Dating Virgo Guys (Page 2)

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Posted by Sag898

Like I said the one I dated was super forward and loved to bang and was all over me all the time haha

Bet a million he had fire in his chart or something cause there was no confusion ever.

My bf's best friend is a virgo and he's weird. He internet stalks me and I wonder why. I've only met him a few times and there was some tension.. a lot of it felt sexual but awkward. I think he has a Venus in scorpio. *shrugs*

The rest I've known were chill

If you don't mind me asking. Why did you stop seeing each other?

But hmm yeah maybe virgos with lots of fire would be more direct....

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Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

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His Venus is in Leo though.. lol

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So has anyone ever had a courtship/dating experience with a virgo moon or sun male where the guy was consistent throughout the entire time? Like he pursued you, regularly texted you (never ghosted), and was upfront about his feelings through his actions or words? If yes, how did you meet? Were you friends first? Please also respond if you had negative experiences.

Virgo Sun, Gem moon

Friends first.

He pursued courtship.... & pursued still after our break-up.

He was consistent with the texts the phone calls and the dates. He did get comfortable at one point = lazy but he would eventually adjust himself.... Once he could admit to himself things weren't good between us.

He was very stubborn, we were/are both independent individuals and... I think he didn't respect that about me. I wasn't clingy, I had my own life going and I wanted my space sometimes...we fought a lot... Partly because of that.

It didn't end well but I believe years later... he would agree:

we're both happier now, we just weren't compatible.

are you saying that things would've worked out if you were more clingy?

I doubt, that was only part of our problems.

Clingy *** is perhaps not the accurate word.. But I wasn't dependent of him or his attention.

I was cool with whatever we had in that moment. He started talking babies and marriage pretty early and that always freaked me out. I also didn't need his help as much as he wish.. I was always thankful but if I can do it on my own.. I'll do it. I was financially comfortable..that also created drama.

maybe i should invent a list of things i need help with

whatever gets virgo moon attention
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Lmao. Great minds think alike. I've also considered this 😂😂😂 I was plotting like.... What should I ask him to help me with—

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My wife had that experience except for the fact that there were no cell phones in those days.

Were you friends first?

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Like I said the one I dated was super forward and loved to bang and was all over me all the time haha

Bet a million he had fire in his chart or something cause there was no confusion ever.

My bf's best friend is a virgo and he's weird. He internet stalks me and I wonder why. I've only met him a few times and there was some tension.. a lot of it felt sexual but awkward. I think he has a Venus in scorpio. *shrugs*

The rest I've known were chill

If you don't mind me asking. Why did you stop seeing each other?

But hmm yeah maybe virgos with lots of fire would be more direct....
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I moved away

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Posted by LoveNLuck21

Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Were you friends first?

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And believe it or not, not matter what guys say, all guys want loyalty and want to be the only one.

I think women are more open minded with these types of things. So in any relationship I have with a guy, I always make them feel like they are the only one. I never go by what they say. I treat them like kings and practically worship them in their presence and then do what I want outside of it.

This is when I'm not in love. If I'm in love, I won't date others. But we also have to have a conversation first about the relationship status, cause I assume nothing until it's talked about.

this is classic sag

i don't like it and it feels fake

In you're presence you wouldn't know though, because I don't keep up good communication either, so it's like I'm all in and then disappear. This is what keep you going after the Cancer too, right?

If the Virgo kept up with me, I will keep up with him, but since he doesn't. Oh well, it's not my issue. He can catch up with me when he wants to see me. Yes I will complain about not seeing him, but I won't go out of my way to get attention.

I'm currently wanting to see him and missing him, but he doesn't know that. So since he's busy, I keep myself busy as well.

this sounds like me and the cancer yeah

The first Virgo told me that Sagittarius women were his kryptonite cause they never worked out for him. (He played way too many games in order to get a reaction from me)

This Virgo told me I have a good balance of showing interest and not being all up in his space. But it's still early on. I just have to see how it goes. I haven't seen his bad habits yet.

But I have a Cancer moon, so I'm super affectionate in person but don't tell my feelings at all. It confuses guys. I wasn't affectionate at all with the other Virgo, I was just accommodating until he annoyed me so much that I couldn't stand him and cut him off.

