Pay VERY close attention to how he reacts when you do. That will give you the answer you're looking for.
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Posted by sultrykittyI will. I'll give y'all an update as well. I just feel so shitty. All of my feelings and emotions have to ruin things. 😢Posted by Chelsey07Pay VERY close attention to how he reacts when you do. That will give you the answer you're looking for.Posted by sultrykitty
I don't think he thinks you're a hoe (Aquas don't generally judge like that), but just that you're a girl he sleeps with, and who might sleep with other guys. That probably doesn't bother him, but it doesn't set you apart or make you more special than anyone else.
If that's what you're after then great. But if you think you might be working up to something, if even eventually, chances are low.
Aquas are dichotomies. They seem progressive and egalitarian, but it's really just in theory. For themselves and the women they eventually end up with, the rules are pretty much old fashioned.
I'm going to be honest with him and end it. Why do I have to have emotions? 😢
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Posted by infiresI think you're right. I don't think he sees this going any further than sex. Besides, we're way too different.Posted by Chelsey07Nah I don't think it's being a hoe, since he agreed to it, technically he would also be a hoe.Posted by infires
if he is a fuck buddy why would it matter, if feelings aren't involved. Unless you are starting to have feelings for him. it's easier for him to come around if you are dating, but it should not matter since you are not
Aquas have temper, so just leave him alone for now. then just be normal and cheerful, make him happy
I would be lying to myself if I said that I wasn't starting to have feelings for him and that's why I think it'll be for the best if I end it. I'm not made out to have a fuck buddy. That, and I don't want him or anyone to think I'm a hoe.
I think generally people dont like it when you dont value their time..
But for now it's probably better to find a bf before you get too attached to him, unless you can see this going anywhere
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Posted by DwellingOnMove
"I'm not going to say that I caught feelings because I haven't. I just like the sex. "
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"I would be lying to myself if I said that I wasn't starting to have feelings for him "
Listen, do two things for me:
- don't swing with opinions on this forum.
- don't end this cause you are feeling bad.
Use this situation to show yourself and the universe that you are able to have overview. that you know and respect your golas. that it needs more than one incidence that you say, "that was it". enjoy the time with that boy. find strength in yourself to do things out of stamina instead of impulsivity. as a fire sign you'll have time of your life to act upon impulses. Have stamina for once. Leave him in one month.
I never thought about it that way. I do still want to let him know about my emotions, but I feel like that's gonna make things super weird.
Posted by Chelsey07You will drive him away with this.Posted by aquanibPosted by Chelsey07IMO he is most worried that you're not trying to goad him into a relationship through the back end (fwb arrangement).
True. I just don't want him to feel like I'm annoying or clingy. And yeah, it is a little fast to make assumptions, but that first time left a really good impression on me. I'll be honest with him and more than likely, he's going to tell me the same things again, but it's worth a try
In his mind he is probably " Ou yeeee, i got me a swaggy saggy lady, sex is da bomb and the best thing is that's all she wants" then ding dong at 3 AM 😆
I can't deal with you!!! That's how I really am though. I want it when I want it. And it just happened to be 3AM when I wanted him 😉.
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Posted by justagirlI'm aware.Posted by Chelsey07You will drive him away with this.Posted by aquanibPosted by Chelsey07IMO he is most worried that you're not trying to goad him into a relationship through the back end (fwb arrangement).
True. I just don't want him to feel like I'm annoying or clingy. And yeah, it is a little fast to make assumptions, but that first time left a really good impression on me. I'll be honest with him and more than likely, he's going to tell me the same things again, but it's worth a try
In his mind he is probably " Ou yeeee, i got me a swaggy saggy lady, sex is da bomb and the best thing is that's all she wants" then ding dong at 3 AM 😆
I can't deal with you!!! That's how I really am though. I want it when I want it. And it just happened to be 3AM when I wanted him 😉.
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Posted by tiziani
You may have to dial it down in future and take an "overview" as was said.
Look at it honestly: what are the odds that someone was upset/annoyed for an ENTIRE night just because of you? Very unlikely.
Throughout this whole thread you've been worried about how you come across and that's going to trip you up more than any sex-related issues. Need more chill, and take things less personally. Try to think more about the other person and how little their problems have to do with you really. It'll make it easier for you to be the kind of person they want to spend time with again.
You are so right! I am too hard on myself and he even said that himself. That's my good ole Cancer moon for ya *rolls eyes*
Posted by DwellingOnMoveGod I'm so conflicted 😢.I'm gonna leave him alone. If he notices, great. If he doesn't, lesson learned.Posted by infiresPosted by DwellingOnMoveAgree but disagree, without commitment she does not know what's coming next. He could agree to be in a relationship or he could reject it, if she has feelings.. this can cause heart break..I sense op is developing feelings
... Have stamina for once. ...
When I look at real life: even with commitment you don't know what comes next.
somebody said she'd lose time and energy to find an appropriate relationship. what I have observed in the last years is: being serious (and majority of women including me have always been serious about finding the appropriate commitment) makes people tired and hopeless. so they turn to fwb in order not to forget what intimacy was btw. now losing hope on fwb is even worse. this is like losing confidence in if we know at all what we know.
I think she should not talk about anything at all. with him. or with us.
she should find herself and what she has learned. through time. and what she has. inner strength is the most attractive thing about women.
plus enjoying the now for a while.
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I'm gonna leave him alone. I need time to get myself together.
Posted by Mandy27Posted by Chelsey07Just apologize and move forward. Lesson learned he was annoyed by it obviously.
So, I met an Aquarius man who ended up becoming my fuck buddy. We hit it off immediately as we were obviously both attracted to each other and the vibe/conversation flowed so easily.
The first time I went to his place, he was really sweet and funny and just easy going. The sex was great, the conversation was natural and then we went our separate ways until next time.
The next time I came over, he seemed annoyed with me but it was mostly because I came over at 3AM and he was asleep. I apologized to him and he snapped and said "I don't mind you coming over. I like when you come over, but you're blowing up my phone and coming here super late and shit. It's annoying. You know I wouldn't blow up your phone like that. I'd text you first." I told him that he was right and he told me it was okay, but I could still feel the tension between us. It was so terribly awkward when we went to sleep.
When we got up that morning, I could tell that he was angry and I had a feeling that it had to do with me, so I asked him what was wrong and he gave me some pissy excuse about being upset about doing laundry. I still didn't think that's what it was, but I let it go. I most definitely knew that it was me because he usually walks me to the door and gives me a hug when I leave, but he didn't do that this time. He continued what he was doing and I yelled out that I was leaving and he just yelled back "alright bye!". No hug or anything.
