lindavi20
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Virgo's and Ending Relationships
If Virgo's agree ... would that make you feel validated in possessing your feelings?
Same here, one chance and one chance alone.
P-Angel- No, just wondering if there are a lot of other Virgo's that feel the same way. Inquiring.
Your sun in Virgo, this mean that you can do anything and everything for the people you love. By love, she means real love, no other type of love exists for her (i feel you girl 😄)
Now, your moon in virgo and Virgo-Moon people don't have a lot of self-confidence. One might think that the ideal mate for you would be someone intelligent, logical, nice looking, and neat, but how many can marry a clone? Actually, you are attracted to people who are more emotional and effusive, less calculating, more readily able to express their feelings.
No matter what your Sun Sign may be, the Virgo-Moon qualities of caution and seriousness show up in your personality.
The Venusian Libran??s approach to love is romantic but not necessarily steadfast, since so much depends on the ability of the partner to conform to a mentalized ideal of beauty and proper conduct. There may be a preoccupation with etiquette, as though love were an elaborate ritual to be conducted in a prescribed manner.
In Cancer, the Mars energies are largely of the emotional sort. While physical endeavors and practical affairs may find the energy to function satisfactorily, mental energies are apt to struggle.
This placement often causes actions to be tinged with a very sensitive flavor. You express your energies in a very emotional fashion. Much of the assertiveness of Mars is turned toward the domestic scene. There is a cautious side and much defensiveness in your nature. This placement of Mars is not very physical or competitive, and not inclined to any sort of combat, physical or mental. Mars in Cancer has a very positive side, as it often shows a quiet, peaceful nature. While being very protective of your "turf," you are never too assertive or demanding. In your work, you rarely compromise your views, and prefer working independently and in control of affairs. You are ambitious, and a hard worker. Since you are not, by nature, an aggressive person, you pursue your desires in a round-about or start-stop manner. You frequently change your direction and your goals. You strive for security, and a good deal of your energy goes into this effort. In this regard, you are fiercely protective of family, co-workers, organization, or to whatever you devote yourself. You may be known for the strength of your patriotism and loyalty.
Now, your moon in virgo and Virgo-Moon people don't have a lot of self-confidence. One might think that the ideal mate for you would be someone intelligent, logical, nice looking, and neat, but how many can marry a clone? Actually, you are attracted to people who are more emotional and effusive, less calculating, more readily able to express their feelings.
No matter what your Sun Sign may be, the Virgo-Moon qualities of caution and seriousness show up in your personality.
The Venusian Libran??s approach to love is romantic but not necessarily steadfast, since so much depends on the ability of the partner to conform to a mentalized ideal of beauty and proper conduct. There may be a preoccupation with etiquette, as though love were an elaborate ritual to be conducted in a prescribed manner.
In Cancer, the Mars energies are largely of the emotional sort. While physical endeavors and practical affairs may find the energy to function satisfactorily, mental energies are apt to struggle.
This placement often causes actions to be tinged with a very sensitive flavor. You express your energies in a very emotional fashion. Much of the assertiveness of Mars is turned toward the domestic scene. There is a cautious side and much defensiveness in your nature. This placement of Mars is not very physical or competitive, and not inclined to any sort of combat, physical or mental. Mars in Cancer has a very positive side, as it often shows a quiet, peaceful nature. While being very protective of your "turf," you are never too assertive or demanding. In your work, you rarely compromise your views, and prefer working independently and in control of affairs. You are ambitious, and a hard worker. Since you are not, by nature, an aggressive person, you pursue your desires in a round-about or start-stop manner. You frequently change your direction and your goals. You strive for security, and a good deal of your energy goes into this effort. In this regard, you are fiercely protective of family, co-workers, organization, or to whatever you devote yourself. You may be known for the strength of your patriotism and loyalty.
Posted by Chocokat
What's it like being an Omega Virgo? In answer to your question, I do give second chances.
Sometimes people change..
