My bull asked me to marry him

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

Posted by Gemitati

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

He’s 31. Yeah he’s a crying baby. He cried because I was guarded up and leaving him.

"Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing."

Because to a bull, love means both possessing AND protecting someone. You're his possession now. Getting married would make that official. But it sounds like he doesn't know how to protect you.

Posted by CancaGal

Posted by Gemitati

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

He’s 31. Yeah he’s a crying baby. He cried because I was guarded up and leaving him.

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Do you like see maybe future father of your children...cry? 🤮

Posted by Ram416

"Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing."

Because to a bull, love means both possessing AND protecting someone. You're his possession now. Getting married would make that official. But it sounds like he doesn't know how to protect you.

Agree. He was not considerate enough. That’s why we had so many conversations about his ex to the point that I wanted to leave him because I didn’t feel safe.

Posted by Ram416

"Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing."

Because to a bull, love means both possessing AND protecting someone. You're his possession now. Getting married would make that official. But it sounds like he doesn't know how to protect you.

STFU fireball!

They’ll never get it. Bull? Hahaha slow motion Aries opposite...naaah

Keep your fire ass on fire! Don’t let those ‘others’ get into your ass...

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Posted by CancaGal

Posted by Gemitati

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

He’s 31. Yeah he’s a crying baby. He cried because I was guarded up and leaving him.

Do you like see maybe future father of your children...cry? 🤮

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Haha good question. To be honest I liked it when he cried. It shows me his love. Normally he just being cool. He even played cool at the beginning lol.

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Ram416

"Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing."

Because to a bull, love means both possessing AND protecting someone. You're his possession now. Getting married would make that official. But it sounds like he doesn't know how to protect you.

STFU fireball!

They’ll never get it. Bull? Hahaha slow motion Aries opposite...naaah

Keep your fire ass on fire! Don’t let those ‘others’ get into your ass...

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LOL.

I'm actually Taurus dominant. And very slow and boring for an Aries.

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Ram416

"Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing."

Because to a bull, love means both possessing AND protecting someone. You're his possession now. Getting married would make that official. But it sounds like he doesn't know how to protect you.

STFU fireball!

They’ll never get it. Bull? Hahaha slow motion Aries opposite...naaah

Keep your fire ass on fire! Don’t let those ‘others’ get into your ass...

LOL.

I'm actually Taurus dominant. And very slow and boring for an Aries.

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There is NO such animal...boring Aries! No!

How is Earth fucking Fire? 🤷‍♀️

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

Posted by DMV

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

LOL. He hasn’t proposed to me yet. Still waiting. We’ve been together for only 8 months tho. He spent more than 4 yrs with his ex but never did the same thing for her. He admitted that he was not sure about her. He said that he sees me as wife material and I’m the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤷‍♀️

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Posted by Gemitati

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

You know that song "forever young"...Taurus' song "forever dumb" is a lot like that song.

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Don’t want to even know this shit! Lol

Taurus energy is heavy af! God bless those who can deal with it. Gimme my air fire shit! We will explode!!!!! 🤯

Posted by Erin

Why can't you be assertive? When I was going to get married he asked me without a ring. I told him: "Probably, but without a ring who knows?" He laughed and said he is sorry and will ask again when he had one.

You can't wait for guys to magically know what you want and give it to you.

Men are morons, just ask one and he will tell you haha.

He knows that I want a ring. That’s why he took me to the jewelry shop to get some idea about the knida ring that I like. Not expecting him to propose any time soon because I need time to let things go. He knows that too. But he will do it for sure.

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Posted by DMV

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

LOL. He hasn’t proposed to me yet. Still waiting. We’ve been together for only 8 months tho. He spent more than 4 yrs with his ex but never did the same thing for her. He admitted that he was not sure about her. He said that he sees me as wife material and I’m the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤷‍♀️

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Look, u don't know what went on between him and his ex. Only they do. He can say whatever to appease you but only they know.

The fact that she is still the topic if discussion is cause 4 concern.

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Posted by Erin

Why can't you be assertive? When I was going to get married he asked me without a ring. I told him: "Probably, but without a ring who knows?" He laughed and said he is sorry and will ask again when he had one.

You can't wait for guys to magically know what you want and give it to you.

Men are morons, just ask one and he will tell you haha.

He knows that I want a ring. That’s why he took me to the jewelry shop to get some idea about the knida ring that I like. Not expecting him to propose any time soon because I need time to let things go. He knows that too. But he will do it for sure.

