What does this scorpio want!?

Background: I'm 28, Virgo, he's 29, Scorpio. We've been dating for just over one year, we just moved in together this month.

There are a few big umbrella issues we've continued to have in our relationship over the last year that, at times, we make small progress on, but other's, it turns into world war 3. I will take responsibility in saying that I have a really hard time waiting out the silence of the scorpio after an argument. I am a head on kind of girl- let's talk it out and find a solution. Which, in turn, pisses him off more, he pulls away, I get insecure... and it's another turn on the marry-go-round.

Since January we have been talking about moving in together (moving out of my current place after my graduation was in my plans long before we started dating). HE initiated plans for savings towards this, HE has been the one to send me listings of apartments all throughout the spring, additionally HE made the choice to add me to his credit cards and car insurance. Don't get me wrong, I love it, I love it all but never once have I asked him for anything.

One week before move-in: huge argument about him still trolling on his ex gf. (They've been broken up now going on two years). It's not something I understood... he's very secretive and only tells me what he wants when he wants. He got mad at me bc I was honest when I said I had looked her up on fb before, he snarled at me that it was none of my business. So I said that I thought he was still in love with her and he laughed in my face and went to bed. So I got pissed and said maybe we should just cancel the lease then, just fuck it all. The next morning we had a lengthy talk about being together/moving in and going round and round. I said I do want to be with him and move in together. So we do.

One week after move-in: another huge argument. this time he was mad bc we were talking about going to this party of a girl I don't like. So I shared my feelings about her and he got pissed saying he doesn't have time for my drama- which I wasn't creating, we were literally just talking and then boom, he's pissed. Then, the next day, it's the same ol scorpio silence. No texting, no communication.

I got fed up and said that I don't like being ignored. It went into this whole thing of him saying "I think we're both thinking this but neither wants to say it" and I said that I didn't think he wanted to be with me, he returned the comment to me.

Round and round we go. I'm pouring my heart out saying how much I do love him and I am happy when we do x, y, z together. And he is saying that he doesn't think he is the right person for me, that I'm not happy. Then tells me "take it or leave it". After I spent that afternoon crying he comes home that night and we talk and I ask if he's in love with me, he says yes, that's not it. Then goes on to say that since he pays for everything I shouldn't ask for anything else (emotionally).

This last friday night: HE brings up his ex, starts telling me about the awful things she said. I listen, agreeing with him that what she said is absurd and disgusting. Then he tells me that when I had said about him still being in love with her, that night he didn't care if we broke up. Then he went out for a smoke, came back in and wouldn't talk to me-waved me away, slept on the couch. I went upstairs to our room, and just went to bed. I would typically be crying at this point bc it stresses me out so much, and all I want is to understand. I love him. I love him so much. I feel like I keep getting so many mixed signals from him, idk what he really wants. He woke up the next morning, came upstairs, crawled into bed with me. We had sex. Had a great day together, it's been great since then.

So, to my fellow virgogals who've dated scorpio men... what gives!? Any advice?

Also, I'm new to this site, sorry if that didn't come across clear and feel free to ask any questions. I think I'll search out the scorpio forum as well!

Posted by Weeds

No delusions coming from my behalf. I know exactly how I feel and what I want. I wish he wouldn't hide his emotions so much.

Apparently his twisted Scorpio revenge is watching her crash n burn, however long that takes, he said he'd keep tabs until he didn't anymore, end of story.
i don't want to break up with him. I love him and believe he loves me. I just don't see how he can justify some of the things he says or does sometimes. I'd never treat someone I love in that way.

My ex Scorpio and I had some problems with communication too. But it turns out he was addicted to cocaine, pills, sex, and sex websites, so i think that was a large part of the issue. Needless to say, I don't think my input would be much help.

Posted by Andalusia
My ex Scorpio and I had some problems with communication too. But it turns out he was addicted to cocaine, pills, sex, and sex websites, so i think that was a large part of the issue. Needless to say, I don't think my input would be much help.

Did he hide that from you? No drugs here thankfully. Thank you for your post!

Posted by mysteriousstargazer
One week after move-in: ...Then, the next day, it's the same ol scorpio silence..

You are living together, right? What do you mean silence and no comunication? Did you pass each other in the house without saying a word?

