Aquas - Have you ever received a love letter?

Interesting topics for Valentine's Day.

If you ever received a love letter, how did it make you feel? If not, would you like to receive one?

And similar, but another line of thought, what would be the perfect Valentine's Day present for you?

Soooo, I'm getting the impression this is something you guys would be uncomfortable with, since no one has responded. 🙂

Are you looking for suggestions for your Aqua?

I don't like when things are forced just cuz it's Valentine's day??_ you know?

I do love chocolates though 🙂

and a dozen roses would be nice...

LOL


and a simple I love you??_.

Well, I was just thinking of instead of the big fancy traditional Valentine's Day, just a card and a letter of appreciation and letting him know all the qualities I like about him. Then I thought, he might think it was a love letter, though, in a way perhaps it is, but not really my intent in a sappy way. I look at it more of appreciation.

Not sure if he would think it was a ploy to move things forward or not. Don't want him to think that because it's not the intention.

I'm starting to think more and more its not such a good idea.

I did consider it last year. Chickened out. A few of yall thought it would be a good thing, but that was mostly the women. Can't remember what the guys thought about it.

Awkward appreciation is what I feel when I get these.

Personally for me gifts are never necessarily for me. It could be anything and I mean literally anything. Someone once gave me a bottlecap and told me it was special and I still have it. I am sentimental that way though. So long as you present yourself and have a few laughs with me, that's all the present I'll ever need from you.

Hmm can't remember what I said last year but it goes both ways. I'd find it weird that there's a special requirement on a day just like any other, and just because it so happens to be valentines day why do my qualities need to be quantified and why the appreciation needs to be justified.

Though on another line of thought I'd find you amazing to do exactly that and that you do love me for a reason and not just because you said so.

Alright guilty as charged, I fit the aquas are confusing mold.

Posted by truecap
Interesting topics for Valentine's Day.

If you ever received a love letter, how did it make you feel? If not, would you like to receive one?

And similar, but another line of thought, what would be the perfect Valentine's Day present for you?

I never received a love letter and would love to recieve one, but only from someone who really loves me and I love him.

On the other hand like others said, not sure if it must be especially on Valentine's Day, any other time will be better.

For Valentine's Day I would like just be with THE ONE, nothing special needed. I love simple things.

I think it would be a nice Valentine's tradition, though to remind each other why we care about each other, rather than the cards/flowers/candy/gifts crap that Hallmark pushes.

It sounds much more sweet and romantic to me than all that commercial nonsense.

Posted by aquasnoz
Alright guilty as charged, I fit the aquas are confusing mold.

Lol!!!

At least you are aknowledging it! 🙂

Posted by truecap
I think it would be a nice Valentine's tradition, though to remind each other why we care about each other, rather than the cards/flowers/candy/gifts crap that Hallmark pushes.

It sounds much more sweet and romantic to me than all that commercial nonsense.

Sorry, I don't want to be mean, but that's it, I hate tradition :-)

But sure commercial nonsense is the worst thing.

everyday is valentines day for us.

physical company and closeness. Is all one needs. No need for those ridiculous flowery pooh pooh stuff.

now i'm sounding like my husband. -.- except with my own vocabulary.

he's such a snuggle bunny puff pie.

I hear yall. Yall don't like the tradition, the forced ritual, the whole idea of Valentine's Day.

Two Questions:
To the guys: So let me ask you this, how many of you will comply anyway to make your SO happy?

To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?

Okay, three questions.

Aquas appreciate individuality and tolerance of other people and their ways. Aquas traditionally like when a person is their own person and does what they do without worrying about what other people think.

Under that logic, wouldn't it be respected then that I did something I wanted to do that came from my heart? Why should I have to feel like I can't be myself in expressing how much I appreciate someone? So, what is the harm that I want to celebrate Valentine's Day? Why, then wouldn't he respect that as my individual expression?

This has me thinking. Aquas in general buck tradition. Caps like tradition. That is actually one thing that is a huge difference between aqua and cap, but can be easily compromised on. More tradition for him, less tradition for me.

Oh I definitely don't shy away from the lovey dovey things on valentines day. Not adhering to tradition is more a personal thought that doesn't necessarily reflect on my opinion of a person. You are right, at least for me, that I appreciate honesty and expression so I'd enjoy that card 🙂

Commercialism and Traditions aside if it's coming from someone I love then all's good in my books.

Posted by truecap
I hear yall. Yall don't like the tradition, the forced ritual, the whole idea of Valentine's Day.

Two Questions:
To the guys: So let me ask you this, how many of you will comply anyway to make your SO happy?

To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?

My SO did it all our relationship, he ignored the holiday, sometimes he even ignored my birthday,
I never complained about it. If I wanted him to remember I took care to remind him little bit beforehead.