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Yeah! The ri g I’ve chosen from Tiffany’s was $ 57k

Lmao

How was I supposed to know? I haven’t been to Tiffany’s before...

🤦‍♀️

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Posted by DMV

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

LOL. He hasn’t proposed to me yet. Still waiting. We’ve been together for only 8 months tho. He spent more than 4 yrs with his ex but never did the same thing for her. He admitted that he was not sure about her. He said that he sees me as wife material and I’m the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤷‍♀️

Look, u don't know what went on between him and his ex. Only they do. He can say whatever to appease you but only they know.

The fact that she is still the topic if discussion is cause 4 concern.

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She’s out of the picture now. We’ve stopped talking about her. I’m trying to be positive and get her out of my mind.

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Posted by Erin

Why can't you be assertive? When I was going to get married he asked me without a ring. I told him: "Probably, but without a ring who knows?" He laughed and said he is sorry and will ask again when he had one.

You can't wait for guys to magically know what you want and give it to you.

Men are morons, just ask one and he will tell you haha.

He knows that I want a ring. That’s why he took me to the jewelry shop to get some idea about the knida ring that I like. Not expecting him to propose any time soon because I need time to let things go. He knows that too. But he will do it for sure.

Yeah! The ri g I’ve chosen from Tiffany’s was $ 57k

Lmao

How was I supposed to know? I haven’t been to Tiffany’s before...

🤦‍♀️

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LOL. Btw why engagement rings are so expeeeensive? He took me to Tiff and I was like “you know what? Let’s get my mom to make the ring for us” lmao.

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Posted by DMV

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

LOL. He hasn’t proposed to me yet. Still waiting. We’ve been together for only 8 months tho. He spent more than 4 yrs with his ex but never did the same thing for her. He admitted that he was not sure about her. He said that he sees me as wife material and I’m the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤷‍♀️

Look, u don't know what went on between him and his ex. Only they do. He can say whatever to appease you but only they know.

The fact that she is still the topic if discussion is cause 4 concern.

She’s out of the picture now. We’ve stopped talking about her. I’m trying to be positive and get her out of my mind.

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Good move.

Posted by Araujo97

Is he water dom?

Earth dom

Posted by Arielle83

I hope he doesn’t marry you.

You sound like a manipulative bitch.

Too bad. He loves this manipulative bitch 🤷‍♀️

Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

my answer to this is you are 22.

my answer to this is you are 22.

I’m Asian. It is common to get married at my age. But yeah, we take it into consideration and he’d like to wait for a couple years. Things happened and suddenly he asked me to marry him.

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Posted by Arielle83

I hope he doesn’t marry you.

You sound like a manipulative bitch.

Too bad. He loves this manipulative bitch 🤷‍♀️

He’s going to be talking to his ex, every time you demand what he can and can’t do.

She had 48 months, and you just have 8 months, so they will be friends.

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His ex hurt him very bad when they were friends after the breakup. He’s been ignoring her for a year while she was trying to reach out to him and she wiuld never give up. I thought he was being immature by ignoring her and I asked him to talk to her nicely, explain the reason and cut her off. He gotta be an adult and stop wasting peoples time.

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Posted by Arielle83

I hope he doesn’t marry you.

You sound like a manipulative bitch.

Too bad. He loves this manipulative bitch 🤷‍♀️

He’s going to be talking to his ex, every time you demand what he can and can’t do.

She had 48 months, and you just have 8 months, so they will be friends.

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So no, they’re not being friends anymore. I’m being friends with my ex too and I’m totally cool with the idea. But she treated my bf like shit. Get lost.

Posted by CancaGal

my answer to this is you are 22.

I’m Asian. It is common to get married at my age. But yeah, we take it into consideration and he’d like to wait for a couple years. Things happened and suddenly he asked me to marry him.

not in South Korea.

don't generalize lol

Posted by snowballer

If he didn't buy you a ring, he probably won't. He'll probably act like this never happened in a week or two lol. Taurus people talk but rarely ever do. You have to do way more drastic shit to disrupt their comfort zone if you want them to move. Like I left to a different state. Get pregnant or something.

Haha thanks for the ideas. I’m actually moving to another country next year and he knows that he needs to make the decision before I leave

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He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by CancaGal

Posted by Gemitati

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

He’s 31. Yeah he’s a crying baby. He cried because I was guarded up and leaving him.

Do you like see maybe future father of your children...cry? 🤮

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What's wrong with a man crying now and then? Everyone has tears inside of them 😔

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Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to you

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

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Isn’t Eq emotional intelligence? I don’t think she meant she smarter than him.