We usually get together every weekend, but I'm thinking about letting him have time to himself, but I know he's going to ask me why don't I want to come over. So should I be honest with him or just say that I'm busy?click to expand
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Posted by Chelsey07Pillowfalks after sex for a fwb ? Yike lol. Even I don't do that, crazy n romantic talks before, amazing sex then sleep... haha .. I'm a bit like a man like that..Posted by -Flo-True. I don't *think* I'm laying my heart out on my sleeve, but the pillow talk afterwards is what's having me conflicted. It's not just random chit chat...we talk about how our week was, the things going on in our lives, and in his case his kids. The last time I was over, he was telling me about his daughter and my heart melted a little hearing how involved he is in her life.Posted by Chelsey07You can Still meet him up for the D but don't lay your heart on your sleeves for him, it's not worth it if he just wants sex. Know how to find balance so your not heart broken in the end.Posted by -Flo-Posted by Chelsey07Amen to that, getting cute ain't fast and easy.. lolPosted by -Flo-
That cancer moon and Scorpio Venus will soon make you clingy enough, you sound dickmatized.. as for the aqua man he will drop you in a heart beat if you keep that up and he won't look back.
Here's an ex;
How do you feel about him having more than one fuck buddy? This includes you.
I'm an aqua woman
Basically if we agreed on only fwb, I'll fix my word on it and live my own life. I had to drop a Pisces recently cuz he got crazy clingy on me, thank goodness I didn't sleep with him. So it makes sense that he was irritated with you, damn 3am?!
We talked about that (in reference to having more than 1 fuck buddy) and I told him that we should tell each other if we're sleeping with other people. He was fine with it and said something like: "I have no reason to lie to you. It's not like we're in a committed relationship or anything."
I told him that I said that because there's too much going around not because I thought that he was my man and I'm his girl or something.
And yeah, I didn't originally just wake up and think "it's 3AM and I want him" it was more so like 1AM when he asked me if I was coming by and I said yeah, but it takes me forever to get ready so 1 turns to 2, 2 turns to 3 and viola!
I'm telling you this because some aqua men tend to be a bit colder than aqua women. So this is to watch out for putting yourself out there too much for a fuck buddy. If push comes to shove, that guy has the tendency to become an ice king on you. Just ghost, no explanation, no apology.. he will just leave. Aqua men work on their terms, and at times they don't care who they hurt, being very blunt as well. This is a man who's ego is internal but definitely there, secretly he thinks he's the shit regardless of admitting his insecurities to you. Our confidence comes out in actions not always words.
You're right. I know for a fact that he's gonna want me to come by this weekend, but I'm gonna decline. Besides, the responses I'm getting are killing my horniness. Keep it up y'all 😄
But nonetheless, I'm going to chill out and put the ball back in his court.
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Posted by tizianiDisagree! You come over at 3 am and wake my ass up, I will be pissed all night! I need my sleep! Even if you dicked me good, I'd still be upset lmao
You may have to dial it down in future and take an "overview" as was said.
Look at it honestly: what are the odds that someone was upset/annoyed for an ENTIRE night just because of you? Very unlikely.
Posted by saweetz1988Posted by Chelsey07Pillowfalks after sex for a fwb ? Yike lol. Even I don't do that, crazy n romantic talks before, amazing sex then sleep... haha .. I'm a bit like a man like that..Posted by -Flo-True. I don't *think* I'm laying my heart out on my sleeve, but the pillow talk afterwards is what's having me conflicted. It's not just random chit chat...we talk about how our week was, the things going on in our lives, and in his case his kids. The last time I was over, he was telling me about his daughter and my heart melted a little hearing how involved he is in her life.Posted by Chelsey07You can Still meet him up for the D but don't lay your heart on your sleeves for him, it's not worth it if he just wants sex. Know how to find balance so your not heart broken in the end.Posted by -Flo-Posted by Chelsey07Amen to that, getting cute ain't fast and easy.. lolPosted by -Flo-
That cancer moon and Scorpio Venus will soon make you clingy enough, you sound dickmatized.. as for the aqua man he will drop you in a heart beat if you keep that up and he won't look back.
Here's an ex;
How do you feel about him having more than one fuck buddy? This includes you.
I'm an aqua woman
Basically if we agreed on only fwb, I'll fix my word on it and live my own life. I had to drop a Pisces recently cuz he got crazy clingy on me, thank goodness I didn't sleep with him. So it makes sense that he was irritated with you, damn 3am?!
We talked about that (in reference to having more than 1 fuck buddy) and I told him that we should tell each other if we're sleeping with other people. He was fine with it and said something like: "I have no reason to lie to you. It's not like we're in a committed relationship or anything."
I told him that I said that because there's too much going around not because I thought that he was my man and I'm his girl or something.
And yeah, I didn't originally just wake up and think "it's 3AM and I want him" it was more so like 1AM when he asked me if I was coming by and I said yeah, but it takes me forever to get ready so 1 turns to 2, 2 turns to 3 and viola!
I'm telling you this because some aqua men tend to be a bit colder than aqua women. So this is to watch out for putting yourself out there too much for a fuck buddy. If push comes to shove, that guy has the tendency to become an ice king on you. Just ghost, no explanation, no apology.. he will just leave. Aqua men work on their terms, and at times they don't care who they hurt, being very blunt as well. This is a man who's ego is internal but definitely there, secretly he thinks he's the shit regardless of admitting his insecurities to you. Our confidence comes out in actions not always words.
You're right. I know for a fact that he's gonna want me to come by this weekend, but I'm gonna decline. Besides, the responses I'm getting are killing my horniness. Keep it up y'all 😄
But nonetheless, I'm going to chill out and put the ball back in his court.
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Lol we do all of the dirty talk before, sex, pillow talk, and then sleep.
Posted by Chelsey07Fuck that, don't apologize because you don't owe him an explanation. Just disappear and see if he cares.Posted by Mandy27Posted by Chelsey07Just apologize and move forward. Lesson learned he was annoyed by it obviously.
So, I met an Aquarius man who ended up becoming my fuck buddy. We hit it off immediately as we were obviously both attracted to each other and the vibe/conversation flowed so easily.
The first time I went to his place, he was really sweet and funny and just easy going. The sex was great, the conversation was natural and then we went our separate ways until next time.
The next time I came over, he seemed annoyed with me but it was mostly because I came over at 3AM and he was asleep. I apologized to him and he snapped and said "I don't mind you coming over. I like when you come over, but you're blowing up my phone and coming here super late and shit. It's annoying. You know I wouldn't blow up your phone like that. I'd text you first." I told him that he was right and he told me it was okay, but I could still feel the tension between us. It was so terribly awkward when we went to sleep.
When we got up that morning, I could tell that he was angry and I had a feeling that it had to do with me, so I asked him what was wrong and he gave me some pissy excuse about being upset about doing laundry. I still didn't think that's what it was, but I let it go. I most definitely knew that it was me because he usually walks me to the door and gives me a hug when I leave, but he didn't do that this time. He continued what he was doing and I yelled out that I was leaving and he just yelled back "alright bye!". No hug or anything.
We usually get together every weekend, but I'm thinking about letting him have time to himself, but I know he's going to ask me why don't I want to come over. So should I be honest with him or just say that I'm busy?
Dully noted 🙂
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Posted by justagirlPosted by tizianiDisagree! You come over at 3 am and wake my ass up, I will be pissed all night! I need my sleep! Even if you dicked me good, I'd still be upset lmao
You may have to dial it down in future and take an "overview" as was said.
