Aqua Woman/ Cancer man

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Guys please help me. Like I’m begging. I’m an Aquarius sun/Gemini moon, he’s a cancer sun/Taurus moon. I feel so alone and misunderstood and I’m hoping someone can give me some kind of insight or advice. We were best friends for 3 years before dating. I chased him, was in love with him starting months after I met him, bent over backwards and did everything for himself nd was his rock. he was in a 3 year long relationship with a Gemini. They broke up and even though I knew he had feelings for me, we didn’t get together until about 2 years later(after a short fling with one of his friends who was treating me like shit). Now we have been together for almost 2 years. We have almost never spent a night apart and that’s weird for me because I love being along and hanging out by myself so I feel suffocated. Our sex life has never been amazing and it’s usually at least a month in between us connecting physically even though we are 22 and 24. We fight all the time and I feel like there isn’t enough room in our relationship for me to show emotions because he is so emotional all the time. Please help me. Is this a sinking ship or should I try to salvage it? Thanks in advance
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Don’t try to savage something that’s doomed to fail.

I personally wouldn’t date a Crab 🦀 too emotional, clingy, moody, and soft for my taste. You being a Gem moon I’m sure you know that it’s a moody placement so having a Cancer on board —— it’s 💀🔫
It's a life of silent treatments and walking on eggshells. It gets exhausting in just friendship. I can't imagine a relationship. LOL.
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Aquas are fixed like Leo. We don't leave when we should and die slowly on the inside because the other person doesn't let us go. Eventually we cut the cord but it's always past the expiry date. It's the curse of the fixed signs.

Is there more that makes you happy or sad in the situation you're in with this person? Can you waste 5, 10 or 20 more years with him?
Very true, Leo and Scorpio know how to weather relationship ups and downs

In the past my Leo and Scorpio friends stayed at a cost to themselves. Now one of them doesnt date at all because he's afraid that loyalty will trap him again

They stay in relationships they hate like it's their duty.

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Truer words were never spoken about Aqua. I was extremely unhappy with my ex, but I stayed with him, fully loyal and committed, out of duty. Meanwhile, that asshole couldn't handle the unhappiness and cheated.
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Don’t try to savage something that’s doomed to fail.

I personally wouldn’t date a Crab 🦀 too emotional, clingy, moody, and soft for my taste. You being a Gem moon I’m sure you know that it’s a moody placement so having a Cancer on board —— it’s 💀🔫
It's a life of silent treatments and walking on eggshells. It gets exhausting in just friendship. I can't imagine a relationship. LOL.


Couldn't have said it better. A "relative/friend" of mine was like this. I always had to keep my mouth shut to avoid making it into a bigger thing. So I would give her silent treatments and would be wary of what I would say to avoid a confrontation.

She held no reservations though. Anything that bothered her, to the fact that I never told her I was pregnant to the fact that my family and I were private, she always had something to say. Very confrontational at all times. If it wasn't with me, it was with someone else in her life. Like she kept us on rotation or something.

Finally cut her lose this last summer when she hit passive aggressive remarks at me and accused me of stealing her used hygienic products. Instead of fighting I just gave her the cold shoulder and never spoke to her. She became invisible to me. She of course, tried to get my attention in other ways but I wasn't responding favorably until she finally became pissy. She won't even let her husband and my hubby stay around too long (despite being brothers) just because of me.

One thing I can't stand about Cancers is their passive aggressiveness - it only encourages my silent treatment. If she were to come at me head on, I'd just put her in her place and get it over with. But they rather walk side ways and use those pincers to incite an emotional reaction. Which I find intolerable.
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Spot on! I can’t stand passive aggressiveness and underhanded jabs. It’s like if you’re gonna come at me, do it straightforward or go home because I don’t have time nor do I care to dissect the inner meaning to your indirect, circuitous comments. I don’t understand people who can’t be direct in conversation and make a riddle out of what they utter.
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Don’t try to savage something that’s doomed to fail.

I personally wouldn’t date a Crab 🦀 too emotional, clingy, moody, and soft for my taste. You being a Gem moon I’m sure you know that it’s a moody placement so having a Cancer on board —— it’s 💀🔫
It's a life of silent treatments and walking on eggshells. It gets exhausting in just friendship. I can't imagine a relationship. LOL.


Couldn't have said it better. A "relative/friend" of mine was like this. I always had to keep my mouth shut to avoid making it into a bigger thing. So I would give her silent treatments and would be wary of what I would say to avoid a confrontation.

She held no reservations though. Anything that bothered her, to the fact that I never told her I was pregnant to the fact that my family and I were private, she always had something to say. Very confrontational at all times. If it wasn't with me, it was with someone else in her life. Like she kept us on rotation or something.

Finally cut her lose this last summer when she hit passive aggressive remarks at me and accused me of stealing her used hygienic products. Instead of fighting I just gave her the cold shoulder and never spoke to her. She became invisible to me. She of course, tried to get my attention in other ways but I wasn't responding favorably until she finally became pissy. She won't even let her husband and my hubby stay around too long (despite being brothers) just because of me.

