was child its still fine NO ONE OWES ANYONE ANYTHING ...soooo imma have pass lmao click to expand

but you keep saying that "no one owes anyone anything" "imma have to pass" why did you make this thread? did you want ppls opinion or for ppl to side with you? cuz you can just read what ppl have to say and not do it just consider different perspectives click to expand

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I keep saying that imma have pass. cause people keep trying to make MY friendship an obligation ...and its not

and as far as the thread ...I made the same reason I made the last 3 threads ... I just wanted to? when people disagreed or agreed in the other threads I responded ...everytime ...so ...yea thats what Im doing this time too

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lol @ "men are more chill" if you were raised with men you'd know they have no chill whatsoever it goes from chilling to a deathmatch and some men are so dramatic for example my dad and 4/5 brothers

but tbh if she has had negative experiences with women i can see where she is coming from but lets be honest women can be petty af so can men, women compete with women and men compete with men, and in general we're all dramatic there's no way we all have chill unless we zen and spiritual

thing with men is they won't necessarily put a woman in her place to avoid her assumed reaction but sometimes if they have nothing else going on they'll gladly do it

well she wasn't a younger lady...so she had plenty of time to get some experiences under her belt ... but based on the convo I don't believe I want to see anymore click to expand

idgi you judge her on these preconceived notions based on what she said and that's it? sounds to me like you may as well have issue with befriending women tbh click to expand

yea thats how you get to know people ...you listen to their views and ideas and if you don't like you don't have to continue..sooooo yea ... imma have to pass. click to expand

you get to know ppl by going out of the workplace and getting to know them 1 on 1 then i think you're safe to act like you know her but right now it's purely assumption and it doesn't feel good to be at that end believe me if you ever found yourself on the other end of a first bad impression or being misunderstood/misinterpret by what you said to the one whose putting you aside for it you wouldn't be so quick to decline a possible friendship

all i'm saying is observe her or try to get to know her from afar and see if you were right before deciding you are click to expand

right but for me to decided if i would like to hang out with you outside the work place I would take to you, get to know you at work and decided if I want to know you past that ...and in this case I don't .. imma have to pass.
and yes I have been on the end of being misunderstood that is horrible feeling ....this is not that ...I have also had people that have not been my friend based on my moral views or politicals views and thats ok ...cause NO ONE OWES ME THEIR FRIENDSHIP.. imma have to pass. click to expandclick to expand

no ofc they don't but you're kind of uptight

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I understand. see that wasn't that bad lmao .. we just disagree ..its no point freaking out about it ... (not saying that you are)

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As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ... click to expand

Her mistrust for other women is really not that much different from your intolerance of women like her. click to expand

intolerance cause I don't want to be her friend? you sound awfully judgy ...you go be friends with her. cause imma have to pass.sorrynotsorry click to expand

in·tol·er·ance
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noun
unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.
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people are racist
people are sexist
people are assholes
there are plenty of views ...that I don't accept
imma have to pass.
sorrynotsorry
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where do you fall in these boxes you put others in? click to expand

you think no one has ever not wanted to be my friend cause of the way I think or the way I believe ...cause they have ...and its fine ...Im an adult ...and even if I was child its still fine NO ONE OWES ANYONE ANYTHING ...soooo imma have pass lmao click to expand

but you keep saying that "no one owes anyone anything" "imma have to pass" why did you make this thread? did you want ppls opinion or for ppl to side with you? cuz you can just read what ppl have to say and not do it just consider different perspectives click to expand

I keep saying that imma have pass. cause people keep trying to make MY friendship an obligation ...and its not
and as far as the thread ...I made the same reason I made the last 3 threads ... I just wanted to? when people disagreed or agreed in the other threads I responded ...everytime ...so ...yea thats what Im doing this time too click to expand

you remind me of that cancer girl i've been having problems with for someone so emotional and passionate she refuses to see my POV click to expand

You just described my cancer sister too 🤦🏻‍♀️ click to expand

sometimes it makes me wonder if i'm truly cancer rising or sagittarius rising click to expand

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for example Uranus square Mercury in my case.

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She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

its like someone saying I usually don't trust blacks ...wanna be my one black friend
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What would be so wrong about wanting to prove someone wrong instead of proving them right? Maybe it’s my cancer moon or the fact that I’m a nurse.. but if someone is vulnerable enough to share their trust issues with me, I will not take it personally and would rather do what I can to show them that they can trust me, if no one else.

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People have a right to choose who they want to be friends with. If OP found it off putting that she painted women with such a broad brush she has every right not to pursue a friendship with her.