Don’t marry him! U have doubts. Marriage is supposed to be until death do us part. He’s not your person.

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Posted by CancaGal

my answer to this is you are 22.

I’m Asian. It is common to get married at my age. But yeah, we take it into consideration and he’d like to wait for a couple years. Things happened and suddenly he asked me to marry him.

not in South Korea.

don't generalize lol

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Not in Singapore or Malaysia either. At least not in the more affluent Asian countries.

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He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to you

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

Isn’t Eq emotional intelligence? I don’t think she meant she smarter than him.

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the clue is in the name. smarter than him emotionally...

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Posted by jeane

Posted by bkbella86

Posted by jeane

Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to you

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

Isn’t Eq emotional intelligence? I don’t think she meant she smarter than him.

the clue is in the name. smarter than him emotionally...

Why cuz cancer? If that’s the case, she hasn’t evolved past the manipulative state.

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no, just because she said her eq is higher than him ie her emotional intelligence.

i mean come on, we all know we were at our smartest when we were 22. after that it's all downhill.

Posted by SlipperySlope

You gonna say no based on the circumstances in which he asked you?

I won’t say no if he ask me again when he’s happy. I mean in a better situation.

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Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

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I’ve known him more than 1 year. I know, it’s not long enough. I’m not telling him who he can/ cannot speak to. But I won’t let him speak to someone who says things like “tomorrow is our Valentines”. I’m not saying I’m smarter than him, I’m saying that I’m more sensitive than him. And I don’t think that he is not good enough for me, otherwise I’d have dumped him. Don’t be overthinking about my words.

Posted by pinkbird03

Don’t marry him! U have doubts. Marriage is supposed to be until death do us part. He’s not your person.

We will wait until we feel better. We need time to heal after all of this. We will try to work things out, not just toss it in the trash.

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Posted by CancaGal

my answer to this is you are 22.

I’m Asian. It is common to get married at my age. But yeah, we take it into consideration and he’d like to wait for a couple years. Things happened and suddenly he asked me to marry him.

not in South Korea.

don't generalize lol

Not in Singapore or Malaysia either. At least not in the more affluent Asian countries.

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Ok sorry for the generalisation. Just didn’t want to reveal my background.

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Posted by DMV

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

LOL. He hasn’t proposed to me yet. Still waiting. We’ve been together for only 8 months tho. He spent more than 4 yrs with his ex but never did the same thing for her. He admitted that he was not sure about her. He said that he sees me as wife material and I’m the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤷‍♀️

Look, u don't know what went on between him and his ex. Only they do. He can say whatever to appease you but only they know.

The fact that she is still the topic if discussion is cause 4 concern.

She’s out of the picture now. We’ve stopped talking about her. I’m trying to be positive and get her out of my mind.

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Research "Fear based motives"

Cause he's only proposing out of fear.

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Posted by DMV

Damn I was all ready to say congratulations.

LOL. He hasn’t proposed to me yet. Still waiting. We’ve been together for only 8 months tho. He spent more than 4 yrs with his ex but never did the same thing for her. He admitted that he was not sure about her. He said that he sees me as wife material and I’m the one that he wants to spend the rest of his life with 🤷‍♀️

Look, u don't know what went on between him and his ex. Only they do. He can say whatever to appease you but only they know.

The fact that she is still the topic if discussion is cause 4 concern.

She’s out of the picture now. We’ve stopped talking about her. I’m trying to be positive and get her out of my mind.

Research "Fear based motives"

Cause he's only proposing out of fear.

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Thanks. I’ll look it up.

That’s what I concern about. But everything is better now.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to you

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

Isn’t Eq emotional intelligence? I don’t think she meant she smarter than him.

the clue is in the name. smarter than him emotionally...

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Maybe she is

I didn’t sound like she was putting him down.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

I’ve known him more than 1 year. I know, it’s not long enough. I’m not telling him who he can/ cannot speak to. But I won’t let him speak to someone who says things like “tomorrow is our Valentines”. I’m not saying I’m smarter than him, I’m saying that I’m more sensitive than him. And I don’t think that he is not good enough for me, otherwise I’d have dumped him. Don’t be overthinking about my words.

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not a whole year?! you've known him for that long? amazing.

