Virgo Woman Cold Even Though She's Into Me (Page 2)

Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with. That's all. But you're right, I need to be more assertive...which is what I was gonna do when we went out of town, but you know how that ended up lol.

So just wait for her to txt me back since I haven't heard from her in two days now? Or keep bombarding her when there's been no response? I've actively hit her up too. I asked her if she wanted to get a bite to eat and nothing lol

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Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with. That's all. But you're right, I need to be more assertive...which is what I was gonna do when we went out of town, but you know how that ended up lol.

So just wait for her to txt me back since I haven't heard from her in two days now? Or keep bombarding her when there's been no response? I've actively hit her up too. I asked her if she wanted to get a bite to eat and nothing lol

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She's still sick right? I would call her to inquire about her health and tell her to give me a call back when she's feeling better because I found this really cool place to eat at.

I mean she has to reciprocate too.

You have to start building up the heat again, that will not happen from one day to the other

Also, if you're going out, I hope you are holding her hand and it's not just some buddy walk next to each other.

Basically everything that reinforces with neon lights the message that this is dating.

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Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with.

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Forget about that, forget about her past, your past. Proceed with how you feel about her, you have nothing to do with her past, your thing with her is a blank sheet, an entire new book, dont tip-toe around stuff, go for it

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Posted by CapricornGuy12

Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with. That's all. But you're right, I need to be more assertive...which is what I was gonna do when we went out of town, but you know how that ended up lol.

So just wait for her to txt me back since I haven't heard from her in two days now? Or keep bombarding her when there's been no response? I've actively hit her up too. I asked her if she wanted to get a bite to eat and nothing lol

She's still sick right? I would call her to inquire about her health and tell her to give me a call back when she's feeling better because I found this really cool place to eat at.

I mean she has to reciprocate too.

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I think she should be feeling better now. She went to the doctor and got some meds earlier this week. Last time she txt me she said she was feeling a lot better than she did earlier in the week. That was on Thursday though

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Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with. That's all. But you're right, I need to be more assertive...which is what I was gonna do when we went out of town, but you know how that ended up lol.

So just wait for her to txt me back since I haven't heard from her in two days now? Or keep bombarding her when there's been no response? I've actively hit her up too. I asked her if she wanted to get a bite to eat and nothing lol

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You just threw in a monkeywrench here.

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Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with. That's all. But you're right, I need to be more assertive...which is what I was gonna do when we went out of town, but you know how that ended up lol.

So just wait for her to txt me back since I haven't heard from her in two days now? Or keep bombarding her when there's been no response? I've actively hit her up too. I asked her if she wanted to get a bite to eat and nothing lol

She's still sick right? I would call her to inquire about her health and tell her to give me a call back when she's feeling better because I found this really cool place to eat at.

I mean she has to reciprocate too.

I think she should be feeling better now. She went to the doctor and got some meds earlier this week. Last time she txt me she said she was feeling a lot better than she did earlier in the week. That was on Thursday though

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If this was the last text then its on you to make another move, but I don't know, feels as if you are leaving out some info or something?

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Posted by Damnata
Look, Cap, no one is saying you are making huge errors here. We are saying you should just amp it up. I get being sick but you see hot and cold as her not replying for 2 days and in earth sign world, that isn't hot and cold, that is reciprocation.

It's a slow burn with us generally. We're just saying make sure she knows this is dating and not running the risk of a friendzone.

Exactly....i figured it would be a slow burn since she's been burned in the past so I just wanted to take it at the pace she's comfortable with. That's all. But you're right, I need to be more assertive...which is what I was gonna do when we went out of town, but you know how that ended up lol.

So just wait for her to txt me back since I haven't heard from her in two days now? Or keep bombarding her when there's been no response? I've actively hit her up too. I asked her if she wanted to get a bite to eat and nothing lol

She's still sick right? I would call her to inquire about her health and tell her to give me a call back when she's feeling better because I found this really cool place to eat at.

I mean she has to reciprocate too.

I think she should be feeling better now. She went to the doctor and got some meds earlier this week. Last time she txt me she said she was feeling a lot better than she did earlier in the week. That was on Thursday though

If this was the last text then its on you to make another move, but I don't know, feels as if you are leaving out some info or something?

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Nah, she txt me Thursday morning with a pic of the stuff I sent her saying she was feeling better and went back and forth for a bit. Then she stopped like always. I hit her Thursday evening asking if she wanted to get a grab to eat and nothing. Then last night I hit her again just to send her an article that made me think of her and nothing.

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Posted by Damnata
Also, if you're going out, I hope you are holding her hand and it's not just some buddy walk next to each other.