Maybe I'm naive, yes I'm probably naive.
No, not naive, rather .. mature
To OP .... If people aren't allowed to grow by your standards, and yet, life is all about changing and growing ... then maybe the answer to this equation is that your standards are flawed.
Or perhaps, the giving of your all is based entirely from your perception of what you wanted to give .. with no considerations of what she wanted to recieve.
I've stated this example several times in here and here it comes again .....
I hate color blue
My husband buys me a candle in a votive cup that is blue
Nowhere is there anything in my house that is blue ... I don't like blue
He hands the gift over to me beaming from head to toe because he brought me a gift.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ that gift wasn't for me .. it was for him to feel like he did something .. yet, this something he did brought no pleasure to me, while he proclaims it is for me.
Think about that .....
so my point is .. maybe all that you think you gave, wasn't really giving to the other person at all ....
perspective
I just have rarely seen people change... at least the ones I have been with. I believe that I have standards like most people do of what behaviors I would and wouldn't put up with. I do expect a lot out of a person and I try really hard to put myself in another persons shoes when dealing with their feelings. I truly like to know what someone is about and who they are and their passions, etc. I have formed many very long and good friendships, and I love meeting new people and figuring what they are about.
Being an Omega Virgo is exhausting even to myself sometimes! I am a very deep person. Sometimes I almost feel like it is hard for me to settle my mind!
Being an Omega Virgo is exhausting even to myself sometimes! I am a very deep person. Sometimes I almost feel like it is hard for me to settle my mind!
Also, even though I am over them in the romantic way, I still usually remain "friends" with most of my ex's... unless my heart was broken by them.
It seems to me that people tend to handle the relationship wrong from day one.
People usually give off the wrong impression of themselves for the sake of making that initial impression of attraction. So, most of the time, though you (third person) feel as though you are being perfectly concise on how you feel or what you want .. in reality, it comes across to the other person as something completely different due to the impression you gave the person from jump.
kind of like when you meet a person you absolutely adore, but, after time you realize that they weren't all that. In this case, that person never changed, they were the same person you adored when you met them .... but, that first impression you got from them, held so strong to your belief of that person, that you failed to see who they truly are.
And also when in a new relationship, people tend to ignore, or tolerate things the other person says or does, calling it compromise. This is a biggie. People do it all the time. When you stated in the OP that you give them chance after chance, what you mean is that you are going to ignore that in which you don't like in hopes that they improve themselves and prove to you that they are who you have envisioned to be wearing your blinders.
This reminds me of the phrase ........ giving something the benefit of doubt .... what does that mean, really? If you doubt that person due to a proven track record, then what would make you think that suddenly THIS TIME they would change for YOUR benefit. Your benefit. Benefit of doubt isn't for them, it's for you. Yet, this benefit of doubt is up to them to live up your expectations of how you envision they should be, eventhough they've shown you time and again that they aren't that person you are saying you are giving another chance to.
You aren't giving them another chance, at all ... you are giving yourself another change to find a way to continue tolerating that in which ignored due to thinking you were compromising for the sake of the relationship.
People usually give off the wrong impression of themselves for the sake of making that initial impression of attraction. So, most of the time, though you (third person) feel as though you are being perfectly concise on how you feel or what you want .. in reality, it comes across to the other person as something completely different due to the impression you gave the person from jump.
kind of like when you meet a person you absolutely adore, but, after time you realize that they weren't all that. In this case, that person never changed, they were the same person you adored when you met them .... but, that first impression you got from them, held so strong to your belief of that person, that you failed to see who they truly are.
And also when in a new relationship, people tend to ignore, or tolerate things the other person says or does, calling it compromise. This is a biggie. People do it all the time. When you stated in the OP that you give them chance after chance, what you mean is that you are going to ignore that in which you don't like in hopes that they improve themselves and prove to you that they are who you have envisioned to be wearing your blinders.
