berrywiddle
@berrywiddle
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He's a douche, forget him, you don't need that in your life
yeah he is. i threw the headphones because he called me the B word. I mean I know it isn't an excuse on my part, but I feel so guilty right now for doing it and idk how to make peace with it.
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
Fuck him. He doesn't deserve someone trying to help and cheer him up.
Let him wallow in his own misery. Don't go back to get caught up in it.
Those words were extreme and final. I could never trust him again.
Let him wallow in his own misery. Don't go back to get caught up in it.
Those words were extreme and final. I could never trust him again.
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Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
That's what last going on here..how did I miss that.
Posted by LazyK
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
False. All taurus I've met have only tried to feed me.
Wow. So just to be clear...,
HE calls you a bitch.
HE says FUCK you forever
And yet YOUR the one feeling guilty and wanting to apologize??! Girl, no.
HE calls you a bitch.
HE says FUCK you forever
And yet YOUR the one feeling guilty and wanting to apologize??! Girl, no.
Posted by SassyKiwiI definitly would never take advice from a witchPosted by LazyK
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
False. All taurus I've met have only tried to feed me.click to expand
Posted by LazyKi just thought him sharing a bit wasn't a big deal, and if he needed more, we could have gone grocery shopping, like we have in the past. 😢
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah because i shouldn't have put my hands on him, even if it was indirectly through the headphones. ugghghh you're right. what he said is so mean. 😠i feel so hurt. like the past 2 years was all a lie.
Wow. So just to be clear...,
HE calls you a bitch.
HE says FUCK you forever
And yet YOUR the one feeling guilty and wanting to apologize??! Girl, no.
How did you guys all move on from your break ups? I am having the hardest time! I am feeling so guilty and sad. He was always doing the sweetest things, so how could he have turned out to be so mean?
Posted by berrywiddleNever 4get Taurus mindset:Posted by LazyKi just thought him sharing a bit wasn't a big deal, and if he needed more, we could have gone grocery shopping, like we have in the past. 😢
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Eat now
Food now
Move bitch......
Posted by LazyKhahaha you made me smile 🙂 thanks. i guess i'm just sad because I'm undoing years of routine. feels like a part of me has died, except they're not. they're there going about their lives and i'm here trying hard to scrape by. acting like i'm not hurt. but i cry every night and sometimes when i wake up because i feel so empty.Posted by berrywiddleNever 4get Taurus mindset:Posted by LazyKi just thought him sharing a bit wasn't a big deal, and if he needed more, we could have gone grocery shopping, like we have in the past. 😢
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
Eat now
Food now
Move bitch......
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Posted by berrywiddleYou will feel better soon. There's always a grieving process with the ending of relationships. It's inevitable. Go through the motions, it will make you feel better in the end. But you have to give yourself a time limit on it. Like a week or maybe two.Posted by LazyKhahaha you made me smile 🙂 thanks. i guess i'm just sad because I'm undoing years of routine. feels like a part of me has died, except they're not. they're there going about their lives and i'm here trying hard to scrape by. acting like i'm not hurt. but i cry every night and sometimes when i wake up because i feel so empty.Posted by berrywiddleNever 4get Taurus mindset:Posted by LazyKi just thought him sharing a bit wasn't a big deal, and if he needed more, we could have gone grocery shopping, like we have in the past. 😢
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
Eat now
Food now
Move bitch......
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Remembering those harsh words should make it easier.
Posted by berrywiddleIt's not like you threw a lamp at him. You threw a pair of head phones. I hope they were an old school pair at least. This whole thing is gonna be even more ridic if they were earbuds.Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah because i shouldn't have put my hands on him, even if it was indirectly through the headphones. ugghghh you're right. what he said is so mean. 😠i feel so hurt. like the past 2 years was all a lie.
Wow. So just to be clear...,
HE calls you a bitch.
HE says FUCK you forever
And yet YOUR the one feeling guilty and wanting to apologize??! Girl, no.
