@coldwateryvirgo
9 Years500+ PostsVirgo
When a guy comment on your 5 lbs weight gain, is it because they are comfortable enough to tell you?
Understanding Why He Commented on Your Weight Gain
When a guy comments on your weight gain, it may reflect his comfort level or concern, especially if he is sensitive or insecure. It does not always indicate mean intent. Open communication helps clarify feelings, but consider your own comfort before addressing comments about your body.
Oh.... helllllllll no.
Im thinking of just holding off sex when I see him... and then just saying idk, im not feeling comfortable with my body right now since I gained that 5 lbs -.- hopefully he gets it
I said Its my first day back in the gym cuz I haven't been in two weeks
so he said
"you got a tummy lol"
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Im thinking of just holding off sex when I see him... and then just saying idk, im not feeling comfortable with my body right now since I gained that 5 lbs -.- hopefully he gets itDon't do that!
Sex is a great work out 😄
Nothing sexier than being comfortable with your body...
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I love sex hahaha
Im really not bothered by it all that much. but obviously bothered enough to start a thread about it lol
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
I said Its my first day back in the gym cuz I haven't been in two weeksso he said
"you got a tummy lol"
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that was my face lmaooooo ,
after a minute of that face I squeezed out one short sentence
I was like, yea id feel more confident if I lost 5 lbs
Gurrrrrrl
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Im thinking of just holding off sex when I see him... and then just saying idk, im not feeling comfortable with my body right now since I gained that 5 lbs -.- hopefully he gets itDon't do that!
Sex is a great work out 😄
Nothing sexier than being comfortable with your body...
I love sex hahaha
Im really not bothered by it all that much. but obviously bothered enough to start a thread about it lol
That is literally the opposite of what you said up above. I'd dump him. He sounds jock dumb stereotype. He would be fun to hurt.
But you do you
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the reason I say im not bothered by it is because it's true, I could lose 5 lbs . I've been trying really hard to . I talk to my mom and friend about it all the time . my mom is always like, dont eat so much if you wanna lose that 5 lbs.
my justification for not being too bothered is.... if its okay for other people (mom and friend) to say stuff like, dont eat that if you want to lose that 5 lbs.
is it really okay to be mad at him ?
so logically , I dont see a reason to be mad at him..
emotionally , I am bothered lol
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
Im thinking of just holding off sex when I see him... and then just saying idk, im not feeling comfortable with my body right now since I gained that 5 lbs -.- hopefully he gets itDon't do that!
Sex is a great work out 😄
Nothing sexier than being comfortable with your body...
I love sex hahaha
Im really not bothered by it all that much. but obviously bothered enough to start a thread about it lol
That is literally the opposite of what you said up above. I'd dump him. He sounds jock dumb stereotype. He would be fun to hurt.
But you do you
the reason I say im not bothered by it is because it's true, I could lose 5 lbs . I've been trying really hard to . I talk to my mom and friend about it all the time . my mom is always like, dont eat so much if you wanna lose that 5 lbs.
my justification for not being too bothered is.... if its okay for other people (mom and friend) to say stuff like, dont eat that if you want to lose that 5 lbs.
is it really okay to be mad at him ?
no you get to the gym FATTY LIKE I SAID! (kidding ..the boss in me wants to ..boss)
I dont know.. do what you want he is your boyfriend ..who am i the queen of your feelings?
I would torture him for speaking out of line ..but hey i am the queen of MY feelings!
Decide whether or not it bothers you or not first!
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I think im just gonna be okay with it and learn to not be so sensitive :/ grow some thicker skin about my body
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
so logically , I dont see a reason to be mad at him..emotionally , I am bothered lol
so - did he hear you mention this and then repeated it - or did he surmise this himself
cause mine does notice when I have gained a few and then he also notices when I've lost a few because I gain and lose 5 or 10 all the time - if only I could lose it and just keep going ...
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
so logically , I dont see a reason to be mad at him..emotionally , I am bothered lol
so - did he hear you mention this and then repeated it - or did he surmise this himself
cause mine does notice when I have gained a few and then he also notices when I've lost a few because I gain and lose 5 or 10 all the time - if only I could lose it and just keep going ...
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I always am aware when I gain a few pounds ... and because of insecurities issue when I see him I make it a thing to beat him to it and say stuff like " I know I gained a few pounds, I haven't been eating healthy".
and he does notice when I lost a few pounds as well. he'll say you've been going to the gym huh, or you lost a few lbs didn't you
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
I said Its my first day back in the gym cuz I haven't been in two weeksso he said
"you got a tummy lol"
Why is that a bad thing?? He said it in a mean way? Or was he just remarking on it.
