@SagGirl1124
8 Years
I just need to vent and have some Aquarian to talk to
Just, he asked why I'm moody, i finally replied him the messages below.. do you guys think.. I'm handling it okay？
【Me】I hope you know, I am still getting to know you, and please understand It's something really new for me to be in a relationship with a daddy.
Having zero contact from you since the trip which i totally understand that's father and son's time, i respected that and happy with that. I just didn't expect i would missing you that much, and I really want to see my boyfriend before he's leaving again dont remember how many days...
I don't want to sound clingy, but we agreed to talk everything to each other, i need you to help me to get to know you and understand you and know how is it your “ style " when it comes to your “freedom” thing, so I understand what to expect.
That's me, when something in my head, i just need to talk things through when I'm calm.
【Him】I know baby. However im in a seriously bad mood about my toilet - definitely an aquarian thing - when we’re in a bad mood we just want everyone to fxck off and go away! : ) --- this is the way we communicate btw.. hahaa
【Me】my toilet pump is always standing by : )
One thing to really appreciate is when a guy tells you he's angry and why... bonus when it's not something you've done lol
Sooo much better than when your partner shuts down and acts passive aggressive, without any information at all.
Just focus on how well you're communicating with each other, it's a lot more than some other couples 🙂
Posted by Smidge
It's not me it's my toilet
That's what he always say, “It's not me it's xxxxx” lol
Girl relax. You have plenty of time to get to know him it is not a flash sale. When he is busy with his life you get busy with yours then you have something to talk about when you see each other and it will keep his interest and yours because you will be more engaged with each other every time.
You don't want it to turn into a what you doing? Oh what you doing now? If he gets overly busy wait till he makes plans with you. It is good you offered to help but he probably didn't want his bad mood. So let it be and get busy living your life with hobbies and projects. Don't wait around to see him it will drive you crazy 😜.
Posted by Aquarelle
You need to lighten up and give him his space.He told you he was in a bad mood. If I'm in a bad mood I don't want anyone around. Especially when I tell people I am in a bad mood and they still keep pushing to be with me. Not because I want to but because THEY want to. So annoying.
I understand, at least he told me now..
Posted by wagtail
One thing to really appreciate is when a guy tells you he's angry and why... bonus when it's not something you've done lolSooo much better than when your partner shuts down and acts passive aggressive, without any information at all.
Just focus on how well you're communicating with each other, it's a lot more than some other couples 🙂
Maybe just the beginning... but yes i like how we communicate.
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...
But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
You are really over thinking this. Just like the others said relax and lighten up. When you start hanging onto his every word and over analyzing everything little thing, the relationship is doomed to fail before you really get a chance to know one another.
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
You are really over thinking this. Just like the others said relax and lighten up. When you start hanging onto his every word and over analyzing everything little thing, the relationship is doomed to fail before you really get a chance to know one another.
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The situation is, they separated but not divorced, tho he claims both their parents knows, and son understands, and said there's definitely no going back, but still... it's my first experience to be in a relationship with a man in this situation, i don't know how to handle these things and not having myself feeling like I'm a 3rd person
I understand i might be overthinking, I feel so alone in this situation and don't know how to handle it, but thanks and that's why i like talking in here
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
Lol. I can feel the fume coming out of your head. Watch out before you explode. 😆
So his ex wife helped him with a problem he had. Be glad for him the issue is fixed.
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As you suggested, just replied him that im glad the toilet safer is on his way to fix it
But yes, the fume is really coming out of my head, big time!
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
You are really over thinking this. Just like the others said relax and lighten up. When you start hanging onto his every word and over analyzing everything little thing, the relationship is doomed to fail before you really get a chance to know one another.
The situation is, they separated but not divorced, tho he claims both their parents knows, and son understands, and said there's definitely no going back, but still... it's my first experience to be in a relationship with a man in this situation, i don't know how to handle these things and not having myself feeling like I'm a 3rd person
I understand i might be overthinking, I feel so alone in this situation and don't know how to handle it, but thanks and that's why i like talking in here
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He is still married. That explains why you are so uneasy and insecure about your interactions with him. Go with your gut and cut ties. If you really like him with the kid and all, tell him to call once the divorce is final.
@Timon - That's cute, thanks will try those
@CreativeCap - yes, that's why i feel so insecure, i do really like him a lot, if i may see him tomorrow, i will talk to him about this more clear, i think its about the money and the child custody thing which makes him not to rush the divorce, cause at least he could see his son at least 3,4 days a week. But i think i should let him know he needs to do something to make the situation less complicated. Or I will just quit it
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
You are really over thinking this. Just like the others said relax and lighten up. When you start hanging onto his every word and over analyzing everything little thing, the relationship is doomed to fail before you really get a chance to know one another.
The situation is, they separated but not divorced, tho he claims both their parents knows, and son understands, and said there's definitely no going back, but still... it's my first experience to be in a relationship with a man in this situation, i don't know how to handle these things and not having myself feeling like I'm a 3rd person
I understand i might be overthinking, I feel so alone in this situation and don't know how to handle it, but thanks and that's why i like talking in here
He is still married. That explains why you are so uneasy and insecure about your interactions with him. Go with your gut and cut ties. If you really like him with the kid and all, tell him to call once the divorce is final.
Oh he is married? I missed that part. Yeh I agree. Tell him to contact you when he is divorced.
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They separated, both parents know, son understands, living separately.
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
Okay, i think i have misunderstood him, he had that plumber numbers cause he used long ago before they separate....