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Posted by berrywiddlebeing reborn new can be painfulPosted by LazyKhahaha you made me smile 🙂 thanks. i guess i'm just sad because I'm undoing years of routine. feels like a part of me has died, except they're not. they're there going about their lives and i'm here trying hard to scrape by. acting like i'm not hurt. but i cry every night and sometimes when i wake up because i feel so empty.Posted by berrywiddleNever 4get Taurus mindset:Posted by LazyKi just thought him sharing a bit wasn't a big deal, and if he needed more, we could have gone grocery shopping, like we have in the past. 😢
Word on the street is, u never get between a Taurus & their food
Eat now
Food now
Move bitch......
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I think
Posted by LadyNeptunehahaha. they were like the over the head ones. they were yellow monster brand headphones. i guess similar in size to any sony/standard one. they were new. he said i don't care about gifts he buys me since i threw them at him. so i shouldn't apologize at any cost?Posted by berrywiddleIt's not like you threw a lamp at him. You threw a pair of head phones. I hope they were an old school pair at least. This whole thing is gonna be even more ridic if they were earbuds.Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah because i shouldn't have put my hands on him, even if it was indirectly through the headphones. ugghghh you're right. what he said is so mean. 😠i feel so hurt. like the past 2 years was all a lie.
Wow. So just to be clear...,
HE calls you a bitch.
HE says FUCK you forever
And yet YOUR the one feeling guilty and wanting to apologize??! Girl, no.
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Posted by berrywiddleDo whatever you need to, your gonna half to live with it. If its me I'm cutting all ties with this dude. He can suc my dic.Posted by LadyNeptunehahaha. they were like the over the head ones. they were yellow monster brand headphones. i guess similar in size to any sony/standard one. they were new. he said i don't care about gifts he buys me since i threw them at him. so i shouldn't apologize at any cost?Posted by berrywiddleIt's not like you threw a lamp at him. You threw a pair of head phones. I hope they were an old school pair at least. This whole thing is gonna be even more ridic if they were earbuds.Posted by LadyNeptuneyeah because i shouldn't have put my hands on him, even if it was indirectly through the headphones. ugghghh you're right. what he said is so mean. 😠i feel so hurt. like the past 2 years was all a lie.
Wow. So just to be clear...,
HE calls you a bitch.
HE says FUCK you forever
And yet YOUR the one feeling guilty and wanting to apologize??! Girl, no.
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Posted by DiamondAceI'm so sorry. 😠20 years doesn't even compare to 2 years. Thank you I hope I get over this soon, I just want to stop crying at night and when I wake up feeling empty. It really feels so weird when things happen because I want to pick up the phone and call him to tell him about it.
He's 34 and acts this way?
I'm really sorry you're going through a heartbreak right now. It hurts a lot but stay strong and keep yourself busy. If it helps at all, I had a break up from a 20+ year marriage and I made it, you will too.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowYes demanding to be treated with respect makes one very 'bitter'.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
So she should sacrifice herself to salvage his ego. His fragile male pride is more important than her feelings. Yeah, no. Call me bitter all day everyday, I'm still out.
I swear to God, Allah, Budah and every Jadi Night in the galaxy you women are extra..
Sh*, 'You cant see abuse coming from a mile away can you .
But I'll give benefit of doubt here for once. Lets say he is stressed, and u wanted to be a good friend' bam" cool nothing wrong with that. But dnt you think arguing about food to guy who has financial issue was unnecessary on your part? He obviously had a good reason. A Greedy 1 but still he has to reserve meals so theres the technicality. But on other hand you did come to help so he does seem a little selfish and arrogant. Plus the disrespectful low bows are all red flags to me by far. But again so is throwing head phones at sombody.
In saying all of this my point is "nothing cuz you will blindly follow your heart, " just take your brain with you this time.
Sh*, 'You cant see abuse coming from a mile away can you .
But I'll give benefit of doubt here for once. Lets say he is stressed, and u wanted to be a good friend' bam" cool nothing wrong with that. But dnt you think arguing about food to guy who has financial issue was unnecessary on your part? He obviously had a good reason. A Greedy 1 but still he has to reserve meals so theres the technicality. But on other hand you did come to help so he does seem a little selfish and arrogant. Plus the disrespectful low bows are all red flags to me by far. But again so is throwing head phones at sombody.