Cancer anything is so hard to read.

They have the same walls up you do and time and trust, like Virgos, will bring it down. He trusted you super early on and you crushed him, it will take time to tear the wall down again, so lesson learned for you.

wow i fucked up

I don’t think so. He’s seeing you again, right? It’s just gonna take some time. As long as he’s seeing you, know that it’s because he wants to. He just thinks he needs to hide his emotions now because of what happened previously. He’ll open back up again though. Cancers cant help it. Lol.

i'm always initiating the chats now and he can't meet up with me last sunday coz he got sick. 😢
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Well meet after mercury retrograde. That will be a better time anyways 😊

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Posted by LoveNLuck21

Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Lol yeah the REAL competition with virgos is their work and their sleep routine. Nothing can come in between. 🙄😂 How did you call him out in his bullshit? Lol

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So has anyone ever had a courtship/dating experience with a virgo moon or sun male where the guy was consistent throughout the entire time? Like he pursued you, regularly texted you (never ghosted), and was upfront about his feelings through his actions or words? If yes, how did you meet? Were you friends first? Please also respond if you had negative experiences.

Virgo Sun, Gem moon

Friends first.

He pursued courtship.... & pursued still after our break-up.

He was consistent with the texts the phone calls and the dates. He did get comfortable at one point = lazy but he would eventually adjust himself.... Once he could admit to himself things weren't good between us.

He was very stubborn, we were/are both independent individuals and... I think he didn't respect that about me. I wasn't clingy, I had my own life going and I wanted my space sometimes...we fought a lot... Partly because of that.

It didn't end well but I believe years later... he would agree:

we're both happier now, we just weren't compatible.

are you saying that things would've worked out if you were more clingy?

I doubt, that was only part of our problems.

Clingy *** is perhaps not the accurate word.. But I wasn't dependent of him or his attention.

I was cool with whatever we had in that moment. He started talking babies and marriage pretty early and that always freaked me out. I also didn't need his help as much as he wish.. I was always thankful but if I can do it on my own.. I'll do it. I was financially comfortable..that also created drama.

maybe i should invent a list of things i need help with

whatever gets virgo moon attention

Lmao. Great minds think alike. I've also considered this 😂😂😂 I was plotting like.... What should I ask him to help me with—
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i need to work on this masterlist

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thing about virgo don't matter sun or moon is that some of them (myself included) will suddenly block you out of nowhere. then they'll come around. but instant excommunicado for something they won't even explain to you. (coz the reason is probably of an emotional nature yuck + petty).

i hate this bitchass thing we do most.

this why chasers like aries succeed (too bad i don't think i'm that into them).

we want what we want and we're picky asf.

Lol Trust me I know. One of my ex-bffs was a virgo and she did this to a group of us because we were all busy for her birthday. I've seen virgo suns pull this shit all the time. They live for blocking people.

i live for blocking people tbh

but srsly, did you even send a card or gave a phone call or anything?

we're actually really sensitive, that's why we like to look cold

We showed up all the next day at her house with very thoughtful gifts and cards. She didn't answer the door so we left it with her brother. We took turns calling and apologizing for 2 weeks straight. But never heard from her again lol.

Yeah I know virgos are super sensitive and they will remember wrongdoings for the rest of their life 😬 but i think the blocking is kind of an ego thing tbh.

virgos are very insecure no matter what the fuck they look like.

but not answering the door is a little too much so maybe she's one of those extra sensitive water virgos yuck. this why it's not such a great idea to throw SURPRISE bday parties for EARTH people.
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Hey!!!!!! us water VIRGOS resent that

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Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Lol yeah the REAL competition with virgos is their work and their sleep routine. Nothing can come in between. 🙄😂 How did you call him out in his bullshit? Lol
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😂😂 you know it. I was just myself.. By the time I met him I knew what I wanted and what I wouldn’t deal with lol so I’d be blunt but with a smile... They are sensitive though even though they try to hide it .. so when he does do a good job.. make sure you give positive feedback as well 😉 Speak with your actions.

