I am stuck with Virgo man

I am libra and i really like a Virgo man.he said he really likes me but cant have any relationship.

He is so busy working n never has day off.so he usually wants to meet up when he finish working early in the closest area to mine.

Usually he invites me for lunch,cinema,just chilling somewhere or sometimes i chill n stay in his place.

He is kinda gentleman,funny,sweet guy but i can feel that he doesnt really open up with me,he sometimes can be cold.

He doesnt text me much when we arent together his excuses are bcz he is busy working n its not easy to text in english.

So we often have no communication when we are away from each other n even we chat he tends to be so flat n short answers.I never can have a real conversation by texts with him,i cant talk about anything with him.he seems complicated for me but i like him so much n always miss him.what shud i do?😢

Give him to me.

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When he says he can't have a relationship, maybe......you know, he means it. He likes to unwind with a friend or fwb, but beyond that maybe he's just not into the relationship thing.

I know how you feel though, I'm madly in love with a Virgo demigod that I can't really have because he's straight. But your chances are better than mine 🙂

Maybe you need to show him what he's missing out on when he's not with you. Instead of being miserable around him, show him the best possible time.......then disappear for a while. Give him a chance to miss you.

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I am libra and i really like a Virgo man.he said he really likes me but cant have any relationship.

Listen to him when he tells you this. It means what it means. The timing for you two is bad right now. Move on and find someone who has time and can cherish you for the amazing person you are. Also because you're a Libra, the communication part will eventually annoy the shit out of you because I know how much you guys like to talk with the ones you like 🙂

Virgo people and relationships are hard cases. And this comes from another Earth sign (I'm a Taurus female). They're good friends, but I won't trust them with relationships. Also their standards of loyalty do not even come close to a standard of Taurus loyalty. Both women and Virgo men are unstable in one way or another and have lots of partners in a life time. They're REALLY difficult to please. And in most cases it's actually them and not you.

That's true

@RemixGeneralFishy : ahh baby im sorry 😢 true,sometimes i really want to do something to make him feeling he miss out on somebody who actually really likes n cares about him.i did try to kinda dissepear n not answer his text when he was wondering why i didnt answer his texts.but i just didnt bear 😢( and it happened once he kept ignoring me n always answered my texts with one word or two like "haha" or "you 2". And then he forgot our plan to meet up n he didnt drop me any message.i when he asked me why i didnt answer his message,i told him i just cudnt do it anymore with him.and he shud have met somebody else who can understand him,but its not me.he cud do whatever he wanted,i ddint care anymore.He seemed shocked and tried to reassure me n he apologized,he said he really like me.he wanted to meet me up straight aeay to talk,so we met n he seemed upset (he kinda grumpy person like a kid) n he explained.in the end he said peace n we were good again.But of course after that he still being him n nothing change.

Im feeling so stupid here.. this feeling is getting deeper.i cant even look at another guys 😢(

Anyways have u tried to tell ur feeling to that guy?? Wish u the best baby?

@Mered1th : yes i know..but iys not as easy as we say to move on n look for somebody else when we like somebody so much.and i always hope i can have one chance to be his girl but i know its stupid 😢

Shud i leave him?shud i tell him that i want to leave or shud i just walk away?..

Im too afraid to loose him 😢

Shud i lie to him by saying i meet another guy who treats me better n have time for me?

I asked once when we were chilling together how if i date another guy.he said i cud do whatever i want n its up to me .he said it without looking at me..i wanted to look into his eyes n see if he meant it,but he didnt want to look at me n tried to change topic. 😢

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@RemixGeneralFishy : ahh baby im sorry 😢 true,sometimes i really want to do something to make him feeling he miss out on somebody who actually really likes n cares about him.i did try to kinda dissepear n not answer his text when he was wondering why i didnt answer his texts.but i just didnt bear 😢( and it happened once he kept ignoring me n always answered my texts with one word or two like "haha" or "you 2". And then he forgot our plan to meet up n he didnt drop me any message.i when he asked me why i didnt answer his message,i told him i just cudnt do it anymore with him.and he shud have met somebody else who can understand him,but its not me.he cud do whatever he wanted,i ddint care anymore.He seemed shocked and tried to reassure me n he apologized,he said he really like me.he wanted to meet me up straight aeay to talk,so we met n he seemed upset (he kinda grumpy person like a kid) n he explained.in the end he said peace n we were good again.But of course after that he still being him n nothing change.

Im feeling so stupid here.. this feeling is getting deeper.i cant even look at another guys 😢(

Anyways have u tried to tell ur feeling to that guy?? Wish u the best baby?

It sounds like he's lost in his bubble, he needs a stiff wake-up call. Your outburst temporarily shook him awake but then things went back to normal......and so did he. You both need to sit down and decide where to go from here, because obviously things can't go on the way they are now.

