Aquarius Men- Detached or Just not Interested?

Okay, so I understand that aquarius men can be detached and aloof, but how can you identify when they are actually not interested?
I've been involved with an aquarius man for a few months. We started off as friends, were hooking up for a short period, but it was cut short over the summer. Now we are back in the same place and I don't know how he feels about going back to what we were beginning to start. He was in a relationship over the summer but has since then ended it. Since we've been back we've been hanging out but there are times when I don't hear from him for few days to a week. I always feel like I'm the one that has to make the effort to hang out, even though he does every once in awhile as well. I tried to talk to him, and asked if everything was cool between us, in a casual way trying to get out how he feels but all he really said, was that yes everything's fine, and that he didn't really know what to say. I feel like I've been chasing this boy for too long and I just need to know if he's just not that interested or is waiting for the right time.
What are sure signs that he's interested, and what's the best way to take things back to the next level if he is in fact interested? I'm a Cancer with a Leo Cusp by the way!

It kind of sounds like he is trying to be your friend like he was before you guys hooked up...at least from this perspective. Plus I have done something like that before had a great friendship that sort of turned into a bit more after words I realized it was fun but I would much rather keep them as a friend. stopped hanging out so much and tried to show them with out telling them in so many words how we would be better off as friends all while hoping it doesn't hurt them. I am not a guy or an aquarius but I have done it.

archipelago- my advice is to stop chasing him!!! just let him do his thing and you do yours and let him come to you. let him make the decisions and let him be the one that allows things to move forward between the two of you. he is still around, so he is clearly interested. and if he says everything is fine, you must trust that.

i am in a very similar situation, however i have been with my aqua for quite some time now and our relationship is a bit more developed. but, regardless of that i am still in the same spot that you are and i am paying for it now. so, i think you need to just take a step back and relax and just *know* that everything will be fine with you two! and start focusing more on yourself and less on him...he will come around.

p.s. i am also a cancer with leo in my chart...

Yes, I suppose I will stop chasing him. It's just so confusing when he acts one way, and then an instant later he acts completely different. I wish I could just know straight out what he feels so I could either move on with my life, or be patient for a while longer. Damn it he fits aquarius in every sense.

i found this on a website about aquas so i thought i would share it will you.

Friendship is so important to him
that you may feel his pals are more
important to him than you are. This
isn`t the case, but can be hard to
cope with at times. Loving an
Aquarius is often frustrating
because they often act aloof and
hard to catch. But as the French
say, the one who suffers greatest
loves the most. You`ll need to
position yourself inside his circle,
and not be on the outside looking
in.

yeah...that's where i have gone wrong. i was way too passive and never spoke up for myself and kept a lot of what i felt inside until i got so drained emotionally...so, please don't do what i did. i am in a really bad place with my aqua right now because of it 😢

oooh yes, how do you think I stay in business ...

*cracks whip* 😉

Over and over and over again, I've probably "walked over" all my lovers - in the NAME of being "different", "special", "Unique" (which I know I am:-)!!) and over and over and over again, I've come back to the core of me which is...rightly or wrongly....I only respect those who have put their foot down immediately, said that's no way me treat me....your behaviour is unacceptable!!!...they set their boundaries and don't move from them....this I have found so most true in the capricorns....every other sign I can wrap them round my little finger!!!.....oooooh you capis:-) - you have got me sussed!!!!....

A x

Alana's back!

I concur wholeheartedly with Alana's post. I tend to do it too...of course in the name of Independence and all that jazz! Its those that I cant control all that easily that get the best of me...but bear in mind they always succumb 🙂🙂

You make it seem as if its all your fault, is it?

Well the texts must be suspicious then if you dont believe him.
This has been a long arduous relationship, will you be able to walk away if need be?

Moon i have had the same problem with my Aqua, you know. He just shuts down, like he blocks everything out. If we have had a fight he disappears out of my life for a week or so with no contact and i know how frustrating that can be let alone 2 months of not speaking under the same roof. You stay strong and whatever will be will be. Things are really rocky and unsure for me at the moment and i know how hard it is.

I don't think that the Aquarius platitude is passionate but since you are a Cancer you will always be concerned about whurr you stand with an Aquarian and so persistent need (yes need) to be two steps behind him yeah so I don't uh well good luck, Aquarius Air the fixed vibration can become intensely interested in you but y'know its > you are a stranger and I dunno about the chem that's going one between y'all, the vibe y'know. My sag sis is with an Aqua and I think the rela is pretty plugged in.

i have already sat him down twice now and talked to him, but more so about the relationship and "us"...and it has gotten me nowhere!!! i have told him that this silence between us has to stop and that what we are doing is not healthy for either of us, and he has agreed with me every time...yet, the silent treatment is still in play. he is not ready to make a decision with the relationship and he is being extremely stubborn. and i do have small talk with him once in a while, but only when he initiates the conversation. but, it is small talk that lasts maybe 5 minutes. he has made it very clear that he does not want to be bothered, so i have just been giving him his space.

also HLG... we did go out to dinner about a month ago, and it was my idea. BAD IDEA!!! it was way too awkward sitting there with each other. he did not look at me at all or pay any attention to anything but the football game on tv. and we really didn't talk too much to one another. the thing with my aqua bf is that he is extremely stubborn and he will not talk until HE is ready to talk. and the more i initiate and make moves, the more he pulls away. he loves to rebel against me...

hey LK! i haven't moved out...but, i had been sleeping on the couch for a while and i am definitely very busy with my life...i am hardly ever at home. i do go away most weekends and get out of town to visit friends. so i am definitely distancing myself and i am by no means sitting around the house waiting for him to make a decision.
at this point, i am not financially stable enough to move out, even to a hotel for a week. so, i have just been doing my own thing and taking my own space and giving him his. i am working on getting that control back and getting myself back.

HLG...it's all of that leo in my planets that keeps me strong! i am very soft on the outside, but i have a lot of inner strength. when it comes down to it, i can be very tough. i do know that the best thing for me to do is leave, however i am not ready to make that step as of yet. and i really do not want to do something i will regret later on. i know that i can gain back control in this situation. i know because i have done it before. it's keeping the control that i have a problem with and it's something i need to work on.

wow

Posted by archipelago
Okay, so I understand that aquarius men can be detached and aloof, but how can you identify when they are actually not interested?
I've been involved with an aquarius man for a few months. We started off as friends, were hooking up for a short period, but it was cut short over the summer. Now we are back in the same place and I don't know how he feels about going back to what we were beginning to start. He was in a relationship over the summer but has since then ended it. Since we've been back we've been hanging out but there are times when I don't hear from him for few days to a week. I always feel like I'm the one that has to make the effort to hang out, even though he does every once in awhile as well. I tried to talk to him, and asked if everything was cool between us, in a casual way trying to get out how he feels but all he really said, was that yes everything's fine, and that he didn't really know what to say. I feel like I've been chasing this boy for too long and I just need to know if he's just not that interested or is waiting for the right time.
What are sure signs that he's interested, and what's the best way to take things back to the next level if he is in fact interested? I'm a Cancer with a Leo Cusp by the way!

You should stop running after him ... my boyfriend was an aqua and he silently ditched me ... he did not even tell me that its over .. unfortunately its a painful chapter of my life he has no feelings

Moonchild, get off the damned sofa and into YOUR bed..what are you..some kind of animal— No way should he have the bed, pour some cold water over hime and tell him to get the fuck out of there.