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How do you know if it's LOVE or LUST?
How to Tell if It's Love or Lust
Love involves deep emotional connection and long-term commitment, while lust is driven by physical attraction and immediate desire. Recognizing the difference requires assessing your feelings, intentions, and how the relationship evolves over time. Understanding these signs helps clarify whether you're experiencing genuine love or temporary lust.
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Easy! If you still want that person after few sex sessions - it's love.
Lust usually wears off after sex. Unless sex is too good and you keep thinking about it - then lust might grow into love.
You also know it's love when sex is so-so but you still want to see this person anyway. And try hoping sex will become better and if not - still want to have them around!
How do you define love—
Posted by bricklemark
How do you define love—
Good question...I spent years with someone I thought I loved only to realize after we broke up that I don't even know when I had stopped loving him.
Easy! If you still want that person after few sex sessions - it's love.
Lust usually wears off after sex. Unless sex is too good and you keep thinking about it - then lust might grow into love.
You also know it's love when sex is so-so but you still want to see this person anyway. And try hoping sex will become better and if not - still want to have them around!
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Posted by bricklemark
How do you define love—Good question...I spent years with someone I thought I loved only to realize after we broke up that I don't even know when I had stopped loving him.
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Well guys are t very special, they're like a heater, it's nice and warm but you can't have any feelings for it....right? ?
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
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I never asked the definition of love, I agree with what you say and I have crossed oceans for Love. Also, my kids teach me and show me unconditional love every single day.
To be more specific, my question refers to the early stages on relationships, when do you know or how do you know if it is the person you are starting to love and more importantly will continue to love and cherish for the rest of your life... OR, if it's just lust. I think there is a fine line between the two.
if you haven't experienced true lust between you and someone else then you can't speak for yourself.
Wait 10 yrs and come back and answer this question.
Is not about which one is important, is how do you know what you are feeling without a doubt.
this is kind of a dumb question. O_O
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
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I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Wait. Are you a guy or a chick?
If you're a woman then anytime you want it babe, and hopefully I can stay a while ;P
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All woman and I will make you breakfast in the morning. 😉
Posted by Seraphlight
Love is ..I wuv you I wuv youand you can't stop thinking about that person. 🙂
😄 😄
Posted by -Flo-
This is a question that shouldn't be asked or answered because it's different for everyone.
That's why I asked and said "How do YOU know.." is to get different points of view. 🙂
Posted by MagicMona
Lust: Crotch: I love you. heart and mind go wtf?Love: Heart, Mind: I love you. crotch is silent in this.
Haha! but Idk everytime I'm with the guy I really really like I'm always so turned on by him... or maybe it's just my Mars in Sagittarius. ? I'm an Aqua so it takes a lot for me to feel that way towards a guy.
Most of the time I just don't care... and I never lie to anyone about the way I feel.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
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Is it love? Lol
Posted by -Flo-
This is a question that shouldn't be asked or answered because it's different for everyone.
You do have strong desire to monitor every post here don't you?
Guess what? No one cares!
So if you don't like question - move on and ask your own. So we all see what kind of question allowed here...again...no one cares!
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I'm in love ?
Heh, if that's your reaction to what I said. Then you are a very beautiful soul.
I agree 100%
I believe in unconditional love where you fall in love with a person who is not perfect but they are perfect to you, you accept, you love, nurture with flaws and all, you don't judge nor hurt, you live to make them happy and respect them for who they are! You accept them as they are without trying to change them! That's true love! & never asking for anything else in return!
Most people learn to have this type of love once they become a parent.
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Yes, most of the time my friends are shocked about the guys I like because they're not the popular, super hot, party guy etc... I like the smart ones, who like to stay home and watch movies, play video games, read together, drink wine and be outdoors and athletic. So most of them are not party animals... Also, eccentric, they will say what they want and think. Not very likable to the basic people and common society.
So if I even like someone they have to have most of those characteristics.
Love to kids or parents is unconditional, but loving someone from the outside has to be natural, an union of the mind body and soul.
I love my best friend (male) but I don't have a sexual desire for him... It doesn't mean I'll marry him just bc I love him.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Is it love? Lol
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I'd say it's just Lust... would he take it?
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Is it love? Lol
I'd say it's just Lust... would he take it?
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I would. Lol
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Is it love? Lol
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It's pure lust. lol
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Is it love? Lol
I'd say it's just Lust... would he take it?