Most dudes I've found prefer their woman to have some softness to them. Don't overthink it.
I dont want him to feel like he has to tread on water with me. I always point out about how he should be comfortable enough to talk to me about anything. now that he is, I dont think I should be mad if I dont like what he say.
im just realizing how hypocritical that is as I am now aware that I always think of how he would feel before I say something and hold back on risky things that I feel wouldn't be a big deal if I just didn't say it. Im the one who's not all that open and think left and right before I say something. sometimes I even speak for him in my head, like "he wouldn't like that", when really , im sure there a times I am wrong with the thing I feel he would say.
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
I dont want him to feel like he has to tread on water with me. I always point out about how he should be comfortable enough to talk to me about anything. now that he is, I dont think I should be mad if I dont like what he say.im just realizing how hypocritical that is as I am now aware that I always think of how he would feel before I say something and hold back on risky things that I feel wouldn't be a big deal if I just didn't say it. Im the one who's not all that open and think left and right before I say something. sometimes I even speak for him in my head, like "he wouldn't like that", when really , im sure there a times I am wrong with the thing I feel he would say.
I think your over analyze is going to annoy him than just coming out and saying ..hey you need to stop saying that and make me feel beautiful...
men are simple creatures...and if he keeps doing it ...he wants to hurt you...
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I like that
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
so logically , I dont see a reason to be mad at him..emotionally , I am bothered lol
Tell him this. Tell him you know he didn't mean it maliciously but your sensitive when it comes to your weight and can he be aware of that for the future?
Your 100% entitled to feel whatever your feeling.
Him: You've gained a tummy
You: I'm trying to catch up to you babe
You: *bats eyelashes
Posted by ufo
when you're in the bedroom naked whisper to him sexily "ever since your injury you put on a lil weight from drinking soda all day and not working out, that muscle being turn to fat than actual weight gain is turning me the fck on bby" and roar ROAR like a tiger
hahahahah
Think of it this way...if 5lbs is a dealbreaker/bothers him then whats it gonna be like if you have kids? Or fall ill? Or get injured?? Shit as we age metabolism slows down and we gain weight.
Life is more than a number on a scale.
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
I said Its my first day back in the gym cuz I haven't been in two weeksso he said
"you got a tummy lol"
Why is that a bad thing?? He said it in a mean way? Or was he just remarking on it.
Most dudes I've found prefer their woman to have some softness to them. Don't overthink it.
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exactly this ^
I think you maybe overreacting on this...
All the cancers that I know...tend to be "chubby chasers" to an extent lol.
You may just have to poop...that should knock off at least 2 lbs. 😛
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
making it a good thing, or they are being mean and being an a hole lol?I'm am virgo , I thought I was suppose to be the critical one.
I literally gain 5 lbs and just got a little tummy . btw im 5'3 and 125lbs . I know I look better at 120 but still
the crazy thing is he's gotten a little chub too, but since he's a cancer and a bit sensitive, I dont mention it . On his end I know he means well. but it just doesn't occur to him that I still dont take well to the comment. He's an athlete so he's fit most go the time but at the moment he's injured and put on a lil weight from drinking soda all day and not working out. which is why I wouldn't put salt in his wound and his weight gain doesn't even bother me. I say its actually more of muscle being turn to fat than actual weight gain on his end
grrrr I dont know if I should just ignore this. I think I should just ignore it but I an sensitive about my weight :/
HE IS AN ASS! Tell him about his gut! Pack and leave!!! What an asshole!!!
OMG HOW DARE HE!!
/s
Posted by LadyNeptune
Him: You've gained a tummyYou: I'm trying to catch up to you babe
You: *bats eyelashes
haha that's how i would respond too.
id just parade it in front of him. cause i'm brassy like that. lmao
Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
It's common sense. It doesn't matter if you see it or not, you don't comment on a woman's weight.And you don't ask middle aged women their age.
He's being a dick.
lol
even senior citizen ladies don't like it.
when you get past 35, it's like, not sayin....
when my husband's grandma was alive, we would say, grandma, you're gonna be 89 next week right?
she got so upset!!! she was like, nooooo i'm not even 87 yet!! don't add more years ..." that kind of talk. haha.
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
making it a good thing, or they are being mean and being an a hole lol?I'm am virgo , I thought I was suppose to be the critical one.
