Being a Virgo's Girl... (Page 3)

Sex somewhere would be nice too.

😛

* else . . . somewhere else

As I sit and read this, I'm stuffing potatoe chips in my mouth.

Ok, last night, I had broiled flounder . . fish eating fish . . that just sounds wrong.

Spaghetti and meat BALLS . . that sounds good . . big juicy balls on top.

Oh, sorry, Dyr . . .

P-Angel this is how you must be feeling... Like you are riding a roller coaster, and when you think you are coming down and the ride is about to finish, then back up you go. Those are the emotions you are dealing with as wanting your divorce.

And not only are you riding a roller coaster, but it is inside a dark tunnel and you do not know how long the tunnel is, but the tunnel will be the length of your divorce procedure. Once the divorce is finalized, you will get off the ride and out of the tunnel. So yes, there is light at the end of the tunnel, you just have not seen it yet. But then, once you are out of the tunnel, you will look around and it would like a tornado hit you and all your belongings are scattered around. As you pick up your pieces and start the new life (post-divorce) it will take you between a year to 2 to be either the old self, or the new you. But it takes that long, once the judge has signed the decree of divorce, to have your new life, away from your husband as a husband. Glad to hear you too can continue to be friends with him, post divorce. Very few can do that!

The above has nothing to do with any signs, it happens to everybody whether you have been married one year or 50 years, and divorces do happen even after that many years of marriage.

P-Angel I wish you the best, be strong, this is just the beginning of your roller coaster, the realization that your marriage, for whatever reason is over and you must go on with your life...

There ya go love4ever . . your answer finally came, "Virgos don't need love"

So, then . . why waste your time . . put forth your energy and endearing heart on someone who does want your love and will appreciate it.

🙂

Escorpiona . . you listening?

Find someone who does want to be loved.

What?

He said it . . I was just confirming . . people want to know why the Virgo pulls away and well, if the Virgo doesn't want to be loved and he feels like a woman is falling in love with him . . wouldn't it stand to reason that the reason WHY he is pulling away is because he doesn't want to be loved?

That just might be the answer . . the one all us girls have been looking for all along. He backs away because he doesn't want to be loved.

mmhmm, branh's just being unreasonable again.

(and again.)

Ok, Shaka . . I'll restate . . Branh doesn't want to be loved.

Is that better?

Shaka isn't naive. But I can understand why branh would claim that, with his points of view.

"The irony of the story is that it its naive to think people can have a happy life without love."

Amen

Lets look at this more strategically. Let look at a risk reward situation. Love doesn't really show you where the risk is worth the reward. You'll become very vulnerable to exploitation, and you lose all of your functionality, and thinking ability. But what is the reward for love. The only reward is the anticipating that you may be loved in return, which looking at in terms of numbers is a rare situation. Money or influence are always redeemable, and oftentimes justify the risk. I heard on the radio a few years ago, that individuals with money or sense of accomplishment tend to be much happier overall. This debunks the age old proverb that money can't buy you happiness. It most certainly put a smile on many people's faces. Love, conversely don't have the same effect. In love, you are only bounded by your faith in it, but you have to ignore its poor track record overall

all good points, which is what makes you so difficult. you know what though, i'm willing to bet that love will still overrule that logic.

I don't know, Branh . . it sounds to me to be the opposite.

You sound like a pretty miserable human being and don't have love.
Dyr, for example doesn't sound miserable and he has love.

branh, you come off as an extremely logical person, to the point of seeming almost robotic, which you already know. it seems like it really bothers you to lose emotional control. but it could probably do ya some good to do so. soften up all those rough edges.

"Im starting to suspect it may sadly not have been the case with you."

Very sad indeed because this is where the foundation for love and compassions is built.

"Been there, and done that. I am not interested in being a brainless fool twice in my life."

blah de blah de blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

ooooh branh, do not despair, for you too will find the one (or an acceptable substitute).

seriously branh, rationalizing can make you feel alright for the time being, but it'll get old. like always.

"You become very useless when you are in love. Just as I was useless to anyone, even myself, while I was dealing with the Pisces"

oh please, that was your own fault, so stop blaming love

poor love...it's ok, baby, don't listen to the mean man *pat pat*

Once . . this comes from 1 time of experiencing something.

I've stubbed my toe more than once.

Really, consider the source talking here. He's basing everything off of one life-experience that went sour and is letting it spoil the rest of his life.

That's pathetic and really, Branh, it makes you a loser because we all fall in our lifetimes . . what makes us winners is having the courage, strength and resolve to pull ourselves back up . .

