I need help!!!!! So confusing with Aquarius ?

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Hi everyone, sorry for my grammars english is not my first language. I'm a libra women 28 years old I met this aquarius man in a online dating site he 30 years old he a doctor. In the beginning his always treat me nice .the first date was in a coffee place we had a great 5 hours date in the first date. He text me after and we continued texting in same day everything perfect. Then after that I text his 5 days later and went to the second date his told him move from Texas and new to the state 3 months .we when for drinks I was a lil tipsy I'm Hispanic and he from Iraq different cultures and religious I wanted to know about he religious and culture A lil confusing because I thought he a Aquarius must be modern a because he a doctor open mind and he kind get offended marriage if he can marriage someone from different religious and etc. when I kiss him on the way home his was kind of serious cold . After that I text him 5 days later and asked him if was mad and why his don't text or call me his was like I been busy with work. I text his when I'm going to see him again his was like I let you know what is happening because on Saturday I have to clean my place and I quite drinking I told him I can help you clean and I don't need to drink to have fun I like to have my sixth sense. His didn't text me after that I call his 10 days after I told him when we going to go out his was like on Friday we went to a live concert and then have dinner I typically libra I treated his as a friend because I always have a great time with his I prefer to be friend and than loosing then he kiss me treat me nice always respect me everything perfect . My question why at first his was into me treat me great everything perfect then I don't hear from his if I don't call or text . In person every thing is perfect great time and if I don't call his don't contact me.
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My question why at first his was into me treat me great everything perfect then I don't hear from his if I don't call or text . In person every thing is perfect great time and if I don't call his don't contact me.
perhaps he's just busy with his work.
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Work and a few other chicks on the side .. just cruising along testing the water. He's a doctor n prob rich so many women will prob want him. He's still dating around . Most likely . Typical story . lol
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I'm so confused with this Aquarius guys. Sometimes I hate to be a libra why? Because I hate to always analysis everything. I don't understand why some articles say that Aquarius when they like someone or start getting feeling they distance and that normal that they get cold with you and distance. What I had read is that most of the Aquarius act like that every thing is great with you when they go out with you every thing is perfect then they ignore your call . That they testing you and etc. I read that the best match for Aquarius is libra . I don't know why because as a libra I like to dress up get pretty give you your space but I love to be with my boyfriend and spend time with that person . I love to be in love and I enjoy that feeling . But I don't like chasing nobody but I don't give up like I will try plan A then plan B and then I will ignore you but I atleast I try everything. I have some Aquarius friends in my Facebook but most of them are single or they enjoy they single life like been players or always say single forever or I don't believe in love in their post. I'm thinking of atleast call him 1 more time to hangout this weekend get my self pretty and try it one more time or intil I get tired of make the first contact. How should I act ?try it 1 more time have a great time like always and act like as friends still. Another question is I don't want to be kissing when we go out but I also don't want to be like are we boyfriend or what ?? I'm so confused what should I do. Also I'm playing the same game with him cause I call this guy every 10 days is also thinking of me or Aquarius don't show it. Or his on his own flow.
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All the Aqua stories are the same.... it's like the same book being written... 10 days is way too long... If I don't get a respond within a day I get s little annoyed n just detach .. anything more than 2 days sucks.. libra can b too nice... I don't know maybe it works for Aqua coz Aqua don't really like to chase. They do to new women but normally when they r dating someone they prefer to be chased. He told me this.. which annoys me coz I like to feel love and be approached too... good luck with it. It will b a long ride for u... I wudnt get dressed up for him in advance though, go out n see other people I would say... you guys r not exclusive
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Your advice would be just be friends because they don't like to chase they like to be chase. I think this would be a long ride too 😢 .so keep contact his every 2 weeks. I see that every his kind of open more with me. Last time I act like a great friend with him and then suddenly because we were talking about friends he told me that his got this girl that she a friend and some on his friends told his that she into him and he told them that she is not that they are just great friends. And they his was like but she want me to flight to see her but his make this face and didn't asks him any thing about her I didn't even when to details with him about her but I remember that the first time we when on a date his delicate the song passionate from drake which the letter of the song talk about distances last time we spoke his told me that his going to California for a weeding friends. Now this when I hate to be a libra analysis why his told about this girl and that what his told me that his friends think she into his and he like no we just friends that make think he slow in making a move in girls that I think he does the same thing to every girl in distance and she is smart too winning his the best ways in friend . Then after that he started flirting with me like hugging a lil touching. He also told me that he finds information about my countries that he want to go that he asks some friends out my countries like the beaches and that my countries the people love to dance .
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How do you attract a Aquarius man— Any tips— I'm going crazy ?!?!?!? Try to understand Aquarius man!?!?!?
You cannot. Aquarius is the most detached fixed energy. If you did not capture his attention from the beginning, it is almost impossible to change it. Aquarians are very friendly, therefore keeping communication with them may not be a consistent sign. He has to express it through actions. If he likes you, he will reach for you, he will initiate dating, he will want to spend time with you, progressively.
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How do you attract a Aquarius man— Any tips— I'm going crazy ?!?!?!? Try to understand Aquarius man!?!?!?
You cannot. Aquarius is the most detached fixed energy. If you did not capture his attention from the beginning, it is almost impossible to change it. Aquarians are very friendly, therefore keeping communication with them may not be a consistent sign. He has to express it through actions. If he likes you, he will reach for you, he will initiate dating, he will want to spend time with you, progressively.
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What if he costatly reaches out to you, acts like a boyfriend would act via texts yet keeps himself physically distant from you for the fear of intimacy? Does't matter how may times I let go of him (like 8 lol), he keeps contacting me after a while as if I never cut things off or as if we never argued. He also cancels the dates he initiates himself......i do think he does't want the sex part to happen so his cancellations are the fear of just that no matter how much I keep hearing i every text how much sexually he is attracted to me.
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How do you attract a Aquarius man— Any tips— I'm going crazy ?!?!?!? Try to understand Aquarius man!?!?!?
You cannot. Aquarius is the most detached fixed energy. If you did not capture his attention from the beginning, it is almost impossible to change it. Aquarians are very friendly, therefore keeping communication with them may not be a consistent sign. He has to express it through actions. If he likes you, he will reach for you, he will initiate dating, he will want to spend time with you, progressively.
What if he costatly reaches out to you, acts like a boyfriend would act via texts yet keeps himself physically distant from you for the fear of intimacy? Does't matter how may times I let go of him (like 8 lol), he keeps contacting me after a while as if I never cut things off or as if we never argued. He also cancels the dates he initiates himself......i do think he does't want the sex part to happen so his cancellations are the fear of just that no matter how much I keep hearing i every text how much sexually he is attracted to me.
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It happened to me with three different Aquas. They are still occasionally contacting me, but I cut the crap from the roots, because they only feel the need to satisfy themselves sexually, without the trouble of being involved in any way with a woman. They are still around yet. One is around 45 and I've known him for about 10 years. The others are 26 and 44. They are all single by nature or with no significant relationships in their lives.