Trust me, I know the feeling of being stuck with no way forward or back. And I can't tell my guy because he's straight and I'm gay and it's just really complicated. There have been a few instances where he's left me scratching my head and made me wonder, but he's definitely straight. And I'm not interested in being anyone's experiment.

True,u are right.i tried once when i was staying in his place.we were chilling in bed,i tried to talk to him about it.but he was busy using his phone so i told him to put his phone down.he did.But when i asked about me n him,but he tried to turn away n changed the subject.seemed like he avoid this conversation.i always have to struggle to keep a conversation going with him 😢

But when we are together he can be so sweet with his actions like cuddling me when sleeping,kissed my forhead,hold my hand,kiss my lips,hug me..but he only did that when theres no other ppl around.. what makes me melted is the way he starres at me when i was away from him.for example when we were in resto i was walking back from toilet n i found him starres at me..and he also likes starring at me when we kissing.

Oh God why this man is so complicated!

Im afraid he just use me 😢

Oh Dear,but at least u have same gender as him so u guys can always have things to do together!u are so cute!?

@MercuryMix : so i guess i shud just leave?without saying anything?

@MercuryMix : so what shud i do?i am a Libra,its so hard for me to make decision.. —

Im feeling stuck here cant go forward or back now. And staying like this also torturing me

OP,

I'm not trying to be mean or rude, but to give you a dose of reality so that you can fix your situation...you're entertainment to him. This isn't a Virgo thing but a situation with someone who wants to remain unattached. I take it that his response comes from you asking him something along the lines of does he want a relationship or what are his plans...so now you know.

Don't be fooled by his caring and kindness and him spending time with you. Those are in the efforts of maintaining the status quo...and you accept that. It also doesnt automatically equate to him respecting you either. You're simply being useful and this fact is bourn out by how little he contacts you. When a man finds a woman that he deems is special, he'll do everything it takes to make her an integral part of his life and he'll open up to her. No job will stand in his way of communicating with you and he will give his all to have a future with you.

So, your choice is to leave or to stop being a placeholder. Good luck.

@beautifulsoul74 :

Hi,

You are totally true..i think i just let myself to be used n fooled even i know the truth n he told me already as well.

I wanted to leave him once but he always tried to reassure me that he did not want to loose me.He made me feel bad to leave..and im weak.

Whenever i try to not contact him n let him free,he alwasy came out with something sweet..And if i ignored him,he wud not stop asking why i ignored him n it made him sad.

I dont know if im really stupid or im too nice to him bcz im always afraid of hurting or offending somebody in my life..i always try to please somebody instead of myself.i know its not good.but its me.

So if i decide to leave him,how is best way to do it?i seriously dont know

Ive spent my last 6 years married a Leo guy.now im single and im completely lost about how to start a thing with new guy..

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@beautifulsoul74 :

Hi,

You are totally true..i think i just let myself to be used n fooled even i know the truth n he told me already as well.

I wanted to leave him once but he always tried to reassure me that he did not want to loose me.He made me feel bad to leave..and im weak.

Whenever i try to not contact him n let him free,he alwasy came out with something sweet..And if i ignored him,he wud not stop asking why i ignored him n it made him sad.

I dont know if im really stupid or im too nice to him bcz im always afraid of hurting or offending somebody in my life..i always try to please somebody instead of myself.i know its not good.but its me.

So if i decide to leave him,how is best way to do it?i seriously dont know

Ive spent my last 6 years married a Leo guy.now im single and im completely lost about how to start a thing with new guy..

If you decide to leave, simply tell him that it's because the two of you want different things and he is unwilling to offer you what you want.

If you stay...then tbh honest it needs to be under the terms of platonic friendship. That way, it keeps you from being disappointed and it gives him an opportunity to step up to the plate and not only show that he wants a future with you...but to show that consistently. There's a difference between valuing the experience of being with someone and actually valuing "them." The former is strictly about the benefits...the fruits but it's unrequited...as in you don't get what it is, you truly want...a person to be "all in." It may feel like they are but there's always something missing and that something is the investment in you that a commitment brings.

That's how you should approach a guy. Yeah it's old school, but if you truly want to be married again, then it's simply done buy building a relationship...not a man...but a relationship. Friendship is how you build that trust, communication, loyalty, etc. If you think of true friends, they are always by your side. Lay the foundation and build from there.

He just texted me n wanted to meet up.i think i will meet him n talk to him about it..im so nervous.wish me luck!

Hi,,wow i met him last night n tried to talk to him but he didnt even give any attention to me.He always used his phone,no eye contacts.His behavior is getting worse to me like he has no respect anymore.I can feel how he treats me shows me how he thinks im so easy for him,feels like he takes me for granted.

So i guess its over between me n him.no need to explain,i think i will just stay away from him.I think he felt i acted different this time,when i went home he texted me n asked if i was good.i only answered with "yeah".normally i wud answer with long asnwers bcz i love chatting but not this time.n he answered with three kiss emoticons.