lost_sailor
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What is she thinking?
Just let it go. She obviously wants space. What are you not telling us? Virgos don't disappear for no reason.
We broke up. But why after all this time is she texting again?
Or more importantly why she texting with small talk instead of engaging with me? What is the point?
virgo woman disappeared?
i'm sorry i don't understand 'broke up a couple months ago but after not speaking for about one month, she started texting'?? i don't understand this part
did you try to initiate calls with her?
i'm sorry i don't understand 'broke up a couple months ago but after not speaking for about one month, she started texting'?? i don't understand this part
did you try to initiate calls with her?
I'm sorry..i was trying to keep it simple. Ive never posted on a forum before so bare with me. We were still talking after the initial break up but finally she decided to move on and we stopped talking all together. But in the past week she has started texting again only it is very small talkish. Nothing deep or familiar if you know what I mean. If she misses me why not be mire conversatjonal? If she doesn't why text at all? Know what I mean?
ohh do you mean you guys broke up then she started texting you again?
what were the grounds for the breakup?
did anything happen that may have created doubts for her regarding the relationship?
why not be blunt and ask her outright why she's not engaging fully?
what were the grounds for the breakup?
did anything happen that may have created doubts for her regarding the relationship?
why not be blunt and ask her outright why she's not engaging fully?
Yes. We broke up mainly because my standards and hers were a lite different. It was petty.
I thought about asking her but im also afraid of jinxing it.
I thought about asking her but im also afraid of jinxing it.
Posted by lost_sailor
Yes. We broke up mainly because my standards and hers were a lite different. It was petty.
I thought about asking her but im also afraid of jinxing it.
What standards?
Posted by ladylibra21Posted by lost_sailor
Yes. We broke up mainly because my standards and hers were a lite different. It was petty.
I thought about asking her but im also afraid of jinxing it.
What standards?click to expand
How we deal with other people. I am more relaxed about situations and more forgiving. She is more stringent and exoectant of perfection.
Posted by LadyNeptune
Why didn’t you communicate for a month?
She cut ties. She was moving on. I respected it. But now she is around..sort of.
Posted by Onigen
Just let it go. She obviously wants space. What are you not telling us? Virgos don't disappear for no reason.
^This.
How long were you together for? What do you mean she doesn't engage in anything personal? Do you go there and she stops you or what exactly? She break it off or you? Have you tried calling her? What do the texts consist of exactly?
You're leaving out a lot of details here....
You're leaving out a lot of details here....
Posted by Devil
She's bored. She wants attention she knows she can get from you until she gets another guy. Simple. Stop kidding yourself you headass.
Stop contacting her her back if it's not in your interest. Your wasting energy you could be using on finding a new girl. Move the fuck on. Stop investing any energy in a lost cause.
You're fucking yourself over for dreams you may have of getting back together. She's not doing anything that indicates she wants to get back. So get your shit together and move on to another girl asap.
Your hatred for us is showing again 😜
Posted by LostinmyMind11
How long were you together for? What do you mean she doesn't engage in anything personal? Do you go there and she stops you or what exactly? She break it off or you? Have you tried calling her? What do the texts consist of exactly?
You're leaving out a lot of details here....
I'll answer in order...We were together for a few months.
When she text its very non personal. I.e. are you staying safe? Things like that. But when i try and open up the conversation more by talking about cooking (a favorite of ours) or movies, i get no answer or a yes/no kind of answer. She wont engage in real conversation like two people who know eachother well. Yet she text again the next day and keeps the communication going.
We are in separate cities so i don't see her.
I don't call her because she hasn't indicated she actually wants to talk so i respect that.
I guess the whole thing is she said she moved on. She walked away. After a month she is texting but not in a friendly way. More like someone you know casually from work or something. Its mostly impersonal. She akways had a soft spot for my voice so i get if she doesnt want to talk but her actions are still confusing. She has other men so its not boredom. If she misses me she isnt showing it. If she is truly done, why text at all?
Posted by FactCheck
It sounds like she likes you, but she doesnt like you. Shes into you, but you dont fit her boyfriend ideal.
It feels like she is unsure of what to do with me. I am her first real love and we are both adults. She is a typical virgo. Not good at understanding what she is feeling.
Posted by lost_sailorPosted by LostinmyMind11
How long were you together for? What do you mean she doesn't engage in anything personal? Do you go there and she stops you or what exactly? She break it off or you? Have you tried calling her? What do the texts consist of exactly?
You're leaving out a lot of details here....
I'll answer in order...We were together for a few months.
When she text its very non personal. I.e. are you staying safe? Things like that. But when i try and open up the conversation more by talking about cooking (a favorite of ours) or movies, i get no answer or a yes/no kind of answer. She wont engage in real conversation like two people who know eachother well. Yet she text again the next day and keeps the communication going.
We are in separate cities so i don't see her.
I don't call her because she hasn't indicated she actually wants to talk so i respect that.
I guess the whole thing is she said she moved on. She walked away. After a month she is texting but not in a friendly way. More like someone you know casually from work or something. Its mostly impersonal. She akways had a soft spot for my voice so i get if she doesnt want to talk but her actions are still confusing. She has other men so its not boredom. If she misses me she isnt showing it. If she is truly done, why text at all?click to expand
Ok...I'm gonna be completely honest with you. I really have no idea why she is half assing it with you here so I can see why it's confusing...hell, I'm just as confused lol. Normally if we come back and try and communicate ...it's because we fucked up and we are gauging how receptive you are to us again. If you're talking like normal than I would be engaging exactly as before ...since the reasoning is potentially getting back together. If I just wanted to check up to see how you are... you're going to get the more non personal side but it's not going to be an everyday thing...once a couple months if not even longer...depends how much you meant to me.
