Is it over even if he still replies?

Posted by ufo
yikes! you gave him too much time to overthink, now he thinks you're not serious about him so he's taking a step back, words won't cut it tbh think action

plus once a virgo feels abandoned imo they get distant and disappear

Posted by Toti
He will be back. Don't worry. That's typical Virgo behaviour. Be loving and gentle when he returns. Don't speak much about it.

Posted by CancerCookie
Been seeing a Virgo for about 4 months. Everything has been great and he’s def typical Virgo from what I’ve read. I went away with my girlfriends for a weekend. We live in the same country but it’s long distance bc he’s 3 hours away and works 7 days a week as an engineer. He gets two weeks off every 6 weeks. I told him about the trip as I was leaving after all it’s not one of the times we will see each other. He still replied normally to all messages but the second day I was away with no reception. When on my way home I never messaged that Sunday bc when I did get reception on my way home I realized he hadn’t either. I thought ok maybe he’s busy give some space. It’s just one day and we speak daily.Well Monday am before I could message he asked “may I ask why you’re not talking to me”. I was shocked and explained about only getting reception late at night upon my return and since he hadn’t I assumed he was busy I told him to call when free and he didn’t. So I waited he sent goodnight only before sleeping and I replied the same. Friday I messaged i missed him he replied are u sure? I said yes and to call me he didn’t. I said nothing Sat bc I figured he’s mad and would reach out when ready. then at 11 he messaged I told you I wouldn’t let you do this to me again that’s it. I immediately called he didn’t answer I messaged he read and no replies. Sunday up to now I message good morning and hope he has a good day he replies basically with the same. Would he reply if he’s completely done with me? Also on Sunday I sent a very calm voice note since I know they don’t like lots of emotions explaining this is a miscommunication and I want to work out our problem. He listened and didn’t reply. We have yet to be intimate but this weekend he goes on break. Any advice on fixing this? Should I let go? I’ve initiated all communication since his that’s it message. Is there still hope bc he is at least responding to what I send?

Posted by CancerCookie
Been seeing a Virgo for about 4 months. Everything has been great and he’s def typical Virgo from what I’ve read. I went away with my girlfriends for a weekend. We live in the same country but it’s long distance bc he’s 3 hours away and works 7 days a week as an engineer. He gets two weeks off every 6 weeks. I told him about the trip as I was leaving after all it’s not one of the times we will see each other. He still replied normally to all messages but the second day I was away with no reception. When on my way home I never messaged that Sunday bc when I did get reception on my way home I realized he hadn’t either. I thought ok maybe he’s busy give some space. It’s just one day and we speak daily.Well Monday am before I could message he asked “may I ask why you’re not talking to me”. I was shocked and explained about only getting reception late at night upon my return and since he hadn’t I assumed he was busy I told him to call when free and he didn’t. So I waited he sent goodnight only before sleeping and I replied the same. Friday I messaged i missed him he replied are u sure? I said yes and to call me he didn’t. I said nothing Sat bc I figured he’s mad and would reach out when ready. then at 11 he messaged I told you I wouldn’t let you do this to me again that’s it. I immediately called he didn’t answer I messaged he read and no replies. Sunday up to now I message good morning and hope he has a good day he replies basically with the same. Would he reply if he’s completely done with me? Also on Sunday I sent a very calm voice note since I know they don’t like lots of emotions explaining this is a miscommunication and I want to work out our problem. He listened and didn’t reply. We have yet to be intimate but this weekend he goes on break. Any advice on fixing this? Should I let go? I’ve initiated all communication since his that’s it message. Is there still hope bc he is at least responding to what I send?

Posted by Smil3


What happened on Tuesday, Wednesday, and Thursday?

So you tell him you had no reception, you miss him, told him twice to call you when he's free and he doesn't. Then Sat says, 'I told you I wouldn’t let you do this to me again that’s it.' You immediately call him and he doesn't answer.

What an annoying insecure baby. Why isn't he picking up the phone and calling you?