In saying all of this my point is "nothing cuz you will blindly follow your heart, " just take your brain with you this time.
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I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
It's this. You were not arguing over what you think you are arguing over.
From my experience, loss of work is a BIG deal with most of the men I've met. From Cancer to Capricorn.
I've been burned before as well, thinking that men want to be nurtured when they've failed in the eyes of the world. Now, I'd say just let them know you're around and leave them alone until they've figured something out on their own.
There's a good reason why men leave men alone when they're dealing with a problem.
He treated you very badly though, and that's not ok.
I've been burned before as well, thinking that men want to be nurtured when they've failed in the eyes of the world. Now, I'd say just let them know you're around and leave them alone until they've figured something out on their own.
There's a good reason why men leave men alone when they're dealing with a problem.
He treated you very badly though, and that's not ok.
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I swear to God, Allah, Budah and every Jadi Night in the galaxy you women are extra..
Sh*, 'You cant see abuse coming from a mile away can you .
But I'll give benefit of doubt here for once. Lets say he is stressed, and u wanted to be a good friend' bam" cool nothing wrong with that. But dnt you think arguing about food to guy who has financial issue was unnecessary on your part? He obviously had a good reason. A Greedy 1 but still he has to reserve meals so theres the technicality. But on other hand you did come to help so he does seem a little selfish and arrogant. Plus the disrespectful low bows are all red flags to me by far. But again so is throwing head phones at sombody.
In saying all of this my point is "nothing cuz you will blindly follow your heart, " just take your brain with you this time.
Finally
you say something true!!!!!!
umm yeah
some Taureans can be weird about sharing their food
but also as a Taurus male who prides himself on being a provider and failing....
your offer to help him was pretty much a fatal attack to his ego..
BUT none of this excuses the fact that he's simply an abusive partner
and a jerk that doesn't deserve you.
some Taureans can be weird about sharing their food
but also as a Taurus male who prides himself on being a provider and failing....
your offer to help him was pretty much a fatal attack to his ego..
BUT none of this excuses the fact that he's simply an abusive partner
and a jerk that doesn't deserve you.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI understand his financial situation and the fact that he was stressed. I also understood his financial situation before. When we first started dating he lost he got laid off. And he told me of his struggles and I bought him groceries. Thats why 2 years later, I didn't think it would be an issue for him to share his food because he knows or should know that I would always have his back.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
So as a male, do you think I should apologize, or just leave him be? I mean he did say hurtful things to me. Things I feel were completely uncalled for. Unless that is how he really feels. Regret.
EVERYONE, I know it was a petty fight. It was the most stupid fight ever. I went there to help my dude feel better and we fought over him not wanting to share eggs with me for an omelet. BUT I just didn't see the problem because he has always shared his food with me before. I cook for him 4 days out of the week, I buy groceries, too. That's why I got so upset why he wouldn't want to share it with me. I feel like maybe he had been planning this. Because everything he texted me was full of so much hate and anger! I really appreciate everyone's input on this..I was just wondering if I should apologize and be done with it or just leave it alone and let it be bad this way. I am just full of guilt for throwing those headphones 😠and no matter how stressed he was with work and finances, he shouldn't have called me a B. He also called me a C word. I hate that word!
Posted by FirefighterI don't think I'll follow my heart on this one. I am being logical, but at the same time, idk which is the right path. apologize or just leave it the way it is. and so far it's the latter.
I swear to God, Allah, Budah and every Jadi Night in the galaxy you women are extra..
Sh*, 'You cant see abuse coming from a mile away can you .
But I'll give benefit of doubt here for once. Lets say he is stressed, and u wanted to be a good friend' bam" cool nothing wrong with that. But dnt you think arguing about food to guy who has financial issue was unnecessary on your part? He obviously had a good reason. A Greedy 1 but still he has to reserve meals so theres the technicality. But on other hand you did come to help so he does seem a little selfish and arrogant. Plus the disrespectful low bows are all red flags to me by far. But again so is throwing head phones at sombody.
In saying all of this my point is "nothing cuz you will blindly follow your heart, " just take your brain with you this time.