Look at it honestly: what are the odds that someone was upset/annoyed for an ENTIRE night just because of you? Very unlikely.
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He had every right to be. I'm gonna play things by ear.
Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Chelsey07Most likely. I have Aquarius males in my family plus some of my closest friends are Aqua males. They all pretty much think the same. Yeah they'll sleep with you but laugh behind your face and call you a hoe.Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Chelsey07Yes and sexist.Posted by AquariusBeauty
First rule in Aquarian male dating is 'NEVER BECOME A FUCK BUDDY'
Is it because they're detached?
So are you saying he thinks I'm a hoe?
Seen it a lot. They even laugh and feel disgusted with women who throw themselves at them. Which happens a lot! I even had my male friend show me a text confessing her 'feelings to him'. He rejected (he was tired of sleeping around) and she offered a fwb just because she liked it.
He said this to me 'you see how these girls are? She's just one of them. They sleep around hoping that I commit or because they have feelings and offer a fwb. I just take it and like to fuck around. But I'm not gonna commit to these girls (*insert laugh*). I want a woman I can respect and is not gonna throw the pussy around just to get me. I want a challenge, someone who I want good conversations with, and someone who I can laugh and fuck. My best friend and lover all in one. Some of these are girls are fking stupid. They talk about dumb shit. They don't have intelligent conversations and they throw sex out there so easily and catch feelings. I just laugh and tell them "I told you that I didn't want a relationship with you. I told you it wasn't like that and you were ok with it. So don't come and bitch to me about it. That's your fault"'
??Most Aquas think this way. They might not tell you to spare your feelings, but he's thinking this. And most likely telling his best friend of that girl who threw a fwb situation then caught feelings. Probably laugh about it behind your back.
Lesson: don't mess with an Aqua unless you're sure of the consequences. Pay attention to EVERYTHING he says. Aquas are BIG on words. He might open up to you and let you in a bit, but they're smooth talkers. Do not try and manipulate him, because they can smell that sht miles away. Do not try to convince him because Aquas are fixed thoughts/ideas. You will never get through unless he loves you.click to expand
I hope he doesn't think I'm a hoe. This makes me scared.
Posted by ra3ch80Yeah, I was confused with her wording too.Posted by AquariusBeauty"So not try and manipulate you, because they can smell that sht miles away." AquariusbeautyPosted by Chelsey07Most likely. I have Aquarius males in my family plus some of my closest friends are Aqua males. They all pretty much think the same. Yeah they'll sleep with you but laugh behind your face and call you a hoe.Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Chelsey07Yes and sexist.Posted by AquariusBeauty
First rule in Aquarian male dating is 'NEVER BECOME A FUCK BUDDY'
Is it because they're detached?
So are you saying he thinks I'm a hoe?
Seen it a lot. They even laugh and feel disgusted with women who throw themselves at them. Which happens a lot! I even had my male friend show me a text confessing her 'feelings to him'. He rejected (he was tired of sleeping around) and she offered a fwb just because she liked it.
He said this to me 'you see how these girls are? She's just one of them. They sleep around hoping that I commit or because they have feelings and offer a fwb. I just take it and like to fuck around. But I'm not gonna commit to these girls (*insert laugh*). I want a woman I can respect and is not gonna throw the pussy around just to get me. I want a challenge, someone who I want good conversations with, and someone who I can laugh and fuck. My best friend and lover all in one. Some of these are girls are fking stupid. They talk about dumb shit. They don't have intelligent conversations and they throw sex out there so easily and catch feelings. I just laugh and tell them "I told you that I didn't want a relationship with you. I told you it wasn't like that and you were ok with it. So don't come and bitch to me about it. That's your fault"'
??Most Aquas think this way. They might not tell you to spare your feelings, but he's thinking this. And most likely telling his best friend of that girl who threw a fwb situation then caught feelings. Probably laugh about it behind your back.
Lesson: don't mess with an Aqua unless you're sure of the consequences. Pay attention to EVERYTHING he says. Aquas are BIG on words. He might open up to you and let you in a bit, but they're smooth talkers. Do not try and manipulate him, because they can smell that sht miles away. Do not try to convince him because Aquas are fixed thoughts/ideas. You will never get through unless he loves you.
Did you mean that they will try to manipulate you? because they can smell that shit miles away?
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AquariusBeauty: "understand that he's probably sleeping around with other women too."
this is pessimistic. plus up until now it was likely too. did he do that?
AquariusBeauty: " He's probably tired and probably growing bored."
because what?
AquariusBeauty: "Aquarius will eventually grow bored if they get it too easy."
well, girls say this about all signs.
we've seen enough examples to know meanwhile that none of the rules that women tell each other describes how guys really function.
a guy stays with a girl at some point of his life. and not with the rest of the girls he meets. nothing is to blame but lack of true love, wrong timing or unfulfilled calculation. (where true love needs to be developed, discovered or at least confessed to oneself first)
this is pessimistic. plus up until now it was likely too. did he do that?
AquariusBeauty: " He's probably tired and probably growing bored."
because what?
AquariusBeauty: "Aquarius will eventually grow bored if they get it too easy."
well, girls say this about all signs.
we've seen enough examples to know meanwhile that none of the rules that women tell each other describes how guys really function.
a guy stays with a girl at some point of his life. and not with the rest of the girls he meets. nothing is to blame but lack of true love, wrong timing or unfulfilled calculation. (where true love needs to be developed, discovered or at least confessed to oneself first)
Posted by tiziani? ? meowPosted by justagirlLOLPosted by tizianiDisagree! You come over at 3 am and wake my ass up, I will be pissed all night! I need my sleep! Even if you dicked me good, I'd still be upset lmao
You may have to dial it down in future and take an "overview" as was said.
Look at it honestly: what are the odds that someone was upset/annoyed for an ENTIRE night just because of you? Very unlikely.
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Posted by Chelsey07? Just put most of the stuff you heard here to the side.. lolPosted by justagirlPosted by tizianiDisagree! You come over at 3 am and wake my ass up, I will be pissed all night! I need my sleep! Even if you dicked me good, I'd still be upset lmao
You may have to dial it down in future and take an "overview" as was said.
Look at it honestly: what are the odds that someone was upset/annoyed for an ENTIRE night just because of you? Very unlikely.
He had every right to be. I'm gonna play things by ear.click to expand
Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Chelsey07It depends on how things started between you too. Only you know how things started, that will be a big factor on how he views you.Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Chelsey07Most likely. I have Aquarius males in my family plus some of my closest friends are Aqua males. They all pretty much think the same. Yeah they'll sleep with you but laugh behind your face and call you a hoe.Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Chelsey07Yes and sexist.Posted by AquariusBeauty
First rule in Aquarian male dating is 'NEVER BECOME A FUCK BUDDY'
Is it because they're detached?
So are you saying he thinks I'm a hoe?
Seen it a lot. They even laugh and feel disgusted with women who throw themselves at them. Which happens a lot! I even had my male friend show me a text confessing her 'feelings to him'. He rejected (he was tired of sleeping around) and she offered a fwb just because she liked it.