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Posted by CancerCookie
Been seeing a Virgo for about 4 months. Everything has been great and he’s def typical Virgo from what I’ve read. I went away with my girlfriends for a weekend. We live in the same country but it’s long distance bc he’s 3 hours away and works 7 days a week as an engineer. He gets two weeks off every 6 weeks. I told him about the trip as I was leaving after all it’s not one of the times we will see each other. He still replied normally to all messages but the second day I was away with no reception. When on my way home I never messaged that Sunday bc when I did get reception on my way home I realized he hadn’t either. I thought ok maybe he’s busy give some space. It’s just one day and we speak daily.Well Monday am before I could message he asked “may I ask why you’re not talking to me”. I was shocked and explained about only getting reception late at night upon my return and since he hadn’t I assumed he was busy I told him to call when free and he didn’t. So I waited he sent goodnight only before sleeping and I replied the same. Friday I messaged i missed him he replied are u sure? I said yes and to call me he didn’t. I said nothing Sat bc I figured he’s mad and would reach out when ready. then at 11 he messaged I told you I wouldn’t let you do this to me again that’s it. I immediately called he didn’t answer I messaged he read and no replies. Sunday up to now I message good morning and hope he has a good day he replies basically with the same. Would he reply if he’s completely done with me? Also on Sunday I sent a very calm voice note since I know they don’t like lots of emotions explaining this is a miscommunication and I want to work out our problem. He listened and didn’t reply. We have yet to be intimate but this weekend he goes on break. Any advice on fixing this? Should I let go? I’ve initiated all communication since his that’s it message. Is there still hope bc he is at least responding to what I send?

find someone that is comfortable with your emotional intensity. do not let this man change you -- i don't know him but i know that he will never change for you; even if he says he will -- you're going to be forced to suppress your feelings (which you're already doing). try to think about the future -- do you really want to be walking on eggshells throughout your whole relationship?

Also, to the topic question...my virgo ex still replied when he was "ignoring me." he would tell me to not talk to him for a week and i would cave and text him midweek and he would come back with something nasty to me but still reply -- AND THEN THE WEEK OF SILENCE WOULD HAVE TO START OVER.

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Posted by Awesomely
it's not over if he still replies. it simply means he is getting good at the game.

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Posted by Toti
He will be back. Don't worry. That's typical Virgo behaviour. Be loving and gentle when he returns. Don't speak much about it.

Thanks! I really hope you’re right other than this misunderstanding he’s been so sweet and attentive with me.

Just be relaxed about it. Believe me, he is his own critic. He doesn't need you to point out to things he is doing wrong. He is aware of that. Send him a sweet text. Don't mention the misunderstanding. Virgo's are very sensitive people, but they will never admit it. They need much love. But once you give them live they will reject it. It's all a part of their charm. So many women say they make better friends than lovers.

Just be patient and confident. All will be well. Good luck!

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Posted by CancerCookie
Been seeing a Virgo for about 4 months. Everything has been great and he’s def typical Virgo from what I’ve read. I went away with my girlfriends for a weekend. We live in the same country but it’s long distance bc he’s 3 hours away and works 7 days a week as an engineer. He gets two weeks off every 6 weeks. I told him about the trip as I was leaving after all it’s not one of the times we will see each other. He still replied normally to all messages but the second day I was away with no reception. When on my way home I never messaged that Sunday bc when I did get reception on my way home I realized he hadn’t either. I thought ok maybe he’s busy give some space. It’s just one day and we speak daily.Well Monday am before I could message he asked “may I ask why you’re not talking to me”. I was shocked and explained about only getting reception late at night upon my return and since he hadn’t I assumed he was busy I told him to call when free and he didn’t. So I waited he sent goodnight only before sleeping and I replied the same. Friday I messaged i missed him he replied are u sure? I said yes and to call me he didn’t. I said nothing Sat bc I figured he’s mad and would reach out when ready. then at 11 he messaged I told you I wouldn’t let you do this to me again that’s it. I immediately called he didn’t answer I messaged he read and no replies. Sunday up to now I message good morning and hope he has a good day he replies basically with the same. Would he reply if he’s completely done with me? Also on Sunday I sent a very calm voice note since I know they don’t like lots of emotions explaining this is a miscommunication and I want to work out our problem. He listened and didn’t reply. We have yet to be intimate but this weekend he goes on break. Any advice on fixing this? Should I let go? I’ve initiated all communication since his that’s it message. Is there still hope bc he is at least responding to what I send?

Also...i know it says that virgos & cancers go together well -- but keep in mind that he must be a mature virgo (not in age but in personality).