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thing about virgo don't matter sun or moon is that some of them (myself included) will suddenly block you out of nowhere. then they'll come around. but instant excommunicado for something they won't even explain to you. (coz the reason is probably of an emotional nature yuck + petty).

i hate this bitchass thing we do most.

this why chasers like aries succeed (too bad i don't think i'm that into them).

we want what we want and we're picky asf.

Lol Trust me I know. One of my ex-bffs was a virgo and she did this to a group of us because we were all busy for her birthday. I've seen virgo suns pull this shit all the time. They live for blocking people.

i live for blocking people tbh

but srsly, did you even send a card or gave a phone call or anything?

we're actually really sensitive, that's why we like to look cold

We showed up all the next day at her house with very thoughtful gifts and cards. She didn't answer the door so we left it with her brother. We took turns calling and apologizing for 2 weeks straight. But never heard from her again lol.

Yeah I know virgos are super sensitive and they will remember wrongdoings for the rest of their life 😬 but i think the blocking is kind of an ego thing tbh.

virgos are very insecure no matter what the fuck they look like.

but not answering the door is a little too much so maybe she's one of those extra sensitive water virgos yuck. this why it's not such a great idea to throw SURPRISE bday parties for EARTH people.

Hey!!!!!! us water VIRGOS resent that
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i'm Pisces dominant if that makes you feel better 😛

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Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Lol yeah the REAL competition with virgos is their work and their sleep routine. Nothing can come in between. 🙄😂 How did you call him out in his bullshit? Lol
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thing about virgo don't matter sun or moon is that some of them (myself included) will suddenly block you out of nowhere. then they'll come around. but instant excommunicado for something they won't even explain to you. (coz the reason is probably of an emotional nature yuck + petty).

i hate this bitchass thing we do most.

this why chasers like aries succeed (too bad i don't think i'm that into them).

we want what we want and we're picky asf.

Lol Trust me I know. One of my ex-bffs was a virgo and she did this to a group of us because we were all busy for her birthday. I've seen virgo suns pull this shit all the time. They live for blocking people.

i live for blocking people tbh

but srsly, did you even send a card or gave a phone call or anything?

we're actually really sensitive, that's why we like to look cold

We showed up all the next day at her house with very thoughtful gifts and cards. She didn't answer the door so we left it with her brother. We took turns calling and apologizing for 2 weeks straight. But never heard from her again lol.

Yeah I know virgos are super sensitive and they will remember wrongdoings for the rest of their life 😬 but i think the blocking is kind of an ego thing tbh.

virgos are very insecure no matter what the fuck they look like.

but not answering the door is a little too much so maybe she's one of those extra sensitive water virgos yuck. this why it's not such a great idea to throw SURPRISE bday parties for EARTH people.

Hey!!!!!! us water VIRGOS resent that

i'm Pisces dominant if that makes you feel better 😛
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Cancer moon venus dominant 🤷‍♀️

I'm emotional as hell😭😭😭

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Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Lol yeah the REAL competition with virgos is their work and their sleep routine. Nothing can come in between. 🙄😂 How did you call him out in his bullshit? Lol

😂😂 you know it. I was just myself.. By the time I met him I knew what I wanted and what I wouldn’t deal with lol so I’d be blunt but with a smile... They are sensitive though even though they try to hide it .. so when he does do a good job.. make sure you give positive feedback as well 😉 Speak with your actions.
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Ok thanks. I'm in very early stages with a virgo moon sag sun. It feels a bit early to call him out especially since he is careful to not promise anything. 🙄😂 Basically I'm trying to figure out if he's worth waiting out to see if our dating/getting to know each other evolves into anything. We met through a dating app so we were not friends first.

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I see! Oddly enough I’m a Taurus/Gemini cusp and we met on bumble him and I! Haha! We later found out we knew mutual people lol. That’s funny! Your a Taurus. You got this!

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So has anyone ever had a courtship/dating experience with a virgo moon or sun male where the guy was consistent throughout the entire time? Like he pursued you, regularly texted you (never ghosted), and was upfront about his feelings through his actions or words? If yes, how did you meet? Were you friends first? Please also respond if you had negative experiences.

Virgo Sun, Gem moon

Friends first.

He pursued courtship.... & pursued still after our break-up.