Basically everything that reinforces with neon lights the message that this is dating.

Damnata, those are some great tips! love expert 😄

yes, cap do that we can be so clueless.

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Haha I will for sure do this next time we see each other!

Truthfully her not texting me back in a day or two is what I've had to endure this whole time even though things are way different when we're together...but obviously you guys said this is normal. She did the exact same thing last week. Which is why I brought up this entire topic to begin with about hot and cold lol

Posted by CapricornGuy12
Truthfully her not texting me back in a day or two is what I've had to endure this whole time even though things are way different when we're together...but obviously you guys said this is normal. She did the exact same thing last week. Which is why I brought up this entire topic to begin with about hot and cold lol

I want to make clear here I am on your side. You didn't make clear all of this from the beginning so the story I had was different and the advice I would give you now is different BUT I still feel there is more to this than you are sharing. At any rate I would reach out without expectation at this point by either calling to make plans or at least speaking first. There is some kind of dissonance here, if you two move ahead together, I would keep the texting to a minimum.

yes, agree with the above post, we do love it when a man takes control-LEADS, if you are too wishy washy you run the risk of losing our respect. Leading should be fairly natural to you being a Capricorn male and our fellow earth sign.

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Posted by CapricornGuy12
Truthfully her not texting me back in a day or two is what I've had to endure this whole time even though things are way different when we're together...but obviously you guys said this is normal. She did the exact same thing last week. Which is why I brought up this entire topic to begin with about hot and cold lol

I want to make clear here I am on your side. You didn't make clear all of this from the beginning so the story I had was different and the advice I would give you now is different BUT I still feel there is more to this than you are sharing. At any rate I would reach out without expectation at this point by either calling to make plans or at least speaking first. There is some kind of dissonance here, if you two move ahead together, I would keep the texting to a minimum.

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Nah for sure, no offense taken. I appreciate the help and advice. You guys definitely opened my eyes on what I've somewhat been doing. Now I just have to switch it up so I don't lose her lol.

But anyway, I assumed her dissonance was her being scared and overthinking everything. I swear I have t left any parts of the story out. I actually feel bad I shared so much lol but it was the only way to get the most honest answers

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Truthfully her not texting me back in a day or two is what I've had to endure this whole time even though things are way different when we're together...but obviously you guys said this is normal. She did the exact same thing last week. Which is why I brought up this entire topic to begin with about hot and cold lol

I want to make clear here I am on your side. You didn't make clear all of this from the beginning so the story I had was different and the advice I would give you now is different BUT I still feel there is more to this than you are sharing. At any rate I would reach out without expectation at this point by either calling to make plans or at least speaking first. There is some kind of dissonance here, if you two move ahead together, I would keep the texting to a minimum.

Nah for sure, no offense taken. I appreciate the help and advice. You guys definitely opened my eyes on what I've somewhat been doing. Now I just have to switch it up so I don't lose her lol.

But anyway, I assumed her dissonance was her being scared and overthinking everything. I swear I have t left any parts of the story out. I actually feel bad I shared so much lol but it was the only way to get the most honest answers

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no point in feeling bad...

Its normal and healthy to obtain different perspectives and we can help clarify things for ya. We virgos like to think ourselves as kindhearted (for the most part) and want things to work out for you and there is nothing more satisfying to us than wantonly throwing out our advice, even better if the advice works.. its like the ice cream on top of the sundae.

Posted by starwars
but you're cautious because you think shes cautious which is making both of you cautious. its nice you're thinking and being considerate, but she might take that as you wanting a friendship and that's it.

Yeah I think this is definitely what's happening. Well, the first part at least...I hope she doesn't think I just want a friendship, I kissed her the last time I saw her. That's definitely not a move I would make if I just wanted to be friends but like you guys have said, I need to make explicitly clear. We're both still being cautious.

Her getting sick and the holidays kind of messed up the flow of things but hopefully things start picking up now.

So what do you think I should do in terms of contacting her? She hasn't text me back since Thursday. So, I figured I'd wait for her to come back around like I've been doing. Or I can just wait today and if not, call her tomorrow night and see if she answers?

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Posted by starwars
but you're cautious because you think shes cautious which is making both of you cautious. its nice you're thinking and being considerate, but she might take that as you wanting a friendship and that's it.

Yeah I think this is definitely what's happening. Well, the first part at least...I hope she doesn't think I just want a friendship, I kissed her the last time I saw her. That's definitely not a move I would make if I just wanted to be friends but like you guys have said, I need to make explicitly clear. We're both still being cautious.