I think you're gonna have to straight up ask her what she wants from you...
She's just worried about you because of these exceptional times we are living in.
She wont engage in real conversation like two people who know eachother well.click to expand
You sound very entitled about what you expect from her in terms of a *proper* response to a break up.
Your thread is focused on what is she thinking/feeling as if you have an expectation in mind here. How about you clear your own feelings and thoughts without putting the labor of that on another person's answers? It is possible to detach and dial intimacy down..the result of that is someone who is not as close as they once were and that is normal. Virgos can actually put it into perspective. I did that with my Aries ex and it didn't have him feel confused because ofc things were not going to go the way they did to that point.
Someone who no longer cares would not be intrigued enough to create this thread so I'll leave the rest to hold your hand and be taken in by the manipulation. To me it's lolworthy.
Bottom line: If you want and love this woman, focus on your actions and be straightforward about it. Confront her about what you want and ask yes/no questions so she cannot do any verbal gymnastics around it. If she is evasive, you have your answer = she doesn't want you anymore/ she is a game player.
Posted by DevilPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Devil
She's bored. She wants attention she knows she can get from you until she gets another guy. Simple. Stop kidding yourself you headass.
Stop contacting her her back if it's not in your interest. Your wasting energy you could be using on finding a new girl. Move the fuck on. Stop investing any energy in a lost cause.
You're fucking yourself over for dreams you may have of getting back together. She's not doing anything that indicates she wants to get back. So get your shit together and move on to another girl asap.
Your hatred for us is showing again 😜
https://media3.giphy.com/media/qvRjLOs2SVPsk/source.gif<div class="bqfade">click to expand
LMAO
Posted by DevilPosted by LostinmyMind11Posted by Devil
She's bored. She wants attention she knows she can get from you until she gets another guy. Simple. Stop kidding yourself you headass.
Stop contacting her her back if it's not in your interest. Your wasting energy you could be using on finding a new girl. Move the fuck on. Stop investing any energy in a lost cause.
You're fucking yourself over for dreams you may have of getting back together. She's not doing anything that indicates she wants to get back. So get your shit together and move on to another girl asap.
Your hatred for us is showing again 😜
https://media3.giphy.com/media/qvRjLOs2SVPsk/source.gif<div class="bqfade">click to expand
Posted by Chicadee
OP, do you know her placements? Or her birthdate? I'm curious, and here, it may provide you some insight.
Namely, I smell air placements.
But anyway,
based on all you've written, I agree with some and others but gonna try and box it up a little nicer.
Checking up on you is one thing, if she still cares, she would still check up on you, and that makes sense.
But initiating a lot of contact challenges that.
If it was me, again based on the info, I'd probably check up if it was only a couple of months ago..what with covid and all.
But I wouldn't be texting every day. So the bored theory comes up here. She may be bored. Realistically, she might be a bit bummed out and stuff too-- even you said, the breakup was petty, she's got an equal and opposite reaction going on from the breakup too.
I'll be real honest with you, initiating contact but not getting into anything personal or real is what I used to do on dating sites to keep convos going cos I was bored and it fulfilled something somewhere at the time. So the bored theory is the strongest.
The biggest point I want to make here though, which was alos made already bu I'm repackaging it:
You, still wanting her to some extent, and putting up with this ambiguous communication from her, is demonstrating to her your low value. You are worth more than that. If you are confused and feeling like shit, don't continue. Life is too short to allow people into your life who make you feel confused and shitty. Don't let em in, don't keep them there.
If she texts smalltalk, and you try and open up the convo, and she keeps the door shut, so be it. Stop responding or stop trying to open up the convo. Why? Because you now know the pattern and it makes you feel shitty.
And continuing to follow someone else's pattern which makes you feel shitty LOWERS your value. She sees you trying. She closes up. She texts again the next day. Sees you try again. Etc.
Stop it... you're better than that. Set yourself a boundary and she'll either open up and come around or fade off. But continuing as you are is just going to hurt you.
I think you are right . I really need to stop. I dont know her placements but DM me and ill tell ypu what i do know.
Posted by PhoenixStorm
My sister is a Virgo and I know she’s the type that likes to be fought for from what I’ve observed. Have you ever “fought” to keep her or was she the one who was always trying to fix things? Why did you lose her, did you hurt her?
I fought for her constantly. I lost her because i cauldn't live up to her high stanards of perfection. I always tried tho.
Ask her, what are her intentions.
As a Cancer guy, I have experience with a couple of Virgal's.
Experience tells me, if you really want her, I would just come after her and be persuasive.
She won't be able to resist. you will wear her down.
Don't do this "full court press" though, until you're sure you really want her.
It's a great match...Cancer male, Virgo female.
Sorry I didn't see your post sooner.
Experience tells me, if you really want her, I would just come after her and be persuasive.
She won't be able to resist. you will wear her down.
Don't do this "full court press" though, until you're sure you really want her.
It's a great match...Cancer male, Virgo female.
Sorry I didn't see your post sooner.
I mean if it was a good relationship, she probably genuinely wants to know how you are.
If it was not a good relationship, she’s bored.
Simple.
If it was not a good relationship, she’s bored.
Simple.
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