I honestly commend OP for being honest with the woman. The woman in question doesn’t sound logical or rational herself, and sounds butthurt af when there’s no need to.

1,2,3,4 passsss

😆 😆

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She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

its like someone saying I usually don't trust blacks ...wanna be my one black friend
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What would be so wrong about wanting to prove someone wrong instead of proving them right? Maybe it’s my cancer moon or the fact that I’m a nurse.. but if someone is vulnerable enough to share their trust issues with me, I will not take it personally and would rather do what I can to show them that they can trust me, if no one else.

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People have a right to choose who they want to be friends with. If OP found it off putting that she painted women with such a broad brush she has every right not to pursue a friendship with her.

I honestly commend OP for being honest with the woman. The woman in question doesn’t sound logical or rational herself, and sounds butthurt af when there’s no need to. click to expand

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I appreciate that. I really do. friendship always be a choice

It’s like people are more butthurt about the honesty lmao

I’ve had times where colleagues wanted to form friendships outside of work and rather than me having the guts to say nah, stayed mum and just never followed through. And that seems to upset people too so *shrugs*

I would also see it as a red flag if someone made blanket statements about a whole gender (or race/religion etc).. Cuz that’s just irrational.

And no it’s not flattering if they want you to be their one friend whose the exception.

I've noticed I never get an expected result when I turn to say to myself, "you are doing the same if you look at it once again".

so if I lack tolerance of somebody who lacks it too....? should I just stop judging? in other words thinking? would it be better if I click on prayers under dxp/religion and repeat them? is it all cause we think too much? should we dumb our thinking with repeating prayers as they suggested in Pisces Age? or checking our comm device as fitting into Aqua Age?

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As the saying goes, if the shoe doesn’t fit..Simply don’t wear it. If you’re trustworthy and friendly, she wasn’t talking about you.

thats true too ..but ...I don't wish to know anymore than I already do ..her attitude toward other women disturbs me ...its an extreme way to live ... can't do it ... click to expand

Her mistrust for other women is really not that much different from your intolerance of women like her. click to expand

intolerance cause I don't want to be her friend? you sound awfully judgy ...you go be friends with her. cause imma have to pass.sorrynotsorry click to expand

in·tol·er·ance
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noun
unwillingness to accept views, beliefs, or behavior that differ from one's own.
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people are racist
people are sexist
people are assholes
there are plenty of views ...that I don't accept
imma have to pass.
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where do you fall in these boxes you put others in? click to expand

you think no one has ever not wanted to be my friend cause of the way I think or the way I believe ...cause they have ...and its fine ...Im an adult ...and even if I was child its still fine NO ONE OWES ANYONE ANYTHING ...soooo imma have pass lmao click to expand

but you keep saying that "no one owes anyone anything" "imma have to pass" why did you make this thread? did you want ppls opinion or for ppl to side with you? cuz you can just read what ppl have to say and not do it just consider different perspectives click to expand

I keep saying that imma have pass. cause people keep trying to make MY friendship an obligation ...and its not
and as far as the thread ...I made the same reason I made the last 3 threads ... I just wanted to? when people disagreed or agreed in the other threads I responded ...everytime ...so ...yea thats what Im doing this time too click to expand

you remind me of that cancer girl i've been having problems with for someone so emotional and passionate she refuses to see my POV click to expand

You just described my cancer sister too 🤦🏻‍♀️ click to expand

sometimes it makes me wonder if i'm truly cancer rising or sagittarius rising click to expand

sometimes is just a Uranus square... like when people tend to debate just because... click to expand

lol me and my brother love debating and it is fun af cuz he is an aqua and i am a virgo click to expand

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Let's all jump on the "gender fluid" bandwagon

Problem solved

I love it, they, them

Lol

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She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

its like someone saying I usually don't trust blacks ...wanna be my one black friend
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What would be so wrong about wanting to prove someone wrong instead of proving them right? Maybe it’s my cancer moon or the fact that I’m a nurse.. but if someone is vulnerable enough to share their trust issues with me, I will not take it personally and would rather do what I can to show them that they can trust me, if no one else.

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People have a right to choose who they want to be friends with. If OP found it off putting that she painted women with such a broad brush she has every right not to pursue a friendship with her.

I honestly commend OP for being honest with the woman. The woman in question doesn’t sound logical or rational herself, and sounds butthurt af when there’s no need to. click to expand

Did I say she should be friends with her—?

I don’t recall ever saying she should be friends with her. I simply said she could try stepping outside her own bubble instead of becoming defensive and making it about her.

She keeps bringing up racism and other forms of intolerance.. so this is the best comparison I can think of to demonstrate what I am trying to promote (empathy).