I would. Lol
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lol I thought the same about him in another post until his ignorant side started calling people idiots and I realized he didn't even understood the question.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I'm in love ?
Heh, if that's your reaction to what I said. Then you are a very beautiful soul.
I agree 100%
I believe in unconditional love where you fall in love with a person who is not perfect but they are perfect to you, you accept, you love, nurture with flaws and all, you don't judge nor hurt, you live to make them happy and respect them for who they are! You accept them as they are without trying to change them! That's true love! & never asking for anything else in return!
Most people learn to have this type of love once they become a parent.
Yes, most of the time my friends are shocked about the guys I like because they're not the popular, super hot, party guy etc... I like the smart ones, who like to stay home and watch movies, play video games, read together, drink wine and be outdoors and athletic. So most of them are not party animals... Also, eccentric, they will say what they want and think. Not very likable to the basic people and common society.
So if I even like someone they have to have most of those characteristics.
Love to kids or parents is unconditional, but loving someone from the outside has to be natural, an union of the mind body and soul.
I love my best friend (male) but I don't have a sexual desire for him... It doesn't mean I'll marry him just bc I love him.
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Well love can be of different types. I too love my friends (female) but I don't have the romantic feelings for them. I will treat all of them the same but with the special someone it will be a bit more personal not aloof. We will try to be close to you emotionally not with others.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I have a strong desire to bang you after reading your comments. Your intelligence is so sexy.
Is it love? Lol
It's pure lust. lol
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Pure is good!
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I'm in love ?
Heh, if that's your reaction to what I said. Then you are a very beautiful soul.
I agree 100%
I believe in unconditional love where you fall in love with a person who is not perfect but they are perfect to you, you accept, you love, nurture with flaws and all, you don't judge nor hurt, you live to make them happy and respect them for who they are! You accept them as they are without trying to change them! That's true love! & never asking for anything else in return!
Most people learn to have this type of love once they become a parent.
Yes, most of the time my friends are shocked about the guys I like because they're not the popular, super hot, party guy etc... I like the smart ones, who like to stay home and watch movies, play video games, read together, drink wine and be outdoors and athletic. So most of them are not party animals... Also, eccentric, they will say what they want and think. Not very likable to the basic people and common society.
So if I even like someone they have to have most of those characteristics.
Love to kids or parents is unconditional, but loving someone from the outside has to be natural, an union of the mind body and soul.
I love my best friend (male) but I don't have a sexual desire for him... It doesn't mean I'll marry him just bc I love him.
Well love can be of different types. I too love my friends (female) but I don't have the romantic feelings for them. I will treat all of them the same but with the special someone it will be a bit more personal not aloof. We will try to be close to you emotionally not with others.
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Exactly that's why when I ask "How do you know if it's love or lust" this is e strictly about a passionate relationship between two individuals.
I certainly do not feel lust towards my parents or my kids so putting this as an example is completely out of the question.
If you don't know the difference, it's not love.
You just know when you're in love; it's too powerful not to.
Posted by Crabra
If you don't know the difference, it's not love.You just know when you're in love; it's too powerful not to.
❤❤
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I'm in love ?
Heh, if that's your reaction to what I said. Then you are a very beautiful soul.
I agree 100%
I believe in unconditional love where you fall in love with a person who is not perfect but they are perfect to you, you accept, you love, nurture with flaws and all, you don't judge nor hurt, you live to make them happy and respect them for who they are! You accept them as they are without trying to change them! That's true love! & never asking for anything else in return!
Most people learn to have this type of love once they become a parent.
Yes, most of the time my friends are shocked about the guys I like because they're not the popular, super hot, party guy etc... I like the smart ones, who like to stay home and watch movies, play video games, read together, drink wine and be outdoors and athletic. So most of them are not party animals... Also, eccentric, they will say what they want and think. Not very likable to the basic people and common society.
So if I even like someone they have to have most of those characteristics.
Love to kids or parents is unconditional, but loving someone from the outside has to be natural, an union of the mind body and soul.
I love my best friend (male) but I don't have a sexual desire for him... It doesn't mean I'll marry him just bc I love him.
Well love can be of different types. I too love my friends (female) but I don't have the romantic feelings for them. I will treat all of them the same but with the special someone it will be a bit more personal not aloof. We will try to be close to you emotionally not with others.