"I’m not telling him who he can/ cannot speak to. But I won’t let him speak to someone who says things like “tomorrow is our Valentines”."

read that sentence again.

you said that you deserve better. you said he is not considerate. you said he is immature and he needs to act like an adult.

really, listen to the way you speak about him. you do think you are better than him.

these thoughts would never even enter my mind when talking about my partner, let alone type them out without shame.

don't blame me for what you see when a mirror is held up.

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Posted by Gemitati

I was stupid when I was 22.

I can’t judge.

How old is ‘ex having’ man in question?

Also crying man is...naah.

Though lots of women here love crying men...

If I saw my men crying...it’s better be due to allergies or shit...

Why did he cry?

He’s 31. Yeah he’s a crying baby. He cried because I was guarded up and leaving him.

Do you like see maybe future father of your children...cry? 🤮

What's wrong with a man crying now and then? Everyone has tears inside of them 😔

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Man has tears inside of him...man hide in a bathroom and come out as if he was practicing stand up comedy routine! 💪

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my answer to this is you are 22.

I’m Asian. It is common to get married at my age. But yeah, we take it into consideration and he’d like to wait for a couple years. Things happened and suddenly he asked me to marry him.

not in South Korea.

don't generalize lol

Not in Singapore or Malaysia either. At least not in the more affluent Asian countries.

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Malaysia isn't affluent though but yeah

Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

am a taurus man but didn't read thread and not sure what insight you're looking for....all sounds very familiar to me though wrt my views on and hesitance around marriage in general, my 1st marriage to a Cancer and how she wasn't having any of my friendships with exes or any females really....I was always impressed with how easily all the Cancers I've been with controlled me with their emotions....In some ways, it was actually very healthy for me and our relationships IMO...

on a practical note, I think its best though, if you're going to propose, to get tons of input on the ring from your partner (e.g. exactly what they want), take them to look at it/pick it out beforehand, etc., as he seems to be doing...I don't think marriage should involve elements of surprise, save for maybe the exact timing of the proposal. Its not a birthday party but a lifelong commitment in theory, almost all aspects of which should be discussed and agreed upon...plus you have to wear the thing, and I've seen some dudes make some really tacky/horrible choices there when left to their own devices....

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Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

am a taurus man but didn't read thread and not sure what insight you're looking for....all sounds very familiar to me though wrt my views on and hesitance around marriage in general, my 1st marriage to a Cancer and how she wasn't having any of my friendships with exes or any females really....I was always impressed with how easily all the Cancers I've been with controlled me with their emotions....In some ways, it was actually very healthy for me and our relationships IMO...

on a practical note, I think its best though, if you're going to propose, to get tons of input on the ring from your partner (e.g. exactly what they want), take them to look at it/pick it out beforehand, etc., as he seems to be doing...I don't think marriage should involve elements of surprise, save for maybe the exact timing of the proposal. Its not a birthday party but a lifelong commitment in theory, almost all aspects of which should be discussed and agreed upon...plus you have to wear the thing, and I've seen some dudes make some really tacky/horrible choices there when left to their own devices....

How did it go with the cancer wife and the controlling?

I'm getting hostile takeover vibes from this whole thread.

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lolol...hostile takeover might be the best way to describe it....she was super demanding/temperamental (Aries Moon/Leo Venus)....she gave me an ultimatum on marrying her - basically she was moving and if I didn't propose, we'd have to part ways....It didn't last but we were just incompatible in so many other ways...

as for positive aspects of the controlling, which I know sounds off, I guess it helped me to have some oversight/accountability with my relationships with other women and also drug/alcohol use - most sober I've been in both regards...She just wasn't having it, e.g., at the time we were engaged, one of her former close female friends and roommate (now more of a rival), was one of my closest friends....very beautiful girl, we used to go out a lot...lots of dinner "dates", saw my first play with her, she spent the night several times. I never fooled around with her and didn't even allow my thoughts to go there, bc I respected her so much, but at the end of the day, that risk was always there. I idealized the hell out of this girl and our friendship. I'm sure that may have complicated things when I hit hard times with the Cancer, if I kept that friendship going, and on some level it did feel inappropriate....The girl was fairly negative about the Cancer whenever she came up, basically an enemy, so I felt I did have to choose sides....still feels like a shitty thing to do, but I also know I wouldn't be cool if the Cancer had the same thing going on with a dude....