There is a huge difference between texting and actually meeting. My Aqua really wanted to meet me and we are fine. I cannot get rid of him, he is like glue now 🙂

Your man will not cease to contact you, because you don't stop him. He will not progress physically in any way. Unfortunately, he is only using you as a surrogate for his sexual needs and this will continue until you put an end to it.
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Compy are you a libra?? I will call him today after 2 weeks without contacting him. I will see like always me making the first move if we can go to the beach this weekend . I will do like libra does I will have a great time like we always do me get alone well always having great conversation we always do everything perfect when we go out. I will do like libra get pretty big smile have a great time and a good friend then I will no contact him Im getting tired of chasing him. But I will try one more time and some him how libra are then desperate to see if him come back but before I will try one more time. I always change the routine in going different places. Have nice conversation and act charming everything perfect im not ugly . We always have something to talk to each other we can always talk for 10 hours and talk about everything. I'm always not a serial killers or act stupid in front of his I'm classy very perfectly with a good humor sense.
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How do you attract a Aquarius man— Any tips— I'm going crazy ?!?!?!? Try to understand Aquarius man!?!?!?
You cannot. Aquarius is the most detached fixed energy. If you did not capture his attention from the beginning, it is almost impossible to change it. Aquarians are very friendly, therefore keeping communication with them may not be a consistent sign. He has to express it through actions. If he likes you, he will reach for you, he will initiate dating, he will want to spend time with you, progressively.
What if he costatly reaches out to you, acts like a boyfriend would act via texts yet keeps himself physically distant from you for the fear of intimacy? Does't matter how may times I let go of him (like 8 lol), he keeps contacting me after a while as if I never cut things off or as if we never argued. He also cancels the dates he initiates himself......i do think he does't want the sex part to happen so his cancellations are the fear of just that no matter how much I keep hearing i every text how much sexually he is attracted to me.
It happened to me with three different Aquas. They are still occasionally contacting me, but I cut the crap from the roots, because they only feel the need to satisfy themselves sexually, without the trouble of being involved in any way with a woman. They are still around yet. One is around 45 and I've known him for about 10 years. The others are 26 and 44. They are all single by nature or with no significant relationships in their lives.

There is a huge difference between texting and actually meeting. My Aqua really wanted to meet me and we are fine. I cannot get rid of him, he is like glue now 🙂

Your man will not cease to contact you, because you don't stop him. He will not progress physically in any way. Unfortunately, he is only using you as a surrogate for his sexual needs and this will continue until you put an end to it.

