Virgo man stop initiating contact

Posted by starlord

Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

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Virgo men are complicated.

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Virgo men are complicated.

I agree but I keep attracting them ☹️

You’re a Scorp. Don’t let petty non issue males hold you back ever.

You set a boundary with him re texting and his disrespectful, dishonest ass couldn’t take it.

Honour your battle lines and let him trip when you move on cos he will.

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Posted by justagirl

Only answer you need was in your OP.



"he has told me that he doesn’t want to date me "

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Virgo men are complicated.

I agree but I keep attracting them ☹️

You’re a Scorp. Don’t let petty non issue males hold you back ever.

You set a boundary with him re texting and his disrespectful, dishonest ass couldn’t take it.

Honour your battle lines and let him trip when you move on cos he will.

I’m trying to move on now. Respect is very important to me I just don’t see why he doesn’t text or call me anymore but it’s his lost! He can play mind games with somebody else

Virgo men have this weird interpersonal relating style that involves primarily just themselves.

It’s a self orientation that is not only confusing but also really disrespectful.

His silence is an attempt to trigger some kind of emotional attraction from yourself. If you have abandonment issues you’re going to respond to that shit.

Good on you if you don’t.

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You told him not to call you and he hasn’t. You are surprised? I’m struggling to understand why you were upset he didn’t contact you for a day. *gasp*

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Posted by starlord

Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

Can you explain your answer I don’t understand what you mean

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Posted by justagirl

Only answer you need was in your OP.



"he has told me that he doesn’t want to date me "

I told him the same thing first the problem is I’m the only one sticking to it! He is creating problems with this hot and cold stuff, I told him from day 1 I’m really busy and only need a good friend to have fun and no drama

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Posted by justagirl

Only answer you need was in your OP.



"he has told me that he doesn’t want to date me "

I told him the same thing first the problem is I’m the only one sticking to it! He is creating problems with this hot and cold stuff, I told him from day 1 I’m really busy and only need a good friend to have fun and no drama

But still you are too emotionally involved, because now it's not fun anymore, now you start questioning why he is doing so and so.

I am the queen of getting my emotions involved, and also in very weird ways that I don't understand myself, because I can look at the guy and think "I don't want a relationship with you", but I'll still create drama that the guy does not want and is not up for.

I truly don't think you can fuck somebody and go on dates with them and be friends with them and have it be succesful. You should stick to only fucking then, none of that in between fix my light in my car and respond to my messages bs. It just doesn’t work. Is my opinion.

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Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

Can you explain your answer I don’t understand what you mean

He say's you guys are different, meaning you don't want the same thing, so thank the lord he is taking your "don't contact me" seriously and doesn't try to weasel his way back in and you get weaker and weaker in saying no and more confused and more hopeful. He knows he doesn't want you, you

I mean I understand what you are saying and if he doesn’t want me then fine and hopefully he doesn’t contact me again

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Posted by maiden

You sound like the problem actually..

In your OP you say he told you he didn't want to date you. You say also two times in your OP that YOU just wanted to be friends with him.

Then you say you go on dates and have sex, but only when you contact him.

So he is consistent- he doesn't want to date and he doesn't contact you.

But you are not, you say let's be friends then contact him and take the date and accept the sex.

He sounds like he has been dropping sideways him that he likes you and that he cares. A man generally doesn't give up extra time or meaningful conversation to someone he isn't into beyond sex.

You are having sex w him and dating but you say you want to be friends. Then you tell him not to call you anymore because he isn't checking up on you enough, not talking to you every day.

If I were him, I would be confused.

Who is playing mind games here?

What exactly do you want?

Posted by Ellygant

You started the drama yourself. If you wanted someone to just have fun with and not date then it wouldn’t mattered if he didn’t text or call.

You want to date. That’s what it is called when you have sex, date and regularly talk to someone.

He’s not hot/cold one here, you are.

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You told him not to call you and he hasn’t. You are surprised? I’m struggling to understand why you were upset he didn’t contact you for a day. *gasp*

I told him I need to talk daily duh and we are supposed to be friends

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You told him not to call you and he hasn’t. You are surprised? I’m struggling to understand why you were upset he didn’t contact you for a day. *gasp*

I told him I need to talk daily duh and we are supposed to be friends

Are you guys friends or more? 🤔

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You told him not to call you and he hasn’t. You are surprised? I’m struggling to understand why you were upset he didn’t contact you for a day. *gasp*

I told him I need to talk daily duh and we are supposed to be friends

Are you guys friends or more? 🤔

I thought we were friends who go on dates and have sex sometimes but mostly friends who use to talk about everything together now he does not call or text me until I do, maybe he is trying to leave me alone and I keep bothering him lol we just went to the movies Friday and had the best sex in the world ☹️ Why does it have to change? Why can’t he just be my friend like he use to be

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You started the drama yourself. If you wanted someone to just have fun with and not date then it wouldn’t mattered if he didn’t text or call.