Posted by aquanibi just read a response from someone in the taurus forum. and he said the same thing. that i made him feel like he couldn't do these things even though i was just trying to help. and as a man i crushed his ego. and you're right. i can't forgive someone who would call me a B word or a C word; it was full of so much hate. i get people say the B word in joking ways, but this was not a joke.Posted by berrywiddleYou should not apologize. be real here, under pressure he buckled to deny food. Were talking about an item that you go to the store to get more of, not some family heirloom to pass on or some arcane magic.
So as a male, do you think I should apologize, or just leave him be? I mean he did say hurtful things to me. Things I feel were completely uncalled for. Unless that is how he really feels. Regret.
I believe your help in the past de-emasculated him to the point of lashing out now because he didn't want to rely on you anymore, however, the nature of the lashing out is a whole different story.
Imo, you will not be able to look at him the same again, whatever the outcome.
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Posted by aquanibPosted by berrywiddleYa, but that response couldn't be any more different than mine.
i just read a response from someone in the taurus forum. and he said the same thing. that i made him feel like he couldn't do these things even though i was just trying to help. and as a man i crushed his ego. and you're right. i can't forgive someone who would call me a B word or a C word; it was full of so much hate. i get people say the B word in joking ways, but this was not a joke.
She basically suggested you to go over and apologize for the job he lost, the stress he is under, things which aren't even in your control. Ridiculous, serves no other purpose than to falsely stroke an ego.
Such advice, in the long term leads to backbone turning into cartilage in a perpetual process of bending, accomodating and similar. This won't work for you as an aqua.
50:50, all inclusive and last i read the details on all inclusive packages, food was in them as well.
And it's not even about the food, it's about him throwing a hissy selfish fit under pressure. That bothers you, that when the chips were down, he couldn't share.
All that said, i imagine you aren't innocent in this as well, i gotta hunch you tried to leverage the power you had by helping him for something he didn't quite like.
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When someone dies, do you say I'm sorry? Sure. Does that mean you killed them? No. You commiserate. "Hey man I'm really sorry you are going through a rough time. It's sucks but you are going to come out of it." that's not back bending ego stroking in my view. That's being a supportive friend.
And what's wrong with ego stroking? My partner and I do it all the time to each other. I tell him no one in the world wears a shirt as good as him and he tells me I am the best cook in the world.
You people talk as if being kind to one another is a bad thing.
Posted by aquanibPosted by jeaneRight?? Being kind. Would that include sharing food with your partner or telling her to fuck off when asked to do so?
When someone dies, do you say I'm sorry? Sure. Does that mean you killed them? No. You commiserate. "Hey man I'm really sorry you are going through a rough time. It's sucks but you are going to come out of it." that's not back bending ego stroking in my view. That's being a supportive friend.
And what's wrong with ego stroking? My partner and I do it all the time to each other. I tell him no one in the world wears a shirt as good as him and he tells me I am the best cook in the world.
You people talk as if being kind to one another is a bad thing.
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At no point have I condoned his name calling. You don't play tit for tat in a relationship. You dont keep score. You don't show understanding only if someone shows understanding of you in the exact same moment.
You accept your partner will make mistakes, that they will not always behave in the best way. You work through this issues.
Have you see kids fight? "he called me a name so I'm going to break his truck". "I bit her but only because she broken my truck first!" fighting like this gets you nowhere. Well, it gets you somewhere. It gets you single from the person you say you love.
well i wrote the letter guys. and now that i've reread it, i don't feel like mailing it to him. what if he doesn't even want to hear from me. he did say F you forever, don't ever talk to me....your existence angers me beyond imagination... :/ but i honestly feel better. with everyone's responses and writing this letter!
awwee I wish I had that type of egg fight with my man. well ex -_- but yes! It was about him not wanting to share his food with me because he had none to spare cuz he was so unsure about work. then he got really upset when i said i would buy him more! as if i have never bought him food!