I literally gain 5 lbs and just got a little tummy . btw im 5'3 and 125lbs . I know I look better at 120 but still
the crazy thing is he's gotten a little chub too, but since he's a cancer and a bit sensitive, I dont mention it . On his end I know he means well. but it just doesn't occur to him that I still dont take well to the comment. He's an athlete so he's fit most go the time but at the moment he's injured and put on a lil weight from drinking soda all day and not working out. which is why I wouldn't put salt in his wound and his weight gain doesn't even bother me. I say its actually more of muscle being turn to fat than actual weight gain on his end
grrrr I dont know if I should just ignore this. I think I should just ignore it but I an sensitive about my weight :/
HE IS AN ASS! Tell him about his gut! Pack and leave!!! What an asshole!!!
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wow. majority of peeps think the guy is an asshole. lol
it's just a tummy. he didnt say she was ugly. that would be offensive.
Posted by LostinmyMind11
All the cancers that I know...tend to be "chubby chasers" to an extent lol.
lol
Posted by LostinmyMind11
You may just have to poop...that should knock off at least 2 lbs. 😛click to expand
lmao!
well i guess if he's just some stranger, it is weird. cause that would shock me if some stranger said that.
i would be...huh? who the hell are you?? lol get lost freak!! Lol
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
making it a good thing, or they are being mean and being an a hole lol?I'm am virgo , I thought I was suppose to be the critical one.
I literally gain 5 lbs and just got a little tummy . btw im 5'3 and 125lbs . I know I look better at 120 but still
the crazy thing is he's gotten a little chub too, but since he's a cancer and a bit sensitive, I dont mention it . On his end I know he means well. but it just doesn't occur to him that I still dont take well to the comment. He's an athlete so he's fit most go the time but at the moment he's injured and put on a lil weight from drinking soda all day and not working out. which is why I wouldn't put salt in his wound and his weight gain doesn't even bother me. I say its actually more of muscle being turn to fat than actual weight gain on his end
grrrr I dont know if I should just ignore this. I think I should just ignore it but I an sensitive about my weight :/
HE IS AN ASS! Tell him about his gut! Pack and leave!!! What an asshole!!!
wow. majority of peeps think the guy is an asshole. lol
it's just a tummy. he didnt say she was ugly. that would be offensive.
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Oh! Let’s all fuck him for free because he didn’t say she was ugly! 👋👋👋
What a champ!
If he said she was ugly - would you say - at least he didn’t say she was fat?
I defend men a lot! But there are limits even for my angelic disposition! Lmao
Posted by coldwateryvirgo
making it a good thing, or they are being mean and being an a hole lol?I'm am virgo , I thought I was suppose to be the critical one.
I literally gain 5 lbs and just got a little tummy . btw im 5'3 and 125lbs . I know I look better at 120 but still
the crazy thing is he's gotten a little chub too, but since he's a cancer and a bit sensitive, I dont mention it . On his end I know he means well. but it just doesn't occur to him that I still dont take well to the comment. He's an athlete so he's fit most go the time but at the moment he's injured and put on a lil weight from drinking soda all day and not working out. which is why I wouldn't put salt in his wound and his weight gain doesn't even bother me. I say its actually more of muscle being turn to fat than actual weight gain on his end
grrrr I dont know if I should just ignore this. I think I should just ignore it but I an sensitive about my weight :/
HE IS AN ASS! Tell him about his gut! Pack and leave!!! What an asshole!!!
wow. majority of peeps think the guy is an asshole. lol
it's just a tummy. he didnt say she was ugly. that would be offensive.
Oh! Let’s all fuck him for free because he didn’t say she was ugly! 👋👋👋
What a champ!
If he said she was ugly - would you say - at least he didn’t say she was fat?
I defend men a lot! But there are limits even for my angelic disposition! Lmao
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making it a good thing, or they are being mean and being an a hole lol?
I'm am virgo , I thought I was suppose to be the critical one.
I literally gain 5 lbs and just got a little tummy . btw im 5'3 and 125lbs . I know I look better at 120 but still
the crazy thing is he's gotten a little chub too, but since he's a cancer and a bit sensitive, I dont mention it . On his end I know he means well. but it just doesn't occur to him that I still dont take well to the comment. He's an athlete so he's fit most go the time but at the moment he's injured and put on a lil weight from drinking soda all day and not working out. which is why I wouldn't put salt in his wound and his weight gain doesn't even bother me. I say its actually more of muscle being turn to fat than actual weight gain on his end
grrrr I dont know if I should just ignore this. I think I should just ignore it but I an sensitive about my weight :/