He said this to me 'you see how these girls are? She's just one of them. They sleep around hoping that I commit or because they have feelings and offer a fwb. I just take it and like to fuck around. But I'm not gonna commit to these girls (*insert laugh*). I want a woman I can respect and is not gonna throw the pussy around just to get me. I want a challenge, someone who I want good conversations with, and someone who I can laugh and fuck. My best friend and lover all in one. Some of these are girls are fking stupid. They talk about dumb shit. They don't have intelligent conversations and they throw sex out there so easily and catch feelings. I just laugh and tell them "I told you that I didn't want a relationship with you. I told you it wasn't like that and you were ok with it. So don't come and bitch to me about it. That's your fault"'
??Most Aquas think this way. They might not tell you to spare your feelings, but he's thinking this. And most likely telling his best friend of that girl who threw a fwb situation then caught feelings. Probably laugh about it behind your back.
Lesson: don't mess with an Aqua unless you're sure of the consequences. Pay attention to EVERYTHING he says. Aquas are BIG on words. He might open up to you and let you in a bit, but they're smooth talkers. Do not try and manipulate him, because they can smell that sht miles away. Do not try to convince him because Aquas are fixed thoughts/ideas. You will never get through unless he loves you.
I hope he doesn't think I'm a hoe. This makes me scared.
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We met online and we both knew that we were looking for sex. We exchanged pictures and started to talk more to see if we'd get along. Once we talked for a bit, that's when we started having sex. I asked him if he wanted this to be a one time thing or make it ongoing, and he told me that it was up to me. So since then, we've been meeting up to have sex.
@AquariusBeauty, an Aquarius Sun person has still other placements. And he has his family background. And as you said and I said too, he'd sleep with many girls but stay once with one of them (and maybe twice or whatever). for certain reasons.
Agreed. Air signs in general are smooth talkers, and think differently. you can take it as it is, doesn't mean they really feel that way. enjoy your time with the aqua.. dont expect anything.
Usually come around, when you give them the space and the ultimate 'im there for you' kind of support
I like your advice. Thank you. I feel a little better now. 🙂
Usually come around, when you give them the space and the ultimate 'im there for you' kind of support
I like your advice. Thank you. I feel a little better now. 🙂
Posted by infiresgood luck, sweetie 🙂 hope it works out for youPosted by Chelsey07I like your advice. Thank you. I feel a little better now. 🙂
Agreed. Air signs in general are smooth talkers, and think differently. you can take it as it is, doesn't mean they really feel that way. enjoy your time with the aqua.. dont expect anything.
Usually come around, when you give them the space and the ultimate 'im there for you' kind of support
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Thank you and I hope so too! 🙂 I appreciate your advice.
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"male testosterone on to that and you get an Aquarius male who CRAVES a challenge."
well, these are things I don't believe in.
among all cause Aqua's job on the earth is not to crave challenges in the dating world (they are here to do more than that). dating is a side issue for theme. also they do not seek entertainment in it.
one of the 11th house themes is "the unkown". the Aqua wants to be free and thus open to the unknown realms. commitment is a known subject besides that it takes the freedom to be open to the unknown. this is why you can have him while it is not defined. but as soon as you ask him, "what is it that we have?", the answer is, "who we?"
so a girl needs not to follow any rules but her own heart and the faith in "good things really happen".
also starting with fwb seems to be state-of-the-art. I don't do it (too conservative for that) but I know two Aqua men had the main acting role when Holleywood made fwb popular to the young ones. Timberlake and Kutscher.
I love the way you think! I appreciate @DwellingOnMove @infires @tiziani y'all's advice has made me feel better.
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.... I have many Aquar family members AND best friends who happen to be male. They tell me the same sht and laugh at women who are too easy. ...
for me this smells of a cultural issue. look at the background culture of them.
Posted by tizianiI call my Aqua a Cinderella man, sometimes his schedules r crazy N he knows I don't appreciate an after mid night visit... it's a respect thingPosted by justagirlLOLPosted by tizianiDisagree! You come over at 3 am and wake my ass up, I will be pissed all night! I need my sleep! Even if you dicked me good, I'd still be upset lmao
You may have to dial it down in future and take an "overview" as was said.
Look at it honestly: what are the odds that someone was upset/annoyed for an ENTIRE night just because of you? Very unlikely.
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Posted by HarukkaNo one will ask you because no one is supposed to know about you and him. if people see you out around then he's a friend. ?
What's the difference between fk body and boyfriend?
Is it when someone ask you who is this? You tell them he is my fk body ?
I'm not kidding.
Posted by DwellingOnMovePosted by AquariusBeauty
.... I have many Aquar family members AND best friends who happen to be male. They tell me the same sht and laugh at women who are too easy. ...
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I thought so too. I'm not discounting her, but the pessimism game is strong.
Posted by HarukkaWe like things simple ?Posted by AerazoHahah .. that's why I love aquaSPosted by HarukkaNo one will ask you because no one is supposed to know about you and him. if people see you out around then he's a friend. ?
What's the difference between fk body and boyfriend?
Is it when someone ask you who is this? You tell them he is my fk body ?
I'm not kidding.
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Hey Chelsey07,
I'm in the same boat as you, my relationship is very new, just a month and a half in.
I have a few of the same placements as you, except with my mars in Leo. I think you should take this advice on this site with a grain of salt. Choose what makes sense and fits in your relationship and throw out what doesn't. Don't over think it and create other issues. People don't know all the aspects of your relationship.
Give yourself a time out to regroup and get a breathe of fresh air.
Also, giving the aqua space can be a good thing. You really don't need to call/text him tons of times. He knows you want to talk to him. Let him come to you on some days.
I haven't had a talk with the aqua I'm dealing with about the relationship, but we have had sex a few times and I have no clue what we are doing. I'm just taking it day by day. I had sex pretty fast with him, but I told him that I had just gotten out of a relationship. But the chemistry is ridiculous, I couldn't resist. But he is so damn slow and I have to pull my reigns in and just wait it out. I find that I'm pretty impatient with most things that I want though. If I want it, you need to be mine now!! lol Guys say I act like a spoiled brat cause I want things to go my way. I always say it will benefit both of us if it does lol 😉
I'm in the same boat as you, my relationship is very new, just a month and a half in.
I have a few of the same placements as you, except with my mars in Leo. I think you should take this advice on this site with a grain of salt. Choose what makes sense and fits in your relationship and throw out what doesn't. Don't over think it and create other issues. People don't know all the aspects of your relationship.
Give yourself a time out to regroup and get a breathe of fresh air.
Also, giving the aqua space can be a good thing. You really don't need to call/text him tons of times. He knows you want to talk to him. Let him come to you on some days.