AND nooooo LOLOL I've bought groceries plenty of times! The last time I bought groceries was 2 weeks ago! Not 2 years, I was just stating that I have bought groceries so often, that I didn't think it was a big issue for him to throw in an extra egg for that omelet so we could have both ate. That's why I'm saying what if this was planned out! and he waited for a moment like this to tell me how much he regrets me ðŸ˜
honestly though my mood has changed. i like this forum, you are all very helpful and distracting me from things i probably won't even care about a year from now...sad to say. ugh now i'm getting sad again. he was a huge part of my life!
AND nooooo LOLOL I've bought groceries plenty of times! The last time I bought groceries was 2 weeks ago! Not 2 years, I was just stating that I have bought groceries so often, that I didn't think it was a big issue for him to throw in an extra egg for that omelet so we could have both ate. That's why I'm saying what if this was planned out! and he waited for a moment like this to tell me how much he regrets me ðŸ˜
honestly though my mood has changed. i like this forum, you are all very helpful and distracting me from things i probably won't even care about a year from now...sad to say. ugh now i'm getting sad again. he was a huge part of my life!
I think that you've done enough! He asked you to not contact him again I think you should respect that. And I agree with Miss Libra cookie you know him better than the rest of us you've been with a man for 2 years.
Maybe you need to find some other things to occupy your time for a while and let him reach out to you as long as God knows in your heart that you're sorry for what you did God will translate that message to him.
Maybe you need to find some other things to occupy your time for a while and let him reach out to you as long as God knows in your heart that you're sorry for what you did God will translate that message to him.
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awwee I wish I had that type of egg fight with my man. well ex -_- but yes! It was about him not wanting to share his food with me because he had none to spare cuz he was so unsure about work. then he got really upset when i said i would buy him more! as if i have never bought him food!
AND nooooo LOLOL I've bought groceries plenty of times! The last time I bought groceries was 2 weeks ago! Not 2 years, I was just stating that I have bought groceries so often, that I didn't think it was a big issue for him to throw in an extra egg for that omelet so we could have both ate. That's why I'm saying what if this was planned out! and he waited for a moment like this to tell me how much he regrets me ðŸ˜
honestly though my mood has changed. i like this forum, you are all very helpful and distracting me from things i probably won't even care about a year from now...sad to say. ugh now i'm getting sad again. he was a huge part of my life!
Oh please don't cry! I really hate to see women cry. Are you really crying? I hope you're not really crying!!!
Everything is going to be okay in about two weeks you two will probably be back together again - just give him some space and back up.
I understand what it feels like to make a man your life we are women and we're nurturers and that's just kind of what we do we want to nurture.
So just give him some space find something to do find a hobby knit so go out do something to occupy yourself and within about 2 to 3 weeks you guys should be okay again if not by 3 to 4 weeks you may be a little bit more comfortable with not talking to him sounds like he just needs some space to get a new job and he'll be back to his normal self. —
i thought i knew him. he was the sweetest dude ever, always made sure i was taken care of and he wouldn't even spoil me with lavish things, it was always practical things that i can always use. they were so simple and thoughtful, he even gave gifts i didn't even know i needed until i had them lol. so i guess i don't know him that well because i never thought he would ever speak to me that way, especially knowing he grew up with an awesome mom and 3 sisters, definitely didn't think that would come out of his mouth. but yeah you're right...i feel sad, but also at peace. sort of. its a process right? look at me. i'm 28 and it feels as though i am going through this for the first time.
you guys dont argue! i'm not crying tonight. i haven't felt like crying tonight at all. 🙂 because of this forum. you are all keeping me occupied haha. i might cry tomorrow when i wake up because of that emptiness i feel, but thats normal. and he wasn't my life, but he was a huge part of it. i miss the routine calls and the constant contact and hearing about his day, vice versa..stuff like that. i am sad, but i am still functional lol.
Posted by aquanibPosted by jeanelol i like how you made it out to be some holier than thou thing, the imagined and wished for feeling of chivalry you fulfill with the act of standing by your man, when it's really just a basic lack of respect, calling someone a cunt and a bitch.
At no point have I condoned his name calling. You don't play tit for tat in a relationship. You dont keep score. You don't show understanding only if someone shows understanding of you in the exact same moment.
You accept your partner will make mistakes, that they will not always behave in the best way. You work through this issues.