But he showed me love in another ways, he surprised me occasionally on his own, etc.

I have to say....I forgot sometimes too....sometimes I've got bad memory when I'm caught in something else =)

Posted by truecap
Okay, three questions.

Aquas appreciate individuality and tolerance of other people and their ways. Aquas traditionally like when a person is their own person and does what they do without worrying about what other people think.

Under that logic, wouldn't it be respected then that I did something I wanted to do that came from my heart? Why should I have to feel like I can't be myself in expressing how much I appreciate someone? So, what is the harm that I want to celebrate Valentine's Day? Why, then wouldn't he respect that as my individual expression?

This has me thinking. Aquas in general buck tradition. Caps like tradition. That is actually one thing that is a huge difference between aqua and cap, but can be easily compromised on. More tradition for him, less tradition for me.

was valentines even a tradition??

i dont buck tradition, but this whole, "you have to do this on this day because it's a day of love, is really just more appreciation day thing." Sort of like, "mothers day and fathers day" because it is a showing of appreciation. If your SO is showing you love everyday, in small ways or big, it doesn't feel like you have to go about doing this kind of thing. Unless grabbing flowers is a way of assauging a guilt or something.

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Posted by truecap
Okay, three questions.

Aquas appreciate individuality and tolerance of other people and their ways. Aquas traditionally like when a person is their own person and does what they do without worrying about what other people think.

Under that logic, wouldn't it be respected then that I did something I wanted to do that came from my heart? Why should I have to feel like I can't be myself in expressing how much I appreciate someone? So, what is the harm that I want to celebrate Valentine's Day? Why, then wouldn't he respect that as my individual expression?

This has me thinking. Aquas in general buck tradition. Caps like tradition. That is actually one thing that is a huge difference between aqua and cap, but can be easily compromised on. More tradition for him, less tradition for me.

was valentines even a tradition??

i dont buck tradition, but this whole, "you have to do this on this day because it's a day of love, is really just more appreciation day thing." Sort of like, "mothers day and fathers day" because it is a showing of appreciation. If your SO is showing you love everyday, in small ways or big, it doesn't feel like you have to go about doing this kind of thing. Unless grabbing flowers is a way of assauging a guilt or something.

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That's what I meant....I have nothing against the lovey dovey things on valentines day or remind each other why we care about each other, but I don't want to do this things only on valentines day and b/c it's valentines day and the rest of the year nothing...

and sure be yourself and write him love letter if you want...I really like to give and recieve things like handmade presents or handmade cards with writting from heart....it shows you were thinking about them when you made it....

I just don't want to think ooohhh it's valentines day I have to do it or he has to do it for me....

Posted by aquasnoz
Oh I definitely don't shy away from the lovey dovey things on valentines day. Not adhering to tradition is more a personal thought that doesn't necessarily reflect on my opinion of a person. You are right, at least for me, that I appreciate honesty and expression so I'd enjoy that card 🙂

Commercialism and Traditions aside if it's coming from someone I love then all's good in my books.

That's awesome!

Posted by Boriska

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by truecap
Okay, three questions.

Aquas appreciate individuality and tolerance of other people and their ways. Aquas traditionally like when a person is their own person and does what they do without worrying about what other people think.

Under that logic, wouldn't it be respected then that I did something I wanted to do that came from my heart? Why should I have to feel like I can't be myself in expressing how much I appreciate someone? So, what is the harm that I want to celebrate Valentine's Day? Why, then wouldn't he respect that as my individual expression?

This has me thinking. Aquas in general buck tradition. Caps like tradition. That is actually one thing that is a huge difference between aqua and cap, but can be easily compromised on. More tradition for him, less tradition for me.

was valentines even a tradition??

i dont buck tradition, but this whole, "you have to do this on this day because it's a day of love, is really just more appreciation day thing." Sort of like, "mothers day and fathers day" because it is a showing of appreciation. If your SO is showing you love everyday, in small ways or big, it doesn't feel like you have to go about doing this kind of thing. Unless grabbing flowers is a way of assauging a guilt or something.

That's what I meant....I have nothing against the lovey dovey things on valentines day or remind each other why we care about each other, but I don't want to do this things only on valentines day and b/c it's valentines day and the rest of the year nothing...

and sure be yourself and write him love letter if you want...I really like to give and recieve things like handmade presents or handmade cards with writting from heart....it shows you were thinking about them when you made it....

I just don't want to think ooohhh it's valentines day I have to do it or he has to do it for me....

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I tell him all the time I appreciate the things he does for me. I just wanted to put it all down on paper and make it more special.

Posted by Boriska

Posted by truecap
I hear yall. Yall don't like the tradition, the forced ritual, the whole idea of Valentine's Day.