I’m white but I have black family and friends who typically don’t trust white people for obvious reasons. But I don’t take it personally and push them away because it’s NOT ABOUT ME. Cancers have a way of making EVERYTHING about them. She is no exception. It doesn’t make no difference to me whether shes friends with the girl or not. I was simply offering a different perspective. Its no skin off my back if she keeps pushing people away because she keeps taking butter personally. Live and let live. Moving on.. you all have a good day. click to expand

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I don’t see the OP taking things personal in the original post at all tbh.

Friendships and all types of relationships are formed in finding some common ground. Some might not see what the other woman said as a deal breaker but the OP does, which is fine.

How is having a deal breaker all of a sudden the same as taking things personal?

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It’s like people are more butthurt about the honesty lmao

I’ve had times where colleagues wanted to form friendships outside of work and rather than me having the guts to say nah, stayed mum and just never followed through. And that seems to upset people too so *shrugs*

I would also see it as a red flag if someone made blanket statements about a whole gender (or race/religion etc).. Cuz that’s just irrational.

And no it’s not flattering if they want you to be their one friend whose the exception.

yess that was me as well in my younger days people that I didn't want to be friends with I would stay quiet and let the friendship fade slowly and it would leave people hurt and confused I told her the truth and when she asked why I told her the truth on that as well ...

and just as you said anyone that make blanket statements about whole genders, races, etc. is a HUGE RED FLAG .. at least for me

I don't like women but

I don't like men but

I don't like white people but.

I don't like black people but.

its creepy .. and like you said not flattering at all to be an exception...

there are plenty of amazing women out there that would bend over backwards to help those in need especially friends and family

not saying the lady is a terrible person ...but she is not the type of person I would vibe with outside of work

I just think we would be better from afar ...

thank you for trying to seeing where im coming from 🤗

and not pushing a friendship that Im not comfortable with and the lady wont benefit from anyway

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She was sharing her experience with you regarding other women that she’s encountered and you took it personally as if she was attacking you. The fact that she was sharing it with you showed that she was attempting to trust you with her insecurities or issues and here you are blasting her for it. Lol she made a lot of valid points. You just took it personally. You weren’t really listening to listen.. you were listening to form an opinion about her.. which isn’t very “friendly”.

its like someone saying I usually don't trust blacks ...wanna be my one black friend
pass.
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What would be so wrong about wanting to prove someone wrong instead of proving them right? Maybe it’s my cancer moon or the fact that I’m a nurse.. but if someone is vulnerable enough to share their trust issues with me, I will not take it personally and would rather do what I can to show them that they can trust me, if no one else.

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People have a right to choose who they want to be friends with. If OP found it off putting that she painted women with such a broad brush she has every right not to pursue a friendship with her.

I honestly commend OP for being honest with the woman. The woman in question doesn’t sound logical or rational herself, and sounds butthurt af when there’s no need to. click to expand

Did I say she should be friends with her—?

I don’t recall ever saying she should be friends with her. I simply said she could try stepping outside her own bubble instead of becoming defensive and making it about her.

She keeps bringing up racism and other forms of intolerance.. so this is the best comparison I can think of to demonstrate what I am trying to promote (empathy).

I’m white but I have black family and friends who typically don’t trust white people for obvious reasons. But I don’t take it personally and push them away because it’s NOT ABOUT ME. Cancers have a way of making EVERYTHING about them. She is no exception. It doesn’t make no difference to me whether shes friends with the girl or not. I was simply offering a different perspective. Its no skin off my back if she keeps pushing people away because she keeps taking butter personally. Live and let live. Moving on.. you all have a good day. click to expand

I don’t see the OP taking things personal in the original post at all tbh.

Friendships and all types of relationships are formed in finding some common ground. Some might not see what the other woman said as a deal breaker but the OP does, which is fine.

How is having a deal breaker all of a sudden the same as taking things personal? click to expand

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It’s like people are more butthurt about the honesty lmao

I’ve had times where colleagues wanted to form friendships outside of work and rather than me having the guts to say nah, stayed mum and just never followed through. And that seems to upset people too so *shrugs*

I would also see it as a red flag if someone made blanket statements about a whole gender (or race/religion etc).. Cuz that’s just irrational.

And no it’s not flattering if they want you to be their one friend whose the exception.

not even, its her judging her without fully knowing her, cuz i know i don't hang with coworkers or befriend them, work stays at work so if someone were to ask to hang out i'd say "sorry, i don't have the time, thank you tho" but then again i stay quiet @ work don't find a reason to talk if it isn't work related click to expand

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So people shouldn’t be held accountable to what they say?