You want to date. That’s what it is called when you have sex, date and regularly talk to someone.

He’s not hot/cold one here, you are.

I guess so but if he said he doesn’t want to date me then I should just leave him alone since it’s not going to work out the way I’m hoping. I just called it him showing me a good time and friendship

First step to finding what you want is to admit it. Next is to not entertain anyone who doesn’t fit that. Doesn’t mean they’re not a worthwhile person, I get having a soft spot for someone you’re not compatible with. But to engage when you know it’s not what you want is betraying yourself and will always lead to a confusing and dramatic situation.

Leaving him alone will be best. It sucks at first. But eventually you stop noticing it sucks. Then you find someone new that’s interesting and it just becomes a fun memory, since people mostly remember the good over the bad.

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Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

You told him not to call you and he hasn’t. You are surprised? I’m struggling to understand why you were upset he didn’t contact you for a day. *gasp*

I told him I need to talk daily duh and we are supposed to be friends

Are you guys friends or more? 🤔

I thought we were friends who go on dates and have sex sometimes but mostly friends who use to talk about everything together now he does not call or text me until I do, maybe he is trying to leave me alone and I keep bothering him lol we just went to the movies Friday and had the best sex in the world ☹️ Why does it have to change? Why can’t he just be my friend like he use to be

I dont think “friends” do all that. Perhaps boundaries were overstepped, feelings caught and then confusion and withdrawal.

But I don’t tink two people can truly enjoy physical friendship for too long until something, or rather someone, gives. Gives into the idea of something more.

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Posted by justagirl

Only answer you need was in your OP.



"he has told me that he doesn’t want to date me "

I told him the same thing first the problem is I’m the only one sticking to it! He is creating problems with this hot and cold stuff, I told him from day 1 I’m really busy and only need a good friend to have fun and no drama

But still you are too emotionally involved, because now it's not fun anymore, now you start questioning why he is doing so and so.

I am the queen of getting my emotions involved, and also in very weird ways that I don't understand myself, because I can look at the guy and think "I don't want a relationship with you", but I'll still create drama that the guy does not want and is not up for.

I truly don't think you can fuck somebody and go on dates with them and be friends with them and have it be succesful. You should stick to only fucking then, none of that in between fix my light in my car and respond to my messages bs. It just doesn’t work. Is my opinion.

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Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

Can you explain your answer I don’t understand what you mean

He say's you guys are different, meaning you don't want the same thing, so thank the lord he is taking your "don't contact me" seriously and doesn't try to weasel his way back in and you get weaker and weaker in saying no and more confused and more hopeful. He knows he doesn't want you, you

I mean I understand what you are saying and if he doesn’t want me then fine and hopefully he doesn’t contact me again

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Posted by starlord

Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

Can you explain your answer I don’t understand what you mean

He say's you guys are different, meaning you don't want the same thing, so thank the lord he is taking your "don't contact me" seriously and doesn't try to weasel his way back in and you get weaker and weaker in saying no and more confused and more hopeful. He knows he doesn't want you, you

I mean I understand what you are saying and if he doesn’t want me then fine and hopefully he doesn’t contact me again

Weeeeell... What the fuck do I know really? I just feel like this is how it aaaalways goes. But that's just how it goes for me.

Eitherway if he says you guys want something different, whatever that means, well that's that.

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Posted by starlord

Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

Can you explain your answer I don’t understand what you mean

He say's you guys are different, meaning you don't want the same thing, so thank the lord he is taking your "don't contact me" seriously and doesn't try to weasel his way back in and you get weaker and weaker in saying no and more confused and more hopeful. He knows he doesn't want you, you

I mean I understand what you are saying and if he doesn’t want me then fine and hopefully he doesn’t contact me again

Weeeeell... What the fuck do I know really? I just feel like this is how it aaaalways goes. But that's just how it goes for me.

Eitherway if he says you guys want something different, whatever that means, well that's that.

What does it mean when you say it

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Posted by starlord

Yes move on.

Be glad he is listening to you now, 'cause later on you're gonna be upset if he doesn't listen now but just keeps going and gets you "confused" about what he wants.