Two Questions:
To the guys: So let me ask you this, how many of you will comply anyway to make your SO happy?

To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?

My SO did it all our relationship, he ignored the holiday, sometimes he even ignored my birthday,
I never complained about it. If I wanted him to remember I took care to remind him little bit beforehead.

But he showed me love in another ways, he surprised me occasionally on his own, etc.

I have to say....I forgot sometimes too....sometimes I've got bad memory when I'm caught in something else =)

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For some reason, this makes me sad. Your SO should at least remember your birthday without having to be reminded.

Posted by lisabethur8

Posted by truecap
Okay, three questions.

Aquas appreciate individuality and tolerance of other people and their ways. Aquas traditionally like when a person is their own person and does what they do without worrying about what other people think.

Under that logic, wouldn't it be respected then that I did something I wanted to do that came from my heart? Why should I have to feel like I can't be myself in expressing how much I appreciate someone? So, what is the harm that I want to celebrate Valentine's Day? Why, then wouldn't he respect that as my individual expression?

This has me thinking. Aquas in general buck tradition. Caps like tradition. That is actually one thing that is a huge difference between aqua and cap, but can be easily compromised on. More tradition for him, less tradition for me.

was valentines even a tradition??

i dont buck tradition, but this whole, "you have to do this on this day because it's a day of love, is really just more appreciation day thing." Sort of like, "mothers day and fathers day" because it is a showing of appreciation. If your SO is showing you love everyday, in small ways or big, it doesn't feel like you have to go about doing this kind of thing. Unless grabbing flowers is a way of assauging a guilt or something.

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And I meant it to be about appreciation.

Posted by truecap

Posted by Boriska

Posted by truecap
I hear yall. Yall don't like the tradition, the forced ritual, the whole idea of Valentine's Day.

Two Questions:
To the guys: So let me ask you this, how many of you will comply anyway to make your SO happy?

To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?

My SO did it all our relationship, he ignored the holiday, sometimes he even ignored my birthday,
I never complained about it. If I wanted him to remember I took care to remind him little bit beforehead.

But he showed me love in another ways, he surprised me occasionally on his own, etc.

I have to say....I forgot sometimes too....sometimes I've got bad memory when I'm caught in something else =)

For some reason, this makes me sad. Your SO should at least remember your birthday without having to be reminded.

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It didn't bother me....maybe because I really never celebrated my birthday

But thigns changed, now I'm single and I'm looking forward my first big birthday party next week
with all my friends =)

Your first party?!! Oh, girl! Milk that birthday for all it's worth! Enjoy it! You get to call the shots and be the princess for a day and everyone has to do it your way!

Just kidding, but it's fun to try! 😉

Mine is New Years Day, I milk that sucker for two days straight! lol!
I have an aqua friend who's is at the end of January and that woman celebrates all month long! It's not "it's my birth DAY" she says it's my birth MONTH!" 🙂

I only have an aqua moon, but I can be conservative in a lot of ways, but not traditional. It's more about what feels right, If that makes any sense. I don't celebrate the various holidays but I do acknowledge them sometimes to some extent more so for others as well as the idea and good feelings that they can invoke.

Can't recall every celebrating valentines day with an SO, other than exchanging some verbal or physical tenderness....An appreciation card/letter is nice anytime. To receive it on valentines day might seem kinda forced unless I was feeling down (not because of valentines day) or something significant happened that day. So yeah if it's something that my SO was into then it would make me happy to see them happy. Within reason.....🙂

this is me if I ever received a love letter ( T.T ) notice the tears streaming down my big head.

Awwwww. Thats sweet! Thanks.

The Aqua I know threw candy at in celebration Saint Val's. He's a cheery a guy. But he's awesome.

Posted by truecap
I hear yall. Yall don't like the tradition, the forced ritual, the whole idea of Valentine's Day.

Two Questions:
To the guys: So let me ask you this, how many of you will comply anyway to make your SO happy?

To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?

To this, I am hurt by it if it's a significant holiday. Valentines day to me is an overrated holiday created by hallmark to make money, so that would not bother me if I didn't get a big mushy acknowledgement. Would I like a personalized love letter? Hell yes (answering your OP). I have gotten notes that I still have from previous SO, but these are just small things, nothing grand. I actually like the "little things" over the grandiose things.

I also have had someone forget my b-day as well and it honestly made me really question things. I remember dates, times, places.. I'm a geek that way. lol I try to remember not everyone is like that and not get too upset, but yes deep down it bothers me.

If it's in your heart to do the letter, I say do it! I think the lack or responses is alot of us haven't had it happen. Most think we are cold detached people, so assume we wouldn't like it.