Exactly that's why when I ask "How do you know if it's love or lust" this is e strictly about a passionate relationship between two individuals.
I certainly do not feel lust towards my parents or my kids so putting this as an example is completely out of the question.
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Do you have your answer now? Or are you still questioning what is love? 😛
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I'm in love ?
Heh, if that's your reaction to what I said. Then you are a very beautiful soul.
I agree 100%
I believe in unconditional love where you fall in love with a person who is not perfect but they are perfect to you, you accept, you love, nurture with flaws and all, you don't judge nor hurt, you live to make them happy and respect them for who they are! You accept them as they are without trying to change them! That's true love! & never asking for anything else in return!
Most people learn to have this type of love once they become a parent.
Yes, most of the time my friends are shocked about the guys I like because they're not the popular, super hot, party guy etc... I like the smart ones, who like to stay home and watch movies, play video games, read together, drink wine and be outdoors and athletic. So most of them are not party animals... Also, eccentric, they will say what they want and think. Not very likable to the basic people and common society.
So if I even like someone they have to have most of those characteristics.
Love to kids or parents is unconditional, but loving someone from the outside has to be natural, an union of the mind body and soul.
I love my best friend (male) but I don't have a sexual desire for him... It doesn't mean I'll marry him just bc I love him.
Well love can be of different types. I too love my friends (female) but I don't have the romantic feelings for them. I will treat all of them the same but with the special someone it will be a bit more personal not aloof. We will try to be close to you emotionally not with others.
Exactly that's why when I ask "How do you know if it's love or lust" this is e strictly about a passionate relationship between two individuals.
I certainly do not feel lust towards my parents or my kids so putting this as an example is completely out of the question.
Do you have your answer now? Or are you still questioning what is love? 😛
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I'm not questioning what love really is, I have loved before but sometimes is a bit confusing 😄 but nothing good comes easy!!!
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I'm in love ?
Heh, if that's your reaction to what I said. Then you are a very beautiful soul.
I agree 100%
I believe in unconditional love where you fall in love with a person who is not perfect but they are perfect to you, you accept, you love, nurture with flaws and all, you don't judge nor hurt, you live to make them happy and respect them for who they are! You accept them as they are without trying to change them! That's true love! & never asking for anything else in return!
Most people learn to have this type of love once they become a parent.
Yes, most of the time my friends are shocked about the guys I like because they're not the popular, super hot, party guy etc... I like the smart ones, who like to stay home and watch movies, play video games, read together, drink wine and be outdoors and athletic. So most of them are not party animals... Also, eccentric, they will say what they want and think. Not very likable to the basic people and common society.
So if I even like someone they have to have most of those characteristics.
Love to kids or parents is unconditional, but loving someone from the outside has to be natural, an union of the mind body and soul.
I love my best friend (male) but I don't have a sexual desire for him... It doesn't mean I'll marry him just bc I love him.
Well love can be of different types. I too love my friends (female) but I don't have the romantic feelings for them. I will treat all of them the same but with the special someone it will be a bit more personal not aloof. We will try to be close to you emotionally not with others.
Exactly that's why when I ask "How do you know if it's love or lust" this is e strictly about a passionate relationship between two individuals.
I certainly do not feel lust towards my parents or my kids so putting this as an example is completely out of the question.
Do you have your answer now? Or are you still questioning what is love? 😛
I'm not questioning what love really is, I have loved before but sometimes is a bit confusing 😄 but nothing good comes easy!!!
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True, you need to use your intuition. It always knows the truth.
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Posted by Crabra
If you don't know the difference, it's not love.You just know when you're in love; it's too powerful not to.
And as you love them - lust is as powerful as love!
So...can I say I lust you? Lol
Posted by Areyoumytwinflame
Masturbate. If you still want their company afterwards, it's love
wahhahahahahaha love this...
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
So I got a quesrion for u . If a guy tried so hard to please a girl in bed to the long she orgasm and he didn't... and the next morning he didn't try to have sex again because she doesn't like morning sex and he let her sleep... is that love? Hahahahah
Until she orgasm and he didn't for ages... then we stopped ... n next morning he didn't even try coz she told him she doesn't really enjoy morning sex. Is that love? Lol
Posted by MagicMona
Lust: Crotch: I love you. heart and mind go wtf?Love: Heart, Mind: I love you. crotch is silent in this.