This reminds me of the phrase ........ giving something the benefit of doubt .... what does that mean, really? If you doubt that person due to a proven track record, then what would make you think that suddenly THIS TIME they would change for YOUR benefit. Your benefit. Benefit of doubt isn't for them, it's for you. Yet, this benefit of doubt is up to them to live up your expectations of how you envision they should be, eventhough they've shown you time and again that they aren't that person you are saying you are giving another chance to.
You aren't giving them another chance, at all ... you are giving yourself another change to find a way to continue tolerating that in which ignored due to thinking you were compromising for the sake of the relationship.
Not so much for me. I don't like to just cut people off. I worked too hard at the relationship (whether platonic or romantic) to just walk away from it. Perhaps I just can't disconnect as easily as other virgos. Unless the person did something so horrendous that I can't even face them again (and usually I forgive after a while), I don't cut people off. I let time take its course.
Candeh- I meant more like in a lover relationship. Once I am done (physically), I am done. I don't view them sexually anymore and my mind has moved on. No second chances in that area. On a friendship level though I hate burning bridges and very rarely have I lost a friend. My friends are very important to me.
P-Angel- Very insightful... and I believe very true.
P-Angel- Very insightful... and I believe very true.
It still kind of holds the same for me. I mean, I am able to move on very well, but I still don't cut them out completely. I mean, I believe there is room fo second chances depending on the situation. Again, it's just my opinion so everyone handles things differently.
Posted by P-Angel
I've stated this example several times in here and here it comes again .....
I hate color blue
My husband buys me a candle in a votive cup that is blue
Nowhere is there anything in my house that is blue ... I don't like blue
He hands the gift over to me beaming from head to toe because he brought me a gift.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ that gift wasn't for me .. it was for him to feel like he did something .. yet, this something he did brought no pleasure to me, while he proclaims it is for me.
I'm thinking he might be deaf.
The first things you learn about someone are the things they dislike, so that you dont do dumb stuff.
At first I was like, what the fuck is she talking about...lol.
But then I put it to an example that might make me feel that way and it's this...
Say my woman brings me a sandwich and she brings me a steak and peppers grinder.
I'll appreciate her doing that but I HATE peppers of any kind and if she surprised me with this sandwich i can only think that A) she is deaf or B) she is too stupid to remember that i hate PEPPERS!!
So maybe I would think maybe she was buying me lunch but just to make herself feel as if she did something good.
Still kind of twisted in my mind, P-Angel but i can see what you are saying.
Interesting.
Chocokat
No you are not na??ve.
I even do believe in third chance...
If you are fair enough and forget about your arrogant attitudes and try to be humble time to time, then you will also know that every single human being is subjected to do and act weird and speculative most of the time. (—you?? is metaphor)
Do not let the past controls for what you are now and decides for what you will be in the future and believe that what goes around, comes around.
Just my 2 cents??_.!
No you are not na??ve.
I even do believe in third chance...
If you are fair enough and forget about your arrogant attitudes and try to be humble time to time, then you will also know that every single human being is subjected to do and act weird and speculative most of the time. (—you?? is metaphor)
Do not let the past controls for what you are now and decides for what you will be in the future and believe that what goes around, comes around.
Just my 2 cents??_.!
1. In a relationship I will give my everything, and beyond sometimes.
2. I will give them chance after chance and live with feeling disappointed.
3. BUT once I am done, I AM DONE! Literally, it is that cut and dry for me. Once I have made a decision, it is my final decision and no looking back.
-------------------------------------All the 3 points TRUE for me too-------------------------------------
2. I will give them chance after chance and live with feeling disappointed.
3. BUT once I am done, I AM DONE! Literally, it is that cut and dry for me. Once I have made a decision, it is my final decision and no looking back.
