So it happened in the end...

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Ok, so I dont even know how it got to this point, because normally I only consider taking things far with a woman when "certain things happen" or her "giving off certain signals" etc, however the way things have progressed with this Pisces lady Im seeing have been quite "out of left-field" in a way. We hit it off incredibly well right from the beginning, great chemistry, both intellectual and physical, we had mind-blowing sex during our first date! Back then I thought, great! She seems like a keeper, so lets go for it! Admittedly I can be a bit too intense and enthusiastic when going after a woman I really like, and I won't rest till she's "mine". After our first date things got a bit awkward because even though the chemistry was obvious and the sex amazing, she did say "I know very quickly when Im into someone "that way" , and I dont have that feeling for you yet" I was stupid enough to omit the "yet" part of that confession. I can be quite black/white about interest, so if I dont hear right away that someone is really into me, then I kinda lose interest and move on.

However with her, somehow I never really moved on. After a long talk where we both were completely honest about our expectations, etc, I told her (while holding her hand and looking her in the eyes) that I saw "something in her" that I hadnt seen in a lot of people before which made me keep interested even though it seemed as though we would never really get into anything too serious. She kept smiling and being shy, then we kissed and had mind-blowing sex, yet again.

So we basically became a mix of fuck buddies/ platonic friends, where we both exactly knew each others' expectations, though we both agreed we always had a great great time every time we met, so that kept us coming back to each other, for dinners, drinks, talks, sex...a LOT of sex. At this point I was ok with all this, I figured that even though I did want more with her, I wasn't gonna embark on some secret plan to "make her fall in love with me" by being the best fuck buddy I could possibly be, I just honestly enjoyed our moments together a lot, and so did she. We would see each other at least once every week/2 weeks, texting was limited (Im not a compulsive texter anyway), but it was usually great when it did happen. I gave her her space, a lot of space...and somehow I think this was what started bringing her closer to me. She started taking the initiative to text a lot and propose meetups, became more and more flirty, started opening up a lot lot more, its almost like she turned into a whole different person, and I was digging it...however even though I did reciprocate and went along with things, I did consciously decide to not get overtly enthusiastic, I figured that if there was going to be any real progress, it should happen slowly and steadily (which is so not me 😛) but I gave it a try and it seems to be working wonders. We have gotten a lot closer, spend a lot more time now together, cuddling...
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that I saw "something in her" that I hadnt seen in a lot of people before
*sigh*

The Virgo way ...)

My V sister puts people on pedestal each time she starts a new connection. Until one day I hear, "I thought he was ...".
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Hence the "I will gloss over your track record with women Shaka"

But with my dad? If he says it, he means it.

Disillusion is hard on this axis.

I stopped the pedestal business a while ago...if you cannot perceive faults and have a 360 view on it...it's illusion. That's how I check back with reality, otherwise it doesn't feel tangible or real.