Can you explain your answer I don’t understand what you mean

He say's you guys are different, meaning you don't want the same thing, so thank the lord he is taking your "don't contact me" seriously and doesn't try to weasel his way back in and you get weaker and weaker in saying no and more confused and more hopeful. He knows he doesn't want you, you

I mean I understand what you are saying and if he doesn’t want me then fine and hopefully he doesn’t contact me again

Weeeeell... What the fuck do I know really? I just feel like this is how it aaaalways goes. But that's just how it goes for me.

Eitherway if he says you guys want something different, whatever that means, well that's that.

What does it mean when you say it

I'm a woman, just so you know. I know my username is misleading, made it fast and didn't think too much about it. But yeah this is not insight from a guys perspective😉

Last time I said it, it meant : you want to fuck and just be friends. I want something more.

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You started the drama yourself. If you wanted someone to just have fun with and not date then it wouldn’t mattered if he didn’t text or call.

You want to date. That’s what it is called when you have sex, date and regularly talk to someone.

He’s not hot/cold one here, you are.

I guess so but if he said he doesn’t want to date me then I should just leave him alone since it’s not going to work out the way I’m hoping. I just called it him showing me a good time and friendship

First step to finding what you want is to admit it. Next is to not entertain anyone who doesn’t fit that. Doesn’t mean they’re not a worthwhile person, I get having a soft spot for someone you’re not compatible with. But to engage when you know it’s not what you want is betraying yourself and will always lead to a confusing and dramatic situation.

Leaving him alone will be best. It sucks at first. But eventually you stop noticing it sucks. Then you find someone new that’s interesting and it just becomes a fun memory, since people mostly remember the good over the bad.

At this point I want to be friends just friends I don’t want to fall in love and get caught up right now. I just need companionship right now somebody to hangout with and talk nothing too serious. It would be a shame to have to find somebody else since I think he is the one who makes me feel comfortable enough to have this type of friendship I don’t feel used or anything just relaxed and happy but I am going to try and move on we talked about this before and he doesn’t think anything is wrong

I understand not wanting to walk away. You could stay if you want. Though if you do it sounds like you’ll just be back here in six months saying the same thing.

Not to be rude, but at this point it doesn’t really matter if he thinks anything is wrong. You do. But then you don’t.

Honestly you sound like the confusing one. You’ve backtracked or changed what you say you want almost every post?

Maybe take a week or two of space from all dating and just be by yourself to figure out what you want.

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Posted by maiden

You sound like the problem actually..

In your OP you say he told you he didn't want to date you. You say also two times in your OP that YOU just wanted to be friends with him.

Then you say you go on dates and have sex, but only when you contact him.

So he is consistent- he doesn't want to date and he doesn't contact you.

But you are not, you say let's be friends then contact him and take the date and accept the sex.

He sounds like he has been dropping sideways him that he likes you and that he cares. A man generally doesn't give up extra time or meaningful conversation to someone he isn't into beyond sex.

You are having sex w him and dating but you say you want to be friends. Then you tell him not to call you anymore because he isn't checking up on you enough, not talking to you every day.

If I were him, I would be confused.

Who is playing mind games here?

What exactly do you want?

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You started the drama yourself. If you wanted someone to just have fun with and not date then it wouldn’t mattered if he didn’t text or call.

You want to date. That’s what it is called when you have sex, date and regularly talk to someone.

He’s not hot/cold one here, you are.

I guess so but if he said he doesn’t want to date me then I should just leave him alone since it’s not going to work out the way I’m hoping. I just called it him showing me a good time and friendship

First step to finding what you want is to admit it. Next is to not entertain anyone who doesn’t fit that. Doesn’t mean they’re not a worthwhile person, I get having a soft spot for someone you’re not compatible with. But to engage when you know it’s not what you want is betraying yourself and will always lead to a confusing and dramatic situation.

Leaving him alone will be best. It sucks at first. But eventually you stop noticing it sucks. Then you find someone new that’s interesting and it just becomes a fun memory, since people mostly remember the good over the bad.

At this point I want to be friends just friends I don’t want to fall in love and get caught up right now. I just need companionship right now somebody to hangout with and talk nothing too serious. It would be a shame to have to find somebody else since I think he is the one who makes me feel comfortable enough to have this type of friendship I don’t feel used or anything just relaxed and happy but I am going to try and move on we talked about this before and he doesn’t think anything is wrong

I understand not wanting to walk away. You could stay if you want. Though if you do it sounds like you’ll just be back here in six months saying the same thing.

Not to be rude, but at this point it doesn’t really matter if he thinks anything is wrong. You do. But then you don’t.

Honestly you sound like the confusing one. You’ve backtracked or changed what you say you want almost every post?

Maybe take a week or two of space from all dating and just be by yourself to figure out what you want.

