Is my Taurus done with me?

Capricorn woman here. Long story short I met this Taurus man through work a year ago. We are both in our early thirties. We added each other to social media and Snapchat seemed to be our go to for communication. Since my birthday we would send each other snaps every day and it was super casual. Then about 6 weeks ago he started to get more flirty. He FINALLY asked to hang out so I went to his place to watch a movie and we made out. He blew up my phone from morning until night. Said he likes me, feels oddly comfortable around me, talked about getting over hurtles together. His friends new about me. We only went on a few dates and I feel I made the mistake of sleeping with him too soon. It just felt like a natural progression and I felt the timing of sex wouldn’t affect anything. Anyways so he was different immediately following the sex. We did go for a walk the next day but his messages were casual no flirting, no calling me cute, no effort to make plans so I kept some distance and went along with it. After about a week of this I sent him message explaining how I enjoyed getting to know him, I think he’s cute and I was developing a crush but how I wasn’t looking to tie him down and I didn’t have any expectations, but was all that just to get laid? And how I could sense the energy is different. He replied saying how I’m right and he has been weird, and that he’s been played by a few girls and has some issues there. He’s not about hurting people but he knows his actions show otherwise, I’m so down to earth and a breath of fresh air but he feels he just can’t handle getting close and would love to remain friends with me. He also apologized and understands if I don’t want that. After a long talk I agreed to be friends. It’s been a week since that conversation and we have talked but it’s been very short and it’s definitely not the same. He will reach out and then a couple days go by and I’ll reach out but the convos don’t go anywhere. Was he full of shit and lost interest cause I slept with him too soon? Should I do no contact? I’m not a desperate woman I was just really starting to like him. We opened up to each other and I felt something. Forget about it? HELP

I wouldn't even bother being friends. The man sounds unavailable. You accepting a friendship would be a confirmation enough that indeed you are desperate. He rejected you, don't lower yourself please.

was the sex any good?

i would chalk this up to an experience. perhaps the timing was off. perhaps you had sex "too soon". perhaps he just wanted to get into your pants. either way, he doesn't seem all that interested at this point in time.

it's sad that it didn't progress further but yes, i would forget about it.

" .....I was developing a crush but how I wasn’t looking to tie him down and I didn’t have any expectations, ...."

Why would you even say these things like "tie him down" and "didnt have any expectations"? I think it was a too heavy message in this early stage.... but at least it cleared the air

move on, imho

(PS. I am not sure whats wrong with having some expectations? thats normal....and then saying you didnt have any sound false....)

My instincts knew he was doing the slow fade anyways so I wanted to be clear. I didn’t have expectations of jumping into a relationship and he knew that. It’s all good. I removed him from social media and deleted his number. If you knew the context of our messages I really don’t think it was heavy and he was glad I called him out as this hasn’t been his first time. I’m just going to have more self respect and have no further communication with him. Thanks all

Posted by nightsky11

My instincts knew he was doing the slow fade anyways so I wanted to be clear. I didn’t have expectations of jumping into a relationship and he knew that. It’s all good. I removed him from social media and deleted his number. If you knew the context of our messages I really don’t think it was heavy and he was glad I called him out as this hasn’t been his first time. I’m just going to have more self respect and have no further communication with him. Thanks all

That could be a reason for him not continuing. You told him you have no expectations of jumping into a relationship.

So what was left after sex?

Some men don't care about having sex too soon, they don't hold it against you.

But if you want to have fun and just have sex with no commitment, don't let the guy in on that unless he says it first.

Then you can agree to being fwb. But never agree to that if you can't actually do it.

There is no such thing as sleeping with someone too soon.

He was just after a fuck if he treats you differently after.

And if he's the kinda guy who devalues women after fucking, that's a him issue not a you issue. Double standard as he is engaging in the same behavior that he deems unsavory in a potential partner.

Or perhaps the chemistry wasn't there for him and he decided not to continue with things, which is also ok. You win some you lose some.

My point is don't internalize his behavior as something YOU did wrong. His loss.

Keep putting yourself out there. Love is a numbers game.

Posted by nightsky11

My instincts knew he was doing the slow fade anyways so I wanted to be clear. I didn’t have expectations of jumping into a relationship and he knew that. It’s all good. I removed him from social media and deleted his number. If you knew the context of our messages I really don’t think it was heavy and he was glad I called him out as this hasn’t been his first time. I’m just going to have more self respect and have no further communication with him. Thanks all

He admitted that this isn’t his first rodeo pumping and dumping.

This is him. Believe him. You’re not the first to call him out, he just expects it. He clearly has a script for when women catch on.

Yes, with some men, they will say whatever and do whatever to get sex from a woman because actual rape is frowned upon in modern societies

But lying to get what you want is just fine