I am having this feeling that this guy is not a suitable match for you. Your relationship won't sustain for a longer period. He is already making you suffer and he will continue doing that in future. One scorpio guy was interested in me. I am a Virgo. I noticed he always wanted to have his way. It seemed he never actually cared about me and it was always about him. So i never dated him.
Love,understanding and compassion should be there in a relationship. Your guy loves himself more. When he wanted to have sex with you he came to you. He only care for his own needs and dosen't bother about your's. Just dump him and move on.

emotional manipulation he's very good at it. RUN!

Yes, we just moved in. He leaves for work early, I might get a "have a nice day" sarcastically, no kiss and off he goes. He typically texts me throughout, but every time we argue, it's a blackout. No texts, ignores mine...

Posted by Tanya Jones
I am having this feeling that this guy is not a suitable match for you. Your relationship won't sustain for a longer period. He is already making you suffer and he will continue doing that in future. One scorpio guy was interested in me. I am a Virgo. I noticed he always wanted to have his way. It seemed he never actually cared about me and it was always about him. So i never dated him.
Love,understanding and compassion should be there in a relationship. Your guy loves himself more. When he wanted to have sex with you he came to you. He only care for his own needs and dosen't bother about your's. Just dump him and move on.

Dumping and moving on is not so easy at this point... When it's good it's so good! And he provides financially speaking, he needs to understand that's not all its about tho. I need that emotional intimacy that he holds tightly too.

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by mysteriousstargazer

Posted by Tanya Jones
I am having this feeling that this guy is not a suitable match for you. Your relationship won't sustain for a longer period. He is already making you suffer and he will continue doing that in future. One scorpio guy was interested in me. I am a Virgo. I noticed he always wanted to have his way. It seemed he never actually cared about me and it was always about him. So i never dated him.
Love,understanding and compassion should be there in a relationship. Your guy loves himself more. When he wanted to have sex with you he came to you. He only care for his own needs and dosen't bother about your's. Just dump him and move on.

Dumping and moving on is not so easy at this point... When it's good it's so good! And he provides financially speaking, he needs to understand that's not all its about tho. I need that emotional intimacy that he holds tightly too.

then why the thread?

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Guess I'm looking for more advice on Virgos that have dated scorps, a reading between the lines type of deal.

Posted by BlackMamba


you're obviously more infatuated in him then he is in you, so you're just going to have to be that chick. The cassie to the puffy

Haha, I like your analogy there! I do feel that I'm more in it than he is... Not discounting that he loves me. I know he does. Just... Sometimes I wanna shout "come on!" Sometimes...

@ mysterioustargazer, your heart is ruling over your head. Please beware. When you are getting hints(big ones) please collect those hints and move on. From what you have described about his behavior, he dosen't seem to hold himself. He is telling you 'take it or leave it'. If a scorpio or even any one in this world ever loves you, he won't say that to you. And yes he still haven't moved on from his ex girlfriend. And he is just using you. My scorpio guy, i mentioned earlier had a gf who have dumped him and he was still hoping for her to come back but he still showed his interest in me. Whenever we spoke he flirted with me and complimented me a lot and he wasn't emotionally unavailable. But i always had this feeling that he was using me. He always used to decide place of our meeting and decided on which movie we can watch together.

Sounds like a bunch of game playing from both teams. I get it though...he supports your ass financially so you tolerate his douche bag behavior and call it "love". Good luck with that.....

Posted by LostinmyMind11
Sounds like a bunch of game playing from both teams. I get it though...he supports your ass financially so you tolerate his douche bag behavior and call it "love". Good luck with that.....

You are 100% right about that.

Thread Title: What does this Scorpio want

Posted by mysteriousstargazer

We've been dating for just over one year, we just moved in together this month

This is as far as I've read ...

So, you moved in with a person, to whom you don't know his intent?

How could you be dating a person for a year, and not know the basic fundamentals of a relationship? = terms of relating

this is so bizarre .... I'm almost afraid to continue reading this because I know that I'm going to find you to be so dense and stupid.

And even though I know there are people like you (this stupid) .... having this knowledge doesn't stop me from being literally SHOCKED every time I encounter it.

Maybe this was addressed by someone else. If so, I'll reiterate it:


You're suppose to know where you stand BEFORE you move in together .... of course you don't know that, and have to be told.



:::: shakes head ::::



But, maybe I should finish reading. Maybe this isn't a matter of you just being stupid. Maybe you are just ignorant.