Haha! but Idk everytime I'm with the guy I really really like I'm always so turned on by him... or maybe it's just my Mars in Sagittarius. ? I'm an Aqua so it takes a lot for me to feel that way towards a guy.
Most of the time I just don't care... and I never lie to anyone about the way I feel.
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That's lust then right?
Posted by aquarius_beauty
With lust you like people for their qualities and physicalities. Love is when you know their defects and imperfections and still feel attracted towards them.
People sAying attraction and chemistry and connection isn't love.... I am going cray cray hahaha
Posted by aquarius_beauty
With lust you like people for their qualities and physicalities. Love is when you know their defects and imperfections and still feel attracted towards them.People sAying attraction and chemistry and connection isn't love.... I am going cray cray hahaha
I know what you mean lo but you'll just feel it and it will feel right
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How can it be love without some sort of connection ?
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I never asked the definition of love, I agree with what you say and I have crossed oceans for Love. Also, my kids teach me and show me unconditional love every single day.
To be more specific, my question refers to the early stages on relationships, when do you know or how do you know if it is the person you are starting to love and more importantly will continue to love and cherish for the rest of your life... OR, if it's just lust. I think there is a fine line between the two.
if you haven't experienced true lust between you and someone else then you can't speak for yourself.
Wait 10 yrs and come back and answer this question.
Is not about which one is important, is how do you know what you are feeling without a doubt.
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You wait a while before having sex to find out if you like the person beyond a sexual attraction.
That's what I do.
Posted by MagicMona
Lust: Crotch: I love you. heart and mind go wtf?Love: Heart, Mind: I love you. crotch is silent in this.
Haha! but Idk everytime I'm with the guy I really really like I'm always so turned on by him... or maybe it's just my Mars in Sagittarius. ? I'm an Aqua so it takes a lot for me to feel that way towards a guy.
Most of the time I just don't care... and I never lie to anyone about the way I feel.
That's lust then right?
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I think is Love ?? we just spent the whole weekend together almost all the time. We had a great time together and with friends..until some problems happened WHICH I guess says that I care about him more than just to satisfy me and that he does too, because he's still here ??
So I think I'm already on the "it's not just Lust...There's something else there " ?
Posted by aquarius_beauty
With lust you like people for their qualities and physicalities. Love is when you know their defects and imperfections and still feel attracted towards them.People sAying attraction and chemistry and connection isn't love.... I am going cray cray hahaha
I know what you mean lo but you'll just feel it and it will feel right
How can it be love without some sort of connection ?
Hmm that's tricky. Love in what sense platonic or romantic interest?
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Romantic, let's see you have been seeing someone for a few months (lots of sex, cuddles and hugs) you still aren't official (bc getting to know each other better etc) and you don't know if you are falling for the guy or not.
So how do you differentiate if all the passion and things that happen are just bc of the desire or bc you have feelings too.
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I never asked the definition of love, I agree with what you say and I have crossed oceans for Love. Also, my kids teach me and show me unconditional love every single day.
To be more specific, my question refers to the early stages on relationships, when do you know or how do you know if it is the person you are starting to love and more importantly will continue to love and cherish for the rest of your life... OR, if it's just lust. I think there is a fine line between the two.
if you haven't experienced true lust between you and someone else then you can't speak for yourself.
Wait 10 yrs and come back and answer this question.
Is not about which one is important, is how do you know what you are feeling without a doubt.
You wait a while before having sex to find out if you like the person beyond a sexual attraction.
That's what I do.
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Good option. but when I like someone and I feel the attraction is hard to stay away ?
when reciprocated
Posted by TerramineLightvoid
Here let me make this simple so you idiots can get it:Lust: You get a boner and want to fuck them.
Love: The above doesn't matter.
Amazing. So simple even the most infinitely simplistic mind can understand.
Is not that simple...and this is not a right / wrong answer, if you read that right you'd have known is in your own opinion...lust goes beyond getting a boner and fucking "someone"... and in my own opinion, if you truly love someone you'd desire that person..so there should be lust there as well.
There is no opinion about it. Love is what it is. Objectively. It is not subjective. Love is of God and of the Light Wave. It is the very fact that you or I even exist. That we have presence within reality.
It is acceptance, embracing, and ultimately considering someone more important than yourself.
Love is not Lust, Attraction, Desire, Connection, Relation, Chemistry, Compatibility, Benefit, etc. It is none of those things. They may or may not come with it. But they are completely separate.