If you want this to ruin you, then that is your choice . . if you want to be a winner and be courageous, then you'd let yourself comprehend that you are human.

"Love made me stick around, when in reality, I should have been gone a long time ago. As I said, love gives you false hope and binds you to expectations"

listen to yourdamnself.

love rendered you completely ignorant and unable to process information apparently. i think it deserves a slap on the wrist for that.

branh, you acted stupidly with your first love. woohoo. you're looking for the solution in the WRONG PLACE.

and you so want to be loved. don't even try to deny it now, mister.

"Love is one big game."

And you're bitter 'cause someone beat you at it. Get the F over it and find someone worth your time.

Listen. Feel free to email me at any time. I want to save your email in my head. I am going to buy myself a 100 gig external hard drive to back them up. In 10 years, I want you to email me again and see if your views on this subject have changed.

"Solution to what? I didn't know there was a problem to begin with."

oooooooooof course you didn't. *mutters* stubborn virgoes..

I already understand exactly what you are talking about. Come on, branh, you know I'm smart. The truth is that I will NEVER, EVER, EVER, EVER embrace your way of thinking no matter how much "experience" I have, because I know I'm capable of handling myself in relationships in a manner that is not detrimental to myself.

Yeah, it is about control, and it seems like once you know that, you'd be able to pull yourself together and counteract that particular effect.

Yeah, ok, branh. At the end of the day, you do have your own free will, because it's your choice how you act and how you allow things to affect you.

But it's ok. I understand....you are a Virgo, after all 😉.

"Love is annoying topic."

Yeah, it is. Especially when you know how simple and unadulterated it can be and constantly see how much people complicate it.

I fully grasp the points you're communicating about love, but I don't think you even know what you really believe.

Aaaaanyways...I'm not sure why I even got involved. From time to time I get the urge to be your personal therapist, I guess.

"Love is one big game. I've seen nothing that has led me to believe the contrary."

Of course not, Branh . . because you've closed yourself up once you got burned. How can you see something that you refuse to look at? How can you hear something if you're not listening?

It just blows my mind when I see you write stuff like this because, honestly, I believe you are an intelligent person . . then you say something this stupid: "I've seen nothing that has led me to believe the contrary". We make our own paths in life, you know that . . if a person CHOOSES to walk down ONE road for the rest of their life, how can they possibly have any experience except what they find on that one road?

My mind keeps asking: "How can someone be so friggin smart, and so goddammed stupid at the same time?

If I'm only looking in one direction, then the only thing I can see is what's in that direction. It's not rocket science . . it's pretty elementary.

Instead of facing the fact that we all have to face "we fuck up", you are choosing to punish yourself and close yourself off from having joy in your life. That is your choice and nobody can force you to grow beyond the chains you have around yourself. We come in here and try to talk to you . . but, you choose to pound your head against the wall . . what is a person to do, then? The only thing we can do is give up on you, just as you have given up on yourself.

Like the sayings go: you can lead the horse to water, but you can't make him drink.
You can only help those who are willing to help themselves.

If you don't want to be happy in your life, then we can't make you. That's up to you, you can be miserable, or you can try to be happy. Just because you were unhappy with one person doesn't mean you will be unhappy with another.

If you don't want to live, then don't.

"Therapist try to change other's views. But that is pointless with me, because my views aren't changing."

...and then one day you wake up and realize, "oh wait..yeah, umm...yeah, i was pretty much completely wrong when i said that." heheheh...

"The minute I find a smart, practical, down to earth, and goal oriented woman who can think for herself, and not spend all day worrying about how in love she can be, then I think I'll stop my assault on love."

*raises eyebrow* Well, someone's certainly singing a different tune. Already. Hmm, whaddaya know.

A paradox . . he hates because he doesn't feel, he doesn't feel because he hates.

When you're ready to be alive and feel again, you will. We've led you, it's up to you whether you drink.

Have fun with your fry and best of luck to you.

🙂

Branh, I think you said before that you don't really believe in astrology beyond sun signs, is that correct?

*stifles hee-hawing*

"Wow. This thread has been contaminated."

sorry

for you.

notso, you here, I'm hanging i thinnnkm,

ii can t talkjn to toarow

oh yeahn, is youur fg ok?

is hes alirngt?

she ate somtting bad?

I m ok,. jsur durnk

Soem wine? i lovee you

gobed, io'm drungk . . slepe

im't glad she's oik. ..good githt

talk to you tomarrow