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Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

am a taurus man but didn't read thread and not sure what insight you're looking for....all sounds very familiar to me though wrt my views on and hesitance around marriage in general, my 1st marriage to a Cancer and how she wasn't having any of my friendships with exes or any females really....I was always impressed with how easily all the Cancers I've been with controlled me with their emotions....In some ways, it was actually very healthy for me and our relationships IMO...

on a practical note, I think its best though, if you're going to propose, to get tons of input on the ring from your partner (e.g. exactly what they want), take them to look at it/pick it out beforehand, etc., as he seems to be doing...I don't think marriage should involve elements of surprise, save for maybe the exact timing of the proposal. Its not a birthday party but a lifelong commitment in theory, almost all aspects of which should be discussed and agreed upon...plus you have to wear the thing, and I've seen some dudes make some really tacky/horrible choices there when left to their own devices....

How did it go with the cancer wife and the controlling?

I'm getting hostile takeover vibes from this whole thread.

lolol...hostile takeover might be the best way to describe it....she was super demanding/temperamental (Aries Moon/Leo Venus)....she gave me an ultimatum on marrying her - basically she was moving and if I didn't propose, we'd have to part ways....It didn't last but we were just incompatible in so many other ways...

as for positive aspects of the controlling, which I know sounds off, I guess it helped me to have some oversight/accountability with my relationships with other women and also drug/alcohol use - most sober I've been in both regards...She just wasn't having it, e.g., at the time we were engaged, one of her former close female friends and roommate (now more of a rival), was one of my closest friends....very beautiful girl, we used to go out a lot...lots of dinner "dates", saw my first play with her, she spent the night several times. I never fooled around with her and didn't even allow my thoughts to go there, bc I respected her so much, but at the end of the day, that risk was always there. I idealized the hell out of this girl and our friendship. I'm sure that may have complicated things when I hit hard times with the Cancer, if I kept that friendship going, and on some level it did feel inappropriate....The girl was fairly negative about the Cancer whenever she came up, basically an enemy, so I felt I did have to choose sides....still feels like a shitty thing to do, but I also know I wouldn't be cool if the Cancer had the same thing going on with a dude....

What was the "friend's" 😉 jk sign?

I swear, if you say scorpio....

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aaaaaaaahahah!!! so I wish I was more into astro during that time period. I never did her chart though I did know about charts at that time. She was on the Aries/Taurus cusp, on the Taurus side - I think the very first day of Taurus....which makes sense given how we loved going out to eat together, and how comfortable I felt around her. Aries chicks tend to make me a bit anxious...she wasn't boring at all though; she kinda forced me out of my own shell a bit...

some dumb bulls are ok just being led around by the nosering

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Posted by CancaGal

He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

am a taurus man but didn't read thread and not sure what insight you're looking for....all sounds very familiar to me though wrt my views on and hesitance around marriage in general, my 1st marriage to a Cancer and how she wasn't having any of my friendships with exes or any females really....I was always impressed with how easily all the Cancers I've been with controlled me with their emotions....In some ways, it was actually very healthy for me and our relationships IMO...

on a practical note, I think its best though, if you're going to propose, to get tons of input on the ring from your partner (e.g. exactly what they want), take them to look at it/pick it out beforehand, etc., as he seems to be doing...I don't think marriage should involve elements of surprise, save for maybe the exact timing of the proposal. Its not a birthday party but a lifelong commitment in theory, almost all aspects of which should be discussed and agreed upon...plus you have to wear the thing, and I've seen some dudes make some really tacky/horrible choices there when left to their own devices....

How did it go with the cancer wife and the controlling?

I'm getting hostile takeover vibes from this whole thread.

lolol...hostile takeover might be the best way to describe it....she was super demanding/temperamental (Aries Moon/Leo Venus)....she gave me an ultimatum on marrying her - basically she was moving and if I didn't propose, we'd have to part ways....It didn't last but we were just incompatible in so many other ways...

as for positive aspects of the controlling, which I know sounds off, I guess it helped me to have some oversight/accountability with my relationships with other women and also drug/alcohol use - most sober I've been in both regards...She just wasn't having it, e.g., at the time we were engaged, one of her former close female friends and roommate (now more of a rival), was one of my closest friends....very beautiful girl, we used to go out a lot...lots of dinner "dates", saw my first play with her, she spent the night several times. I never fooled around with her and didn't even allow my thoughts to go there, bc I respected her so much, but at the end of the day, that risk was always there. I idealized the hell out of this girl and our friendship. I'm sure that may have complicated things when I hit hard times with the Cancer, if I kept that friendship going, and on some level it did feel inappropriate....The girl was fairly negative about the Cancer whenever she came up, basically an enemy, so I felt I did have to choose sides....still feels like a shitty thing to do, but I also know I wouldn't be cool if the Cancer had the same thing going on with a dude....