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Posted by WildatHeart
If he's still responding it's not over, but it sounds like he is incredibly sensitive. A sensitive Virgo can be very difficult to love from a Cancer perspective. They are dying to know you love them and you are dying to tell them, if you don't give enough they doubt your feelings and if you give too much they get scared. It is all about balance and the relationship standing the test of time. How long can you have patience?

Honestly the best advice you've been given is if you can't be your true authentic self and ask for what you need on an emotional level walk away. But if you are in love with him I doubt you are willing to take that advice. So second best advice I can give you...don't let too much time pass between you and don't expect him to reach out first when he is in a sensitive mood.

If you are willing to stick it out, you will learn to be a much stronger and much more patient woman than you were when you met him.

Posted by CancerCookie

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Posted by CancerCookie
Been seeing a Virgo for about 4 months. Everything has been great and he’s def typical Virgo from what I’ve read. I went away with my girlfriends for a weekend. We live in the same country but it’s long distance bc he’s 3 hours away and works 7 days a week as an engineer. He gets two weeks off every 6 weeks. I told him about the trip as I was leaving after all it’s not one of the times we will see each other. He still replied normally to all messages but the second day I was away with no reception. When on my way home I never messaged that Sunday bc when I did get reception on my way home I realized he hadn’t either. I thought ok maybe he’s busy give some space. It’s just one day and we speak daily.Well Monday am before I could message he asked “may I ask why you’re not talking to me”. I was shocked and explained about only getting reception late at night upon my return and since he hadn’t I assumed he was busy I told him to call when free and he didn’t. So I waited he sent goodnight only before sleeping and I replied the same. Friday I messaged i missed him he replied are u sure? I said yes and to call me he didn’t. I said nothing Sat bc I figured he’s mad and would reach out when ready. then at 11 he messaged I told you I wouldn’t let you do this to me again that’s it. I immediately called he didn’t answer I messaged he read and no replies. Sunday up to now I message good morning and hope he has a good day he replies basically with the same. Would he reply if he’s completely done with me? Also on Sunday I sent a very calm voice note since I know they don’t like lots of emotions explaining this is a miscommunication and I want to work out our problem. He listened and didn’t reply. We have yet to be intimate but this weekend he goes on break. Any advice on fixing this? Should I let go? I’ve initiated all communication since his that’s it message. Is there still hope bc he is at least responding to what I send?

Also...i know it says that virgos & cancers go together well -- but keep in mind that he must be a mature virgo (not in age but in personality).

That’s the question bc I have no problem with giving him more attention I was only holding back to not scare him away. I have a problem with being pushed away bc of something I didn’t do which is ignore him.

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Posted by 4evercharm
I am a LEO and in a 6 month relationship with a Virgo woman. Let me say, I think Cancers are great and had a wonderful relationship with one not too long ago. The long emails and everything else were perfect.

Much like you, I am adjusting to my style to fit in. How old is he? Sounds like you are getting back on track. Maybe you can just go back to your usual self and see how this goes. Sounds like a speed bump,

Posted by 4evercharm
I am a LEO and in a 6 month relationship with a Virgo woman. Let me say, I think Cancers are great and had a wonderful relationship with one not too long ago. The long emails and everything else were perfect.

Much like you, I am adjusting to my style to fit in. How old is he? Sounds like you are getting back on track. Maybe you can just go back to your usual self and see how this goes. Sounds like a speed bump,

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Posted by CancerCookie

Posted by 4evercharm
I am a LEO and in a 6 month relationship with a Virgo woman. Let me say, I think Cancers are great and had a wonderful relationship with one not too long ago. The long emails and everything else were perfect.





Much like you, I am adjusting to my style to fit in. How old is he? Sounds like you are getting back on track. Maybe you can just go back to your usual self and see how this goes. Sounds like a speed bump,

He’s 32 I’m 36. But his longest relationship was 8 months. He claims she left him bc she didn’t love him as much he has commitment insecurities. I’m being myself but changing things I needed to anyway like being more patient not internalizing every little thing. So in a way this relationship is making me a better version of myself. click to expand

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Thanks! He introduced me to his mom via video call a few days ago. I was shocked and the next day he said he loved me but followed by laughing faces. I had made a joke right before.was this his way of saying it and meaning it?i had told him I was falling when we were last together but hadn’t actually said it.

Posted by 4evercharm
For me, the patience is working.

The real question is balance of too much or too little.

