Telling an ex happy birthday?

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by VirgoCupcake on Thursday, August 7, 2014 and has 27 replies.

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@kindness
12 Years

Negative ghost rider. I understand your intentions of wanting to do a nice gesture and let him know that he is thought of, but he's an ex. I say don't do it.

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@Montgomery
13 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by kindness
Negative ghost rider. I understand your intentions of wanting to do a nice gesture and let him know that he is thought of, but he's an ex. I say don't do it.

+1

I agree.

But if you are determined and you're looking to re-establish contact, then just DO it.

Don't be meek and wait for the birthday for an excuse to do so.

BOLD can be good. 🙂

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@VirgoCupcake
12 YearsVirgo

that! Lol it's no need for me to find a reason to speak to him. If I wanna have convo with you, then I will talk to you. I just try to treat ppl the way I wanna be treated. Someone birthday is important.

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by kindness
Negative ghost rider. I understand your intentions of wanting to do a nice gesture and let him know that he is thought of, but he's an ex. I say don't do it.

+1

I agree.

But if you are determined and you're looking to re-establish contact, then just DO it.

Don't be meek and wait for the birthday for an excuse to do so.

BOLD can be good. 🙂

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@VirgoCupcake
12 YearsVirgo

f u say so" is playing with words. As in that I'm lying. I've started PLENTY of convos with exes before. I'm not stubborn one bit.

Just wanted to know the thoughts of saying "happy birthday". But whatevessssss

Posted by Montgomery

Posted by VirgoCupcake
I'm not like that! Lol it's no need for me to find a reason to speak to him. If I wanna have convo with you, then I will talk to you. I just try to treat ppl the way I wanna be treated. Someone birthday is important.

Posted by VirgoCupcake

Posted by AVG
Do you still have feeling for him?

😢 yes

If you say so.

🙂

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@VirgoCupcake
12 YearsVirgo

Posted by Damnata
It CAN be nothing more and nothing less than just saying "Happy Birthday". Same as you'd compliment a stranger on the street.

Say it if you feel like it and keep it moving.

Yup! You're right girlfriend, never thought of like the same as a compliment.

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@Montgomery
13 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by VirgoCupcake
Smh that " if u say so" is playing with words. As in that I'm lying. I've started PLENTY of convos with exes before. I'm not stubborn one bit.

Just wanted to know the thoughts of saying "happy birthday". But whatevessssss

Then why on earth would you get defensive when people complied?

You obviously had misgivings about doing this, or you wouldn't have asked.

And if I thought that was ultimately your motive, then someone else might, too.

It wasn't an insult, so much as encouragement to do what you needed to do.

Cupcake.

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@P-Angel
21 Years25,000+ PostsPisces

There's an ulterior motive.

There's nothing wrong with happy wishes to any person, when the aim is for the happy wish.

But, that's not the case here. If you have feelings for the person, then your motive for doing it is to manipulate him into reciprocating according to your expectations.

But, then again ... everything you've ever stated in dxp has been a deception.

ssdd

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@VirgoCupcake
12 YearsVirgo

Posted by P-Angel

There's an ulterior motive.

There's nothing wrong with happy wishes to any person, when the aim is for the happy wish.

But, that's not the case here. If you have feelings for the person, then your motive for doing it is to manipulate him into reciprocating according to your expectations.

But, then again ... everything you've ever stated in dxp has been a deception.

ssdd

Oh myyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy I love how ppl here tell me why thoughts, reasons and why I do stuff. Yall should be making fortunes, speaking ppl mind for them!

I would tell you and anyone else happy birthday. Wouldnt I want someone to tell me happy birthday?!?! I WOULD!!! shoot I want u to tell me to and IDEK you! So why wouldnt i want someone i know personally to do so?