I haven't had a talk with the aqua I'm dealing with about the relationship, but we have had sex a few times and I have no clue what we are doing. I'm just taking it day by day. I had sex pretty fast with him, but I told him that I had just gotten out of a relationship. But the chemistry is ridiculous, I couldn't resist. But he is so damn slow and I have to pull my reigns in and just wait it out. I find that I'm pretty impatient with most things that I want though. If I want it, you need to be mine now!! lol Guys say I act like a spoiled brat cause I want things to go my way. I always say it will benefit both of us if it does lol 😉
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI had an aqua fwb for 2 1/2 yrs and trust me they like their space!Posted by Chelsey07Hey you're preaching to the choir, coming from someone who has been involuntarily made into a Virgo's booty call who has his own key to my place lol.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI'm thinking about giving him space, but when dick calls...I gotta hop on it (pun intended).
You're probably smothering him a bit. He IS an Aqua after all, similar to Virgos in the way they don't like uninvited guests.
Showing up unannounced is VERY annoying if you haven't crossed the "comfort zone" threshold yet. They don't like to feel like they're being tethered to someone so soon.
OH NO I just noticed! Sag sun AND Cancer moon— Double the crazy lol!
Give him some breathing space quicksmart.
And yeah, I'm pretty crazy?
Maaaaaaaaaaybe an Aqua is not an ideal fuck buddy for ya. They need too much breathing space and blow hot or cold way too often. You need someone more spontaneous, someone who LOVES the attention rather than dreads it. Like a Leo or another Sag, or even a Cancer........no wait, forget I said Cancer. He'll probably show up at YOUR door at 3am!click to expand
2 - 3months, was the longest we ever went between hook ups. I didn't want anything more than what it was, so I was ok with that. In fact it suited me just fine.
He did get the feels a little bit at one point and that was probably the reason for that long period of time. I never harassed him or tried to make it anything more, that's probably why he kept coming back.
Anyway, my advice is, just go with the flow and maybe let him take the lead with contact a bit more often. In my experience with aqua's they like a bit of a chase, breathing space and a chance to miss you.
Good luck!
Posted by MadMarchRamPosted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI had an aqua fwb for 2 1/2 yrs and trust me they like their space!Posted by Chelsey07Hey you're preaching to the choir, coming from someone who has been involuntarily made into a Virgo's booty call who has his own key to my place lol.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI'm thinking about giving him space, but when dick calls...I gotta hop on it (pun intended).
You're probably smothering him a bit. He IS an Aqua after all, similar to Virgos in the way they don't like uninvited guests.
Showing up unannounced is VERY annoying if you haven't crossed the "comfort zone" threshold yet. They don't like to feel like they're being tethered to someone so soon.
OH NO I just noticed! Sag sun AND Cancer moon— Double the crazy lol!
Give him some breathing space quicksmart.
And yeah, I'm pretty crazy?
Maaaaaaaaaaybe an Aqua is not an ideal fuck buddy for ya. They need too much breathing space and blow hot or cold way too often. You need someone more spontaneous, someone who LOVES the attention rather than dreads it. Like a Leo or another Sag, or even a Cancer........no wait, forget I said Cancer. He'll probably show up at YOUR door at 3am!
2 - 3months, was the longest we ever went between hook ups. I didn't want anything more than what it was, so I was ok with that. In fact it suited me just fine.
He did get the feels a little bit at one point and that was probably the reason for that long period of time. I never harassed him or tried to make it anything more, that's probably why he kept coming back.
Anyway, my advice is, just go with the flow and maybe let him take the lead with contact a bit more often. In my experience with aqua's they like a bit of a chase, breathing space and a chance to miss you.
Good luck!
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Thank you for the advice! I'm feeling much better about everything.
Posted by Chelsey07Posted by DwellingOnMovePosted by AquariusBeauty
.... I have many Aquar family members AND best friends who happen to be male. They tell me the same sht and laugh at women who are too easy. ...
for me this smells of a cultural issue. look at the background culture of them.
I thought so too. I'm not discounting her, but the pessimism game is strong.click to expand
I'd have to disagree. What @AquariusBeauty is doing is not being pessimistic, but brutally honest. Everything she's saying is dead on. I'm an Aqua, my brother's an Aqua, and I've dated make Aquas. I can't say the guy may think you're a hoe, I don't know him. I don't think AquariusBeauty said those words either. However, these men love a challenge. Shyt, Aqua women like challenges, so of course the men do! The only women who'vey brother fell head over heels for were a Leo & Scorp. The only men I fell head over heels for were a Pisces (Aries Stellium), which is my husband of 7 years... together 10 & a Scorpio with a lot of Gemini, Libra, and Virgo in his chart. When I look at your Scorpio Venus and Cancer Moon, I feel like you may eventually get to a point where you crave more than he's ready to give. I'm not trying to be pessimistic, but I don't want you to get hurt. I will say if an Aqua (or anyone for that matter) truly wants you.... they'll find a way to come to you if you ghost them.
Dang she's so right it gave me chills. Can't say I disagree with any of it. @ AquariusBeauty my brother is now dating a fellow Aquarius and they've been dating almost a year. He's very hard to pin down!
I'm barely an Aqua, I'm incredibly influenced by Sag & Virgo, so I find some stuff fits for me and how I am and some doesn't.
Never dated an aqua dude and doubt I would. I also don't find that i'm hard to understand, misunderstood at times yes, but finding people to understand me is fairly easy.
not sure I can really contribute tbh.
Never dated an aqua dude and doubt I would. I also don't find that i'm hard to understand, misunderstood at times yes, but finding people to understand me is fairly easy.
not sure I can really contribute tbh.
Posted by MadMarchRamPosted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI had an aqua fwb for 2 1/2 yrs and trust me they like their space!Posted by Chelsey07Hey you're preaching to the choir, coming from someone who has been involuntarily made into a Virgo's booty call who has his own key to my place lol.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI'm thinking about giving him space, but when dick calls...I gotta hop on it (pun intended).
You're probably smothering him a bit. He IS an Aqua after all, similar to Virgos in the way they don't like uninvited guests.
Showing up unannounced is VERY annoying if you haven't crossed the "comfort zone" threshold yet. They don't like to feel like they're being tethered to someone so soon.
OH NO I just noticed! Sag sun AND Cancer moon— Double the crazy lol!
Give him some breathing space quicksmart.
And yeah, I'm pretty crazy?
Maaaaaaaaaaybe an Aqua is not an ideal fuck buddy for ya. They need too much breathing space and blow hot or cold way too often. You need someone more spontaneous, someone who LOVES the attention rather than dreads it. Like a Leo or another Sag, or even a Cancer........no wait, forget I said Cancer. He'll probably show up at YOUR door at 3am!
2 - 3months, was the longest we ever went between hook ups. I didn't want anything more than what it was, so I was ok with that. In fact it suited me just fine.
He did get the feels a little bit at one point and that was probably the reason for that long period of time. I never harassed him or tried to make it anything more, that's probably why he kept coming back.
Anyway, my advice is, just go with the flow and maybe let him take the lead with contact a bit more often. In my experience with aqua's they like a bit of a chase, breathing space and a chance to miss you.
Good luck!
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* Anyway, my advice is, just go with the flow and maybe let him take the lead with contact a bit more often. In my experience with aqua's they like a bit of a chase, breathing space and a chance to miss you * yeah though why if it's just for fwb —? I don't get it lol. Fwb don't need those things it's casual!!!?