Have you see kids fight? "he called me a name so I'm going to break his truck". "I bit her but only because she broken my truck first!" fighting like this gets you nowhere. Well, it gets you somewhere. It gets you single from the person you say you love.
And food, was the catalyst. Something so basic. So, mediocre.click to expand
Shrug. It's just my opinion. It's up to the OP which she feels right for her.
I know what works for me in my life. I'm sure you feel the same. Bygones.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowYou're the one who sounds bitter. And you're making things up to suit your agenda. You don't know how he feels. But what you do know is what OP provided. You don't have to be a man to see this clearly.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
Posted by berrywiddleLet him come to you.
well i wrote the letter guys. and now that i've reread it, i don't feel like mailing it to him. what if he doesn't even want to hear from me. he did say F you forever, don't ever talk to me....your existence angers me beyond imagination... :/ but i honestly feel better. with everyone's responses and writing this letter!
Some people here will tell you to bend over backwards because that is what they do to keep a man or woman and relationship. That man cursed you out, denied something so petty like food and then sent a follow up text like that..as a self respecting person what is there to say?
I'm sorry you cursed me out??
Posted by aquanibIf you read some of her other responses over there on the Taurus board she always does this. Some people have an issue defending their sign even if they don't know the person they blindly defend because the person shares the same sun sign as them. Or shares the sun sign of their current partner. Projection. It's so weird and juvenile.Posted by jeanelol, woman, bottom line is you are telling her to go back to potential abuse.
Shrug. It's just my opinion. It's up to the OP which she feels right for her.
I know what works for me in my life. I'm sure you feel the same. Bygones.
That she should just endure the disrespect and the potential other issues his response brought to light out of some desperate need for being in a relationship, with the one you love even though the one you love doesn't deserve it and shuns it away.
Best of luck to you jeane, best of luck, no shade.
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Posted by aquanibHmm, no. I've not said that. If you think that, then perhaps I wasnt very clear in my point.Posted by jeanelol, woman, bottom line is you are telling her to go back to potential abuse.
Shrug. It's just my opinion. It's up to the OP which she feels right for her.
I know what works for me in my life. I'm sure you feel the same. Bygones.
That she should just endure the disrespect and the potential other issues his response brought to light out of some desperate need for being in a relationship, with the one you love even though the one you love doesn't deserve it and shuns it away.
Best of luck to you jeane, best of luck, no shade.
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Posted by bkbella86Posted by aquanibIf you read some of her other responses over there on the Taurus board she always does this. Some people have an issue defending their sign even if they don't know the person they blindly defend because the person shares the same sun sign as them. Or shares the sun sign of their current partner. Projection. It's so weird and juvenile.Posted by jeanelol, woman, bottom line is you are telling her to go back to potential abuse.
Shrug. It's just my opinion. It's up to the OP which she feels right for her.
I know what works for me in my life. I'm sure you feel the same. Bygones.
That she should just endure the disrespect and the potential other issues his response brought to light out of some desperate need for being in a relationship, with the one you love even though the one you love doesn't deserve it and shuns it away.
Best of luck to you jeane, best of luck, no shade.
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Im always grateful for your input.
honestly at those tauruses fighting over food forever...
I'm sorry, sounds like it was just an excuse for him to express feelings he was supressing for sometime
or he felt entitled to blame you for unfortunate things that had happened....either way, I'm sorry is what I wanna say, you haven't done anything wrong, your relationship was compatile when it was formed and it is noones fault it's changing as time goes by...
I would say do what feels best for you.. if you wanna stay and try to work things out or give him space first so he can works things on his own...and maybe it's gonna be better it you leave it to him to reach out first...
Speaking out of turn is just what people do when angry, don't get down on yourself too much.... more importanlty is how they react when they come to their senses....
but.. cursing like that is unaccaptable..I would feel lucky that I got to saw how he's behaving in heat of the moment....so I could quietly go to the exit...
I'm sorry, sounds like it was just an excuse for him to express feelings he was supressing for sometime
or he felt entitled to blame you for unfortunate things that had happened....either way, I'm sorry is what I wanna say, you haven't done anything wrong, your relationship was compatile when it was formed and it is noones fault it's changing as time goes by...
