Virgo man fell hard for me then after first date..

So I met a Virgo man (28, I'm 27) online and we hit it off straight away. He came on very strong and intense and passionate.

He said he was extremely sexually attracted to me the second he saw my photos but very very quickly after we started chatting he realised there was so much more to me and said that I stimulate his mind.

We texted all day and talked for hours on the phone all night for 3.5 weeks and he pushed and pushed to see me. He told me he loved me after about 10 days of talking but before that kept saying how he was falling for me and he hadn't felt like this in so many years. He would say things like he hopes we work out and he would love for me to be the last woman he ever makes love to and he means every word he says.

So he drove 3 hours from his city to my city to meet me.

The date a few nights ago went really really well and he ended up sleeping together and he told me loved me many times and used his pet names for me. He told me my photos don't do me justice and I am far more beautiful in person and he loves making me smile.

But the next morning before he had to drive back he kissed me and said he will definitely see me again but he didn't tell me he loved me (first day he hadn't said it since he started) and contact was noticeably less than usual but he was still texting back etc.

I asked him this morning if he decided he didn't love me anymore or wanted to back peddle a bit on anything he had said to just be direct with me and he said he wanted to back peddle a bit. I told him I still love him and if he doesn't want me anymore to just come out with it so I can move on. He gave me a long message about how he thinks long distance relationships are really really hard to maintain and thinks we won't be able to work out because of that but I think there is something more that he isn't telling me.

He said it was his fault because it became very real very fast and it scared him off a bit and he feels very hurt by it all and doesnt mean to break my heart and break his promises he made to me. I asked him to call me tonight for a few minutes so we could talk for a bit and he said he would (but I dont know if he really will).

Do Virgo men do this? Come on strong and then back right off and break things off? Do they mean what they say when they tell someone they love them? After some time will be reappear in my life wanting to try again— I really fell hard for him and loved his company... I would love a second chance.

Give up while you are ahead!

Hes right long distance is too hard to maintain.
Sure you might have a stalker climbin in your window late at night to steal Your panties.. but thats not love anymore.
Find a virgo more close to you get better results

Posted by libransunariesrising87
He gave me a long message about how he thinks long distance relationships are really really hard to maintain

Notice how he only shared this mindset AFTER sex and not before.

The writing is on the wall.

Posted by Weeds
Sure you might have a stalker climbin in your window late at night to steal Your panties.. but thats not love anymore.

What do you mean by that part?

Do Virgo's not like any distance in relationships? Is he just scared it won't work out because of that and prematurely ended things to save what he thinks will be certain heartache down the track?

Posted by Damnata

Posted by libransunariesrising87
He gave me a long message about how he thinks long distance relationships are really really hard to maintain

Notice how he only shared this mindset AFTER sex and not before.

The writing is on the wall.

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Yeah I do realise that he was like that after sex, it gutted me, he keeps telling me he meant everything and wanted us to work but just thinks the distance is too much (especially as he has to go onto a work restricted driver license for 6-12 months soon - got caught speeding) but I would have been willing to drive to see him!

If he was an honest man, he would have brought up the mindset about the distance before having sex with you.

He didn't.

There is no "he is scared" here. There is no "he has worries about managing things".

I did long distance and I could do it again. It helps with my need for space. But when I did it, I cared about that person and had a plan figured out. We ended up moving together after 2 years. I wouldn't even entertain the notion if I knew it wouldn't work out.

Dont ever give up sex on first date with virgo poor way of establishing anything solid..
he will flip/flop down the road as a possibility it may only be for sex mind you.. it wont be too much more then that.. he is currently back tracking so you agree and let go dont even be friends lose anything connecting to him.. name, number, facebook blah blah blah..
Get over it start fresh keep away from internet relations.

Posted by Weeds
Dont ever give up sex on first date with virgo poor way of establishing anything solid..
he will flip/flop down the road as a possibility it may only be for sex mind you.. it wont be too much more then that.. he is currently back tracking so you agree and let go dont even be friends lose anything connecting to him.. name, number, facebook blah blah blah..
Get over it start fresh keep away from internet relations.

I thought we had established quite a strong connection prior especially with him telling me he loved me for a couple of weeks prior, i told him i really didn't want to have sex on the first date but we ended up getting carried away, he promised me he would come see me again (do virgos mean ANYTHING they say— or are they the kind to lie for personal gain—)

They dont mean a damn thing if there isnt a solid rock that its established on.. anyone can talk swoon say I love you.. coming on strong from a virgo I would consider a cautious sign they are usually slow as funk getting to know a person and establishing a strong stable bond.
You got your ear talked off by a bad egg.

Well i'm swearing off guys for a while and definitely not getting back in with a Virgo!

I wonder what the best sun sign is out there for genuine guys, i mean i know if a guy is going to be a player he's going to be one, regardless of his sign but still, i wonder...