What was the "friend's" 😉 jk sign?

I swear, if you say scorpio....

aaaaaaaahahah!!! so I wish I was more into astro during that time period. I never did her chart though I did know about charts at that time. She was on the Aries/Taurus cusp, on the Taurus side - I think the very first day of Taurus....which makes sense given how we loved going out to eat together, and how comfortable I felt around her. Aries chicks tend to make me a bit anxious...she wasn't boring at all though; she kinda forced me out of my own shell a bit...

April taurus is the best... it's like an actual cow: you get the horns at the beginning and the other end is where the poop is.. jfwu 😜 good to see ya on here, my udder-brudder! Are you guys still friends?

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lol I know I know....every time I start to feel the least bit proud of being a May Taurus, I have a vision of that Araujo dude standing with Al Pacino, Jack Nicholson, and Jeffrey Dean Morgan - all of them pointing and laughing at me....

good to see you as well...we are not still friends...the closest I ever got to finding her was through some pics of her out with mutual friends on FB after divorcing the Cancer...I never seriously inquired though; too embarrassed after ghosting pretty hard like that...have some really fond memories though....

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He said that after we had a big argument about his ex. His ex was so annoying and I told him to cut her off. He did it, but poorly worded. He said something like “not ready to be friend” and “for a while” to her, and I was not happy with it. I wanted to break up with him, I thought that he was waiting my time. He cried and said that he would marry me so that I can’t leave him. He did call my parents to ask for the permission to marry me and took me to the jewelry shop to have a look at the engagement ring.

I’m confused. I do want to marry him, but I think I deserve better. I deserve to be asked when he’s happy, not when he messes shit up. Have told him that I want him to marry me because he truly loves me but not for keeping me around. He said he thought they are the same thing.

Guess my EQ is higher than him. Need some insight from you bulls

omg! congratulations! that is brilliant news.

you've known him for 8 months.

you're telling him who he can and cannot speak to

he proposed when he felt under pressure and in a state of fear

you think that you are smarter and more mature than him

you think that he is not good enough for you

mazel tov! it's going to be great.

I’ve known him more than 1 year. I know, it’s not long enough. I’m not telling him who he can/ cannot speak to. But I won’t let him speak to someone who says things like “tomorrow is our Valentines”. I’m not saying I’m smarter than him, I’m saying that I’m more sensitive than him. And I don’t think that he is not good enough for me, otherwise I’d have dumped him. Don’t be overthinking about my words.

not a whole year?! you've known him for that long? amazing.

" I’m not telling him who he can/ cannot speak to. But I won’t let him speak to someone who says things like “tomorrow is our Valentines”."

read that sentence again.

you said that you deserve better. you said he is not considerate. you said he is immature and he needs to act like an adult.

really, listen to the way you speak about him. you do think you are better than him.

these thoughts would never even enter my mind when talking about my partner, let alone type them out without shame.

don't blame me for what you see when a mirror is held up.

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" I’m not telling him who he can/ cannot speak to. But I won’t let him speak to someone who says things like “tomorrow is our Valentines”."

-> I’m a Cancer. I don’t like threats. And friends don’t say things like what she says. And I don’t need to explain what happened between them for you to understand the reason why she needs to get lost. And she’s not his only female friends.

-> I deserve better, as being a girl being asked by her lover to marry him, I deserve to be asked in a better situation. I deserve to be asked with a smile, not tears. You may okay with tears, but I know that if he did it out of fear, it wouldn’t last.

-> And yes, he is not considerate. What’s wrong with me telling the truth here? He worn the undies she bought him, kept the “Pretty Girl” in his phone (I had a post about this couple months ago), and even he admitted it. He was immature when he didn’t want to talk to his ex because she hurt him so bad, but instead of talking it out, he’d ignored her for a quite long time. I don’t like her, true. But I don’t like it when my bf treating people like that. Balls up and tell her that he doesn’t want to be friends anymore and stop wasting her time and efforts.

-> “immature” and “act like adult” is what he used when he talked to his ex. My demand was “keep things black and white. You want to be friends again, go tell her that she hurt you and you need her apology. You don’t wanna be friends, go explain the reason to her and cut her off.”

-> We are different. You’re fine with something doesn’t mean that I’m fine with it too. His friendship be him and his ex was over for a long time, before we got together. In my mind, if it’s over, let it go. He ignoring to me is like he’s keeping her there.