What did I change? I said I want to be friends who have sex and go out and talk daily

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You started the drama yourself. If you wanted someone to just have fun with and not date then it wouldn’t mattered if he didn’t text or call.

You want to date. That’s what it is called when you have sex, date and regularly talk to someone.

He’s not hot/cold one here, you are.

I guess so but if he said he doesn’t want to date me then I should just leave him alone since it’s not going to work out the way I’m hoping. I just called it him showing me a good time and friendship

First step to finding what you want is to admit it. Next is to not entertain anyone who doesn’t fit that. Doesn’t mean they’re not a worthwhile person, I get having a soft spot for someone you’re not compatible with. But to engage when you know it’s not what you want is betraying yourself and will always lead to a confusing and dramatic situation.

Leaving him alone will be best. It sucks at first. But eventually you stop noticing it sucks. Then you find someone new that’s interesting and it just becomes a fun memory, since people mostly remember the good over the bad.

At this point I want to be friends just friends I don’t want to fall in love and get caught up right now. I just need companionship right now somebody to hangout with and talk nothing too serious. It would be a shame to have to find somebody else since I think he is the one who makes me feel comfortable enough to have this type of friendship I don’t feel used or anything just relaxed and happy but I am going to try and move on we talked about this before and he doesn’t think anything is wrong

I understand not wanting to walk away. You could stay if you want. Though if you do it sounds like you’ll just be back here in six months saying the same thing.

Not to be rude, but at this point it doesn’t really matter if he thinks anything is wrong. You do. But then you don’t.

Honestly you sound like the confusing one. You’ve backtracked or changed what you say you want almost every post?

Maybe take a week or two of space from all dating and just be by yourself to figure out what you want.

What did I change? I said I want to be friends who have sex and go out and talk daily

"I said I want to be friends who have sex and go out and talk daily"

You sound like a user and try to controlling him and now he is not amused by it, you make drama htat its not on your terms

you are still married, rambling about being friends who have sex AND talk daily?

I understand you are affected by a bitter divorce, but why he would like to be a part of it long-term, I dont understand

I mean, are you a miss universe or what are your super-extra qualities that you think somebody will be okey with these terms?

sort your life and dont use people for your own comfort only

my 2 cents

Edit: I just imagined what we would advice to this virgo man, if he came here with this story, but from the other side: I think we would tell him, move on from that demanding drama queen, you know 🙂

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Screw him. Move on. He's just using you. Find someone better.

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Screw him. Move on. He's just using you. Find someone better.

I think I will do that! I do consider him a friend I wish I didn’t have to move on ☹️

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Screw him. Move on. He's just using you. Find someone better.

I think I will do that! I do consider him a friend I wish I didn’t have to move on ☹️

For a virgo, love is not from body(sex) it is from soul. If you want somesigns then i will tell you. We are shy around someone we love. But when you approach us, we will admit that we love you too(and we never joke about that) . We are serious about one we love and we are always there for you when you need us. We will take care of you,we will make you feel special. That are some subtle signs a virgo loves you. If you see some (all,i mean) of these signs you are definitely in his list. But i dont think so he is someone to be wasted time on.

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Posted by justagirl

Only answer you need was in your OP.



"he has told me that he doesn’t want to date me "

I told him the same thing first the problem is I’m the only one sticking to it! He is creating problems with this hot and cold stuff, I told him from day 1 I’m really busy and only need a good friend to have fun and no drama

How is he not sticking to it? Did he ask you to

He trying to have unprotected sex and is not communicating like he use too

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I guess I don't understand- if someone was to tell me they don't want to be with me and we want different things- how is that not clear? How does one not walk away?

Virgos are very upfront with stuff like that from my experience. People just choose to ignore what is being said.

Also, Op you are all over the place and say one thing while talking out the side of your mouth. Virgo isn't unclear here.

Btw y'all sound like fuck buddiies. Imo, he is keeping you at arms length BECAUSE he knows you want different things.

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Screw him. Move on. He's just using you. Find someone better.

I think I will do that! I do consider him a friend I wish I didn’t have to move on ☹️

For a virgo, love is not from body(sex) it is from soul. If you want somesigns then i will tell you. We are shy around someone we love. But when you approach us, we will admit that we love you too(and we never joke about that) . We are serious about one we love and we are always there for you when you need us. We will take care of you,we will make you feel special. That are some subtle signs a virgo loves you. If you see some (all,i mean) of these signs you are definitely in his list. But i dont think so he is someone to be wasted time on.

So are you saying that it doesn’t seem like he likes me? I know he likes me but I just think I ruined it with him by constantly threatening to leave and getting mad at him

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