He was consistent with the texts the phone calls and the dates. He did get comfortable at one point = lazy but he would eventually adjust himself.... Once he could admit to himself things weren't good between us.

He was very stubborn, we were/are both independent individuals and... I think he didn't respect that about me. I wasn't clingy, I had my own life going and I wanted my space sometimes...we fought a lot... Partly because of that.

It didn't end well but I believe years later... he would agree:

we're both happier now, we just weren't compatible.

Omg. I had a BIG crush on a guy with the same placements. I'm also super drawn to these placements in general. Also this is what I suspected... I think Virgos adjust to dating better if they know you first. Essentially, he had already decided he wanted to be with you so there was no drawn out hot and cold period. Too bad it didn't work out but good to hear you're happier now.

Yeah.... I think we lasted as long as we did because of the initial friendship.. It probably wasn't a good thing it lasted as long as it did though... 🤔 but it was an experience and I learned a lot from that relationship.
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I reeeeally relate to your relationship. Like BINGO. I really do thank him for being so helpful but it is overly so when I know how to do it. Sure I dont mind the help but if it isnt taken, there is a grudge. I just dont need micro managing nor a babysitter. Im 35 years old for Chripes sake! I had to tell him he ruined the beautiful trip I was having last week with his negativity and chaperoning! I wanted to trip alone which he knew beforehand but just hung around. Worst of all, he was saving his dose and not tripping so he could not see how he could possibly influence my trip.... gtfohrn

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So has anyone ever had a courtship/dating experience with a virgo moon or sun male where the guy was consistent throughout the entire time? Like he pursued you, regularly texted you (never ghosted), and was upfront about his feelings through his actions or words? If yes, how did you meet? Were you friends first? Please also respond if you had negative experiences.

Virgo Sun, Gem moon

Friends first.

He pursued courtship.... & pursued still after our break-up.

He was consistent with the texts the phone calls and the dates. He did get comfortable at one point = lazy but he would eventually adjust himself.... Once he could admit to himself things weren't good between us.

He was very stubborn, we were/are both independent individuals and... I think he didn't respect that about me. I wasn't clingy, I had my own life going and I wanted my space sometimes...we fought a lot... Partly because of that.

It didn't end well but I believe years later... he would agree:

we're both happier now, we just weren't compatible.

Omg. I had a BIG crush on a guy with the same placements. I'm also super drawn to these placements in general. Also this is what I suspected... I think Virgos adjust to dating better if they know you first. Essentially, he had already decided he wanted to be with you so there was no drawn out hot and cold period. Too bad it didn't work out but good to hear you're happier now.

Yeah.... I think we lasted as long as we did because of the initial friendship.. It probably wasn't a good thing it lasted as long as it did though... 🤔 but it was an experience and I learned a lot from that relationship.

I reeeeally relate to your relationship. Like BINGO. I really do thank him for being so helpful but it is overly so when I know how to do it. Sure I dont mind the help but if it isnt taken, there is a grudge. I just dont need micro managing nor a babysitter. Im 35 years old for Chripes sake! I had to tell him he ruined the beautiful trip I was having last week with his negativity and chaperoning! I wanted to trip alone which he knew beforehand but just hung around. Worst of all, he was saving his dose and not tripping so he could not see how he could possibly influence my trip.... gtfohrn
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Posted by LoveNLuck21

Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Lucky. Mine hasnt worked the whole time I have been with him. And doesnt like being called out on his bs by me of all people lolololol

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yes i had a virgo dude who just spammed my phone all day and night, not in a good way. it could be my virgo moon but he had alot of issues he was going through in his life and wanted help..but he needed serious help. he had drug and alcohol addiction and seemed to have depression..i wanted to be nice but it went too overboard at one point also he could not understand boundaries as i was in a relationship at the time

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So has anyone ever had a courtship/dating experience with a virgo moon or sun male where the guy was consistent throughout the entire time? Like he pursued you, regularly texted you (never ghosted), and was upfront about his feelings through his actions or words? If yes, how did you meet? Were you friends first? Please also respond if you had negative experiences.

Virgo Sun, Gem moon

Friends first.

He pursued courtship.... & pursued still after our break-up.