I would say do what feels best for you.. if you wanna stay and try to work things out or give him space first so he can works things on his own...and maybe it's gonna be better it you leave it to him to reach out first...
Speaking out of turn is just what people do when angry, don't get down on yourself too much.... more importanlty is how they react when they come to their senses....
but.. cursing like that is unaccaptable..I would feel lucky that I got to saw how he's behaving in heat of the moment....so I could quietly go to the exit...
Posted by bkbella86I have a penis; you don't. So you wouldn't know any better.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowYou're the one who sounds bitter. And you're making things up to suit your agenda. You don't know how he feels. But what you do know is what OP provided. You don't have to be a man to see this clearly.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.click to expand
And what do I have to be bitter about? Having a demigod as a best friend & fwb? You must be confusing me with ands or hydorah.
Posted by berrywiddleThe last thing us guys enjoy is feeling vulnerable. You most likely caught him at a really bizarre time the first time. Perhaps he didn't think his situation would be bad for long, so it's like he was possibly hoping to be able to repay you soon enough. But if he's still unemployed 2 years later then it's definitely a way sorer spot for him now than before. And he's a Taurus, they can be all about the monay. They like their financial security.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowI understand his financial situation and the fact that he was stressed. I also understood his financial situation before. When we first started dating he lost he got laid off. And he told me of his struggles and I bought him groceries. Thats why 2 years later, I didn't think it would be an issue for him to share his food because he knows or should know that I would always have his back.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
So as a male, do you think I should apologize, or just leave him be? I mean he did say hurtful things to me. Things I feel were completely uncalled for. Unless that is how he really feels. Regret.click to expand
Give him a couple days to cool off, then send him a text if you genuinely care about him that is, otherwise just ignore him. Keep the text short & to the point, and don't come across as too emotional. Say stuff like
"Hey, I just wanna say good morning/afternoon/evening. I hope you're feeling better. I understand where you're coming from and it's all water under the bridge. I still care for you and I'd like to talk to/see you when you're ready".
Your point being that you still care but you don't make it all about you, like you're hurt and you're expecting an apology. You can bring that up if/when you spend time together next. Just don't bring it up straight away. Try to predict when he's more relaxed, that way he won't immediately get defensive.
Posted by aquanibYeah I agree with you. Everyone argues. But his default is to lash out and call his woman, BITCH, CUNT, FUCK YOU FOREVER, over something so little. Imagine when real problems happen, how will he cope?Posted by berrywiddleYou should not apologize. be real here, under pressure he buckled to deny food. Were talking about an item that you go to the store to get more of, not some family heirloom to pass on or some arcane magic.
So as a male, do you think I should apologize, or just leave him be? I mean he did say hurtful things to me. Things I feel were completely uncalled for. Unless that is how he really feels. Regret.
I believe your help in the past de-emasculated him to the point of lashing out now because he didn't want to rely on you anymore, however, the nature of the lashing out is a whole different story.
Imo, you will not be able to look at him the same again, whatever the outcome.
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If I'm you OP I'd see this as a blessing in disguise. Now you know what he's like under pressure and when things aren't perfect he's gonna take it out on you and escalate the situation. Be glad you didn't invest more time, marry him, have his children, etc. before discovering this character flaw.
IMO the strength of a relationship lies in how conflicts are addressed.
Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowWho and who? This isn't about penises and vagina's. The topic at hand has escaped you.Posted by bkbella86I have a penis; you don't. So you wouldn't know any better.Posted by HeavyEntertainmentShowYou're the one who sounds bitter. And you're making things up to suit your agenda. You don't know how he feels. But what you do know is what OP provided. You don't have to be a man to see this clearly.
I only see bitter chicks responding to this, and as usual, completely missing the mark. So ladies, shut the fuck up.
OP: your Taurus is a GUY and you offended him. Simple as that. Instead of letting him cool off and get over it, you pressed the issue even more. He got pissed because you completely failed to understand where he's coming from.
It's a guy pride thing. He didn't like being reminded of his financial situation.
And what do I have to be bitter about? Having a demigod as a best friend & fwb? You must be confusing me with ands or hydorah.click to expand
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