Posted by -Flo-100000 times yes this I relate too!
I'm very serious about who I give my heart too, and I'm not about to give it to some side ass scrub. Call it what you make like, but my standards are somewhat high. The reason for this is because the day I open up to you and pour myself out, you have received a fully devoted partner. I have a ride or die mentality, I'm like this with friends and family. I keep them close and will do whatever for their happiness.
So yes, this means observation and yes this means testing your temperament because I want to know what your about. I won't even go back and forth with you, I'll just ignore your existence completely after that. It will seem like we never even spoke in the first place. I won't place my time and energy into someone who will never do the same for me. You want respect? You gotta give it in return. Many times I've been disappointed because I expect too much out of men, I hold them to their words.. and I've had to learn the hard way.
Posted by AquariusBeauty
....
Good Luck!
we see things different.
we'll live different lives.
and this is meant to be.
Posted by AquariusBeauty
@DwellingOnMove @Chelsey07 @Harukka
Look I'm going to make this very simple for you to understand. What I'm saying to the OP is not about me being pessimistic, it's about being realistic. Too many on here being 'yes' people and not enough of 'harsh reality/truth' people. I was once one of those 'yes' people to many other females who came on here asking about Aquarius males and guess what? It never panned out.
The truth is this, no matter how hard it is for you to hear, men commit to women who are self-respecting. So what is that exactly? It can vary from man to man but it all boils down to integrity and fidelity. A woman who he can trust even though he himself may not be faithful.
I'm an Aqua, I'm surrounded by Aqua males both in family and best friends, ranging from ages 24-50 years old. They ALL think more or less the same and they ALL come from different cultural, economic, and upbringing/environmental backgrounds. They also have different placements: with water, earth, air, and fire placements in their charts.
So I more or less know how they think, how they act, and what they want in a woman because like I've said before, no other person GETS an Aquarius like ANOTHER Aqua. This is why Aquarius usually end up marrying other Aquarius. My sister, who is also an Aqua, married an Aqua. He met her, proposed, and married her within two years but before that, it took him about 15+ years to finally settle down. Same with my brother in law who's an Aquarius. My best friends who are Aquarius males (with water moons), dated other Aquarius females and are currently dating other Aqua females.
Aquarius are the most misunderstood sign because no one can relate to us. I mean NO ONE...except an Aquarius. The closest you have to that is a Scorpio or a Leo or a Taurus. Hence why you see these pairs always attracting one another and staying for the long run (or long periods) when they pass those major obstacles. If you don't wish to believe then just take a look around and see the real answers Aquarius give you. Look at the threads on people trying to understand Aquarius. No one can because people go based on what they see but fail to use all of their senses, intuition, and logic.
That being said, an Aquarius male will use his logic more so than his emotions. Only true evolved Aquarius males who have decided to let go and realize that we are as much logical as emotional creatures, then will they learn the true power of their abilities. But thing is, that rarely happens with the majority of Aquarius males. He's not stupid. There's a reason why they say they are the hardest to pin down.
Think of it this way: Questions to ask yourself
Why would an Aquarius male settle down with a woman who slept with him to easily and freely, when there are other women who are doing the same? (An Aqua is rarely short on prospects)
*You can sit there and say you aren't that way but Aquarius are naturally distrustful of human nature.Therefore your actions (sleeping too soon) will override anything you say and doubt will be cast.*
What makes you special? (An Aquarian trait, remember that we are viewed as special and therefore want a special partner)
How can he trust you if you slept with him too soon? (His logic working)
What guarantees that you won't sleep around so easily with other men when you did it with me? (Insecurity about being cheated on, which is a BIG Aquarian fear)
Why should I settle for a woman who's too easy for me, when I know I've had bigger challenges? (That ego working)
This ^^ is why an Aquarius will most likely NOT settle for a woman who was too easy. It's not that he doesn't feel, it's that he lets his logic rule. He will make a logical decision and shut down his emotions. Then he creates distance to avoid attachment. This is a very similar process that other Aquarius females do as well, with slight variations.
If we feel you are a threat to our emotional stability before we develop feelings, we will shut down and create distance to avoid a future heartbreak.
If you don't wish to believe me then ask the following: how much of it is truth?
@Miamia13
@Wineaux15
@bumblokatt
@Aquarius3189
@Justagirl
@Flo
@lisabethur08
@Aerazo
@TheGreatSearcher
@Happy_Aqua
Ultimately it is your decision OP but I did warn you in advance. Hope it works out for you, though.
Good Luck!
say it to em girl!,what she is telling you 100% true,i wont settle down with just anyone,i have other option you know if you cheat on me yes i will get hurt but i can move on pretty fast if i want, so its his/her lost not mine?
Posted by AquariusBeauty
@DwellingOnMove @Chelsey07 @Harukka
Look I'm going to make this very simple for you to understand. What I'm saying to the OP is not about me being pessimistic, it's about being realistic. Too many on here being 'yes' people and not enough of 'harsh reality/truth' people. I was once one of those 'yes' people to many other females who came on here asking about Aquarius males and guess what? It never panned out.
The truth is this, no matter how hard it is for you to hear, men commit to women who are self-respecting. So what is that exactly? It can vary from man to man but it all boils down to integrity and fidelity. A woman who he can trust even though he himself may not be faithful.
I'm an Aqua, I'm surrounded by Aqua males both in family and best friends, ranging from ages 24-50 years old. They ALL think more or less the same and they ALL come from different cultural, economic, and upbringing/environmental backgrounds. They also have different placements: with water, earth, air, and fire placements in their charts.
So I more or less know how they think, how they act, and what they want in a woman because like I've said before, no other person GETS an Aquarius like ANOTHER Aqua. This is why Aquarius usually end up marrying other Aquarius. My sister, who is also an Aqua, married an Aqua. He met her, proposed, and married her within two years but before that, it took him about 15+ years to finally settle down. Same with my brother in law who's an Aquarius. My best friends who are Aquarius males (with water moons), dated other Aquarius females and are currently dating other Aqua females.
Aquarius are the most misunderstood sign because no one can relate to us. I mean NO ONE...except an Aquarius. The closest you have to that is a Scorpio or a Leo or a Taurus. Hence why you see these pairs always attracting one another and staying for the long run (or long periods) when they pass those major obstacles. If you don't wish to believe then just take a look around and see the real answers Aquarius give you. Look at the threads on people trying to understand Aquarius. No one can because people go based on what they see but fail to use all of their senses, intuition, and logic.
That being said, an Aquarius male will use his logic more so than his emotions. Only true evolved Aquarius males who have decided to let go and realize that we are as much logical as emotional creatures, then will they learn the true power of their abilities. But thing is, that rarely happens with the majority of Aquarius males. He's not stupid. There's a reason why they say they are the hardest to pin down.