Her getting sick and the holidays kind of messed up the flow of things but hopefully things start picking up now.

So what do you think I should do in terms of contacting her? She hasn't text me back since Thursday. So, I figured I'd wait for her to come back around like I've been doing. Or I can just wait today and if not, call her tomorrow night and see if she answers?

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Reach out to her and see how she's doing showing your concern. If shes doing ok, after several texts ask her if she has a minute to speak, call her and then ask her out. If shes still sick then wait until shes better but keep checking in on her periodically and ask her out once shes better. Avoid too much whas up text babble or you'll guarantee a spot on the friendszone train.

Posted by starwars
i feel like we're making you over think the stuff even more ! lol!

Haha nah I was overthinking waaaay too much on my own, I feel way better now. I'm just gonna adjust what I was doing and come at her from a different angle.

Like you guys said, I just have to be more confident and take the lead instead of reacting to her "cold shoulder" which is probably just how I'm interpreting it, not how it actually is

I learned something here about texting. I use to text for no reason and get mad at the silence that followed, and my Cap friend texts me with me with no purpose and I don't reply to him. Interesting.

anyway, although caps are cardinals, we are easily thrown off with other earth signs imo.

Posted by lnana04
I learned something here about texting. I use to text for no reason and get mad at the silence that followed, and my Cap friend texts me with me with no purpose and I don't reply to him. Interesting.

anyway, although caps are cardinals, we are easily thrown off with other earth signs imo.

your probly not used to a sign that actually moves slower than yours...haha we got your game lol.

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it might be a phase too, since shes sick. i get so cranky and whiny when im sick i rather sit alone by myself so no one get yelled at

good luck.

She was in SUCH a bad mood lol but I just kept telling her it would pass and she'd be fine in no time. I think when she was sick was when I've most talked to her ever lol. She did thank me for the stuff I brought her. Even sent me a few pics of her eating the soup and stuff.

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what do you mean by 'googly' that cracked me up!

Haha. I don't know how to put it in words. It was dark but it was just this look like...I saved her or something. Like she couldn't believe I went out of my way to bring her stuff to feel better and was happy even though she felt like death. She just stared at me for a few seconds and I was like, uhhh, um, well, I hope you feel better lol. Then I hugged her and left.

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

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How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

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Lol well she has a funny way of showing it, considering I haven't heard much from her since that googly soup moment

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

Lol well she has a funny way of showing it, considering I haven't heard much from her since that googly soup moment

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Call her..it's hard for us Caps to venture out when we'Re not sure about something but take a risk. Ask her if she's feeling better and if she's up to having dinner. Look up a new restaurant and tell her you'd like to check it out together. She's probably wondering the same thing you are...

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

Lol well she has a funny way of showing it, considering I haven't heard much from her since that googly soup moment

Call her..it's hard for us Caps to venture out when we'Re not sure about something but take a risk. Ask her if she's feeling better and if she's up to having dinner. Look up a new restaurant and tell her you'd like to check it out together. She's probably wondering the same thing you are...

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I did. This morning. And she didn't answer. So I texted her saying exactly what you said except for the dinner thing...I just said I wanted to see her....and it's been crickets all day

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

Lol well she has a funny way of showing it, considering I haven't heard much from her since that googly soup moment

Call her..it's hard for us Caps to venture out when we'Re not sure about something but take a risk. Ask her if she's feeling better and if she's up to having dinner. Look up a new restaurant and tell her you'd like to check it out together. She's probably wondering the same thing you are...

I did. This morning. And she didn't answer. So I texted her saying exactly what you said except for the dinner thing...I just said I wanted to see her....and it's been crickets all day

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Come back with something to do. Have a plan. Come on Cappy, you know this.

Only one more time, if you don't hear from her, then give up, can't chase a ghost.

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

Lol well she has a funny way of showing it, considering I haven't heard much from her since that googly soup moment

Call her..it's hard for us Caps to venture out when we'Re not sure about something but take a risk. Ask her if she's feeling better and if she's up to having dinner. Look up a new restaurant and tell her you'd like to check it out together. She's probably wondering the same thing you are...

I did. This morning. And she didn't answer. So I texted her saying exactly what you said except for the dinner thing...I just said I wanted to see her....and it's been crickets all day

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Messages aren't going through.

Coming from an earthly woman, if I'm interested in a man, I wouldn't go days with no response to someone I want to get to know more especially to a date proposal. Now if I'm not interested, and I don't have the heart to tell them, I'd go cold and hope they get the hint.