One thing I can't stand about Cancers is their passive aggressiveness - it only encourages my silent treatment. If she were to come at me head on, I'd just put her in her place and get it over with. But they rather walk side ways and use those pincers to incite an emotional reaction. Which I find intolerable.
Spot on! I can’t stand passive aggressiveness and underhanded jabs. It’s like if you’re gonna come at me, do it straightforward or go home because I don’t have time nor do I care to dissect the inner meaning to your indirect, circuitous comments. I don’t understand people who can’t be direct in conversation and make a riddle out of what they utter.


I feel like this happens a lot with me. does that happen to you too? People always tell me I'm intimidating. Even my Aries tells me I can be a force to be reckoned with when angry, but I don't like to get to those extremes and I'd rather ignore you. For some reason it just makes other people try even harder to get my attention by saying crappy things or trying to gauge my feelings; in particular Cancer, Taurus, Scorpio and Libra suns/mooners. ----- PASSIVE AGGReSsiVE ASSS CRRRAAAP....

I think that's why I appreciate Aries, Gemini, and Caps. They're not afraid to call it how it is. And when all is said and done - things go back to normal.
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No, it doesn’t happen to me all the time because I just cut off people like that. I love my solitude. Can’t be bothered with people like that. I keep Aries, Gems, Caps and Scorps in my inner circle.

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Come on now, you're an aqua. Tell him fuk you and be out.

Cancer men seem as though they have a personal vendetta against aqua women. I always find that they are attracted to me, but that's as far as it goes.

I cut them off as soon as they start the bs. I told the last one who was interested in me that he was 80% sadistic and 20% masochistic.

They bate you in, by doing so much for you and being at your beck and call, but aquarius are so independent it seems to turn them off. We don't take advantage of their "kindness" so they assume we're weak. Idk. I wish I could ask one what's the problem.

Anyway, leave him. It will not get better.

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I've always gotten along well with Cancer peeps, men and woman. For me personally it's about finding balance with the relationship, regardless of everyone's birth sign.

OP, besides the lack or good sex or lack of sex in general, what else is wrong with your relationship? Typically for most Aquas you need that solid connection to feel that sexy time spark, for the partners you are with.. at least that seems to be the trend. So I'm thinking there are underling issues involved, have you spoken to him about the lack of intimate time?

I'm also confused with your timeline.. you chased him for 3 years when he was in a relationship? then put him on old for 2 years? and have been together now 2? so that's like 7 years. and you are 22/24?
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Aquas are fixed like Leo. We don't leave when we should and die slowly on the inside because the other person doesn't let us go. Eventually we cut the cord but it's always past the expiry date. It's the curse of the fixed signs.

Is there more that makes you happy or sad in the situation you're in with this person? Can you waste 5, 10 or 20 more years with him?
Very true, Leo and Scorpio know how to weather relationship ups and downs

In the past my Leo and Scorpio friends stayed at a cost to themselves. Now one of them doesnt date at all because he's afraid that loyalty will trap him again

I think Aquarius is worse. They seem detatched but they're nicer than Leo and Scorp. They stay in relationships they hate like it's their duty. Leo does it because they hold onto a shred of hope that they can relight the spark that's gone. Im not sure about Scorp but they seem to stay because they aren't sure if they will find someone better. We do the same thing but for different reasons.

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are we talking women or men?

men and women differ in relationships.

i can tell from three scorpio sun males in my life, distant and close that they are wayyy different than the female scorpio suns. and im really really sure of male leo suns but leo sun females ..they are loyal and stick to one man for life. I just know two personally right now, that i we have seen often, our aunty who is with a pisces and leo sun neighbor lady who is with a virgo male. lol

the male scorpio suns stick with one woman and dont bother with other women cause they focus on their work. lol they dont have time for that relationship stuff. to be honest. this is just real life, not online here on dxp.
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Guys please help me. Like I’m begging. I’m an Aquarius sun/Gemini moon, he’s a cancer sun/Taurus moon. I feel so alone and misunderstood and I’m hoping someone can give me some kind of insight or advice. We were best friends for 3 years before dating. I chased him, was in love with him starting months after I met him, bent over backwards and did everything for himself nd was his rock. he was in a 3 year long relationship with a Gemini. They broke up and even though I knew he had feelings for me, we didn’t get together until about 2 years later(after a short fling with one of his friends who was treating me like shit). Now we have been together for almost 2 years. We have almost never spent a night apart and that’s weird for me because I love being along and hanging out by myself so I feel suffocated. Our sex life has never been amazing and it’s usually at least a month in between us connecting physically even though we are 22 and 24. We fight all the time and I feel like there isn’t enough room in our relationship for me to show emotions because he is so emotional all the time. Please help me. Is this a sinking ship or should I try to salvage it? Thanks in advance
what's the rest of your chart?

cause unless he got gemini venus. gemini mars or gem venus, aqua mars, ect you're gonna be bored.

and you fight all the time is not good.