Think of it this way: Questions to ask yourself
Why would an Aquarius male settle down with a woman who slept with him to easily and freely, when there are other women who are doing the same? (An Aqua is rarely short on prospects)
*You can sit there and say you aren't that way but Aquarius are naturally distrustful of human nature.Therefore your actions (sleeping too soon) will override anything you say and doubt will be cast.*
What makes you special? (An Aquarian trait, remember that we are viewed as special and therefore want a special partner)
How can he trust you if you slept with him too soon? (His logic working)
What guarantees that you won't sleep around so easily with other men when you did it with me? (Insecurity about being cheated on, which is a BIG Aquarian fear)
Why should I settle for a woman who's too easy for me, when I know I've had bigger challenges? (That ego working)
This ^^ is why an Aquarius will most likely NOT settle for a woman who was too easy. It's not that he doesn't feel, it's that he lets his logic rule. He will make a logical decision and shut down his emotions. Then he creates distance to avoid attachment. This is a very similar process that other Aquarius females do as well, with slight variations.
If we feel you are a threat to our emotional stability before we develop feelings, we will shut down and create distance to avoid a future heartbreak.
If you don't wish to believe me then ask the following: how much of it is truth?
@Miamia13
@Wineaux15
@bumblokatt
@Aquarius3189
@Justagirl
@Flo
@lisabethur08
@Aerazo
@TheGreatSearcher
@Happy_Aqua
Ultimately it is your decision OP but I did warn you in advance. Hope it works out for you, though.
Good Luck!
You're right. It sucks to know that he thinks I'm easy, but it's too late now 😢
@AquariusBeauty
Did you have many relationships with Aqua men?
Did you have many relationships with Aqua men?
Posted by -Flo-
One thing I want to add, I most likely work the same way an Aquarius man would.. if the guy I'm interested in is very easy or reveals hoeish behavior, I will immediately remove him out my life and/or as a potential mate.
I'm very serious about who I give my heart too, and I'm not about to give it to some side ass scrub. Call it what you make like, but my standards are somewhat high. The reason for this is because the day I open up to you and pour myself out, you have received a fully devoted partner. I have a ride or die mentality, I'm like this with friends and family. I keep them close and will do whatever for their happiness.
So yes, this means observation and yes this means testing your temperament because I want to know what your about. I won't even go back and forth with you, I'll just ignore your existence completely after that. It will seem like we never even spoke in the first place. I won't place my time and energy into someone who will never do the same for me. You want respect? You gotta give it in return. Many times I've been disappointed because I expect too much out of men, I hold them to their words.. and I've had to learn the hard way.
Y'all are right. I've decided to leave him alone for good. We didn't talk and I feel like that's for the best.
Posted by saweetz1988I'm just talking from my own personal experience.Posted by MadMarchRamPosted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI had an aqua fwb for 2 1/2 yrs and trust me they like their space!Posted by Chelsey07Hey you're preaching to the choir, coming from someone who has been involuntarily made into a Virgo's booty call who has his own key to my place lol.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI'm thinking about giving him space, but when dick calls...I gotta hop on it (pun intended).
You're probably smothering him a bit. He IS an Aqua after all, similar to Virgos in the way they don't like uninvited guests.
Showing up unannounced is VERY annoying if you haven't crossed the "comfort zone" threshold yet. They don't like to feel like they're being tethered to someone so soon.
OH NO I just noticed! Sag sun AND Cancer moon— Double the crazy lol!
Give him some breathing space quicksmart.
And yeah, I'm pretty crazy?
Maaaaaaaaaaybe an Aqua is not an ideal fuck buddy for ya. They need too much breathing space and blow hot or cold way too often. You need someone more spontaneous, someone who LOVES the attention rather than dreads it. Like a Leo or another Sag, or even a Cancer........no wait, forget I said Cancer. He'll probably show up at YOUR door at 3am!
2 - 3months, was the longest we ever went between hook ups. I didn't want anything more than what it was, so I was ok with that. In fact it suited me just fine.
He did get the feels a little bit at one point and that was probably the reason for that long period of time. I never harassed him or tried to make it anything more, that's probably why he kept coming back.
Anyway, my advice is, just go with the flow and maybe let him take the lead with contact a bit more often. In my experience with aqua's they like a bit of a chase, breathing space and a chance to miss you.
Good luck!
* Anyway, my advice is, just go with the flow and maybe let him take the lead with contact a bit more often. In my experience with aqua's they like a bit of a chase, breathing space and a chance to miss you * yeah though why if it's just for fwb —? I don't get it lol. Fwb don't need those things it's casual!!!?click to expand
Fwb or not aqua's do not like to be smothered.
Yeah, I've decided to leave him alone. I still feel better though.
Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by MyStarsShineNo. I could have as they've had a thing for me, but I have yet to commit to one. I prefer fire signs with Scorpio or earth placements. Or earth placements with fire and air in their charts.
@AquariusBeauty
Did you have many relationships with Aqua men?click to expand
You can date me, I'm available :p hehe jokes! Though thank u for clarifying bout the fixed signs I just realised I have mostly in my chart lol. Taurus, Aqua Aqua Aqua . This explains why I can b super stubborn once I have a believe in something n hardly bail on relationships n take a while to let go once I have analysed n my heart has fallen n yes I get shits done ! Except for venus in gem coz that's a total night mare haha
Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Aquarius3189Yeah I figured an Aqua male would agree. LolPosted by AquariusBeauty
@DwellingOnMove @Chelsey07 @Harukka
Look I'm going to make this very simple for you to understand. What I'm saying to the OP is not about me being pessimistic, it's about being realistic. Too many on here being 'yes' people and not enough of 'harsh reality/truth' people. I was once one of those 'yes' people to many other females who came on here asking about Aquarius males and guess what? It never panned out.
The truth is this, no matter how hard it is for you to hear, men commit to women who are self-respecting. So what is that exactly? It can vary from man to man but it all boils down to integrity and fidelity. A woman who he can trust even though he himself may not be faithful.
I'm an Aqua, I'm surrounded by Aqua males both in family and best friends, ranging from ages 24-50 years old. They ALL think more or less the same and they ALL come from different cultural, economic, and upbringing/environmental backgrounds. They also have different placements: with water, earth, air, and fire placements in their charts.
So I more or less know how they think, how they act, and what they want in a woman because like I've said before, no other person GETS an Aquarius like ANOTHER Aqua. This is why Aquarius usually end up marrying other Aquarius. My sister, who is also an Aqua, married an Aqua. He met her, proposed, and married her within two years but before that, it took him about 15+ years to finally settle down. Same with my brother in law who's an Aquarius. My best friends who are Aquarius males (with water moons), dated other Aquarius females and are currently dating other Aqua females.
Aquarius are the most misunderstood sign because no one can relate to us. I mean NO ONE...except an Aquarius. The closest you have to that is a Scorpio or a Leo or a Taurus. Hence why you see these pairs always attracting one another and staying for the long run (or long periods) when they pass those major obstacles. If you don't wish to believe then just take a look around and see the real answers Aquarius give you. Look at the threads on people trying to understand Aquarius. No one can because people go based on what they see but fail to use all of their senses, intuition, and logic.
That being said, an Aquarius male will use his logic more so than his emotions. Only true evolved Aquarius males who have decided to let go and realize that we are as much logical as emotional creatures, then will they learn the true power of their abilities. But thing is, that rarely happens with the majority of Aquarius males. He's not stupid. There's a reason why they say they are the hardest to pin down.