-------------------------------------All the 3 points TRUE for me too-------------------------------------
—Giving only one chance?? and having no empathy and —expect other person to live up my expectations?? is not true for me... I believe in GIVE and TAKE in relations... for some things you accept me as I am and I??ll accept you as you are... and for some things I??ll change for you and you have to change for me.... its just care, love and respect for each other what I think is imperative otherwise no one is perfect and can exactly as per your wishes...... we have to have tolerance and acceptance.......
In fact I think virgos in general and I in particular give more time to people than they deserve, that I realize later on...... for me, my relations are like a project given to me by my boss in my office or an assignment given to me by my professor in my university... just like I don't like to give up in any project or assignment, I have to be successful in retaining that relation too......... so I??ll analyze the reason of failure from all possible perspectives to see that where I am making a mistake, what are my shortcomings, where I need to change my thinking and approach.... I??ll do every possible thing to make that relation work..... until the point where I realize that I was wasting my time and doing hard work on a wrong direction for a wrong goal......... other person want only ME to change for him and doesn't want to give any input from his side....... and no matter how hard I try to change myself... how much I love him... how much I sacrifice for him... but this relation will not work..... so I should stop wasting more time, even if it hurts a lot........ my mind rules my heart so I am capable of enduring any hurt if my mind is convinced that what I am doing is RIGHT...... and when that point comes that I am 101% sure and confident that break-up is the right decision.... this person is not right for me.....and by giving him more chances I am actually missing the chance for some right person.... THEN there is no looking back..... and the end will be like you said..... full and final end.........
In fact I think virgos in general and I in particular give more time to people than they deserve, that I realize later on...... for me, my relations are like a project given to me by my boss in my office or an assignment given to me by my professor in my university... just like I don't like to give up in any project or assignment, I have to be successful in retaining that relation too......... so I??ll analyze the reason of failure from all possible perspectives to see that where I am making a mistake, what are my shortcomings, where I need to change my thinking and approach.... I??ll do every possible thing to make that relation work..... until the point where I realize that I was wasting my time and doing hard work on a wrong direction for a wrong goal......... other person want only ME to change for him and doesn't want to give any input from his side....... and no matter how hard I try to change myself... how much I love him... how much I sacrifice for him... but this relation will not work..... so I should stop wasting more time, even if it hurts a lot........ my mind rules my heart so I am capable of enduring any hurt if my mind is convinced that what I am doing is RIGHT...... and when that point comes that I am 101% sure and confident that break-up is the right decision.... this person is not right for me.....and by giving him more chances I am actually missing the chance for some right person.... THEN there is no looking back..... and the end will be like you said..... full and final end.........
I don't like to cut people off. I like to remain on good terms after a relationship ends. I learn from each experience, good or bad. Now, can I cut off how I FEEL about someone? Yes, with the snap of a finger. If I feel like that person has done me wrong or if I don't see our relationship blossoming,then yes my feelings will change. I will hold on for a while to see if things change (my feelings can be turned right back around). I don't necessarily like to leave someone hanging. However, once the relationship is over, it's easy for me to move on. Then again, I'm speaking from past relationships. The guy I'm with now, I can't say how I'd act if we were to break up (shrugs shoulders).
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Maybe my chart would explain more about this
Sun Virgo 7?? 38' in house 5
Moon Virgo 26?? 6' in house 5
Mercury Virgo 25?? 38' in house 5
Venus Libra 14?? 56' in house 6
Mars Cancer 28?? 46' in house 4
Jupiter Libra 11?? 30' in house 6
Saturn Libra 8?? 32' in house 6
Uranus Scorpio 26?? 21' in house 7
Neptune Sagittarius 22?? 5' in house 8
Pluto Libra 22?? 31' in house 6
Ascendant Taurus 13?? 8' in house 1
Midheaven Capricorn 26?? 28' in house 10
Node True Leo 1?? 14' in house 4
2 Gemini 11?? 50' in house 2
3 Cancer 4?? 23' in house 3
4 Cancer 26?? 28' in house 4
5 Leo 22?? 34' in house 5
6 Virgo 27?? 55' in house 6