Posted by justagirl

Posted by truecap
I hear yall. Yall don't like the tradition, the forced ritual, the whole idea of Valentine's Day.
Two Questions:
To the guys: So let me ask you this, how many of you will comply anyway to make your SO happy?
To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?

To this, I am hurt by it if it's a significant holiday. Valentines day to me is an overrated holiday created by hallmark to make money, so that would not bother me if I didn't get a big mushy acknowledgement. Would I like a personalized love letter? Hell yes (answering your OP). I have gotten notes that I still have from previous SO, but these are just small things, nothing grand. I actually like the "little things" over the grandiose things.
I also have had someone forget my b-day as well and it honestly made me really question things. I remember dates, times, places.. I'm a geek that way. lol I try to remember not everyone is like that and not get too upset, but yes deep down it bothers me.
If it's in your heart to do the letter, I say do it! I think the lack or responses is alot of us haven't had it happen. Most think we are cold detached people, so assume we wouldn't like it.

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it's a very overrated holiday. I guess i'm just numb by it because honestly, i've had plenty of guys in the past give me plenty of roses, flowers, chocolates, and i'm just not really impressed. Im not trying to sound all grand or hey ...look at me, i've got guys chasing after me on their knees. It's not that at all. *sigh* i'm just not really impressed at all. i know alot of women are and that's just fine. To each their own.

i do know that when my hubby gets me a new household appliance....

*swwooons* mmm mmmm baby. this momma wanna do some french maid work in the bedroom. lmao!!
yours truly, wifey

Posted by lisabethur8
i do know that when my hubby gets me a new household appliance....

*swwooons* mmm mmmm baby. this momma wanna do some french maid work in the bedroom. lmao!!
yours truly, wifey

newlyweds?

Posted by aquapiscescusp

Posted by lisabethur8
i do know that when my hubby gets me a new household appliance....

*swwooons* mmm mmmm baby. this momma wanna do some french maid work in the bedroom. lmao!!
yours truly, wifey

newlyweds?

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not really. But why do people presume that when there's hot and frisky behaviour going on in the bedroom. hot and heavy action, a couple is presumed only less than a year or a year married (newlywed behaviour) why can't couples just have hot and passionate love going on even a few years down the road, or even several decades like many couples?

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Posted by lisabethur8
i do know that when my hubby gets me a new household appliance....

*swwooons* mmm mmmm baby. this momma wanna do some french maid work in the bedroom. lmao!!
yours truly, wifey

newlyweds?

not really. But why do people presume that when there's hot and frisky behaviour going on in the bedroom. hot and heavy action, a couple is presumed only less than a year or a year married (newlywed behaviour) why can't couples just have hot and passionate love going on even a few years down the road, or even several decades like many couples?

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Uhm, not the hot and heavy stuff in the bedroom??_ LOL

It's you getting a new household appliance that made me think newlyweds.

Well, I had the letter all written up, but missed giving it to him before Valentine's Day (he left on a work trip before I had the opportunity). But, like yall said, maybe V-Day is too forced. I will give it to him soon. Will probably try to sneak it in where he will find it later (like the console of his truck or on his pillow or something). Would be too embarrassed if he read it in front of me (I'd get to see the reaction, but, Nah, too nerve wrecking). Maybe after mercury retrograde. Would hate for it to fall to the floor and he not see it right away.

Aquas don't like specific days, things get boring...
Any day is always good.

I personally wouldnt like a love letter...on valentines day!

...perhaps if it were a random love letter? 🙂

"To the women: How would you really feel if your SO just ignored the holiday alltogether and treated it just like another day? Wouldn't you at least be a little bit hurt?"

I actually was overjoyed / elated that valentines day was ignored!! 🙂 It was my choice. Valentines day is so forced.

The guy I am dating is Aqua, Moon sign is Pieces, Venus sign is Sag.
On Valentine day, he was abroad for work, just text me: Happy Valentine Day. And tell me when he would come back 🙂

Posted by backtokemet
THE FEMALES WILL THINK YOU'RE TRYING TO REPULSE THEM
THE MALES WILL READ 1/3 TO 3/4 OF IT THEN TOSS IT TO THE BIN

AN AQUARIAN WOULD PROBABLY BE HAPPIER WITH SOME DVD SET ON LOVE-RELATED MURDERS (GOING BY THE TASTE OF WATERCOP AND AQUALIBIDO)

LOL How'd you know?

woot woot murder mysteries!

I've received some, not really a plain love letter though. But i got a drawing book full of his drawing of stuff about me, it was cool but more like creepy to me. I forgot where is that drawing book now.
Then i got a canvas painting of my face, and also i forgot where was the last time i put it.
Recently i got some postcards with handwritten lines on it from a cancer guy that i like.
I love em, but for now i put it in a very safe place.
I'm terrible at keeping some gift or something like that, tend to forgot it the next day.