We talked a little bit and said “And really please,baby, i need you to first think of me and tell me and ask for my help whenever you're having any problems”... he replied “I know girlfriend thats why i asked you for help. And i really appreciate it 🙂”
So... yes... overthinking maybe, but still I don't know how to make myself feel more secure, I'm just always so not believing myself to be with a guy that's so perfect to me and so willing to communicate, except the divorce thing that somehow bothers me.
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
You are really over thinking this. Just like the others said relax and lighten up. When you start hanging onto his every word and over analyzing everything little thing, the relationship is doomed to fail before you really get a chance to know one another.
The situation is, they separated but not divorced, tho he claims both their parents knows, and son understands, and said there's definitely no going back, but still... it's my first experience to be in a relationship with a man in this situation, i don't know how to handle these things and not having myself feeling like I'm a 3rd person
I understand i might be overthinking, I feel so alone in this situation and don't know how to handle it, but thanks and that's why i like talking in here
He is still married. That explains why you are so uneasy and insecure about your interactions with him. Go with your gut and cut ties. If you really like him with the kid and all, tell him to call once the divorce is final.
Oh he is married? I missed that part. Yeh I agree. Tell him to contact you when he is divorced.
They separated, both parents know, son understands, living separately.
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Have you been to his place and seen with your own eyes that his wife isn’t living there.
It’s unlikely that he would divorce her seeing they have a young child under 5. I have a feeling your the side chick.
How old are you? You seems insecure.
Posted by SagGirl1124
Thanks guys, just now he replied he found the crack at the toilet and needing a plumber and wanted my help to find one...But when I found now, he said he might have found one on the other side, and yes that's his exwife helped
Fxxk that shxt, I'm gonna fxxking quit this, that's way too much for me to process
You are really over thinking this. Just like the others said relax and lighten up. When you start hanging onto his every word and over analyzing everything little thing, the relationship is doomed to fail before you really get a chance to know one another.
The situation is, they separated but not divorced, tho he claims both their parents knows, and son understands, and said there's definitely no going back, but still... it's my first experience to be in a relationship with a man in this situation, i don't know how to handle these things and not having myself feeling like I'm a 3rd person
I understand i might be overthinking, I feel so alone in this situation and don't know how to handle it, but thanks and that's why i like talking in here
He is still married. That explains why you are so uneasy and insecure about your interactions with him. Go with your gut and cut ties. If you really like him with the kid and all, tell him to call once the divorce is final.
Oh he is married? I missed that part. Yeh I agree. Tell him to contact you when he is divorced.
They separated, both parents know, son understands, living separately.
Have you been to his place and seen with your own eyes that his wife isn’t living there.
It’s unlikely that he would divorce her seeing they have a young child under 5. I have a feeling your the side chick.
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Been staying at his many times already, and he usually kiss me goodbye to work before i even woke up in his bed.
He claimed was because she and her family are always about money and picking fight all the time, and blaming him for everything, he said been trying to fix it but at the end, he's done with it and so decided and said definitely no going back while himself and his son are far more happier after the arrangement
Posted by AerialView
How old are you? You seems insecure.
Not young lol, 34... he's 2months younger than me.
This is mainly from my past experience, making me not believing myself could meet and attract someone i like that long
@Seleukos.. lol really !? It's like a national toilet blocking day, fixed now?
He's been frustrated by the toilet thing a whole damn day and needed to hold his poop in.... yea I could understand how frustrating it was.
I remember when I had some problems with my satellite reception. I had replaced the receiver, but it didn't solve the problem. I was extremely disappointed and sad. My Aqua man was trying to comfort me, to no avail. I felt sorry for him as well, like having all this bad situation in my blood and totally restless until I fixed it (had to bring in a technician in the end). Do not underestimate such things, they do affect us, because it disturbs our peace of mind. But we will be back as soon as we solve it.
He's now finally go to take a nap after hours of crazy complaints to me with all the nonsense, jeez.. is it all Aquarian are like this? Just a toilet blocking thing could lead him to have all those unrelated crazy talking, tho i understand it's been bothering him a whole day yesterday, but still... i think i really underestimated how these small things could disturb my aquarius boyfriend
One thing for sure now...., with his fxking bad mood, i won't be seeing him today before he's flying on holiday tomorrow for a week 😢 sighhhh
Fxk.. another 7 days to be prepared with no contact and going crazy and overthinking myself....guys, please i need you be here with me : (
Who knows, he wasn't initiating any contact on last trip with his son, i don't expect this one he would :/
I mean he's happy and talks a lot to me when he's back, but from last trip experience, i am not going to expect anything : (
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I just need to vent or I will put all the angriness to my boyfriend
If you have read my last post about me just started to be in a relationship with an aquarius boyfriend who has a 4yrs old son was on holiday.
He's back already and soon going on the next one again on Monday...
What bothering me is, during his trip with son was already zero contact, which I understand the father and son time and so I let him be, tho yesterday before he flying back, i mentioned miss him and want to see him before his next trip, means either today or tomorrow...and he only replied “ok” with smily face
We generally make plans in advance, never be any spontaneous but until now still nothing, and I hi him just now and asked if we would meet today or tomorrow or actually not in his plan (we always talk directly about what's in our head), so he replied "Well my priority right now is sorting out a blocked toilet!" And smily face again, he doesn't have toilet pump at home and couldn't get one nearby, so i offered to bring him mine, he replied “let me see - far too angry now”... I'm like wtf and just leave it with no reply, but who the heck would fixing a toilet with the whatsapp still onlines billion times!!!!
Sorry guys, I don't know if this is Sagittarius thing or just me, when something upset me i just need to go crazy a little bit to calm myself