Think of it this way: Questions to ask yourself
Why would an Aquarius male settle down with a woman who slept with him to easily and freely, when there are other women who are doing the same? (An Aqua is rarely short on prospects)
*You can sit there and say you aren't that way but Aquarius are naturally distrustful of human nature.Therefore your actions (sleeping too soon) will override anything you say and doubt will be cast.*
What makes you special? (An Aquarian trait, remember that we are viewed as special and therefore want a special partner)
How can he trust you if you slept with him too soon? (His logic working)
What guarantees that you won't sleep around so easily with other men when you did it with me? (Insecurity about being cheated on, which is a BIG Aquarian fear)
Why should I settle for a woman who's too easy for me, when I know I've had bigger challenges? (That ego working)
This ^^ is why an Aquarius will most likely NOT settle for a woman who was too easy. It's not that he doesn't feel, it's that he lets his logic rule. He will make a logical decision and shut down his emotions. Then he creates distance to avoid attachment. This is a very similar process that other Aquarius females do as well, with slight variations.
If we feel you are a threat to our emotional stability before we develop feelings, we will shut down and create distance to avoid a future heartbreak.
If you don't wish to believe me then ask the following: how much of it is truth?
@Miamia13
@Wineaux15
@bumblokatt
@Aquarius3189
@Justagirl
@Flo
@lisabethur08
@Aerazo
@TheGreatSearcher
@Happy_Aqua
Ultimately it is your decision OP but I did warn you in advance. Hope it works out for you, though.
Good Luck!
say it to em girl!,what she is telling you 100% true,i wont settle down with just anyone,i have other option you know if you cheat on me yes i will get hurt but i can move on pretty fast if i want, so its his/her lost not mine?
It's sad but true. Aquarius males have raja complex, some females too, they feel undignified if they were to commit to s partner that wasn't 'worthy'click to expand
yup,thats why i prefer girls since boys dont challenge me they just nod to everthing i say and they will say sweet nothing at first court you then after you 2 are together the effort is gone,while the girls....now theres the challenge..guess im not that lucky in men?
Posted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Aquarius3189Oh I had no clue you had a thing for men tooPosted by AquariusBeautyPosted by Aquarius3189Yeah I figured an Aqua male would agree. LolPosted by AquariusBeauty
@DwellingOnMove @Chelsey07 @Harukka
Look I'm going to make this very simple for you to understand. What I'm saying to the OP is not about me being pessimistic, it's about being realistic. Too many on here being 'yes' people and not enough of 'harsh reality/truth' people. I was once one of those 'yes' people to many other females who came on here asking about Aquarius males and guess what? It never panned out.
The truth is this, no matter how hard it is for you to hear, men commit to women who are self-respecting. So what is that exactly? It can vary from man to man but it all boils down to integrity and fidelity. A woman who he can trust even though he himself may not be faithful.
I'm an Aqua, I'm surrounded by Aqua males both in family and best friends, ranging from ages 24-50 years old. They ALL think more or less the same and they ALL come from different cultural, economic, and upbringing/environmental backgrounds. They also have different placements: with water, earth, air, and fire placements in their charts.
So I more or less know how they think, how they act, and what they want in a woman because like I've said before, no other person GETS an Aquarius like ANOTHER Aqua. This is why Aquarius usually end up marrying other Aquarius. My sister, who is also an Aqua, married an Aqua. He met her, proposed, and married her within two years but before that, it took him about 15+ years to finally settle down. Same with my brother in law who's an Aquarius. My best friends who are Aquarius males (with water moons), dated other Aquarius females and are currently dating other Aqua females.
Aquarius are the most misunderstood sign because no one can relate to us. I mean NO ONE...except an Aquarius. The closest you have to that is a Scorpio or a Leo or a Taurus. Hence why you see these pairs always attracting one another and staying for the long run (or long periods) when they pass those major obstacles. If you don't wish to believe then just take a look around and see the real answers Aquarius give you. Look at the threads on people trying to understand Aquarius. No one can because people go based on what they see but fail to use all of their senses, intuition, and logic.
That being said, an Aquarius male will use his logic more so than his emotions. Only true evolved Aquarius males who have decided to let go and realize that we are as much logical as emotional creatures, then will they learn the true power of their abilities. But thing is, that rarely happens with the majority of Aquarius males. He's not stupid. There's a reason why they say they are the hardest to pin down.
Think of it this way: Questions to ask yourself
Why would an Aquarius male settle down with a woman who slept with him to easily and freely, when there are other women who are doing the same? (An Aqua is rarely short on prospects)
*You can sit there and say you aren't that way but Aquarius are naturally distrustful of human nature.Therefore your actions (sleeping too soon) will override anything you say and doubt will be cast.*
What makes you special? (An Aquarian trait, remember that we are viewed as special and therefore want a special partner)
How can he trust you if you slept with him too soon? (His logic working)
What guarantees that you won't sleep around so easily with other men when you did it with me? (Insecurity about being cheated on, which is a BIG Aquarian fear)
Why should I settle for a woman who's too easy for me, when I know I've had bigger challenges? (That ego working)
This ^^ is why an Aquarius will most likely NOT settle for a woman who was too easy. It's not that he doesn't feel, it's that he lets his logic rule. He will make a logical decision and shut down his emotions. Then he creates distance to avoid attachment. This is a very similar process that other Aquarius females do as well, with slight variations.
If we feel you are a threat to our emotional stability before we develop feelings, we will shut down and create distance to avoid a future heartbreak.
If you don't wish to believe me then ask the following: how much of it is truth?
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Ultimately it is your decision OP but I did warn you in advance. Hope it works out for you, though.
Good Luck!
say it to em girl!,what she is telling you 100% true,i wont settle down with just anyone,i have other option you know if you cheat on me yes i will get hurt but i can move on pretty fast if i want, so its his/her lost not mine?
It's sad but true. Aquarius males have raja complex, some females too, they feel undignified if they were to commit to s partner that wasn't 'worthy'
yup,thats why i prefer girls since boys dont challenge me they just nod to everthing i say and they will say sweet nothing at first court you then after you 2 are together the effort is gone,while the girls....now theres the challenge..guess im not that lucky in men?
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in the past yes but its been 12 yrs since i had a boyfriend but now that i think about it their like my escape when i'm starting having feelings for girls back in highschool,even so im not labeling myself i will still love who i love,hey we always talk about me how bout you?any hot guy in your life right now??
Boy do these aqua men get bent out of shape if you've made plans together and the woman is running late...
Ahhh okay got it. I did text him saying: "Hey I'm coming over" and he replied: "come on", it just takes me forever to get prepared and he fell asleep waiting on me.
They're killing mine too and I'm a Scorpio mars ☹️
You're right. I know for a fact that he's gonna want me to come by this weekend, but I'm gonna decline. Besides, the responses I'm getting are killing my horniness. Keep it up y'all 😄
Believe it or not, my aqua killed my horniness w/ his aloofness. It was only dead for a record breaking 3 days, but still....
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