He was consistent with the texts the phone calls and the dates. He did get comfortable at one point = lazy but he would eventually adjust himself.... Once he could admit to himself things weren't good between us.

He was very stubborn, we were/are both independent individuals and... I think he didn't respect that about me. I wasn't clingy, I had my own life going and I wanted my space sometimes...we fought a lot... Partly because of that.

It didn't end well but I believe years later... he would agree:

we're both happier now, we just weren't compatible.

Omg. I had a BIG crush on a guy with the same placements. I'm also super drawn to these placements in general. Also this is what I suspected... I think Virgos adjust to dating better if they know you first. Essentially, he had already decided he wanted to be with you so there was no drawn out hot and cold period. Too bad it didn't work out but good to hear you're happier now.

Yeah.... I think we lasted as long as we did because of the initial friendship.. It probably wasn't a good thing it lasted as long as it did though... 🤔 but it was an experience and I learned a lot from that relationship.

I reeeeally relate to your relationship. Like BINGO. I really do thank him for being so helpful but it is overly so when I know how to do it. Sure I dont mind the help but if it isnt taken, there is a grudge. I just dont need micro managing nor a babysitter. Im 35 years old for Chripes sake! I had to tell him he ruined the beautiful trip I was having last week with his negativity and chaperoning! I wanted to trip alone which he knew beforehand but just hung around. Worst of all, he was saving his dose and not tripping so he could not see how he could possibly influence my trip.... gtfohrn

helping with what for example?
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Recent example. He let air out of my tires due to the heat. Not a bad thing under normal conditions! However, he let out AFTER the big heat wave and so much so that my tire pressure gauge wont turn off. Minor annoyance but an example. A lot of times it is to tell me how to do whatever it is "the best way". Again minor annoyance but over time it really feels like he doesnt think I know how to do anything! I am the type, if I need your help I will ask. I am very capable on my own and self sufficient. So him wanting to be so "helpful" and involved clashes with my personality. It feels like he assumes I should have some degree of dependence on him which life has taught me the harsh lessen of who is the only one I can really depend on. Whats most annoying is that he gets to pick and choose what he is helping with. Not the actual things I need help with, which I have told him. He just doesnt do what he doesnt want to do. I am not like that. I do a lot of things I dont want to out of love. I think our main problem is that we had a codependent relationship starting out and he is having a hard time realizing I am moving on. We stuck together through getting clean together and were friends beforehand so it has made it an interesting relationship. Lots of hardship, but lots of growth. I have just outgrown codependency of any kind. I have told him I am in need of being on my own for a while to sort some things out and he just doesnt see how his presence affects that for me 😐 Come on now. I have never met someone who played so dumb.

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Yes. My boyfriend is a Virgo. He was very consistent & still is. He wanted and put in all the moves, steps to be my full time guy. He doesn’t disappear except when he is busy with work (workaholics) which I love and understand so... If he has a lot of work on his plate/mind.. You will come second. Also, I find they like to be called on the bs. If we’re going by sun-signs they are an’ insecure sign and need reassurance as well. 😉

Lucky. Mine hasnt worked the whole time I have been with him. And doesnt like being called out on his bs by me of all people lolololol
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Why doesn't he work? I think a virgo that doesn't work would probably feel veeeeryyyy sensitive and vulnerable. Virgos just need to work. Hahah. My friend dated a virgo who was job seeking at the time and she had to be super duper supportive and gentle because he was highly sensitive to that. Of course, the minute he started working he was doing overtime everyday and finally happy. Lol 😄😄

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So has anyone ever had a courtship/dating experience with a virgo moon or sun male where the guy was consistent throughout the entire time? Like he pursued you, regularly texted you (never ghosted), and was upfront about his feelings through his actions or words? If yes, how did you meet? Were you friends first? Please also respond if you had negative experiences.

Virgo Sun, Gem moon

Friends first.

He pursued courtship.... & pursued still after our break-up.

He was consistent with the texts the phone calls and the dates. He did get comfortable at one point = lazy but he would eventually adjust himself.... Once he could admit to himself things weren't good between us.