Posted by Earthgoddess
Oh and btw

If Virgo decides that you just don’t fit together well without to many changes

☠️☠️👎🏽👻

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Posted by CancerCookie
So follow up...all was/is going well but after an argument about his use of an emoji I hate and he only uses to piss me off he basically said this is me I’m not going to change it’s just an emoji. I agree it’s an emoji but is bigger than that bc it was more the fact he was like I’m never going to change stop trying to change me. I don’t think telling someone something bothers u and asking politely to stop is changing them. So after that I continued with normal good mornings and small talk he continued to respond but only to what I ask nothing more. No conversation. I asked was everything ok he says yes he’s just very busy...the next morning I say good morning he replies same and nothing all day. I begin feeling like I’m putting in all effort bc I’m busy as well but make a point to say something to let him know he’s still on my mind. I decide to not say anything simply bc people make time for what they want and if he wants to hear from me he’ll reach out. Since Sat it’s been crickets...obviously I made this choice and must deal with the consequences but am curious simply bc I’m not tied up talking to him lol is he not saying anything bc he expects me to? As in I set the tone that I’d reach out regardless based on my original post or should I just take his silence as what he said? He’s really busy and will reach out when he isn’t. Or is this his passive way of ending things...pulling away.

he is pulling away cuz you're acting passive aggressive, you're getting mad cuz he is not responding the way you want, in a way you're trying to control him and he can sense that

you're hurt and it shows, you're being too emotional for a situationship, if it's not official back off a little

long distance is difficult as it is and getting mad over trivial things cuz you can't communicate your needs and wants cuz you're afraid of the answer is making you get mad at the wrong things

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Posted by AneemA04
Man, why are you so passive. You waited for him too often. He could have thought you weren't interested in him enough.
Express yourself more openly.

Posted by LostinmyMind11
What emoji was it?

Posted by AneemA04
And really? You made it a big issue from all that emoji stuff. Well i wish you could see my past issues with my exes. Js.

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Posted by LostinmyMind11
What emoji was it?

It the peace sign aka deuces. He isn’t American and I explained the concept of deuces early on. He took it and ran with it so when he’s upset he sends it and uses it to respond to things like have a goodnight. click to expand

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What emoji was it?

It the peace sign aka deuces. He isn’t American and I explained the concept of deuces early on. He took it and ran with it so when he’s upset he sends it and uses it to respond to things like have a goodnight. click to expand

Please elaborate? I'm a little confused...why can't he use the peace/deuces sign?

Is there some other meaning that I'm not aware of? I always took it as either peace or I'm out/later....why is that bad? click to expand

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Posted by LostinmyMind11
What emoji was it?

It the peace sign aka deuces. He isn’t American and I explained the concept of deuces early on. He took it and ran with it so when he’s upset he sends it and uses it to respond to things like have a goodnight. click to expand

Please elaborate? I'm a little confused...why can't he use the peace/deuces sign?

Is there some other meaning that I'm not aware of? I always took it as either peace or I'm out/later....why is that bad? click to expand

He says he means ok but when I explained it can mean bye to fuck off that’s the way he began using it. Example he was talking one night and said he was sleepy bc he had worked later the night before. I immediately said ok goodnight and then he followed up with more conversation having not seen my goodnight I guess it was the timing he was still typing and then he immediately sent the deuces I was like oh come on I was just trying to let u go...I didn’t realize u were still typing and he went offline refused to respond the rest of the night 🤷🏾‍♀️ click to expand

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Posted by LostinmyMind11
What emoji was it?

It the peace sign aka deuces. He isn’t American and I explained the concept of deuces early on. He took it and ran with it so when he’s upset he sends it and uses it to respond to things like have a goodnight. click to expand

Please elaborate? I'm a little confused...why can't he use the peace/deuces sign?

Is there some other meaning that I'm not aware of? I always took it as either peace or I'm out/later....why is that bad? click to expand

He says he means ok but when I explained it can mean bye to fuck off that’s the way he began using it. Example he was talking one night and said he was sleepy bc he had worked later the night before. I immediately said ok goodnight and then he followed up with more conversation having not seen my goodnight I guess it was the timing he was still typing and then he immediately sent the deuces I was like oh come on I was just trying to let u go...I didn’t realize u were still typing and he went offline refused to respond the rest of the night 🤷🏾‍♀️ click to expand

I gotcha. Maybe knock off the texting and actually talk on the phone....it will minimize this type of thing. click to expand

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