If I'm interested, I certainly wouldn't want them to get away. I may not respond right away, but they will get a same day response. It takes seconds to respond to someone.

Like I said, try one more time with a planned out date, and if she doesn't respond, go on living your life, she has your number. It's a two way street.

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Aww..my fellow Cap guys are so cute, just adorable. 🙂

Lol what do you mean?

How we get nervous and shy when feelings are shown, and not said. We'Re just like ...errr, ok...let me go now. But inside we'Re so mushy and smiling ear to ear.

Cap guys are so much cuter and sexy with it though. Lol

Lol well she has a funny way of showing it, considering I haven't heard much from her since that googly soup moment

Call her..it's hard for us Caps to venture out when we'Re not sure about something but take a risk. Ask her if she's feeling better and if she's up to having dinner. Look up a new restaurant and tell her you'd like to check it out together. She's probably wondering the same thing you are...

I did. This morning. And she didn't answer. So I texted her saying exactly what you said except for the dinner thing...I just said I wanted to see her....and it's been crickets all day

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Having read the last of your threads on what happened between you two, things where adding up differently with what happened then for the advice I initially gave you. The details where more blurry and changed. I agree with Greentea at this point. I feel it was just way to much texting from the beginning. I'm not sure why she let you take care of her and bring you things while she was sick if she didn't like you though. I feel maybe there are more missing details. Virgos, we don't lead other people on if we are not interested (unless she has something afflicted in her chart).

She's afraid of being hurt, its nothing judgemental or personal against you, so relax 🙂 you need to understand she's been heartbroken before, so there will be some issues you may have to deal with, don't be put off because it will be worth it at the end. Virgo women love with all they have, they will give everything to the relationship and will make her man feel like a King. You have to be very patient with her. Virgos are shy so don't be too pushy or pressure her to do something she doesn't want to. Make her feel secure and emotionally safe and she will warm up to you. I think the reason she gave you the funny look when you brought her soup, is because she's been single for 3 years and has been independent most of the time, so a man taking care of her will have her reacting like that. Another thing could be, that she's afraid of losing you or you will break her heart, because its obvious that she likes you too but she is moving forward cautiously, analysing everything before hand. Virgos feel everything so deeply, its both a blessing and a curse, so her past relationships may have scarred her. She has put up a few walls to protect herself (its a security issue), its a matter of you proving to her. It may be a bit bumpy, it may not but she will see the considerable efforts you are making to be there so bit by bit, those walls will eventually crack down. And the texting - don't take it personal, sometimes I don't reply back, but that doesn't mean I don't love the person or care for them. The quality of the time you spend together should be measured, not the amount of text you send and receive from one another.

Good luck

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She's afraid of being hurt, its nothing judgemental or personal against you, so relax 🙂 you need to understand she's been heartbroken before, so there will be some issues you may have to deal with, don't be put off because it will be worth it at the end. Virgo women love with all they have, they will give everything to the relationship and will make her man feel like a King. You have to be very patient with her. Virgos are shy so don't be too pushy or pressure her to do something she doesn't want to. Make her feel secure and emotionally safe and she will warm up to you. I think the reason she gave you the funny look when you brought her soup, is because she's been single for 3 years and has been independent most of the time, so a man taking care of her will have her reacting like that. Another thing could be, that she's afraid of losing you or you will break her heart, because its obvious that she likes you too but she is moving forward cautiously, analysing everything before hand. Virgos feel everything so deeply, its both a blessing and a curse, so her past relationships may have scarred her. She has put up a few walls to protect herself (its a security issue), its a matter of you proving to her. It may be a bit bumpy, it may not but she will see the considerable efforts you are making to be there so bit by bit, those walls will eventually crack down. And the texting - don't take it personal, sometimes I don't reply back, but that doesn't mean I don't love the person or care for them. The quality of the time you spend together should be measured, not the amount of text you send and receive from one another.

Good luck

Wow I didn't even see you responded. Thank you for this.

I didn't post the update of what happened.
Basically, after a week or more of not hearing from her (after a few attempts), I just text her to say I was thinking of her and asked if everything was okay. She hit me the next day and said she was going through some personal things and needed time to herself, apologized for taking so long to respond and said I didn't do anything wrong, but she was just trying to make sure she was being honest with me. I replied and told her I was sorry she was feeling this way and that I understood. I said that when she's ready, to hit me up and I hoped everything got better soon. I probably texted her a week or so after just to check in and she didn't reply, so I've left it alone.

I haven't heard from her since. It's been about a month lol

YAY HAPPY ENDING!! PATIENCE PAID OFF!!!