He was very stubborn, we were/are both independent individuals and... I think he didn't respect that about me. I wasn't clingy, I had my own life going and I wanted my space sometimes...we fought a lot... Partly because of that.

It didn't end well but I believe years later... he would agree:

we're both happier now, we just weren't compatible.

Omg. I had a BIG crush on a guy with the same placements. I'm also super drawn to these placements in general. Also this is what I suspected... I think Virgos adjust to dating better if they know you first. Essentially, he had already decided he wanted to be with you so there was no drawn out hot and cold period. Too bad it didn't work out but good to hear you're happier now.

Yeah.... I think we lasted as long as we did because of the initial friendship.. It probably wasn't a good thing it lasted as long as it did though... 🤔 but it was an experience and I learned a lot from that relationship.

I reeeeally relate to your relationship. Like BINGO. I really do thank him for being so helpful but it is overly so when I know how to do it. Sure I dont mind the help but if it isnt taken, there is a grudge. I just dont need micro managing nor a babysitter. Im 35 years old for Chripes sake! I had to tell him he ruined the beautiful trip I was having last week with his negativity and chaperoning! I wanted to trip alone which he knew beforehand but just hung around. Worst of all, he was saving his dose and not tripping so he could not see how he could possibly influence my trip.... gtfohrn

helping with what for example?

Recent example. He let air out of my tires due to the heat. Not a bad thing under normal conditions! However, he let out AFTER the big heat wave and so much so that my tire pressure gauge wont turn off. Minor annoyance but an example. A lot of times it is to tell me how to do whatever it is "the best way". Again minor annoyance but over time it really feels like he doesnt think I know how to do anything! I am the type, if I need your help I will ask. I am very capable on my own and self sufficient. So him wanting to be so "helpful" and involved clashes with my personality. It feels like he assumes I should have some degree of dependence on him which life has taught me the harsh lessen of who is the only one I can really depend on. Whats most annoying is that he gets to pick and choose what he is helping with. Not the actual things I need help with, which I have told him. He just doesnt do what he doesnt want to do. I am not like that. I do a lot of things I dont want to out of love. I think our main problem is that we had a codependent relationship starting out and he is having a hard time realizing I am moving on. We stuck together through getting clean together and were friends beforehand so it has made it an interesting relationship. Lots of hardship, but lots of growth. I have just outgrown codependency of any kind. I have told him I am in need of being on my own for a while to sort some things out and he just doesnt see how his presence affects that for me 😐 Come on now. I have never met someone who played so dumb.
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i think you should be more assertive in getting rid of him.

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For me - one Virgo I was with for three years. He was always right there. But it was pre-internet. No waffling back & forth, he had to convince me he was in love with me lol.. was planning on marrying me, but it didn’t happen in the end.

Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

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For me - one Virgo I was with for three years. He was always right there. But it was pre-internet. No waffling back & forth, he had to convince me he was in love with me lol.. was planning on marrying me, but it didn’t happen in the end.

Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

Were you friends first with both?

Lol at the virgo moon. Sounds familiar. 😁 What happened in the end?

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For me - one Virgo I was with for three years. He was always right there. But it was pre-internet. No waffling back & forth, he had to convince me he was in love with me lol.. was planning on marrying me, but it didn’t happen in the end.

Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

Were you friends first with both?

Lol at the virgo moon. Sounds familiar. 😁 What happened in the end?
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No I was not friends with either first. First one ended because he changed his mind on his path ( he took the easy way) & he thought I wouldn’t be happy, cuz I’m too independent. So he set me free aka broke up with me.

Second one I Hope is done, but there’s never been a true break because he just disappears. I’ve tried to set him free but he always comes back no matter what I say. So what’s the point? This is the cap sun everyone here is sick of hearing about lol. But he tells me he can’t get me out of his head & heart. Ugh. He’s liking stuff on my FB so I know he’s still paying attention. Usually after a bit of that, he reaches out. I refuse to reach out cuz I’m really tired of this. It’s pretty bad I know his pattern 🤦‍♀️

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Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

damn, i am going through this w/ a virgo sun & sag moon....

he freaks then ghosts & always comes back. every time he comes back, he becomes a little more open than the last time. in the moment it seems intimate but i always conclude that it’s actually manipulative as hell.

i just cant seem to shake him off
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Sounds familiar. This is a cap sun Virgo moon .. I just keep hoping he’ll find someone who makes him forget about me 😂

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For me - one Virgo I was with for three years. He was always right there. But it was pre-internet. No waffling back & forth, he had to convince me he was in love with me lol.. was planning on marrying me, but it didn’t happen in the end.

Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

Were you friends first with both?

Lol at the virgo moon. Sounds familiar. 😁 What happened in the end?

No I was not friends with either first. First one ended because he changed his mind on his path ( he took the easy way) & he thought I wouldn’t be happy, cuz I’m too independent. So he set me free aka broke up with me.

Second one I Hope is done, but there’s never been a true break because he just disappears. I’ve tried to set him free but he always comes back no matter what I say. So what’s the point? This is the cap sun everyone here is sick of hearing about lol. But he tells me he can’t get me out of his head & heart. Ugh. He’s liking stuff on my FB so I know he’s still paying attention. Usually after a bit of that, he reaches out. I refuse to reach out cuz I’m really tired of this. It’s pretty bad I know his pattern 🤦‍♀️
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Being too independent for a virgo male also seems to be a common theme in this thread. 🤔

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For me - one Virgo I was with for three years. He was always right there. But it was pre-internet. No waffling back & forth, he had to convince me he was in love with me lol.. was planning on marrying me, but it didn’t happen in the end.

Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

Were you friends first with both?

Lol at the virgo moon. Sounds familiar. 😁 What happened in the end?

No I was not friends with either first. First one ended because he changed his mind on his path ( he took the easy way) & he thought I wouldn’t be happy, cuz I’m too independent. So he set me free aka broke up with me.

Second one I Hope is done, but there’s never been a true break because he just disappears. I’ve tried to set him free but he always comes back no matter what I say. So what’s the point? This is the cap sun everyone here is sick of hearing about lol. But he tells me he can’t get me out of his head & heart. Ugh. He’s liking stuff on my FB so I know he’s still paying attention. Usually after a bit of that, he reaches out. I refuse to reach out cuz I’m really tired of this. It’s pretty bad I know his pattern 🤦‍♀️

Being too independent for a virgo male also seems to be a common theme in this thread. 🤔
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It was about me wanting a career, and him wanting me to be a stay at home mom, and the perfect little 50’s wife. I was in college & had big dreams at the time lol. He broke up with me & kept coming back, but not for real.. just missed me. Until I married someone else. Haha sounds like the Virgo moon. He’s now been married for 25 years like what he wanted. It’s all good. He did me a favor, he was right.

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For me - one Virgo I was with for three years. He was always right there. But it was pre-internet. No waffling back & forth, he had to convince me he was in love with me lol.. was planning on marrying me, but it didn’t happen in the end.

Virgo moon - his feelings came slowly little by little . I never pushed for it, just out it came. But it was an off & on. Cuz he would get too close, get scared and hide. And come back when he couldn’t get me out of his head & heart. So I guess ghosting but every time he’d come back I’d find out more about his feelings and what was happening with him. Ugh.

Were you friends first with both?

Lol at the virgo moon. Sounds familiar. 😁 What happened in the end?

No I was not friends with either first. First one ended because he changed his mind on his path ( he took the easy way) & he thought I wouldn’t be happy, cuz I’m too independent. So he set me free aka broke up with me.

Second one I Hope is done, but there’s never been a true break because he just disappears. I’ve tried to set him free but he always comes back no matter what I say. So what’s the point? This is the cap sun everyone here is sick of hearing about lol. But he tells me he can’t get me out of his head & heart. Ugh. He’s liking stuff on my FB so I know he’s still paying attention. Usually after a bit of that, he reaches out. I refuse to reach out cuz I’m really tired of this. It’s pretty bad I know his pattern 🤦‍♀️

Being too independent for a virgo male also seems to be a common theme in this thread. 🤔
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i'm ready to act helpless.

you know weird thing about this cancer sun/virgo moon when he found out i got surgery for some health issue, he gave me so much more attention than ever before. seemed really concerned, very curious and asking me how i feel and shit man if i knew i can use this shit to my advantage hahah.

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