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We never had sex although he keeps telling me in every text that he wants it yet he avoids me physically while claiming how passionately he is attracted to me. Several times he initiated a date for sex then cancelled it so all I hear are compliments about my body parts, how hot & sexy I am how attractive & intelligent I am when I confronted him about avoiding me physically, he says he is a bit shy maybe from taking the first step. All men I encounter jump at me at the first encounter and with him we have gone as far as kissing while he was on top of me on his ed a year ago and it was nice lol.....he always compliments me for my lips, tells me what he's like to do to me etc.....he is sexually very attracted to me ut once things started to heat up etwee us i feel like he intentionally keeps me at arm's leght a year now regarless how may times he crawls ack. He told me he does't force sex on me so I wont feel disrespected lol (im 34 & he is 50)....i feel like he might just have sexual issues although talking to him gets him hard lol.....Just 3 days ago he invited me over again for sex...then when Sunday arrived, I never heard from him, but when we texted nefore that, I said "you dont have the guts to touch me" being sarcastic since he hasn't really touched me regardless of all the talk about it, his aswer was 'maybe' lol so he argeed that he doesn't have the guts to touch me?! I was like HUH!?!??! So how is he coming back for sex if we never had it...i kicked him to the curb 8 times now within a year & he keeps coming back....this time I said im planing to get pregnant in a few months (via sperm donor) hoping that will keep him away from me & will hit a sore point since he loves kids and is depressed not having one at that age!
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I haven't had sex with this Aquarius guy . And I don't think I will because if that how his acting now imagine later,plus I'm 28 years I want a stable relationship. But nowadays guys don't want anything serious that why I think I'm single .He always tell me that Ihave a nice body. Very mature man I can have any conversations with him.I always treats his as a friend what I read is that with Aquarius you have to be friends first . And I had read that almost all Aquarius act hot and cold. Is the same stories but no solution. If I had mutual friends maybe I would be close to him or if I work will his but I met him in a online dating sites .
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I haven't had sex with this Aquarius guy . And I don't think I will because if that how his acting now imagine later,plus I'm 28 years I want a stable relationship. But nowadays guys don't want anything serious that why I think I'm single .He always tell me that Ihave a nice body. Very mature man I can have any conversations with him.I always treats his as a friend what I read is that with Aquarius you have to be friends first . And I had read that almost all Aquarius act hot and cold. Is the same stories but no solution. If I had mutual friends maybe I would be close to him or if I work will his but I met him in a online dating sites .
i met him online too. After a year it gets tiring and im 34 1/2 now...time to think about myself and my future so thats why i told him im going to have a child! He is VERY contradictory...no words match his actions, he may say one thing & not deliver...for example...he texted me on a saturday night said he wants to see me tomorrow (Sunday)...come sunday & i didnt hear from him at all....i was shocked & hurt although this has neen going on for months...same crap so why did I expect this time to be any differet lol?!

To lick my wounds, I texted him for the 1st time myself all happy saying how i just came home after midnight from organizing a get together with my friends on a sunday evening (the time we were supposedly going to have dinner per his invitation) to break the news to them about me planning to get pregnant in october & how my friends were happy for me and how even 1 friend gave me a pregnancy test she was carrying with her a few days after she took her own test & kept the other unused one in her purse. He always tells me what he did on the weekend so i shared about my evening & to show him that i actually went out & had fun & enjoyed my evening with my friends and celebrated my future pregnancy plans. First of all, he didnt even explain why on Sunday we never met up & all i got to my text message was a 'thumbs up' emoticon from him LOL. I didn't even respond & wont......let him stay butthurt sice kids are his sore point so let him see that im independent (he knows this) and if i want to have a child i go & have it instead of sitting aroud waiting for the prince charming who does't even exist. The thing is...when we are in contact, he never progresses anything with us...everything is stale always....when he sees that im planning to have a child or that my life is moving forward while his staying the same, he tells me this "too bad we didnt work out' every time I want to punch him in the face when I hear this ... yet he says it still nothing changes!
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I feel so stupid I just called him and didn't answer then I send him a text in whatsapp " Hello, how's life treating you? I want to know if you wanna go to the beach on Sunday? Or if we can hangout this weekend ?? I hope to hear from you back..." To be honest I gave up — I have a lot of dignity and pride to be chasing any man. I don't think I will hear from him back or may he answers back tomorrow to act like he important and tell me that maybe in busy this weekend.I don't like to feel like that now is time to move on . Aquarius man are too complicated . We just when for 3 date ever thing was great so I think he already knows what he want it makes him mind to distant from me.
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I feel so stupid I just called him and didn't answer then I send him a text in whatsapp " Hello, how's life treating you? I want to know if you wanna go to the beach on Sunday? Or if we can hangout this weekend ?? I hope to hear from you back..." To be honest I gave up — I have a lot of dignity and pride to be chasing any man. I don't think I will hear from him back or may he answers back tomorrow to act like he important and tell me that maybe in busy this weekend.I don't like to feel like that now is time to move on . Aquarius man are too complicated . We just when for 3 date ever thing was great so I think he already knows what he want it makes him mind to distant from me.
Sweet Libra, don't feel bad! It's not you, he's just not that into you/a relationship.