Posted by VirgoFlirt
genuine guy equals virgo...but not at at twenty eight years old...

they take a long time to mature? my dad was a virgo, was a bachelor (had short term girlfriends like max. 2 years) until he met my mum when he was 40 and married her and stayed faithful until he died 30 years later, i was kinda hoping that wasn't the norm for virgos though

Posted by Damnata
If he was an honest man, he would have brought up the mindset about the distance before having sex with you.

He didn't.

There is no "he is scared" here. There is no "he has worries about managing things".

I did long distance and I could do it again. It helps with my need for space. But when I did it, I cared about that person and had a plan figured out. We ended up moving together after 2 years. I wouldn't even entertain the notion if I knew it wouldn't work out.

This^^^

If he was a decent man (Astrology or not) then he wouldn't have done this. He's old enough to know better but is thinking with his dick.

Another person on here advised cutting all ties and deleting numbers and social media etc. I'd second that recommendation.

We've all been there and done that and rushed things a bit too much and gone with it as it feels all warm and mushy inside BUT what starts fast rarely lasts (I nicked that from somewhere??).

You got burned. It happens. Unfortunately. Make no excuses for him and learn from it.

Think about what you want and what you're looking for. Sex too early usually results in disaster for the woman unless you're clear that's all you want AND are able to handle it. Never listen to their words, always watch their actions. If you think it's too good to be true... It probably is... If you think it's moving too fast... It probably is...

Also, the next time you meet someone (I'm not a fan of Internet dating) try not to use text as a means of 'getting to know you'. Something I've noticed which is more common is that people want to conduct a relationship or dating over text when really it should only be used as a point of contact or to make plans or the odd message to check in now and again. In my own recent experience, aside from people insisting they send me photos of their private parts that obviously aren't private, guys seem happy to sit there texting the most utter shit on a continual basis and if you don't respond they will send more trivial bullshit. I'm just as busy or not busy as the next person but I don't want to conduct an entire date via text. What's with all this 'good morning' crap too? Fella, I haven't even met you yet you're sending me that along with asking if I like tattoos... Save it all for the date.

The title says: Virgo man fell hard for me

.... when in reality, he didn't fall at all. You're so deluded that you have no awareness that he never even fell for you, much less hard.

You're not exactly smart, now are you? ... that's a prerequisite for any Virgo. He probably realized early on how dumb you are, and so figured it would be easy to get your panties off. And he was right, wasn't he?

Afterall, you said you had values in not sleeping with him, then fucked him anyway. He knew you were going to fuck him, that's why he drove 3 hours to get that nut.

any guy, not just a Virgo, would disregard an easy piece of ass as ...... an insignificant piece of ass. Because he is in full knowledge that you'll fuck on first date if the guy says the right words.

How easy that was for him. he only had to say the word "love" and you fell to your knees ready to suck him off.

I"m sure he's literally disgusted at you when thinking about finding a decent woman worthy of his time.

Posted by Damnata

If he was an honest man, he would have brought up the mindset about the distance before having sex with you

I think his intentions were not only honest ... also evident. And any person with a smidgeon of common sense would have gotten it.

She proclaimed her virtue to him, which attracted him ... and then she fucked with nothing more than "words" spoken to her. So, her actions proved to him that she wasn't the virtuous, decent woman she pretended to be.

the only part I see him being dishonest about is him trying to keep that door open ajar in the event he wants to hit it again.

Action/words have to match. A guy literally would drive that far and invest his emotions into a good woman. Him saying those things were/are perfectly normal, considering he thought she was a good woman.

Then she fucked him, just after saying she wouldn't.

Any man would have treated her the same way. The problem here isn't the guy ... it's her.

Posted by libransunariesrising87The date a few nights ago went really really well and he ended up sleeping together and he told me loved me many times and used his pet names for me. He told me my photos don't do me justice and I am far more beautiful in person and he loves making me smile.

But the next morning before he had to drive back he kissed me and said he will definitely see me again but he didn't tell me he loved me (first day he hadn't said it since he started) and contact was noticeably less than usual but he was still texting back etc

He gave me a long message about how he thinks long distance relationships are really really hard to maintain and thinks we won't be able to work out because of that but I think there is something more that he isn't telling me.

^^^^Classic end result of women who spread their legs at "hello, nice to meet you" and fall for a line of classic bullshit from someone they don't know.

No sympathy AT ALL.

Posted by P-Angel And any person with a smidgeon of common sense would have gotten it.

She proclaimed her virtue to him, which attracted him ... and then she fucked with nothing more than "words" spoken to her. The problem here isn't the guy ... it's her.

Guys have it made today. The more density in women, the luckier they get without any effort.

Anyone keeping track on the number of threads in dxp of this online fantasy "....and they lived happily ever after" NOT??