Like I said to another poster, people have deal breakers and for the OP this was one of them. OP is entitled to have them and she was honest about not wanting to form a friendship.

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It’s like people are more butthurt about the honesty lmao

I’ve had times where colleagues wanted to form friendships outside of work and rather than me having the guts to say nah, stayed mum and just never followed through. And that seems to upset people too so *shrugs*

I would also see it as a red flag if someone made blanket statements about a whole gender (or race/religion etc).. Cuz that’s just irrational.

And no it’s not flattering if they want you to be their one friend whose the exception.

yess that was me as well in my younger days people that I didn't want to be friends with I would stay quiet and let the friendship fade slowly and it would leave people hurt and confused I told her the truth and when she asked why I told her the truth on that as well ...

and just as you said anyone that make blanket statements about whole genders, races, etc. is a HUGE RED FLAG .. at least for me
I don't like women but
I don't like men but
I don't like white people but.
I don't like black people but.

its creepy .. and like you said not flattering at all to be an exception...
there are plenty of amazing women out there that would bend over backwards to help those in need especially friends and family
not saying the lady is a terrible person ...but she is not the type of person I would vibe with outside of work
I just think we would be better from afar ...
thank you for trying to seeing where im coming from
and not pushing a friendship that Im not comfortable with and the lady wont benefit from anyway

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Lmao no worries, I’m really surprised at how people are taking this.

How often do we hear the stereotypes that women are not straight forward/upfront/honest, and then when you are you’re being condemned for it.

Mind blowing.

People end or don’t pursue friendships for much smaller reasons than this. Life is too short to tolerate people for the sake of being tolerant.

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It’s like people are more butthurt about the honesty lmao

I’ve had times where colleagues wanted to form friendships outside of work and rather than me having the guts to say nah, stayed mum and just never followed through. And that seems to upset people too so *shrugs*

I would also see it as a red flag if someone made blanket statements about a whole gender (or race/religion etc).. Cuz that’s just irrational.

And no it’s not flattering if they want you to be their one friend whose the exception.

yess that was me as well in my younger days people that I didn't want to be friends with I would stay quiet and let the friendship fade slowly and it would leave people hurt and confused I told her the truth and when she asked why I told her the truth on that as well ...

and just as you said anyone that make blanket statements about whole genders, races, etc. is a HUGE RED FLAG .. at least for me
I don't like women but
I don't like men but
I don't like white people but.
I don't like black people but.

its creepy .. and like you said not flattering at all to be an exception...
there are plenty of amazing women out there that would bend over backwards to help those in need especially friends and family
not saying the lady is a terrible person ...but she is not the type of person I would vibe with outside of work
I just think we would be better from afar ...
thank you for trying to seeing where im coming from
and not pushing a friendship that Im not comfortable with and the lady wont benefit from anyway

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Lmao no worries, I’m really surprised at how people are taking this.

How often do we hear the stereotypes that women are not straight forward/upfront/honest, and then when you are you’re being condemned for it.

Mind blowing.

People end or don’t pursue friendships for much smaller reasons than this. Life is too short to tolerate people for the sake of being tolerant. click to expand

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Life is too short to tolerate people for the sake of being tolerant. ---this is mantra of the day

you da real MVP out here... 😄 😄 😄

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It’s like people are more butthurt about the honesty lmao

I’ve had times where colleagues wanted to form friendships outside of work and rather than me having the guts to say nah, stayed mum and just never followed through. And that seems to upset people too so *shrugs*

I would also see it as a red flag if someone made blanket statements about a whole gender (or race/religion etc).. Cuz that’s just irrational.

And no it’s not flattering if they want you to be their one friend whose the exception.

not even, its her judging her without fully knowing her, cuz i know i don't hang with coworkers or befriend them, work stays at work so if someone were to ask to hang out i'd say "sorry, i don't have the time, thank you tho" but then again i stay quiet @ work don't find a reason to talk if it isn't work related click to expand

So people shouldn’t be held accountable to what they say?

Like I said to another poster, people have deal breakers and for the OP this was one of them. OP is entitled to have them and she was honest about not wanting to form a friendship. click to expand

not if they're not hurting anyone on a deep level seems more like OP is annoyed by her traits it's not like her coworker is going out of her way to chant her dislike for women, like what are you a prosecutor?

OP is entitled to have her deal breakers, her deal breakers being deal breakers can be my deal breaker and i'm being honest about my view click to expand

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actually...this lady did go out of her way to chant her dislike for women ...but *shrugs* its whateva