Go out with friends, date other men when you find them interesting.

He may contact you, he may not. Don't even think about him. If you want to be friends, then do that with NO expectations. If you can't do that, just completely cut him off. You're a Libra, this is a no brainer.

Just don't be sad over 3 good dates. 🙂



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Thanks sultrykitty I really appreciate it . Your lovely advice make me feel much better.. And thanks for understanding my situations with this Aquarius guy . I had that moment of libra why because getting a Aquarius is like playing chase you have to watch every movement you made carefully. And as libra I feel stupid because I'm not ugly I'm very attractive beside look I'm classy I always give him he space like being friend not showing I'm into he. Contact him every 2 or 3 weeks. Changing routine been charming and smile have great conversations awwwww i have a great sense of humor too much analysis and thinking to lose libra are just to think smart and have any man they want but this one is challenging for me . I hope you win this man with out his notice that his fail in libra traps..
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Thanks sultrykitty I really appreciate it . Your lovely advice make me feel much better.. And thanks for understanding my situations with this Aquarius guy . I had that moment of libra why because getting a Aquarius is like playing chase you have to watch every movement you made carefully. And as libra I feel stupid because I'm not ugly I'm very attractive beside look I'm classy I always give him he space like being friend not showing I'm into he. Contact him every 2 or 3 weeks. Changing routine been charming and smile have great conversations awwwww i have a great sense of humor too much analysis and thinking to lose libra are just to think smart and have any man they want but this one is challenging for me . I hope you win this man with out his notice that his fail in libra traps..


I understand, at this point it isn't even the man (although you like him a lot), it's the challenge. Am I right?

But he's not the right one for you.

You deserve a man who appreciates all the work you do to make him happy.

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He just send me a text " hey I'm in South Carolina for the week I got a conference... " I text him back:" I hope that you're having a great time in South Carolina you deserve it ... ?? by the way take pics for you can share with me Your wonderful memories ...?When are you back..??" I know he a doctor but he work schedule is Monday- Friday 7am -5 pm is not like he always busy by the way
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Your advice would be just be friends because they don't like to chase they like to be chase. I think this would be a long ride too 😢 .so keep contact his every 2 weeks. I see that every his kind of open more with me. Last time I act like a great friend with him and then suddenly because we were talking about friends he told me that his got this girl that she a friend and some on his friends told his that she into him and he told them that she is not that they are just great friends. And they his was like but she want me to flight to see her but his make this face and didn't asks him any thing about her I didn't even when to details with him about her but I remember that the first time we when on a date his delicate the song passionate from drake which the letter of the song talk about distances last time we spoke his told me that his going to California for a weeding friends. Now this when I hate to be a libra analysis why his told about this girl and that what his told me that his friends think she into his and he like no we just friends that make think he slow in making a move in girls that I think he does the same thing to every girl in distance and she is smart too winning his the best ways in friend . Then after that he started flirting with me like hugging a lil touching. He also told me that he finds information about my countries that he want to go that he asks some friends out my countries like the beaches and that my countries the people love to dance .
He sounds immature for 30. I would have expected you to say you were both students in college.
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Yes you're right it's the challenge. But I'm the one hurting myself at the same time. Sultrykitty thanks for understanding me and helping. Diamondace You think I should not text him anymore not even next week when he back. Because even if we meet and hangout he'll space out again. I should not contact him again already by now his should make up he mind what he wants is not going to make a difference in meet or hangout I already did my part by doing the best of me .
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Jajajjajajajajajaja littlefairy yes he immature to be 30 years old. Or some Aquarius are why play mind games and just be directly what you want. The game of I treat you nice everything perfect and you don't hear from me then I serious then I kiss you and then distance all because I'm just testing you or risking myself or want my freedom wait I need my space that why must Aquarius are single. Wait I have a problem or phobia in been in a relationship I lose interest fast.. Wait to you to be my friend first Let me ignore you ... Make a big drama instead of trying to be in relationship or alteast try it out to see how it goes.
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How do you attract a Aquarius man— Any tips— I'm going crazy ?!?!?!? Try to understand Aquarius man!?!?!?
You cannot. Aquarius is the most detached fixed energy. If you did not capture his attention from the beginning, it is almost impossible to change it. Aquarians are very friendly, therefore keeping communication with them may not be a consistent sign. He has to express it through actions. If he likes you, he will reach for you, he will initiate dating, he will want to spend time with you, progressively.
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