There is no such thing as conditional love. If you require something to love someone, or it depends on your attraction to them. Then that isn't love. Love never ends, it never dies, it never fades.
Yet your mentality is that of mindless drones. That of an ANIMAL. You do not know what love is and for that, I pity you.
I never asked the definition of love, I agree with what you say and I have crossed oceans for Love. Also, my kids teach me and show me unconditional love every single day.
To be more specific, my question refers to the early stages on relationships, when do you know or how do you know if it is the person you are starting to love and more importantly will continue to love and cherish for the rest of your life... OR, if it's just lust. I think there is a fine line between the two.
if you haven't experienced true lust between you and someone else then you can't speak for yourself.
Wait 10 yrs and come back and answer this question.
Is not about which one is important, is how do you know what you are feeling without a doubt.
You wait a while before having sex to find out if you like the person beyond a sexual attraction.
That's what I do.
Good option. but when I like someone and I feel the attraction is hard to stay away ?
when reciprocated
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I know what you mean.
But in my experience if you spend more time with someone without the sex, anything that might annoy you in the future comes out pretty quickly. Especially as there's no sex to cloud your judgement.
The difference between love and lust is simple. When you love someone, there's not even a question about it. You simply "know." It doesn't have all of the fear, doubt, insecurity, and needing the person to be a certain way that comes with lust. It's not even romantic in nature. The reason for this is that true love is mature and encompasses more than romance. Lust is fleeting. While it is emotional and passionate, love is deeply emotional but those emotions are steady and calm. It makes both of you want to build and compromise to make it work. Both will sacrifice with no question. Those are just a few differences.
One last thing about love. You know you truly love someone if you want to really see them happy, even if it's not with you.
Posted by aquarius_beauty
With lust you like people for their qualities and physicalities. Love is when you know their defects and imperfections and still feel attracted towards them.People sAying attraction and chemistry and connection isn't love.... I am going cray cray hahaha
I know what you mean lo but you'll just feel it and it will feel right
How can it be love without some sort of connection ?
Hmm that's tricky. Love in what sense platonic or romantic interest?
Romantic, let's see you have been seeing someone for a few months (lots of sex, cuddles and hugs) you still aren't official (bc getting to know each other better etc) and you don't know if you are falling for the guy or not.
So how do you differentiate if all the passion and things that happen are just bc of the desire or bc you have feelings too.
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Hah this is tricky. I think what I'm feeling is love. I do enjoy having sex with him but there's more than that.. there's no jealousy between us. I want what makes him happy... I wanna understand and be there for him. I try to not hurt him... with my ex I thought was crazy love for 3 years, I think that was more intense lustful sexual spiritual connection... everything about it was wrong( I can say that now )... with love, it should feel more calm than excitement.. it should feel more peaceful than anxiety ... it should feel more happy than sad.. it should be alot about compromise and giving rather than taking from the other.... there sbudnt be up and down too much or push and pull... there shud be a commitment to work at the issue .. with lust there's too much emotion involved which isn't always healthy.... with love, it comes hand in hand with logic... talk with reasons not emotion ... I cud be totally wrong here.. that's my take on love?
Posted by beautifulsoul74
One last thing about love. You know you truly love someone if you want to really see them happy, even if it's not with you.
Amen, totoslly agree n feeling that in this second
Posted by beautifulsoul74
The difference between love and lust is simple. When you love someone, there's not even a question about it. You simply "know." It doesn't have all of the fear, doubt, insecurity, and needing the person to be a certain way that comes with lust. It's not even romantic in nature. The reason for this is that true love is mature and encompasses more than romance. Lust is fleeting. While it is emotional and passionate, love is deeply emotional but those emotions are steady and calm. It makes both of you want to build and compromise to make it work. Both will sacrifice with no question. Those are just a few differences.
Wow maybe for the first time I know what real love is... let's hope this is it
Posted by Crabra
If you don't know the difference, it's not love.You just know when you're in love; it's too powerful not to.
And as you love them - lust is as powerful as love!
So...can I say I lust you? Lol
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Sure! I've used it myself 🙂
Posted by Crabra
If you don't know the difference, it's not love.You just know when you're in love; it's too powerful not to.
And as you love them - lust is as powerful as love!
So...can I say I lust you? Lol
Sure! I've used it myself 🙂
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