What are they thinking? (Page 2)

I capably of going distant as well, but it is in a cold calculating (icebitch) way. I have to admit I haven't been like that for many years. I don't want to be like that anymore(I hate it). I enjoy being upfront about my issues and emotions.

I can relate to what you are saying FumingliS, about the virgo. There came a time in my relationship with my good virg friend, when it just became friendship. At the beginning it might have been something more, but the slowness by the virgo, and me not being entirely attracted to him caused any type of romance to disappear.
I believe that can be a great pitfall of this slowness from the virgos. Well I can see it for me. The longer a virgo may take to 'decide' the more chance Im onto other things, and 'getting over it'. Then I only see them as a friend.
When the passions there, and its aching my heart, then I need to go for it. otherwise the romantic love gets quenched, for me. They then remain as good friends.

""Aaaww poracita. ""

Pobrecita, you mean? As in, "poor little girl"?

Let me tell you, I have met SEVERAL Virgo men who at one time or another have suffered from major depression. I know a few who've tried to commit suicide.

Some people's self-esteem isn't as high as you're led to believe.

Yes SS. I agree. I see this depression in them as well. It is very worrying. They appear to have a low selfesteem.

This action is completely foreign to me, I can't understand it at all.

Same here, this is why I can't make things work with virgo dudes. No, I can't just accept a guy back after being gone or can I just talk like everything is okay if we 'suddenly' are in the same place at the same time. No, thats nuts and I am very sane 🙂 lol, for the most part.

My question is; what are they thinking when this happens? Do they care what I might be thinking and feeling? do they suffer any condemnation in their consciousness.

No

The virgo sounds like a complete coward to be honest...unable to face up to any kind of emotional responsibility...good on you for moving on. If he came back, I would tell him where to stick it..but hey that's just me.

Thats just me too 🙂 I'm sorry but that annoying as shit, seriously, it is. To up and just leave because you can't handle, "stuff". Whatever, sounds like a head case to me.

Another male who has a tendency to do this is ... cancer men, yep they do the same thing. Also, Aqua men do this too, they just tend to be better at it I think because they can be even MORE confusing. Oh yeah, virgo men are not by themselves, they have a buddies 😄

Yes, I will agree there, they are more of the loner type ... which is quite nutty seeing as they are the first ones to admit that they get loney sometimes lol

I think I can handle this 'disappearing' when I know its not about me. that sounds selfish, but what I am meaning is; I haven't done anything directly to effect him in some way. It is purely something he is dealing with, where he is getting his thoughts in order etc.
the problem, for me, lies in the not knowing why he does this. I speculate, I assume, it is centred around me and something I have done.
The problem can be solved when I know what is happening. I don't mind the withdrawing if I know his plan. He can say, I need a break, I need some space, its not you, Im just getting my head in order etc. I shall then be fine, I will leave him alone. I shall feel secure, especially if he says it might only be for a time.
of course this is in an ideal relationship.
I need honesty and openness in my relationships.

It is very sad, I agree.
the answer seems simple to me, they just need to be honest. Even in the worst case scenario and the news is negative, at least we can defend ourselves, or come to terms with the loss, or whatever needs to take place to move on.

NovScorp, your story makes me feel sad. I hope he is not still in love with you.(for both your sakes) and I know what you would say; well he should say something to me. but you have found someone else. He would know that you are with someone new. I know that virgos observe everything (so I've been told)and analyse everything.
He would never say anything to you if he knows you are with someone else.

LovelyTune, I'm not saying don't call him. Most of my and my Virgos communication in the beginning was through text messaging (since both of us don't like sitting on the phone, unless it's a brief 5 minute conversation). I would out of the blue just send him a text to say "I was just letting you know you were on my mind" if he replied good, if not, oh well, I wasn't worried about it because I always told myself if it doesn't work, I at least know I tried. I did it like once in the AM, kind of before lunch, and once in the PM before I went to bed. Anything between that he initiated. When it came to seeing him, I let him take (or let him feel like he did) the lead. I guess I was kind of manipulative when it came to seeing him (:O]). I'd tell him that "I miss you and wish you were here", instead of saying "I want to see you, come over". It worked every time. LOL!

Me and my Aries argued WAY too much and I would end up shutting down and walking away and he would follow me around the house to continue the arguing. I began to resent him and his annoying tendencies. Even now he tries to continue a relationship with me, but I know better, NEVER would I be put back in a situation like that EVER. Besides, I'm IN LOVE with my Virgo. I can't wait for the wedding. LOL!

LT: the problem, for me, lies in the not knowing why he does this. I speculate, I assume, it is centred around me and something I have done.

I've played your role with my Scorp when she'd be in one of her moody broods; until one day, when she got exasperated with me, and told me, "DY, not EVERYTHING is about YOU!"

We've both had to learn to respect each other's privacy, and a need to hole up and sort out whatever is bothering us. We've also learned to tell each other, "It's not you."

🙂

Dy, Yes exactly! I like direct communication, that makes my life easier.

'It is not about YOU!' I like hearing those words. lol

NOV-scorp u have to tell the man ur go_ng to marry , that u still love the ex virguy .if he is okay with this fact then u may feel free to marry him.